Retiring....

Well guys I think I'm going to be taking a little bit of a break from posting/reading on this capricorn message board. Everytime I come here and read about cappies, it's not helping my process of getting past him. Yeah, I'll check in every once in a while, hell it's becoming a habit to log in everytime I check my email on the computer. Just wanted to let you know. I'm trying to clear my head, decide what I really need to do to move on in my life, etc.

Take care, and I hope everything works out the way you want it to. Keep ur head up, remember these men are crazies!! And always remember to keep praying.

MyCap

MyCap, it's ironic I was just thinking about you this morning, wondering how you were. I've kind've taken the same approach, need to not get addicted to all this in addition to "getting over" the cap men thing. I feel much the same way, but it is nice to keep in touch a bit. For me, I've come to the conclusion that cap or non-cap we all have "issues" with men, they don't need to be caps to be rotten(I'm using the nice word so they don't censor it) and there are some caps who I'm sure are good guys, just as there are guys (and women) of every sign who aren't. But it is nice sometimes to have a sounding board. You all have been wonderful to vent to, and get opinions and validation etc. I hope we ALL do well in our lives and I think that's the important thing for me to remember, it IS life, and everyone young old rich poor whatever have problems, issues and also some joy and happiness thoughout our lives. That's just life and part of being a human being with human emotions, no one gets away scot-free with no problems etc.
Will miss you, but I'm kind've doing the same thing as you are. It's funny though how one can become attached to total strangers, kind've cool, it makes us all connected, which is really how I feel and wish everyone could be.
Good luck to you and all of us, and yes, let's keep on praying.

thank you!! best wishes mycap!!


Love, Brandy

Wow, I stayed off this board long...LOL...anyways I thought I'd check in and see how everything was going today.

APW ~~ I'm just honestly getting so sick of talking about my cappy I guess that's why I decided I didn't want to be on the board so much anymore. But I don't want to stop supporting u all either. So I'll try to ween myself off here, but I still want to give all the advice and support to all of you.

My ex cappy is of course calling again, blah blah, I know in my heart nothing will change, it would always be the same cycle. I've kind of started dating someone, well we r just friends at this point. He actually works w/the cap, not directly, but w/him and my cappy drove by this guys house the other nite because the cappy knows I know that guy and that I talk to him. Well i was at this guys house. Then he calls me yesterday and is all on a jealous rage. Him doing that didn't make me feel good it made me just want to hang up on him and tell him to f--- off. I told him, he's the one who ended it, so deal w/the consequences of it. Then he tried to say he'd go date, I said go for it. This new guy treats me like gold and I told the cap that and told him I didn't realize just how sh!tty I was treated by him until now. So that was that. I just can't deal with this bull $ hit anymore. I've finally gotten to that "I just don't care" point w/him.

But just as u said APW, everyone has these problems no matter what earth sign they are. Just these guys are a little more difficult. Right now I just want to live my life and not worry about having a guy or anything. I just want to go out and have a good time. I think I deserve that. As for you ladies, I hope everything works out. I'm always thinking about what's happening in each of ur lives, whether he's called, or what. It is crazy how we can be so close to strangers!

Mycap, same here, i'm trying to move ahead and stop dwelling on the garbage, and i'm also doing the weening thing, can't spend too nuch time thinking thinking thinking about THEM, we've all said it, we should be thinking about us.
you guys, I mean ladies are great though, so I want to keep talking, maybe we can talk about the weather or something

and hey! where's capgirl?

Hey there, I'm here, lurking! lol I'm feeling the same, MyCap, and have been for a loooong time!! I'm proud of you for giving a new guy a shot, even with Beastie Boy (Cap.) calling again. I can't believe he got mad, and said he'd go date! I like what you told him and I would have said..."oh, I thought you were already dating or was that just F'ing??"

I'm still toying around w/ my Cap... I IM'd him last night to tell him I had bought some hay to roll in (in reference to last week's comment that he could go for a roll in the hay with me). I don't think he knows how to take me! Heck, I don't know what I'm doing myself, except maybe just testing to see what gets a reaction out of him. But, he's unpredictable. It's boring, at this point.

I've got to stay focused on the match.com guys... I've had more rejects though than potentials. I'm being very selective on them having no kids, wanting kids, at least a BA degree, $ 50k+ income, and don't want a jock/sports-nut... no one TOO good-looking, and if they're over 35 and never married... well, that's a bad sign too. So, yea, it's SLIM pickings!! [This is me trying to take our focus OFF Caps. but yet not talk weather!!]

you ladies make me so happy just reading what you all have to say!! LOL


Im glad that every one seems like they are coming out of the rut at the same time!! Its all that Praying going on!! 😉


love to you, Brandy

me too, doing the internet thing, i have 3 dates this weekend, we'll see
NONE of them caps
LOL

3 dates APW....d@mn, go get em girl!! This is so funny, but now when I meet a guy, I ask when his bday is so I know if he's a cap or not. Its kind of sad that I have to do that! But I don't want to have to go thru all this $ hit again tho!

I love this board also so much because of u guys and that's why I can't bring myself to stop logging in as I said I was going to do. Sometimes I get so sick of just thinking about my caps and all ur caps at that and how they are. So we can have weather talks. I wish we could all meet, that'd be awesome!

Yeah I'm glad I gave another guy a chance at the dating thing. This guy is totally different, I don't worry w/him at all. I mean, he calls me a lot, not too much that it's overwhelming tho, he texts me, he will call out of the blue to meet me or ask me to go to dinner w/him, he actually likes seeing me and wants to spend time w/me. Nice for a change! I'm glad I realize that it was just the cappy and not me! I thought I seriously had something wrong w/me. Oh and this guy is in law enforcement also and he's doesn't have the kind of ego that most of them do. When he's not working, he doesn't still act like he's working, if that makes sense. He's an all around great guy, and has great potential. So we'll see. He's kind of keeping my mind off the cappy, which is good, but sometimes he brings him up because he works w/him so that's not good! But I'll stay strong!

Mycap, good for you!!...yeah 3 dates, and i also am being very selective, it's kind've cool, I'm not being a witch(i hate that butter thing they throw in here) but just being me. and yes, isn't it nice to have someone actually call when they say they're going to. Now the problem is.....drum roll here...trying to be objective and not compare. One of the things about these damn caps is their charm...they are so good at it...but we must persevere ladies, there are many men out there and I really feel none of us, should have to do all this game playing, it's retarded(and please no offense to the mentally challenged people seriously) but it's the best word i can think of right now...we've put ourselves through such hell with all this nonsense, I for one am trying really hard to build up my very shaky self-esteem right now, which is something that all this roller coaster game playing/testing etc saps me of. So let's keep talking. Let's see, I live in New Jersey and today is kind've cold and cloudy, we're expecting a little snow this weekend but nothing too bad. how about you guys, I mean ladies, i have to stop saying that. Sunday I'm getting together with some girlfriends of mine for a little cathartic "getting rid of the bad men" ritual. we're making dinner and all bringing something to burn. Might sound extreme but i think there's something to it that makes the mind more peaceful, perhaps a true letting go.

you girls sound so great and happy!! I'm so happy for you!! Keep your chins up your doing a great Job!!

love Brandy

Thanks GEG, we r trying.

I know it's hard for us APW, but u r right, they do have some charm to them. It seems that no matter how the cappy is, when he calls I instantly fall right back into his charm. It's almost as if he has a hypnotic voice that is hypnotizing me everytime he calls. It scares me, but this time I have to be strong and keep telling myself that i do deserve better! It's so hard to be strong w/him tho!

Well I hope u have fun on Sunday, APW, I don't think it's extreme. I probably need to burn something too. Might make me feel better! I'm getting together w/the girls tomorrow nite like usual. And the cappy told me that he's leaving tomorrow to go on a mini vacation to visit some family so I know he won't be calling/bugging me, making up $ hit for a couple of days, at least during the weekend. So all mind off him, and onto moving on to bigger/better things! I hope.

Well we had really nice weather today. Very sunny, which keeps me in the best of moods, and was rather warm for this time of year. So it was an all around good day!

mycap,
Sounds like a plan...I have been off the board for the last while and just wanted to check in....I guess I got the only good cap out there LOL, its true ladies he is a total sweetie, I think he just needed some time to get used to being so intimate and in love....we have a cosmic connection beyond anything I have ever experienced....I guess it really comes down to making stuff work, if you have a bond, dont let it slip away BUT if you are easily attracted to other people or forget about them after a couple days, ask yourself..."is he worth it? am I really that hung up??"
Earth people especially, we are sentimental beyond words, we like to own stuff, to hold on to it way after it has any flavor....well good luck Mycap, I am going to miss the drama and the romance : )

Thanks wheretomylady, I wish I was in ur spot w/the cap. Tonite I'm really missing him. I've been doing so good, but tonite for some reason I just can't get him off my mind. Could be because I watched the notebook and it made me think about love. U mentioned something about being easily attracted to others and if u forget them in a couple of days then is he worth it....well what's crazy is I can't let him go. As bad as I want to and as bad as I try to I can't. I have never felt this way about someone and honestly it hurts...really bad...and I guess w/time it will get better, but tonite I was just thinking about him and I and the good times that we did share.

Something deep inside has always told me to go back to him when he'd come back, never to give up hope in us. We do have a connection, a strong one, that's what keeps us coming back/staying in contact w/one another.

It's so hard giving up on someone that u think about 24/7 and want to be with.

If you have had the "connection" you will NEVER get over it... trust me! Just hang in there sweetie and to your own thing. If it is meant to be HE will be back!


love, B

I know GEG. I'm trying to handle myself really well right now. I have been telling myself, that if it is truly meant to be he will be back. Yes we do have a strong connection, him and i have talked about that before. I hope I can get over it, but I already know that it's going to be a hard thing to do. But I always remember that God won't make a mountain I can't climb!! I can do this!

🙂 yes you can!!! Sweetie but also remember that God can also move mountains 😉 ! Stay strong postitive and just Pray that God will do whats best for you... Hey at least he is still contacting you right? If I were in your shoes....I think I would take like every three calls or something. Be as sweet as pie no question act as if he is just that Your PAL nothing more nothing less. I wonder if this would work..hmmm
I know its hard dating and that's why I had to opt not to...I could not just date sometimes these men get attached and want something more (relationship) and if your heart is not there then why date? Its not fair to bring them down and I always say what goes around comes around... I dont want to hurt anyone and im o.k. on my own and who knows maybe this is what God wants is for you to be alone to see how strong your love is for him or to see if you can be alone... I know some may not agree with me but I say if you dont love them and you know you never will then why waste their time or yours!!! Good luck sweetie

Your in my prayers~

Love, GEG

Some very good points GEG. See when me and the cap would split up before I always realized how much I really wanted to be w/him, and I still do, but I do have to pray and ask God to give me what's best for me. I feel like I'm ready to get past this stage w/the cappy but in the same token I want to be w/him. I'm just confused. I'm ok being by myself, but it's just that this new guy is really fun to just hang out with. But now I think he's wanting to get more serious, which he hasn't mentioned but I can tell he's totally into me. I know I'm definetely not ready, especially since I'm not over the cap. Yes, the cap does still contact me. Actually I talked to him two times this a.m. and then once tonite. It's so frustrating tho because it hurts when I talk to him. I ignored his calls a couple days ago, but I didn't want to be too mean and not talk to him. That's why I've talked to him the past couple of days. But it's not like he's saying he desparately wants me back or anything.

this sounds so similar to the situation i went through for almost 4 years with my old cap who moved far away...we would do the back and forth thing so many times and everytime i would start to really not want him, there he'd be, calling etc. it prevented me from moving on big time...i know i ditched a couple guys who I don't know might have worked out or maybe not but as long as i had contact with him i couldn't do anything else. even after he finally moved away he still continued to call out of the blue, midnight phone calls from the hosp. etc when he had kidney stones, up until september when all of a sudden he calls, says how much he loves me, but he's getting married. that was the last i heard...which leads me to believe he had to hold on until he was sure of something else. did i feel used?? hell yes...but on the other hand, i allowed it. there's so many different ways to go with these things, i know GEG believes with all her heart that if you just hold on and pray things will work out, i believed that too...until...so now i look at it a little differently, but we are talking about all different people, situations etc. so who knows, i just know for me that i hung on when i shouldn't, meanwhile maybe letting some nice guys go. BUT i really couldn't be there for them either unitl i had the cap out of my heart and soul

Exactly!!! APW!!!!

I know its easier said than done, but why give these guys the satisfaction of being miserable..thats exactly what they want..go out there and distract yourself from thoughts of him..I haven't spoken to mine for 3 days..we spoke everyday..I couldn't give a monkeys..yes I do like him but he doesn't rule my heart..

Yeah that's the way I look at it all. I'll keep praying and if it's meant to be it will be. Until then i'm continuing to move on and live my life to the fullest. That's what I need to do for myself, not be miserable dealing w/his bull $ hit all the time.