I'm a Capricorn woman who just met an incredible guy that's absolutely perfect for me. Two things though: One - he is a Capricorn himself
Two - he has a girlfriend that he's been dating for 2 years.
I want this guy badly, but my moral character doesn't allow me to do anything crazy - like seduce and steal him.
It's weird but this guy told Meghan he has a gf and that she wouldn't w us talking, however he himself would like us to keep talking cuz he (apparently) love spending time with me (ps, tutoring him on weekends). He texts me out of the blue in the middle of the night offering to share French fries at a local eatery and calls me babe.... Never have I been around a cap man (although so similar to me) he keeps me confused.
I like him, having a moral crisis over here. I can't go after him since he is not single, but he is clearly interested and we are bonding every time we meet...
Any ideas, thoughts, feedback? All greatly appreciated!
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Apr 07, 2013Comments: 0 · Posts: 175 · Topics: 10
I would distance myself. If you continue to be involved with him, you're asking for drama. Him calling you babe seems disrespectful to his girlfriend. Maybe one day they'll break up and you two will get together, maybe not. But unless that happens, you should set some clear boundaries with him or just distance yourself.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Don't do anything. Maintain your moral fiber.
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Oct 25, 2010Comments: 2 · Posts: 8822 · Topics: 132
well for one, cap/cap relationships are not as easy as they may seem imho.
2ndly, nothing is more attractive then a faithful man, and this guy doesn't seem to have that attractive quality. one day you would be right there in his girlfriend shoes. he is messy...calling you babe etc. thats not a good look.
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Jul 15, 2013Comments: 6 · Posts: 248 · Topics: 13
Are Capricorn men stereotypically cheaters?
THE MORAL PART: Don't. I am not sure if you've ever been in his gf's position but it is just awful, and you will look back and wish you hadn't after the fact. You know it's bad or you wouldn't be asking. The guy I like is a cap and I recently had this exact conversation with him: you're consciously making a decision to do something that is only going to leave yourself feeling bad. Be the person you WANT to be. Is this who you want to be? (Side thought: I wonder if this is a cappy trait ... acting and ignoring repercussions only to feel alot of guilt later.) What is causing you to want him so bad? If he's willing to cheat on his gf than ew, sounds like a sleeze bag. You should consider what is actually happening. I think likely you just like the validation of this guy wanting you even though he has someone. (Girl, I've been there. I get you. Not judging. Just pointing out the reality.)
THE OTHER PART: How do you know he even wants you? It's one thing to be hook up with a guy who isn't single, but trying to "steal" him away is a realllyyyyyyy dirty game. Cappys are generally loyal and I wouldn't count on you stealing this characteristic from him. You likely are just going to end up embarrassed, mad at yourself, and still alone.
PS: If you really like him, don't give his GF a reason to keep him from being your friend.
I didn't mean for that to sound judgmental - sorry.
Just keep being his friend. If it was meant to be than it will be. But if he is happy with his girlfriend then he will stay with her even if he does like you a bit. A relationship has a lot more weight. But maybe you will make him realize he isn't happy ... destiny will tell.
Its ok, I appreciate all the feedback. As far as I understand, he is in a long distance relationship. The gf lives in NV and we are in GA. She visits a few times a month. The whole situation is very strange. He is a good person, but this whole "working the 2 fronts" thing is unattractive indeed. And I def. dont want to be the other woman nor do I want to be in his gf's shoes. He did state that he likes me and thinks im beautiful then added that he does have a girl. Wish I knew that a bit sooner than that. I do Agree though that staying friends is the best scenario possible. Im just curious how Cap men operate when it comes to situations like this. Being a Cap woman, im super patient and faithful. I will NEVER let a guy have a thought that im interested in him if I have a bf. However if im not happy in a relationship (even if I give it time and multiple chances to work out) I will leave and never come back and will find a replacement quite fast. Nevet a rebound, but a better replacement to what I had before. Dated Libras, many Gmini, few Pisces - all disasters!!! Never been around Cap men. This guy's bday is just a day apart from mine. Both Christmas babies.
Situation that very recently happened to me: I was in a long distance relationship with a cappy. His ex who lives in his town recently got our of her relationship. She is a total bitch and they never talked even though they see each other like everyday. Him and I became pretty serious and the next day she texts him "oh I am so sorry for being rude in the past, please forgive me, I need your friendship blahblahblah" totally wanting to rebound with him (one of his cap qualities is that he really struggles to see underlying motives and I don't think he initially realized she was interested). He agreed and they started being "friends" while we were dating. I didn't know about it, but also wouldn't have cared. We broke it off like a week later and she started perusing him more. At this point I knew they were in contact, knew that she wanted him, and also knew he wasn't interested. The first night they actually hung out he bluntly lied to me (and his other close friends) about who he was with because he didn't want us to get mad/me be hurt. I realized this later, called him out on it and he felt awful. (This is one of the examples of him doing stuff that goes against what he truly wants and then hurting himself with the guilt.) Anyway, moral of the story is that he realized how awful his actions were and how it isn't worth hurting his relationships with his close friends and [recent] girlfriend just to hangout with a girl he likes to flirt with or whatever. He not doesn't speak to her at all and she ruined a [underserved] opportunity at being his friend. (Although am not saying you're "just a girl he likes to flirt with." That doesn't seem to be the case. Just thought the story might be a good example of what can happen.)
Ask yourself ... if we do end up together, am I going to want to look back and see that I did ____ to get him? Be friends with him and don't act against what you would want your ideal relationship to be. (I hope that makes sense. Haha. I ask make myself answer the same Q when I am struggling to make a decision.)