Ummm Heah!

I just called my sister (Cancer) out about not telling me about my niece's wedding. She told me she didn't know before hand. My niece was married 2 weeks ago and I called her to congratulate her (learned on FB when the pics were posted). My niece had already told me she had told her mom and that her mom had made up an excuse to not go...and caught her mom in a lie about that! Her brothers wished they'd known (I spoke with one of my nephews tonight who said they never knew and would have wanted to be there - they live with mom and she kept it from them). WTF?

I'll put this on the Cancer bored as well..

Why wouldn't a mother WANT to attend her daughter's wedding? Did she not approve?

I do believe that she doesn't approve, not that she told me that. I would have expected her to have called me to at least tell me that she didn't approve - I'm fairly certain she would have called if she was excited about it. But, regardless, why turn around and lie about knowing?

She went to a damn friggin picnic instead of going to her daughter's wedding... that's probably why she lied, she knows I wouldn't have approved! Come hell or high water, regardless of if I approve or not I would not let my daughter down. It was her daughter's day, she should have respected that!

As for what I believe my sister doesn't approve of - my niece has converted to Jehovah's Witness, unless it was Mormon, I can't remember which one my niece said. Whichever it is, she has been being indoctrinated into the faith for about a year - and now, she's married into it. I could be wrong. Maybe my sister just doesn't want to "let go" of her baby girl and by not attending she doesn't have to face that reality. IDK.

Well, if it were MY daughter I would have walked in there like I owned the place, regardless of how they treated me!

LS, I've read that about JWs. But, it was small, private and intimate wedding - just immediate family and no reception. Ended up only being her husband's mother (who flew in from AZ), aunt and sister in attendance I do believe. Worst that would have happened, I'm guessing, is a discussion about their faith around dinner (assuming they would all have gone to dinner). I think that would have been an interesting discussion myself. I don't know if the other family members are JWs though, they are Hispanic which, in general, tends to be Catholic. Maybe that's another issue for my sister, his Hispanic ancestry.

I'm not sure she has ever even met her new son in-law - maybe another issue for her with regards to her daughter marrying him, but if I recall correctly, my niece said she doesn't want to meet him. He is NOT invited to my sister's wedding either. Personally, I think that is rude - I don't care how small you want it, to tell your daughter her husband isn't invited, that's just not right.

If it is the faith aspect, I'm not sure my sister even knows much about JW outside of stereotypes - she's not one to delve into learning about things contrary to, or which challenge, her beliefs. I'm not saying I'm necessarily a fan of what JW teaches based on my limited knowledge, but it's not for me to judge my niece, her husband or their faith. In my opinion, concern and/or disapproval does not trump love!

Why didnt your niece send out invitations? Why was it incumbent on your mother to carry the word of the wedding?

Yeah, Im kind of with BGP. The niece is grown, it was her responsibilty. It even seems she called you after the wedding. If I got married, I wouldnt put it on my mom to contact my aunts/uncles about it.

And if the Cancer didnt show, you surely cant expect that she would contact people who would show knowing she wouldnt be there.

It's not about.

And my niece was personally inviting only immediate family - she called me to share her news, but I missed her call and, in good ol' fashion Cap style , I didn't call her back before the big day.

It is unlike my sister to not call me to share in big news about her kids though or I her in regards to mine - to share in our excitement or lack there of and talk each other through that which we may personally view as a negative. And then there is the fact that we have spoken twice since my niece got married and not a word about it. That's neither here nor there, I do find it rather odd, but whatever, it is what it is.

What erks me is the fact that when I decided to finally ask her about it last night she lied to me that she even knew my niece was getting married - I called her out on it (and the fact that she decided the neighborhood picnic was more important) and that got her in a tizzy. I probably should have bit my tongue and let her tell me/talk about it in her own time, but my Merc got the best of me and out it came, probably a little more blunt than I intended.

*It's not about that.

I need to proof read better...