please, please, PLEASE answer this question

Okay so i just recently got back in contact with an ex Cap. our relationship was almost 6 years long. we were on & off throughout the years & he now has a baby with a girl he was seeing during the course of one of our breakups. they dont have as much of a history as him & I but he proposed to us both around the same time. once i found out i left him & cut him off COMPLETELY. well now he's back & came back soo strong & he SEEMS determined to have a "romantic" type of relationship with me.

heres where im confused. if he's engaged & hes trying to have a stable family with this girl why is he texting me & calling me saying things like he misses the past & how good i was to him & how much fun we had. He apologized to me & explained in detail why & what he's sorry for & tells me he cant resist me & stuff. is he just venting ? does he want something from me ?

im so confused !

Wish I could help. This is what my sisters Taurus is doing to her and we are both trying to figure out "why?" He just got engaged like a month ago and is texting like crazy.

I dont understand men.

Posted by CapMusicc
It sounds like he just wants to fuck you. Sorry, I can be blunt.

no need to apologize, thats what im thinking. but a part of me wants to believe he's truly sorry. ..

damn Cap men , they always know the right things to say to throw us gullible Aries off -.-

Obviously he misses something you provided to him that she is not providing. Sounds like he would rather have you then her. His last attempt at a shot with you before he makes the decision to commit himself. Men are not perfect, we make mistakes all the time. There is no feeling as horrible then to be with someone you don't want to be with. But who wants to be alone?

If you still have feelings for him play out your cards. If you give him solid hope, he will steer towards you. Time is on your side. He won't mind the wait if its worth it. That being said, wait and see if he is truly sincere in his words. Action speaks louder then words...

Not every man is the same. You know him better then we do. Use your proper judgement= Logic instead of emotions!!!

Always remember, if they can do it to someone else, they can do it to you...

Posted by Chance11
whew..i thought you were gonna say that you were the cap :p

is that the Avengers WITH spiderman on your shirt...weeeeird

oh yeah..c'mon, you know what to do here

(is that you faithgolphin?)

Ohh no ! lol. i love caps but i dont think id enjoy being one
& YA ! im known for dating guys in the military so my sister got me a Marvel shirt that says "i only kiss superheros" ;P


@SureShotCap that makes a lot of sense , i appreciate the feedback. definitely gona remain vigilant.
lets see how this plays out !

Posted by CapMusicc
It sounds like he just wants to fuck you. Sorry, I can be blunt.

^This.^ And you should feel insulted.

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Posted by CapMusicc
It sounds like he just wants to fuck you. Sorry, I can be blunt.

^This.^ And you should feel insulted.

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for what ?? its just an opinion, whether if it was blunt or sugar coated it would mean exactly that. & it could very much be true, you know how guys are.
no one is saying that id allow that to happen anyway.

Posted by QUlETstorm
He proposed to two girls around the same time? Lol how did he think he was going to pull that off?!?! Lol I would think one wife would be headache enough.

Anyhoot, I mean, there's not much to be confused about. He was a douche for trying to propose to the both of you, and it's just as bad that he is trying to reconnect with you while being engaged to her. Doesn't sound like he has changed much at all!

And as far as comparing the history y'all have with the guy, I wouldn't waste your time. That means nada and doesn't excuse him for behaving that way, so that point is irrelevant. If he's doin that to her don't think he wouldn't step out on you too.

not that im making excuses but he explained to me that his family wanted him to man up & be a father & about his family. i honestly think he proposed to her so that he could look good infront of his family. i mean, isnt image important to a Capricorn? especially when it comes to the opinions of his family and/or close friends ?

Damn. youre so pretty going by your avitar. Don't make excuses for him. Maybe you are right. Maybe the people giving you warnings are right. I hate hearing what I don't want to hear after my feelings get involved. I have magical thinking, and mistakenly believe because I want it to be true so bad, it must be true. Be wiser than me. Wisdom does not always come with age

he's probably being real.. I know I wouldnt say no sus shiit like that just anyone

im seeing a lot of good points & honestly i dont have intentions on being with him. i got over him.. it took a while but im over him. i really cant bring myself to love him on that type of level anymore. plus ... why should i backtrack when theres so many other options out there ??

this shit just threw me off. he LITERALLY popped up out of no where.
like "HEY !! IM BACK !.. just thought id say that i fuckin LOVE you & we should try this again, yea ?"

im just like ....


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Posted by pathfinder

Posted by CapMusicc
It sounds like he just wants to fuck you. Sorry, I can be blunt.

^This.^ And you should feel insulted.

for what ?? its just an opinion, whether if it was blunt or sugar coated it would mean exactly that. & it could very much be true, you know how guys are.
no one is saying that id allow that to happen anyway.

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I think she was agreeing and saying you should be insulted he is contacting you.

Personally, I'd come right out and confront him in a non-threatening way and ask him what he's up to. Put him on the spot and call him on his crap.

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Posted by QUlETstorm
I think we're still under that mercury retrograde and they say that sometimes people from our past try to pop up during the retrograde periods

Several have for me. Talk about emotional fuckery.

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For me, it's been job opportunities popping up from past employers.

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Posted by SureShotCap
There is always some truth, even in a lie...

I'll be damned before I let a man use me as a "filler". Someone to stroke his ego just because he caught a case of the lonelies. Then again I have never been the type of chick that is okay with being the bitch on the side. That's just not me, but some chicks are ok with taking second place.

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I feel you on that one.



My Belief for this type of problem:

"If I am not PRIORITY, then you must think of me as an option..."
"And if you think of me as an option, I don't think about you at all..."

Posted by CapMusicc
There is also always a lie in a lie.

"There are way more lies then truths in a lie. But when you find the truths, you now know its a lie..."