Update on me and my Cap

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by ladyvie on Friday, November 3, 2006 and has 9 replies.
So yesterday I was clued in and today it was confirmed... he's crazy. For some reason he thinks that I will end up controlling him so he's decided to not see me anymore. It was something like 'all women end up trying to control a man and though you haven't tried yet I can't deal with that right now.'
If he comes back, great. If not then he is an idiot. And I know that in two weeks he'll be under great stress, and he knows it to. So I'm going to a jewelry store to sign up for jewelry making classes tonight and going to the movies with friends tomorrow night. If he wants me, he'll find me.
I sound brave right now, but I know in a week if he hasn't called I'm going to start breaking down... then in two weeks when he's under the stress of finals I'll be hopefully avoiding despair of rejection. But I will keep myself in check and not call him... darn it all I hate when guys disappear and blame fears on me.
This board has clued me on on panic attacks of a Capricorn and the despair. But I barely have me under control and I have no desire to control anyone.
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Lady Vie~~ I thought this was going to me a happy update. Sad How did he come to say this? Had you confronted him about disappearing or not returning calls or whatnot? These guys will say the damnedest things when feeling cornered or pressured... Sounds to me like the upcoming/pending stress of finals was a large part of it. I honestly think he reacted rashly and is no way gone for good. I give it about a week or so after the finals, and the reality of what he's done and his mistake will hit him and regret. The "fun part" is trying to accept him back w/o anger and a confrontation... that is something I could never "master the art of."
Just do your thing- Give him complete space which is what he should have just asked for in a less abrupt way. But I've done it myself... gone to the extreme and cut someone off/ told them off and then regretted and was back for another chance.
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It's strange... if it come's back and I would think he would since I didn't do anything and he even said that, then no worries. I know the stress of those finals pretty darn well as I acted crazy and broke up with him when studying in the past. So in a way this is payback so I can't hold a grudge (or so I hope. I did this to him only worse.)
And no I didn't confront him on anything really, though on Wednesday I simply said 'if you wanted to call me you would have' but I had a smile on my face and I wasn't angry. He must have dwelled on that or something. I don't know and I'm not going to overanalyze. So my plans of today changed and I'm heading to a movie tonight and tomorrow.
My thinking has to be on the sociopath that I must see tomorrow at 1 PM. I have booked backup to meet the crazy Scorpio ex-roommate from outer space and I just need to figure out a way to survive... get this... after 6 weeks of false accusations flying about the stupid deposit which I was smart enough to have sent to me... we are meeting, but she wants to me meet me in a construction site and not get out of her car. She's shady, did drugs in the apartment and I slept with doors locked and my eyes open for the time we lived together. My friends would never come see me when I lived with her or if they did we were only to hang out in my bedroom with the doors locked (and this includes a 6' tall former marine guy who thought she was nuts.) So I called my marine friend as backup to go with me in the construction zone meeting tomorrow. So that is my mind focus and not some guys imagined drama where I turn into a crazy controlling woman. He even said that I haven't turned into one yet so he knows that I'm innocent of the charge. Just remember if I never return to the forums though to watch the news for woman killed in construction zone in Miami over rent deposit return.
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Oh no, its only been a week and bad news already.
May I suggest Muvico on Sheridan...its a beautiful theatre with the best movie theatre food (popcorn shrimp is my fave). I want to see borat, hopefully I go tomorrow.
Goodluck with the Cap guy, but keep your options open for now. Your an aqua, so I know you'll be fine. smile
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Girl we live closer than I assumed because that's where I went with a friend last night... Borat was sold out so we went to see the Departed again... memories of Boston were laced in that movie. And I agree it's a good theater, and that Italian Restaurant Azzuro Cafe actually tastes like real Italian food and not the Olive Garden aka the McDonalds of Italian cuisine which liters South Florida.
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And I will be fine no matter what... I actually felt a little bad for him yesterday because when I was going out I met up with his best friend. I told him that I was heading out to see Borat with a male friend of mine and he was like 'hey Mr. Cap and I are going to see the same movie tonight, why aren't we going as a group?' When I shrugged my shoulders he said, "Call me with the movie time and I'll call Mr. X." I didn't want to put the friend on the spot at all and I didn't expect them to go. But I called like I promised and said the movie time. They didn't go with us, but even in his running away he was reminded by his best friend of me... (and he knows that I went out last night with a guy friend who he thinks is gay but he's not. So if he doesn't call me ever again, I can make sure it's known that my friend is not gay though I will not ever do anything with the friend. A friend is a friend. And I always have options.
Either way tonight is cheer up a friend whose heartbroken by letting my Scorpio friend pick on me night.
I want to see Borat though as it looks good!
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LOL @ the Olive Garden...tis true though. I havent been to that restuarant, I'll check it out. The Shoppes on Waterways in Aventura has a nice restuarant with good Italian food.
Hopefully Mr. Cap comes to his senses sooner rather than later. I think he knows he's making a mistake...since his bestfriend really had no clue. Have fun this weekend!
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ladyvie,
My cap was totally freaked about me controlling him, he was afraid of lossing himself,and really who can blame him? It is in the best interest of women to have some loose control over their men otherwise they could stray....this has to be some biological instinct. How did I convience him that I wasn't looking to control him? Make it into a joke...and took a step back, let it be known he can make his own mistake, and that I just care about him. Basically its another one of those major pain in the ass Cap things, they need so much attention....
Good luck Lady, hopefully the Cap will come around when he realizes he is insane!
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no word officially yet on us, but I was walking quizically on the street trying to remember something and when I was going to walk right past Mr. Cap he stopped me, kissed me on the cheek and smiled. I smiled back and said, "Thanks for making me feel better. Then I asked if he remembered the elements of the formula I needed." When they told me I thanked the table of guys and left.
Not going to dwell on his actions at all, but the stopping me and kissing my cheek was rather sweet. (Maybe he misses me or something!)
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