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Jun 18, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 2999 · Topics: 75
... or am i reading too much into it?.
i am close friends with a cap male (i'm a leo-virgo cusp female; not sure if that matters). to give u some background, we have been intensely attracted to each other for over 2 years now. we might have ended up together but it was all ill-timed (i was in a relationship when he met me and a month before i broke it off he got with someone else; he's still with her). anyway, he asked me out to see a concert with him out of the blue. he paid for my ticket, drinks, and drove us there. it seriously felt like i was on a date. not once did he ask me to reimburse him (he's genuinely sweet but we always paid for our own drinks and such). he even dressed up a little and wore the pair of glasses that he knows i love (he switches between glasses and contacts). we arrived rather early so we sat at the bar and drank a couple of beers. i don't remember how the conversation arose but somehow we ended up on the subject of children. i told him that i wasn't sure if i wanted to have any of my own because there were so many kids out there that needed to be adopted. i told him that i was seriously considering getting "fixed". he gave me the most disgusted look and immediately tried talking me out of it. he then proceeded to ask me,"don't u wanna get married and have kids in the future?". that's where i was baffled. the topic of marriage has been brought up by other mutual friends in the past and he and i both sort of scoffed at the idea of it. i looked at him with a raised eyebrow and he continued to persuade me. he then proceeded to tell me he wanted 2 kids, gauged my reaction (when he told me that he could probably read on my face that it was too many for my taste), and then quickly changed his answer to just wanting one. i suddenly felt like he was planning out the future... for US.
it's too hard to tell because he can be so hot and cold but that's sure what it felt like. it feels like he wants to be with me but isn't quite ready for me yet. i think he's waiting for "the right moment" which could be years from now. he also acts incredibly jealous if i bring strange guys around us that appear to be straight. he has no problem if they're obviously gay. i'm just confused by him sometimes. looking for honest feedback. much appreciated.
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Jun 18, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 2999 · Topics: 75
if freudian is the language u speak