Weekend trip with Corp. Exec. Capricorn

Ok, this is a new on for me but I'm spending the weeking out of town with a very successful, wealthy capricorn. I'm only telling you his status because it may help you in your advice to me. We are new friends...only about a month but he lives in another state so we have not even kissed. I met him one day and then he was gone home the next. He is 14 years older than me but I am totally attracted to him. I'm attracted to success and he has mastered the art of success. It will be a quick weekend getaway but we will meet in the city and spend 2 days together. And yes, I will be staying in his room. He already tested me with that question...lol Yes, I agreed. I don't know what to expect and I want to make a good first impression. I am very good at being myself but I'm not crazy so I would love any advice you can offer. We are both successful and would love someone to enjoy our success with. HELP?

Dont leave the bedroom, lol!! 🙂

14 years older...Is this guy married?

Why would you stay in the same room with him? You don't know him like that

I'm staying in the same room because I have established enough of a relationship that I know he is not going to HURT me. He is well known in the business world and trust me he would not ruin his years of hard work by doing something crazy. Plus, we will be with lots of other business professionals at this HOST hotel. It will be business and pleasure trip.

Also, YES I am very attracted to successful men. I love the drive, focus, and hard work they put into whatever they are doing. It just happens to make them wealthy in most cases and that is a bonus to the deal.

No he is NOT married...he has been divorced over 8 years and he has adult kids. FYI....

Don't be so qick to judge...we all know how in 2007 with the internet we can bring people closer no matter what country or state a person is in a much quicker time frame. You would think we have been friends for over 5 years with everything we know about each other.....So the room is not a big deal. I just wanted to know how a Capri on the other side is thinking...since I hear they do a lot of "testing"

—you're toughts?


33 me
47 him

Just have fun, dont try too hard..just my opinion 🙂

Looks like you in love with the Corporate Executive title more than the Cap.

The Caps are smart people, if executives, even more smarter. He will figure out your going after him due to his career. Caps are manipulative people, they can use you and trash you if you try to manipulate them. Do not underestimate a cappie..in any form/shape/size/position.!

I think its too soon to stay in a room with a guy you don't know that well, a month isn't very long but if your comfort level suits you then go for it, fyi your still young, if you want respect get your own room, he's 47 successful and horny, once you get physical he will never see you the same, establish a stronger bond and then when you get an opportunity to see him again, you can get a room....I personally wouldn't go their atleast not now, don't let his success sway you into thinking he's boyfriend material. Have you asked him what he wants with you? Does he see you as someone he can be with beyond the bedroom?

What I'm saying is this...if you see him as a potential mate then you need to slow down, take your time and let him pursue you if that is what he's looking for, him mentioning you staying with him in his room and you agreeing as if its fine for him to sleep with you is a red flag, he wants to get laid.

If you can handle being discard afterwards like nothing then yes go for it because he will more than likely IGNORE you after he gets his needs met.

I'm not judging you,your a big girl but THINK before you put yourself in compromising situation. Men THINK differently in the matters of sex and love, women tend to connect the 2.

If its jus a fling then hey have a good time and be safe.

"The Caps are smart people, if executives, even more smarter."

I am so quoting that.

TaurusUpgrade,

Have your fun. Sometimes girls who practice promiscuity do get their men. Not saying you're promiscuous, of course but I've seen lots of girls give it up quickly that do end up getting their men. Best of luck.

as long as she know the odds she will be fine...not much has changed with men in view of giving it up too soon, most men no matter how great you are as a woman will put you in a friends with benefits category if sex is initiated too soon and thats hard to break out of once a female is put into that category, not impossible but dayum near it. Have fun, protect yourself and let us know how it turns out...

good luck

Tiki,

Trust me. I hear what you're saying but if you think about some of your female friends, I'm sure most of them are slutty and landed their boyfriends regardless, right? Haha, at least most of the females I know are that way. I'm thinking that the "friends with benefits" category is becoming quite blurred.

LOL

Actually my friends don't get down like that, the single ones are very well hipped to the game men play, most are either married or in longterm relationships and per my knowledge none of them put themselves in the FWB category in the beginning of their relationships and most men don't want serious relationships with easy women, a lot of women are selling themselves short when they put themselves in that category, a woman will get what she puts into it, even today in this day and age, if a woman puts out too soon in expectation of a relationship/longterm situation she will be highly disappointed, men simply don't respect women who put out too soon, yes he will try to get it but he enjoys that part moreso than conquering a woman.

He's 45 and he thinks she is young and naive so of course he's going to say your staying in my room expecting her to not have enough sense to say no, her answer of course should have been uh no, I will meet you in the lobby, make him work to get her treasure, her saying yes jus like that without flinching well he's not going to respect her in the morning...trust it

A man isn't going to fully appreciate what he doesn't work hard to have.

Tiki,

I totally agree with you. I feel the same way that you do in regards to this issue, however, there have been times where I've been surprised after lecturing my friends not to give it up so quickly and they wind up committed. I don't necessarily believe all the stories of success, but anyway...

The guy is 47...he's probably thinking he's worked hard enough in the past, be it his job or his former marriage. Maybe he's wanting something that's easy and enjoyable and finds himself committed to the next girl that makes that happen. All I'm saying is you never know.

I hear you leocap, theirs a chance he may respect her in the morning but the odds are small, but hey they 2 grown ass people, whatever happnes I'm sure they are mature enough to deal with it. I still feel a 40 something male dealing with a 33 year old woman is looking for some quick non committal play/action but hey he might get a whiff and fall straight off the pussy whipped wagon.

he might get a whiff and fall straight off the pussy whipped wagon.

HAHAHAAHAHAHHA!

In all seriousness, I think you will be right anyway.

LeowithCapannoyed:

Question for u: If you are so "annoyed" why don't you leave the CAP ALONE?

The Cap will be just fine. It will be you leo , that will be screwed up not getting Caps' attention!!!!

...huh?

Me and Cap are doing just fine. I've been posting on this thing for almost 2 years, lol. No point in changing the name. Besides, Cap would be sad if I left him alone. I think he's got used to having the Leo pester him 😉

why go after Leo? U don't know her story. We're talking about someone else's situation with cap. I agree with Tiki... Plus a Cap plus male plus successful businessman equal ego with sense of entitlement. He has hardly proven himself by keeping up Internet contact for a month. I think ur envisioning a "Pretty Woman" fairytale here- not to say you are totally the character there but the rest of the analogy seems fitting. Cap men are traditionalists- this is a backwards way to begin if ur wanting longterm.

Besides, Cap would be sad if I left him alone. I think he's got used to having the Leo pester him 😉

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Not at all!!!

Caps do not like "showing off" nature of leo women and their self flattery. Also they find leo "fun" schemes w/o any practicality/thought as "go no where wild" schemes.

Like I always say, DO NOT UNDER ESTIMATE A CAP. S/he can live without your "pester"!!!

BTW- good to know you are not annoyed with the cap as no one really gets annoyed of the cap but the leo!

Unfortunately I am a cap with leo rising. I wish I was cap with vigo rising 😉

taurus certainly gets annoyed with caps
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Oh ya! I missed that stubborn bulls. Since caps do not give in to bulls, they may be annoyed of caps. BUT WE CAPS DO NOT CARE FOR THOSE MINOR ISSUES. We have better and bigger things to think about.

Not at all!!!

Caps do not like "showing off" nature of leo women and their self flattery. Also they find leo "fun" schemes w/o any practicality/thought as "go no where wild" schemes.

Like I always say, DO NOT UNDER ESTIMATE A CAP. S/he can live without your "pester"!!!

My relationship with my cap has survived longer than 4 years. Please don't presume to know more about it than I do.

BTW- good to know you are not annoyed with the cap as no one really gets annoyed of the cap but the leo!

Are you kidding me? Have you not read any of the previous posts by the women of various signs that are one point or another annoyed, exasperated, frustrated, etc. by their cap?

Unfortunately I am a cap with leo rising. I wish I was cap with vigo rising 😉

We all have our complaints. I have my Moon and Venus in Cancer and always wish it were in another sign.

Folks -

How about "FOCUSING" on the intent of the thread? Looks like we are messing up this thread. Some people are very good at messing up threads and I do not want to be one.

"I'm attracted to success and he has mastered the art of success. "

Taurus women want money not love

sorry if I sound judgey

My passion can boil over into that category if I don't watch my tone.

you know my opinion on this issue, get your own room, spend valuable time getting to know him and vice versa, time means one on one in person time, relationships can't be built around a voice alone. If you spend time in his room alone make sure you fully understand that if you give up the panties too soon their is a high probability he will not take you seriously. If you thought all that through then go for it.

give up the panties?? Lol. Oh well if that's all then she can slip those to him under his door. Ha ha

ROTFL@CapGirl

::pointing to eyes:: you feeling me on this

"give up the panties?? Lol. Oh well if that's all then she can slip those to him under his door. Ha ha"

thats funny girl!!

angledarling...THANKS!

I failed to mention that he kindly asked me "IF" there were NOT any rooms open would I mind staying with him...and I said NO PROBLEM. I didn't say that because I'm sure he is not going to search high and low for an open room and it is what it is. For me staying in the room is not a problem...I know what I will and will not do...

I actually didn't think he would want me in his room considering his staff would be in town with him....interesting?

I'm far from easy and I never said I was going to have sex with this guy. Actually, I have told myself that I won't and as a Taurus...yall know what that means. NOPE, NADA,NOT TODAY KIDDO! I don't think staying in his room obligates me to sleep with him. I'm a very good communicator and I will have a clear understanding before ANYTHING sex or no SEX goes down.

YES, I do like him...and YES I am open to see where is could go, but I not begging for this man or trying to set him up HE has to PROVE himself to ME. I have to PICK him. I'm an upgrade to his ass as well....so don't get it twisted I just looking for tips to add the ICING on the CAKE!

I am not after his money...I date successful men and like I said it comes with the gig. I am attracted to SMART, men that make SMART choices with their money.

Side Bar.....

Scorpionlady,

You just lived up to the one trait that I have seen in lots of scorpio women...YOU ARE HATING RIGHT NOW...STOP! It's a very nasty, ugly natural trait. I have my area that I'm working on to be better so I know you can do it. You don't have to feed into it I'm sure you're much better than that.

REAL TALK!

MsPisces thats great talk but men no matter how much a woman respects herself will not respect her in the morning no matter how confident she is, COMMON SENSE tells a woman not to put herself in a compromising position with a grown man, its a new age and time but some mindsets are hard to change, lets say he feels good about her confidence but at the end of the day he wants a woman that isn't easy to have because he can be assured she won't sleep around when he's not their with her, if she sleeps in his bed before knowing him beyond a few conversations in a month and testing him..he will simply enjoy the ride but he won't take her seriously.

I have been in the same situation as her and I opted to get my own room, is this guy still in my life uhm no he's not, he didn't get what he expected and he moved on, its about respecting herself, if a man can pop up and say your going to stay in my room aren't you and her first answer is yes then she's coming off as easy, I'm not calling her easy but her reaction to his gesture screams I'm easy.

to each his own but things haven't changed that much when it comes to women and men and sex, the waiting factor has to do more with her CHOOSING him, is he worth her time, money and energy, is he boyfriend material, its about being conscious instaed of jumping in all willy nilly, its so many women online that didn't wait, sex should be the end result most give too soon and wonder why these men don't CHOOSE them, don't give more, give them such a hard time, I'm saying don't be delusional, know what your doing when your doing it, no grown ass man is going to stare at a woman for 2 days without trying to get his needs met, if she has no intentions of sleeping with him then whats the point of sleeping in his room.

If she goes into his room all naive thinking I don't have to have sex, I can lay up under this man and he won't try to feel me up, have sex with me well unless he's impotent she's fooling herself. If he's successful then he's aggressive in getting his way, he's aggressive in winning and personally I don't want to get groped up for 2 days and turn around to see a disappointed face looking at me like i'm a dayum tease.

LOL word!

"First of all, this woman didn't come on here asking whether or not you think she should sleep with him. Her question was how to spice things up on a weekend with a Cap. SEcond of all, she already said she had no intentions on sleeping with this man. Third of all, she is a grown woman and it is her business what she chooses to do."

Your right she didn't come on here asking whether or not you think she should sleep with him. Of course its a free forum...nuff said

"I chose to comment because I see a lot of women, or girls rather, playing this game about when to sleep with a a man. YOu talk about having confidence and respecting yourself, but everything you mentioned above shows all you care about is how men are going to think of you. A true confident woman who respects herself, is in control of her own body and worries about how SHE WILL THINK OF HERSELF, not what some man will think of her."

No girls here atleast none that I know of, never said I CARED what a man thinks.

"THis woman says she is 33 and this man is 40. THey are adults. When you reach adulthood, all those games get thrown out of the window. SEx should happen when both parties involved are COMFORTABLE enough to do so. That comfort level arrives at different times for different women. So my point is, you don't know these people, or the relationship they have, so who are you to tell her when she should sleep with him?"

As I said she can sleep with the guy, be clear about options and how things can go down, as I said if she has weighed her options then go for it, to each her own.

"All a woman should ask herself is, AM I GOING TO RESPECT MYSELF AFTER THIS? If the answer is yes, then the man will agree."

As I said if she can deal with it, which I'm sure she can then go for it but I also said don't be suprised if he's jus hanging around for the fun ie sex and only that, men are wired different then women...after all options are weighed and she's comfortable with it then she should do her.

What are you seasoned with? Just salt and pepper, or more exotic spices? LOL

Tiki- I saw that you have Merc. and Venus in Cap.- same here. I think that's why we think alike on this issue...

The unique, particular circumstances of Upgrade's situation make sex a bad idea... If they lived in the same town/had been actually dating a month, then it'd be not so glaringly distasteful.

"Not all men want sex only. IF they do, its usually because you have nothing else to offer them."

hmmmmm yeah okay lol!

Oh-- one other comment... As a "grown adult, mature woman," you cannot sleep in the same bed with a "grown, adult, mature man" (whom you're dating) and not expect him to want and anticipate sex. It's a little silly to even "go there" and put yourselves in that frustrating situation. Maybe back in high school or whatnot, people do those things, but not when you reach a certain level of experience and maturity in life.

Ugh-- "hits it and quits it" - I hate that expression. It is so vile, vulgar and nasty. That's why you don't "go THERE" until you're sure you're not a "target". WHO wants to be subject to that mentality of "hitting it and quitting it"? Ick.

"Why do you think some men can go years and years without being in a commited relationship, and just have sex with different women. Then, all of a sudden, they end up married. It means all those other girls that were having sex with him, werent wife material. In other words, if a man hits it and quits it, its usually because you had nothing else he wanted."

great point, I agree with that assessment

their are women that have everything to offer a man and simply moved too fast. Men differentiate, separate, compartmentalize dayum near everything. As long as a woman understands how her behavior can benefit or not benefit a particular outcome then she's fine, I have not one issue with what women choose to do in the bedroom but as long as she understands when a man hits it too soon he will not respect her no matter how much or bad she wants to believe it, he will stick around but it doesn't mean he SEE's her as a potential longterm relationship, a potential longterm bootycall yes but love thing...hmmm nope, it rarely happens this way...not saying it can't anythings possible.

"That's why you don't "go THERE" until you're sure you're not a "target". WHO wants to be subject to that mentality of "hitting it and quitting it"? Ick."

Exactly, we on the same page

I understand your point mspisces, trust me I do and at the end of the day inregards to when to sleep or not sleep equals to KNOWING and this comes from trial and error and as starfish said maturity. Knowing will save a woman a lot of time and heartache, being conscious of her behavior and the effects it has on her life is part of that knowing process. Most full grown conscious minded women I know wouldn't go in that particular direction with a man because she KNOW what she's in store for but yet again every woman has free will to do as she pleases and do what she deems right for her.

As for the issue of when to sleep with a man, to each her own, I have heard many women rant about wishing they had waited because of all the ignoring, the pressure to continue without emotionally bonding etc etc, its very rare I hear women say the opposite but again I'm sure their are some great stories out their, I haven't heard of any as of yet.

Mature women know what to do and what to avoid when it comes to men, money, sex and life, maturity level and levels of respect for ones self also play a part in being a full grown conscious minded woman.

" guess I can relate to a person doing what they want when it comes to being with a man if thats what they want to do, but it won't work for me..The man for me has to wait and prove to me that he is worthy of me and a month of me knowing him is not long enough..There is a saying all my life I have been a good girl and the hoe gets the man..I guess it could be true.."

Amen sista...not implying you are one lol

I too believe a month is way to short of a time to share a bed with a man or my body.

great post!

MsPisces...you on it babe girl!

I am so comfortable with myself and my sexuality...and I know when I'm comfortable to make the next step and you are RIGHT it does not have to have a silly time stamp on it...and trust me it won't.

RESPECT...are you kidding me. I have told you that I am being invited to spend a weekend with a dude and his staff will be there...DONE...got that RESPECT!!!! And don't forget he is a Capricorn and perception is EVERYTHING to him. I'm good...HE RESPECTS me already and if I id chose to have sex it would not scar it...actually it could ONLY HELP!! He is attracted to me because I'm a WOMEN and I know what I want in life and in a MAN so he WILL NOT think I'm a HO if something sexual happens...goes down.

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...did yall forget I wanted Capricorn tips?

I got that other shit...I'm real GROWN and will make the right choices from what I dealt...Don't yall know Taurus Women? I got that shit...for real!

i got the other butter? not sure where I was going or what I ment to say...oops. LOL

yall killing me got me taking crazy....lol

I will use the board as a diary so yall can see how maturity works!

Sun-Tuesday....so stay posted!

THANKS FOR THE LOVE!!!!

You've got alot of time on your hands to be tracking and stalking me on dxp, AD. I have nothing to hide- that's my past and I'm not ashamed of it. It's in no way contradictory to what I'm saying here today. Back then, I wasn't looking for a relationship or marriage- I was having my fun and didn't have my sights on longterm with anyone. When your priorities change however and you're ready to settle down, you have to play things differently... Play it your way or be played, so to say.

Upgrade... who knows... You seem to have it covered. If he's been married/divorced, you could be in for a rough ride ahead. But yet if he's 44 and never married, that's a red flag of sorts- "a lifetime bachelor." As far as generics concerning Caps.-- be understated; appearances are everything- especially when it comes to the work-social scene.

AMEN to that PLAY or get PLAY!

So, that's why I said, I know the game...TIPS TIPS TIPS my friends...SMILE!

I'm 33 single never married

he is 47 divorced 8 years and 3 adult kiddos

PERFECT for ME and what I want in the next phase of my life.

Scorpiolady.......I will get to keep all the CASH! Just kidding...lol

I'm still a Taurus and I'm working on letting shit go...my bad!

OH...I get it when I type Sh $ T it changes it to butter....my bad!

Well, if you're going in... then get the lingerie.

Now, I will get something nice/sexy to sleep in, but I'm not a tease...not my style !

I will make sure all my clothing is pressed and shoes are SHINED...lol They are so picky about that kinda stuff...cute!

"Scorpiolady.......I will get to keep all the CASH! Just kidding...lol"
And you should.

Hey just to set the record straight...I am not a HATER....hahahahahah
Nor am I a typical scorpio....

Taurusupgrade you will do what you like regardless...I have a older sister that is a taurus and a best friend that is a taurus and these two ladies have been in my life for a long time...they don't have a problem with how I live my life and I don't have a problems with how they live there lives...all I do know is that they both are in a fucked up relationship based on money. So when you made that comment that was the first thing that came to my mind....I find that with taurus women it's all about money. Thats what I see.

So enjoy yourself have some fun, cuz that's what I will do.