What is wrong with me?
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by capris on Thursday, March 20, 2008 and has 13 replies.
I am a capricorn woman and I've been on a number of dates these few months and all of them have been disappointing! Is there something in the stars? I don't think I'm ugly, or obnoxious, or crazy. I think I am normal and a nice person! Am I bumping into the wrong guys this yr? I met a Capricorn man in January, a libra and leo in February, capricorn in December, gemini this month...and nothing has worked out. I am confused. I am a friendly, bubbly, decent looking woman ...is being to friendly what's scaring them off? Someone tell me. lol. confused! What am I doing wrong?
YOU ARE BEING TO NICE LOL! Men don't respond well to nice kind women, you don't have to be a witch either but add a little spunk to you and see what happens.
I don't think I tried to hard, but maybe I am too nice! Well I already told my friend that I am done with this dating scene.
I don't think I tried to hard, but maybe I am too nice!
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I know what you mean. Guys have problem understanding "intentions" of a good woman as they would never be able to believe some one can treat them that nicely. So if you are nice they may suspect you.
Does that mean you should change and become bad? NO. Instead, do not be affected by not so nice people and keep trying. One day some one nicer will come along and will understand you as you are.
Do not loose hope.
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I know what you mean. Guys have problem understanding "intentions" of a good woman as they would never be able to believe some one can treat them that nicely. So if you are nice they may suspect you.
Does that mean you should change and become bad? NO. Instead, do not be affected by not so nice people and keep trying. One day some one nicer will come along and will understand you as you are.
Do not loose hope.
Yah. Its tough world out there. I'm jus going to lay low n not do anything. I'm very discouraged right now. I still think I'm doing something tremendously wrong. I'm talking to this pisces guy I met online and I told him, if u see something off about me, let me know. I'm attracted to him too, but he lives a few states away from where I am so I don't expect anything to happen. we get along really well. So hopefully he can tell me what iis wrong if I develop some kinda deeper attraction to him. Ha!
men assess a women quickly meaning he's going to judge very quickly by your words and that statement "if u see something off about me, let me know" came off as I'm not good enough at this dating thing which in his mind means your unattractive in some way.
I would suggest and its only a suggestion...change your way of thought Capri, dating is just that...dating...men date tons of women until they find the right one, men don't say man I been used and abused and pushed out the door during this dating thing so i give up, men keep pushing forward and keep dating until that one woman says okay i'm here with you lets go and do this.
other men ie Pisces guy or any guy doesn't have to know about how badly things are going in your life when it comes to dating or anything thats personal, your frustration sends all kinds of energetic messages to a man & lacks mystery and men love mystery, love not knowing and peeling away the layers of a woman.
be confident, keep dating and read as many books out there that can help you on your journey, they even have ebooks about do's and dont's of dating, it may be something as small as you don't smile enough to you having nervous energy to simply your doing nothing wrong and the men wasn't connecting with you or the level of attraction wasn't strong enough for him to stick around, don't make it ALL about you b/c you can create more drama around that mindset and get stuck in a rut...look at it in a positive way,it wasn't meant to be and keep dating, more you date, the better you get...
If you want long term love then you may not be picking ie attracting men that want the same thing. Be confident and be okay with making mistakes, if a man rejects don't analyze it to death, shrug it off and say NEXT.
In the end if dating isn't your thing, then date yourself, nurture you and be good to you and that positive energy will resonate out into the world and bring good date worthy men to you.
I would suggest and its only a suggestion...change your way of thought Capri, dating is just that...dating...men date tons of women until they find the right one, men don't say man I been used and abused and pushed out the door during this dating thing so i give up, men keep pushing forward and keep dating until that one woman says okay i'm here with you lets go and do this.
other men ie Pisces guy or any guy doesn't have to know about how badly things are going in your life when it comes to dating or anything thats personal, your frustration sends all kinds of energetic messages to a man & lacks mystery and men love mystery, love not knowing and peeling away the layers of a woman.
be confident, keep dating and read as many books out there that can help you on your journey, they even have ebooks about do's and dont's of dating, it may be something as small as you don't smile enough to you having nervous energy to simply your doing nothing wrong and the men wasn't connecting with you or the level of attraction wasn't strong enough for him to stick around, don't make it ALL about you b/c you can create more drama around that mindset and get stuck in a rut...look at it in a positive way,it wasn't meant to be and keep dating, more you date, the better you get...
If you want long term love then you may not be picking ie attracting men that want the same thing. Be confident and be okay with making mistakes, if a man rejects don't analyze it to death, shrug it off and say NEXT.
In the end if dating isn't your thing, then date yourself, nurture you and be good to you and that positive energy will resonate out into the world and bring good date worthy men to you.
I agree with others about being too friendly, be a witch sometimes, say no, break dates, don't answer every call right away, don't text right away, don't make him a priority and date as many men as you possibly can, have fun with it, if your dating more and more you won't even notice XYZ fell out of the game b/c your to busy doing your own thing jus do the opposite of what you have been doing up to this day and I promise you things will change...notice I said date, not sleep with, date means jus that date, no physical contact needed ie no sex. This goes for online too, talk to as many guys as your heart desires, the ones that are interested and are alpha males will stick around not fretting over competition, the wimps will fall to the way side.
men see all that nice stuff as a ploy to entangle them into a relationship, some men are suspect right away when a woman is always yielding, always available to him, opening up too soon on dates...so if your being nice, stop being so nice, if he ask you out say no i'm busy this day, take a rain check, if he wants you to pick up something for him say no, sorry I can't, let NO be your mantra and you will see how quickly a man will run and try to capture you....be challenging
Men aren't going to tell you anything about what's wrong with you because theres nothing wrong with you and why would you want him to? If you want a man to point out your every flaw hurry and get a virgo, he will be happy be your critical whipping boy.
men see all that nice stuff as a ploy to entangle them into a relationship, some men are suspect right away when a woman is always yielding, always available to him, opening up too soon on dates...so if your being nice, stop being so nice, if he ask you out say no i'm busy this day, take a rain check, if he wants you to pick up something for him say no, sorry I can't, let NO be your mantra and you will see how quickly a man will run and try to capture you....be challenging
Men aren't going to tell you anything about what's wrong with you because theres nothing wrong with you and why would you want him to? If you want a man to point out your every flaw hurry and get a virgo, he will be happy be your critical whipping boy.
thanks guys...
Maybe it has nothing it all to do with your personality.
Maybe you're limiting yourself to one type of guy i.e. what you're usually attracted to.
Maybe you should have a little more variety in the guys you go on dates with and you can strike gold.
Maybe a guy who you would normally never consider...who knows.
Maybe you're limiting yourself to one type of guy i.e. what you're usually attracted to.
Maybe you should have a little more variety in the guys you go on dates with and you can strike gold.
Maybe a guy who you would normally never consider...who knows.
AquaSun..I'm guessing you're an aquarius. My bestfriend is an aquarius and she said the same exact thing. 
It could be that too.
It could be that too.your a beautiful person Capri and I know with a little tweaking and adjusting your thoughts you will soon see how easy it is to date and enjoy the dating process, if one doesn't work out move on to the next don't even give yourself time to think it's you b/c 99% of the time its not you persay, there may be some things you may need to adjust inregards to your dating tactics but you don't need a man to tell you that, jus pay attention to your dates, listen to the energy you feel when your with him and be patient.
I agree with what others have said, give the men you don't necessarily feel that euphoric spark with a chance, love takes time to grow and usually when you get that euphoric feeling when initially meeting and dating it soon wanes out and your back to square one. Take your time, have confidence/build confidence within and make sure your sending out the energetic message that your the best and he must step correct to you or get left behind.
I agree with what others have said, give the men you don't necessarily feel that euphoric spark with a chance, love takes time to grow and usually when you get that euphoric feeling when initially meeting and dating it soon wanes out and your back to square one. Take your time, have confidence/build confidence within and make sure your sending out the energetic message that your the best and he must step correct to you or get left behind.
Look on the bright side...you are dating. Some women would love the opportunity.
We should always know there is someone out there who is less fortunate. Optimism is the key to life.
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(turn that frown upside down)
Happy Dating!
We should always know there is someone out there who is less fortunate. Optimism is the key to life.
-> (turn that frown upside down)
Happy Dating!
I like going to bookstores/cafe, but never met anyone there.
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