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a piece? pshhh... i want the whole thing!! 😛

i have phases like this too cg... it's good to be popular, needed, wanted, but mos. def not used and abused! consider that one single person probably isnt aware there are 5 others in line behind them 🙂

*tips glass of wine your direction*

cheers to being wanted!

our nature is to be giving, but we should be selfish sometimes too... it's a shame people dont recognize that more readily.
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Posted by SureShotCap
Caps are always used and abused. Especially by our loved ones. Get used to it. I think you need to stare in their eyes and say what's on your mind. Be assertive... And, don't think about it, JUST DO IT.



Which trips me out because according to astrology we are supposedly the users, yet I do feel many of us get used, especially'if/when we are on the more responsible side.
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Posted by WoundedLeo
Posted by GemiGem
I find this odd considering how demanding Caps are of other people to do things for them, yet ask a Cap for anything and its war.



Now, this is a terribly good point, isn't it?

Watch out...the Caps might start throwing tomatoes at you though! 🙂
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Its true though..they have all these expectations of other people, expect people to come running to their beck and call, expect to be waited on and given what they want when they want but ask the fukcer for a glass of water and a battle ensues. Selfish as hell these Caps.
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Posted by GemiGem
I find this odd considering how demanding Caps are of other people to do things for them, yet ask a Cap for anything and its war.



I should clarify- it's not tangible things I'm being asked for. It is just what I said- asking me to give up things so they can be happy. Sacrificing my own comfort for theirs.

For example:
Yesterday, I walked into my classroom and it was 57 degrees on the thermostat and it was flashing. It was cold. So I went around to all the other rooms on my floor to see if I was the only one who did not have heat. I walked into a room at the opposite end of the hall and it was HOT! I said, "Wow, it's hot in here. My room is 57 degrees." She says, "Oh, it's 85 degrees in here but I don't want to say anything because I don't want to freeze." I told her I had to go report my outage because it was so cold I could not sit in there.

I go and report it. All of first and second period, janitors are in my room trying to fix the heat.

10AM- The teacher in the hot room sends me an email.
Subject: You're toast!
She rants to me about how I should not have reported this problem, because they are in her room messing with the heat. I ignored it.

I was without heat the rest of the day.
1PM- she calls and yells at me for reporting the problem, because now she doesn't have heat. Seriously, she was screaming at me- I was holding the phone away from my ear and my students could hear her screaming at me.

I respond, "So, my students and I should suffer all day with no heat so your room can be a balmy 85?"
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Posted by WoundedLeo
Posted by GemiGem
I find this odd considering how demanding Caps are of other people to do things for them, yet ask a Cap for anything and its war.



Now, this is a terribly good point, isn't it?

Watch out...the Caps might start throwing tomatoes at you though! 🙂



Its true though..they have all these expectations of other people, expect people to come running to their beck and call, expect to be waited on and given what they want when they want but ask the fukcer for a glass of water and a battle ensues. Selfish as hell these Caps.
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Really? I am seriously not like that at all.
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As far as Caps being users, our motto being "I use", I think it's more about being resourceful.

We have the unique ability to see the talents in other people, and to utilize that to our advantage. I don't think that's a bad thing, nor do I think it constitutes using the way people think of it.

I had a friend who would only call me when she needed something: that to me is a user.
I call when I think of you, it isn't about my personal gain.

But, if I have a problem with my car, I know who can fix it. If I have a problem with another person, I know my Gem friend is really good at analyzing and getting in their head. If I have an emotional problem, where I want to scream and throw a fit, I know the Scorp will listen to me. If I want to know what to wear, I'll call my Leo sister. And so on.
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Posted by WoundedLeo
Posted by GemiGem
I find this odd considering how demanding Caps are of other people to do things for them, yet ask a Cap for anything and its war.



Now, this is a terribly good point, isn't it?

Watch out...the Caps might start throwing tomatoes at you though! 🙂



Its true though..they have all these expectations of other people, expect people to come running to their beck and call, expect to be waited on and given what they want when they want but ask the fukcer for a glass of water and a battle ensues. Selfish as hell these Caps.
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You are darn right. I personally hate doing these type of favors for people. "Can you fix me a glass of water?" "Can you go get my wallet out the room?" "Can you etc.....
...." No, I surely cannot.

You gotta understand Caps though. You will rarely ever get what you want out of one. We dont move because of a want. You have to "need" us. Until then, you are on your own. Mutables sseem to be the opposite. Operate more when wanted...good when doing favors etc, a little less when needed.
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The example of the other teacher and her "hothouse" sounds like she's quite simply a selfish idiot. It doesn't have anything to do with astrology or what not. You absolutely did the RIGHT thing for you AND your students! Sheesh, you are not only there to look out for your comfort, but also that of your kids. If you were the teacher of my kids, I would've been calling you up to say thank you. So don't you pay any mind whatsoever to that other bitch of a teacher, you done good girlie!

You're not a pushover because you did the right thing to point out the problem. What you're doing wrong right now is to allow that other teacher to make you feel guilty. So what if they were fiddling with the thermostat in her classroom! If there was a problem in the system, there was a problem in the system. It ain't your fault! You're not a heating repair person for goodness sake!

"Really? I am seriously not like that at all."

Thanks!
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Posted by Sangfroid
Thanks Capgirl for being so patient. I know our motto is often misunderstood. I think it can also relate to the make do and mend sort of mentality. I tend to accept that I've purchased something I won't buy again but I'm going to use it up and every drop of it! Not complaining about a bad situation unless I really think it can be changed and just make that situation work for me until I think of something better or other things change so I can change whatever I'm unhappy about.



Yes! I totally agree. We will use everything and absolutely not waste anything. I am currently driving a car that has 168,000 miles on it. I am driving it until it dies. lol.
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"I look out for other people's needs and always the collective needs first, then individual needs, eventually I may get around to taking care of or at least becoming aware of my own needs but sometimes I just feel like being more generous towards other people's wants, after I've met everyone's needs."

Ok, so in the past, I was always like this.
But I got tired of always being dead last.
As a woman, and especially as a mother, you can't expect other people to look out for you. Very few people will, in my experience, because people are very self serving.
So I started trying to put myself first sometimes.

Now I think more about who/what comes first and I prioritize according to situation.

Don't get me wrong, I would totally sacrifice something for the greater good if I felt it was necessary and worth it. Personally I sacrifice a lot of my own wants for my son. You know, he wants this game or that thing, or he needs winter boots, etc. I would absolutely (and often do) go without something so he can have the things he wants.

I give my time to his cub scout troop. I don't consider it a sacrifice, I consider it a gift, even to myself.

It's just the self serving attitude of other people.
Like my ex, instead of helping me financially (he doesn't pay child support, long story) he suggested the other night that I should get a second job. This mentality- that I should kill myself so that I can get by rather than him helping me while he makes a 6 figure salary, just pisses me off.
When I suggest going for child support, he says he will skip town, or quit his job. 😢


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Posted by capgirl69
"IPersonally I sacrifice a lot of my own wants for my son. You know, he wants this game or that thing, or he needs winter boots, etc. I would absolutely (and often do) go without something so he can have the things he wants.

I give my time to his cub scout troop. I don't consider it a sacrifice, I consider it a gift, even to myself.





This is like what Inana said something about wants and needs. The "wants", well, that isn't a priority, I'll try, no promises. The "needs", yes, I will take care of that immediately. The "gift" - treasure that, because if you don't, I might not do it again (Okay, kid stuff is different, but you get the meaning I'm sure).