So He Called Me Today ........

Alright, I just got off from work (early leave) and I see a familiar number on my caller I.D. -- that cancer man that I give up on a month and a half ago decides to call me today. I have a new mobile number so he called on my home phone.

No, I have no idea why he's calling me again. Last time we spoke, I stated that I was giving him all of his space back because our relationship was so emotionally draining. Yes, he disagreed but I cut all communication because I thought it was the best thing for both of us.

Now, he calling me again (what on earth is going on here !!!!!!)

OMG, he's given me so much trouble in the past and he knows this! We had our arguements and makeups but the last ordeal with him was the last straw, I wanted him out of my life!

For him to call out of the blue is so odd since he knows how I feel.

Oh dear oh dear oh dear me ................

Oh boy. Should be interesting to see how this goes. Have you called him or are you going to wait for him to call again? Dejavu feeling coming around.

Hey Mystical, I was getting ready tp PM you. How have you been girl —??!!!—

Just PM away. I love getting PM's. I'm hanging in there.

Well, I have no idea what he wants! But I will not call him nope nope nope nope nope nope nope!!!!

I put all that stuff behind me and I can't go back to it. Although, I don't know what he wants. I give all his personally information, I don't have anything of his except for the gifts he gave me, I do have some conformation sheets but he doesn't need those at all.

We haven't spoke sense the beginning of summer and I am a little nervous because I don't want to start anything else with him.

Mystical,

I replied to your last one but you didn't respond so I didn't know what happen between you and that virgo man.

confirmations****I meant

I got a PM with you being so kind referring to a catchy song. Is that the one? Hey, where's that PM you were going to send? 🙂

"That virgo man". I just think it's so funny. LOL
You have a way with words, cappysweetie, that can bring a smile.

LOL, thanks Mystical 🙂 *** HUGES ***

Now I just need to figure out what to do about this guy. I honestly didn't expect him to call me after what I told him :o
Sorry ... I'm so NOT a drama queen so I don't like ongoing chaos 😢 😢 😢

Another issuse is that he knows where I work (both jobs) and where I live -- he can get to my home better then I can.

So if he shows up out of the blue ........

Dejavu, is coming back to me. Well, it will be very interesting to say the least. He probably is interested in what you've been up to lately. The two of you haven't spoken in a while so he probably decided to leave you alone. Just when you least expect it, he pops up again.

I fully agree with it's not nice with ongoing chaos at all. It's a tough one. Just wait and see what he'll do. He'll probably call you again. Then you'll have to decide if you want to give him your time or not.

Well, I'm not a sucker for BS, so I will not be calling him!

But all I'd like to know is why ... why call me after so long —— Oh yeah, and I know he's at work today too so why is he calling me from his job —

Nope, I don't want the headache 😢

Well, maybe he wants to catch up like "old friends" do. Who knows right now but be on your guard.

Hey,

Is it mean that I'm acting this way? If he calls me and I refuse to answer ... isn't that just like playing a "mind game" ——

Oh No!!!!!!

"old friends" huh—?

Yeah, when he grows up a bit, he's FAR from where he needs to be before I entertain anything with him.

Yes, he hurt me and because of that I don't even have the feelings that I once felt anymore. I'm making a big deal about this because I'm unsure whether or not he completely knows that.

Well, some men aren't always mature for their age. Believe, I've dealt with one in particular as you know cappysweetie and others also. It's only natural for you to be on guard since he hurt you. You would have to be like stone not to be a little suspicious why he's popping up now. It's just that people who are interesting to someone, sometimes doesn't want to entirely let go of that person. Seems like the Cancer guy wants to find something out.

When it comes to not answering his calls, well, that is not a mind game at all. You two haven't had contact for a while so in your mind there is no reason for him to contact you now. Although I understand some of the feelings you have for him will now come flooding back because now you're gonna wonder why he contacted you. Been there also so I know what I'm saying. Years ago, I had a very pesty Virgo (nothing against Virgos at all) in my life but I really didn't know him. I went to school with him so I saw him daily. Don't you know he'd have to nerve to call me 5 times a day because he wanted to talk to me. I literally had to take the phone off the hook at times for him to get the message. Then when I'd confront him why he was being annoying, he told me he liked me so much and didn't want to let me go. I thought he was crazy. He had a lot of money due to coming from a rich family. He had dreams for the both of us. I had no interest in him whatsoever. He finally, after a long while, gave up. You see, the point I'm getting to is some guys are very persistence. Strangely enough, even though that Virgo guy was pesty, he still comes to my mind and I wonder about him. I haven't seen him in a decade now. Certain people do leave their marks on us.

It's just that people who are interesting to someone, sometimes doesn't want to entirely let go of that person. Seems like the Cancer guy wants to find something out.

Okay, that's interesting. Well, I will not let him back into my life again ... I don't trust him with anything.

Yes, he is a good person and I think he would've made a good friend. But too many lines were crossed when we were suppose to be "friends".

I don't think I deserved to be treated the way I was but I totally understand that it was my fault too because I was too naive to see through all of his deception .....

Well, in life you learn something every day. Look at this situation as a learning process to bigger and greater things that will happen to you.

Oh boy... I knew this was not a Cap. man thing... You probably read that I just had the same damn thing happen, CS, after 4 months and having told him not to contact me unless... felt same/ wanted relationship... I think I let you read that letter I gave him. Well, I DID call the jerk back and a couple tries at that, and he has the nerve to not follow up. I swear it's an ego boost, to see if you're hanging on, curiosity on what you're doing, and there's less of a chance that it's going to be some big confession or declaration of love, etc. especially if you know the guy's been a noncommital jerk time and time again (as mine is).

CapGirl,

Sorry to hear things haven't gone well with your cappy.

Be strong!!! Don't call him back.

I swear it's an ego boost, to see if you're hanging on, curiosity on what you're doing, and there's less of a chance that it's going to be some big confession or declaration of love, etc. especially if you know the guy's been a noncommital jerk time and time again (as mine is).

So you understand me capgirl — Your cap man did the same thing? Oh NO 😢

Yes, that's exactly what all this may be. Well, he needs to really leave me alone ... I have enough going on that I am concerned with.

He had his opportunity ....and guess what the world does not revolve around Cancer man's timeline. You shnooze you loose... period.

Thank you M Ldy, you are wonderful 🙂

You are right, I really have moved on .... hahahaha, it's funny. Just when I had completely forgot about all that stuff I went through with him, yesterday is when he calls out of the blue.

I am stronger then some people give me credit for (speaking of the cancer man). Just because those other women thought he was their Knight-in-shining-armor doesn't mean that I do too.

WHOA!!!! OH my, I must go. Got to get my work done. BYES!!!

dear cappsweetie , i feel u should not call him back.... ever!

btw u didnt say what he called and said? did he and u talk or maybe u didnt pick up his phone/

btw how long has it been since u guys broke up, when was the last time u spoke to him?

i think he is behaving typical cancerian

my best wishes to u!

Hi ingo,

Welcome to the board 🙂

I wasn't home when he called me so I have no idea what he wanted. I have been home all day either so I have no idea if he called today. So no, I haven't spoken to him at all in a month in a half or for about two monthes now.

HMMMMMM......

Okay, I just came home from work and I see that he has called me twice today. Once in the afternoon ... and the second time was five minutes ago. I just walked in the door.

I know this is the right thing to do, but I feel like an bitch for looking at his number and not answering 😢 😢 😢

He did that kind of stuff to me and I didn't like it 😢

Oh dear oh dear oh dear .... I don't know what to do. Well, I didn't answer the phone but .... Oh my goodness

Do you think somethings wrong with him ——?? I don't want to interact with him, but I don't want him hurt either.

But I also know him very well, that's why I won't answer the phone.

Hi Cappy,

He seems a bit anxious I'd say. Why would you think something's wrong with him? He was able to call you a few minutes ago.

Nothings wrong with him. I can almost assure you that if you answered that phone he'd just be like 'hey what's up?' as if nothing had ever happened. Pretty sure. Don't sweat it. If you're set on not interacting with him, just ignore it.

Hi Mystical,

No, it's just I know his immune system is low and that he can get a cold easy. It's just something I learned while I was with him. Once, he called me about three times a day when he was sick.

Hey TC,

So you think he'll be like "Hey, what's up" — LOL!!! It's os funny you say that because that's the attitude he tried to make up with me before. Nope, I didn't call him back last night.

Hahaha!!!!!, I guess this is just one Capricorn sterotype I has offically broken. :-|

Just because I have any involvement with someone doesn't mean I become coldhearted 🙂

But, I'm not stupid either. I can be pretty nonchalent but only when it comes to certain things.

Hey, *the cancer guy emailed me today too*-- I just saw it a few minutes ago. He wants me to call him when I get a chance ... Hmmm ......... oh dear, this is just terrible.

would that be your heart?

tauruschic is soooooooooooo right.... if you had picked up his phone he'd probably say 'hey whats up'! - im sure of it too, cancer always try and come back like thatv- like nothing was ever wrong !!

OMG~ That was the Cap guy's words verbatim, "Give me a call when you have a chance." I did... twice... but before I caved I sent an email back, saying "You know you can call me if it's going to be something different than it's been before." I should have just stuck w/ and left it at that. These types (which is not sunsign but noncommital rather) do exactly what TC said- just try to slide back in there w/ casual small talk bc. they don't want to be pinned down.

CS~ If you get weak and feel like you have to respond, I would perhaps just shoot him an email stating your "position" so that you're not re-engaging back into his bullcrap again. You'll kick yourself if you call, talk to him, and he pulls the same thing all over again.

Yes, SL

It's more of my mind really. I know what I'm doing is the best thing but I feel so cold and indifferent. I don't like ignoring people at all nor do I like for it to be done to me.

In many ways, he did protect me from certain things but all that came with a price.

I guess I just believe in *Karma*, I'm not answering him so the same things will be done to me with someone that I care about.

LOL, it amazing how I feel terrible for doing this to him but he's done worse to me.

CapGirl,

I don't know if I should email him or not. Yes, email is different from talking ... but still.

I know that way I am.

Everything will just fine, I just got to figure out what to do.

I'm cancerian...in my opinion, i believe he just realized about his mistakes..and he want to come back to your life again, that if you are still available..i mean not committed...Even if you are committed, if he really loves you..he will do everything just to get you back again...Try to forgive him, because sometimes he do the actions ruled by his emotions...But when it comes to love...He always needs attention..which i believe, you as cappy...don't have that with him...

Start singing when the phone rings "LA LA LA LA!! LA LA LA! I CAN'T HEAR THE PHONE! LA LA LA! LA! LA LA! MARY HAD A LITTLE LAMB LITTLE LAMB! DAMN ASS LITTLE LAMB! LA LA LA LA FUKKEN MARY HAD A LITTLE LAMB LITTLE ASS FUKKEN LAMB!"

He's called a few times now, e-mailed... he's alive. Do not call him Cappy! Don't do it! It hasn't been long enough. If you don't answer, he'll quit FOR NOW. He'll call you back in the future. Let him do his growing up and then talk to you. *holds your hand tightly* Do not call... I'm being supportive by the way 😛

Don't do it! It hasn't been long enough. If you don't answer, he'll quit FOR NOW. He'll call you back in the future. Let him do his growing up and then talk to you.

TC, you are so right. I was actually thinking emailing him because of what another user suggested but I changed my mind about three hours ago.

It's only hard because I'm thinking about "karma" ... however, I never did anything to hurt him. He's played the mind games, not me ...

TC, you are so wonderful *** huges *** You have been supportive from the very beginning -- you were even honest with me when I revealed that he wrote a poem to another woman.

I appreciate your support along with your realness 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

You are right, it hasn't been long enough at all and it makes no sense to get myself involved again.

Thank you girl 😄

I totally agree with what Tauruschic has suggested. It's not easy to not want to call the guy back. Believe I've done it myself so it's a lesson learnt. I just find it a bit annoying that the guy can call whenever he wants, but if a girl does it, it's not looked upon as a good sign. Maybe someone can explain this or has a suggestion.

You are right Mystical, it's not easy but I'm doing okay with it ... haven't contacted him at all and I'm trying not to feel guilty over not doing it.

You keep up the good work then. Each day that passes, it will get easier. Before you know it, the urge to call him won't be there at all. Your Cancer guy will contact you again, that's for sure. I just think it's weird that guys can call when they feel like it but it's not the same if a girl does it. Seems to be a bit of a double standard. Maybe it has do with that guys like the chase and be in charge. I really don't know.

Cripe... It is a mess... I am only posting this here as I don't even care to keep my saga going anywhere else amongst the Cap male threads... but today I was so emotionally distraught which I rarely am that I emailed him asking why he asked me to call him and then why he didn't return my calls, and saying that this only made him look worse bc. of his lack of communication and follow-through. He emails me back 30 minutes later saying some crap about hope your week's starting out as well, and "talk soon" and I say that we don't need to "talk soon" and I then follow that up with "Jerk." We ended up having email wars of flirtatious banter and I just told him to "call me later--" It seems that he is trying to provoke me to just show up at his place which is what I said I'd do, jokingly. I honestly think he's afraid to call me. He will email back and forth all afternoon, and wanted to talk while at I was at the office but he cannot seem to call me after work hours.

I just think I will show up there and have it out tomorrow?? He was flirting about trench coats and lingerie-- and christ- who cares at this point— 😢 Help

In my opinion...If he calls you, ask him what he wants? If he tells you, he just want to talk to you for whatever reason...then, this your chance..to put him into your trap. He will do, whatever you want...:-) I think he have something in his mind...and that you should know.

wow...reading this thread is interesting b/c i am going through the same situation. my aqua guy broke up with me almost 3 months ago and left me for another girl, whom he had been hanging out with while he was with me. anyway, we contacted each other for a little while, but then i stopped. i had not spoken with him in 3 weeks, and then he calls me and leaves a message. then he texts me b/c i didn't return his call and made chit chat conversation through text, and then tells me to call him on my way home from work. and when i called he really had nothing to say (even though in the text he said he had a long story to tell me!). it was like i had to force the conversation with him...so, i think he was just trying to get me to call him. stringing me along for whatever reason...so i am not going to answer his calls/texts anymore. btw...he is on cap/aqua cusp, so maybe this is more of a cap trait?

OOOOOO NO!!! Capgirl, I'm so sorry 😢

I haven't been to this thread in a few days because I was trying to put things in prospective. It's been five days now 😢 I hope you didn't go over his house .... really I do. Please don't give that prick the satisfactory of know that he can have any woman he desires. This is wahy men treat women the way they do now, because we spoil them to believe that they are "the off all and end all".

I really hope you didn't do it. If you did, well .........

Ok, then just forget about him..sooner or later he will stop calling you. just ignor his calls or emails..

Ah, I went over there last week- and I'm not sure if he was home but I'd indicated that I'd be coming over that evening. He didn't answer his door. He's clearly not out just to get laid, and is playing some bizarre game and/or is too scared and nervous to see me. He'll email all afternoon back and forth but can't make a phone call or see me. I'm pretty burnt out on it and have lost respect for him. It's at least helped me get over him somewhat, bc. the situation has gone from strange to BIZARR-O. I'd texted him right after leaving his bldg. that I'd stopped by, and then sent an email the next morning saying that I wasn't chasing anymore. A normal person would acknowledge that they were sorry to have missed me, but nothing.... Whatever!!

I went over there last week

Oh dear ... our messages came too late 😢

CS~ It was no big deal... It was something I had to do. Tired of playing games. Now I know that he isn't even out for sex and is too screwed up and scared to put any action to his flirtations.

You're still holding strong? and how many calls/attempts have there been by him?? 😛