Time issues with Capricorn boyfriend!
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by ebony10 on Sunday, September 14, 2014 and has 17 replies.
Hi there, I've been seeing a Capricorn man for just over a month now,and although we have both told eachother that we have fallen in love with one
enother!,he seems to have a little bit of a problem fitting me into his life. He has a job, which requires him to work at night, and activities, such as the gym and boxing as well!.. Currently, we are seeing eachother twice a week, one of which, isn't really a date, as he doesn't turn up at mine until between 2-4am in the morning, as he's working as a taxi driver!.. The time issue has caused a few arguments,as I love him, and really want to have more quality time together!, which is something that seems very difficult for him to give me.. A few times, he has said, that this is all he can offer me for now, and that is just how it is!, basically it feels as though, I can like it or lump it!.. He said that he actually gives me more time then he has to his other girlfriends, and that twice a week is perfectly exceptable!, so if that's true!, why am I not happy with it!.. I also work, and have a daughter, and yet I am prepared to fit him,into my life more then he seems able to.. Am I being unreasonable?.. Also, earlier, he said he missed me, so I said, why don't you come round,but he seemed to want some notive for coming!, I said he could come for dinner, but he just said, ok, I'll let you know!, but never actually did!, and so I just said, I Take it your not coming then, and all I got, was "no,please don't be upset with me.. See you on Tuesdayy love!!.. Can somebody, please give me their perspective on things!.. Thanks.
enother!,he seems to have a little bit of a problem fitting me into his life. He has a job, which requires him to work at night, and activities, such as the gym and boxing as well!.. Currently, we are seeing eachother twice a week, one of which, isn't really a date, as he doesn't turn up at mine until between 2-4am in the morning, as he's working as a taxi driver!.. The time issue has caused a few arguments,as I love him, and really want to have more quality time together!, which is something that seems very difficult for him to give me.. A few times, he has said, that this is all he can offer me for now, and that is just how it is!, basically it feels as though, I can like it or lump it!.. He said that he actually gives me more time then he has to his other girlfriends, and that twice a week is perfectly exceptable!, so if that's true!, why am I not happy with it!.. I also work, and have a daughter, and yet I am prepared to fit him,into my life more then he seems able to.. Am I being unreasonable?.. Also, earlier, he said he missed me, so I said, why don't you come round,but he seemed to want some notive for coming!, I said he could come for dinner, but he just said, ok, I'll let you know!, but never actually did!, and so I just said, I Take it your not coming then, and all I got, was "no,please don't be upset with me.. See you on Tuesdayy love!!.. Can somebody, please give me their perspective on things!.. Thanks.
Dating or exclusive for one month? How long have you known him? Discuss with him how you feel. Don't be passive aggressive. Caps hate that. If you can't come to a mutual agreement, move on.
We've only known eachother for just over a month, and are now exclusive!.. We have talk, and every time I think we've sorted things out!, it's not long before I'm feeling as though he's squeezing me in to his busy schedule again!..
If he really likes you, he will make more of an effort. DO NOT NAG or CHASE HIM. Be a lady and let him come to you. Don't make the mistake that someone women do, thinking that they are in a so called relationship and try to pull his weight, such as making all the dates, calling or texting him more than he does you etc. he still has to prove himself to you before you give him your all and your heart. This usually takes time... At least 6 months.
What's your sign?
What's your sign?
Thank you for your advice. I don't consider that I do chase him!, but perhaps I am a little guilty of wanting to see him more than he is able to see me!.. You have said. "not to chase him, but when I step back, he seems to think I've forgotten him and am not interested.. He says he likes me to show him how I feel,by saying nice things.. Trouble is, I don't want to come across as too eager.. Especially as at the moment anyway, he doesn't seem to be able to give me as much time as I'd like.. Feel as though perhaps the feelings are slightly stronger on my part!? But can't be sure.. The problem is, Capricorn men seem to want to take things incredibly slowly, which is something I find difficult, perhaps being a Sagittarius, doesn't help!
Ugh we women can make some of the most nonsensical relationship decisions at times..
Why on earth would you settle for a guy that can only give you 2 days a week is beyond me.
You've essentially set yourself up to be in a position to have to beg and nag for the love and attention you naturally deserve.
I agree with the others, don't beg and don't nag, allow him to lead and if he's encouraging you to chase him, give more attention than he's giving in return then you should consider dropping his too busy behind and stay on your journey for the kind of man that will make time for you without all the "too busy" drama.
Why on earth would you settle for a guy that can only give you 2 days a week is beyond me.
You've essentially set yourself up to be in a position to have to beg and nag for the love and attention you naturally deserve.
I agree with the others, don't beg and don't nag, allow him to lead and if he's encouraging you to chase him, give more attention than he's giving in return then you should consider dropping his too busy behind and stay on your journey for the kind of man that will make time for you without all the "too busy" drama.
How can he love you and he don't even know you and you don't know him for that matter, slow down.
Excuse me!, I don't think you are in a position to judge me, as you don't actually know me!.. I'm not in any kind of rush, due to the fact that I have been previously Hurt!,however, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to want to spend a little more time with a man that you really have strong feelings for!!., I was actually looking for a little bit of impartial advice, not critasisum.
And I am not throwing myself at him!!
I don't think you give constructive advice!.. So I'd epreciate it, if you don't make anymore comments regarding this post..
Thank you for your advice!, it was very helpful!.. It's not every week that he comes round at those sorts of hours,and I really don't think there's anything suspicious going on!., Perhaps, you are right though!, maybe I am being a little unrealistic, expecting him to reschedule /give up his commitments, friends for me at this early stage of our relationship.. I'm getting the impression that Capricorns generally don't like to be rushed anyway, and are perhaps the more hesitant of the zodiac signs.. Am I right?.. Unfortunately, being a sage,does kind of put me at a bit of an opposite, in terms of how quickly a relationship goes along!, which is probably one of our negative attributes.. I do really think of lot of this man though!, and really don't want to screw things up!!..
Posted by ebony10
expecting him to reschedule /give up his commitments, friends for me at this early stage of our relationship..
This statement implies you expect him to give up his commitments and friends at a latter date.
This will not happen.
What sign is your Venus in? This sounds like Scorpio to me.
If the love of my life came along RIGHT NOW I would have trouble fitting her into my schedule for the next month and a half or so.
He is busy and has his life set up in the most efficient way. It takes time to fit you into it. If he cares enough (and you cut the passive-aggressive bullshit. You don't want to be associated with a feeling of dread, fear or guilt just yet) he will make time for you. That will take 3-6 months.
As they say, with Caps, you need patience.
He is busy and has his life set up in the most efficient way. It takes time to fit you into it. If he cares enough (and you cut the passive-aggressive bullshit. You don't want to be associated with a feeling of dread, fear or guilt just yet) he will make time for you. That will take 3-6 months.
As they say, with Caps, you need patience.
LOL +1 @everything caliber said...
ebony if you were patient you would have known this man cannot give you the time and energy you feel you need and you most likely would not be in this position.
Choose wisely...I dunno your age but if you have a child then that's all the more reason not to be impulsive.
Why are you rushing into a relationship with a guy you hardly know? Any man can say I love you and I'm in love with you but if his actions don't match up then he's most likely bullshitting you.
ebony if you were patient you would have known this man cannot give you the time and energy you feel you need and you most likely would not be in this position.
Choose wisely...I dunno your age but if you have a child then that's all the more reason not to be impulsive.
Why are you rushing into a relationship with a guy you hardly know? Any man can say I love you and I'm in love with you but if his actions don't match up then he's most likely bullshitting you.
Posted by ebony10
Hi there, I've been seeing a Capricorn man for just over a month now,and although we have both told eachother that we have fallen in love with one
enother!,he seems to have a little bit of a problem fitting me into his life. He has a job, which requires him to work at night, and activities, such as the gym and boxing as well!.. Currently, we are seeing eachother twice a week, one of which, isn't really a date, as he doesn't turn up at mine until between 2-4am in the morning, as he's working as a taxi driver!.. The time issue has caused a few arguments,as I love him, and really want to have more quality time together!, which is something that seems very difficult for him to give me.. A few times, he has said, that this is all he can offer me for now, and that is just how it is!, basically it feels as though, I can like it or lump it!.. He said that he actually gives me more time then he has to his other girlfriends, and that twice a week is perfectly exceptable!, so if that's true!, why am I not happy with it!.. I also work, and have a daughter, and yet I am prepared to fit him,into my life more then he seems able to.. Am I being unreasonable?.. Also, earlier, he said he missed me, so I said, why don't you come round,but he seemed to want some notive for coming!, I said he could come for dinner, but he just said, ok, I'll let you know!, but never actually did!, and so I just said, I Take it your not coming then, and all I got, was "no,please don't be upset with me.. See you on Tuesdayy love!!.. Can somebody, please give me their perspective on things!.. Thanks.
Words of love after one month? I would question the validity of that. It's most likely just infatuation because I find it hard to imagine true love after just one month. I don't think it's possible - you haven't even seen his dark side yet.
As far as time. If it's really work issues, get used to it. Work is always going to come first. It's the means to an end, the bread and butter for existence, has to be done, can't live without an income.
I think you're expecting way too much and you're going to come across as needy. At one month, two times a week is A LOT of time spent together. If you had been dating for a year, then I could see your point.
You're going to have to slow down and stop being so demanding.
Excuse me???
Ebony,
You need more than patience with a Cap. My Cap bro only meet once a week with his Libra girlfriend. They have been exclusive for a year.
So you're not alone.
It's hard for Sags to have patience. I have lots of Sags friends and patience is not their virtue.
You need more than patience with a Cap. My Cap bro only meet once a week with his Libra girlfriend. They have been exclusive for a year.
So you're not alone.
It's hard for Sags to have patience. I have lots of Sags friends and patience is not their virtue.
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