Tell them your feelings
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by floshlls on Saturday, November 25, 2006 and has 4 replies.
I have been having problems with my cap guy felt like head games the whole time.I came out and told him how I feel about him and now everything is great, he responded wonderfully and is paying much more attention to me... I told him we need to communicate more and he needs to keep in touch with me just so I know that he is okay, and he has been doing that.It is true his work comes first and I have to respect that...also things are on his terms he is the man and needs to feel like the man........
flosh, you did exactly the right thing to keep your cap man. I applaud you.
hmm I don't know if I agree with this. It all depends on the circumstances and your personal situation. I have never once told my Cap that I love him. A guy who briefly pursued me when I wasn't dating Mr. Cap says that it's obvious how I feel and Mr. Cap's best friend says that it's obvious how Mr. Cap feels. Even when I called Mr. Cap to get back together I never said those words. I told him that I'm drawn to him, attracted to him, like him, etc, but I never said 'I love you.' He has to be the one to say that because of our circumstances. In fact we did discuss love only once, and I said that I didn't love him because love takes time and it grows or dies in how we survive all the daily bull in our lives.
However last night I was exhausted and tired from my plane ride yesterday (Thanksgiving and all that), but I called to say 'back' before I passed out on the bed (I slept for 12 hours last night) and he asked in a roundabout way if I was willing to be more emotionally open with him. (I do love that he asks around things, fishing for information sometimes... it's his aquarius moon.) So when I told him definately but not right now as I was exhausted he promised me that we would have that conversation in person soon. Last night I didn't even think about it much because I had a one track mind... sleep.
But today I realize that somehow I helped lead him to be the first to open up emotionally and I think that's so important for a girl to do. It shows that we're not an emotional basketcase or desperate or hoping that he'll choose us. With our personal history where initially we were getting together and I was on the end of an emotional rollarcoaster myself and he had major trust issues with women. (He'll kill me for saying this but his ex-girlfriend from three years ago pulled something right out of my show Days Of Our Lives... I only know because I jokingly guessed when I was trying to jokingly get him not to tell me. My initial joke turned serious for a minute just out of shock that a girl would sink that low really. I thought only psycho bad girl chicks on soaps did that. But luckily in real life his ex didn't have a purple pillow or Stefano Dimera as a father to pull the charade off for more than a few months though.) So with us it was important to work on trusting each other. And now that I've slept for 12 hours and starting to regain my clarity... I'm going to be excited when he starts this conversation with me.
However last night I was exhausted and tired from my plane ride yesterday (Thanksgiving and all that), but I called to say 'back' before I passed out on the bed (I slept for 12 hours last night) and he asked in a roundabout way if I was willing to be more emotionally open with him. (I do love that he asks around things, fishing for information sometimes... it's his aquarius moon.) So when I told him definately but not right now as I was exhausted he promised me that we would have that conversation in person soon. Last night I didn't even think about it much because I had a one track mind... sleep.
But today I realize that somehow I helped lead him to be the first to open up emotionally and I think that's so important for a girl to do. It shows that we're not an emotional basketcase or desperate or hoping that he'll choose us. With our personal history where initially we were getting together and I was on the end of an emotional rollarcoaster myself and he had major trust issues with women. (He'll kill me for saying this but his ex-girlfriend from three years ago pulled something right out of my show Days Of Our Lives... I only know because I jokingly guessed when I was trying to jokingly get him not to tell me. My initial joke turned serious for a minute just out of shock that a girl would sink that low really. I thought only psycho bad girl chicks on soaps did that. But luckily in real life his ex didn't have a purple pillow or Stefano Dimera as a father to pull the charade off for more than a few months though.) So with us it was important to work on trusting each other. And now that I've slept for 12 hours and starting to regain my clarity... I'm going to be excited when he starts this conversation with me.
Again I can't even write clearly when I think about this guy sometimes. Sorry!
Just wanted to add that I applaud you taking the initiative and opening up. Just remember to not let him take you for granted or see you as less than the prize you are giving him. (That's just my two cents)
I love that you are happy right now!
Just wanted to add that I applaud you taking the initiative and opening up. Just remember to not let him take you for granted or see you as less than the prize you are giving him. (That's just my two cents)
I love that you are happy right now!
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