Why?
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by BeautifulFire on Thursday, November 4, 2010 and has 11 replies.
Hello, I'm new to this site. So I'm not really sure if I'm doing this right. I wanted to know why my ex capricorn recently deleted me from his facebook after having me as a friend more than a month of us not speaking. Is it because he's trying to get over me, is he dating someone else and doesnt want to hurt my feelings, does he just wan me out of his life? I would really like to know if anyone can help. We were only together for a few months. He made me feel so special. We would spend every weekend together and every night talking on the phone for hours. He introduced me to his friends and family very fast. His mother use to always tell me that I was so special to him. And she has never seen him bring anyone around as much as me. She said that if he did bring another woman around she would see them once and never hear from them again. But with me, he use to leave me with his mother to hang out with her. She really likes me a lot. He would leave me at his house and treat me really good. He always told me that he loved me more than I would ever know. Then out of the blue everything went downhill. One minute he's crazy about me and loving me to death and the next day he'll tell me that he only loves me as a friend. He just started to play these mind games no matter how much he saw that it was hurting me. Everytime he would start "loving" me again I would tell him that it feels so real and hurts so bad when he tells me that his feelings are not there anymore. Everytime I tell him the hurful way that makes me feel he would always say "I will always love you, I told you we are going to be together forever." He would tell me that no matter what he says we are always going to be together. Then I get confused and hurt all over again. After that he would do the same thing and tell me that his feeling are not there. So finally I stopped speaking to him. Then he called me out of the blue telling me how much he misses and loves me and the next day was hell for me again. Because he went cold again! After that last time I told myself not to speak to him at all. After more than a month of not speaking to him I realized that my status on my FB said in a relationship and I took it down. The very next day he deleted me from his FB. WHY??
Honestly you really shouldn't care considering what he put you through and the fact that well, you guys don't speak anymore anyway. He probably saw that you moved on and decided to do the same. Either way, you really shouldn't give it too much thought. I mean, unless you want him back or something...
First of all I really want to thank you Amethyst2002 for your advice. I really needed that!
Cancergem, you are so right about the fact that I shouldn't care. But it's not that easy. I wish I could turn my feelings on and off like a lightswitch.
Amethyst2002, He's a 30 year old little boy and I repeat little boy! I'm 22. All of my friends wonder how he got me because he's not the best looking guy and I don't mean to soud cocky but I'm very attractive. But my heart is much bigger than my head lol. He has VERY little experience when it comes to women. He's never been in a real relationship because women are not attracted to him and he's a shy homebody who's a true mamas boy. I had to correct him at times because I don't like the way he talks to his mother sometimes and he always walks away while she's talking to him.
In the beginning when I first met him he tried to make it seem like a Cinderella story because he has a career and I have a regular job. But I started opening my eyes and noticing things. He lives with his mother, doesn't pay any bills, has a bucket and is always on his last dollar or borrowing money from me or his mom. He's always working but doesn't make any real money. I noticed that stuff and still looked past all of it. He always keeps himself up looking nice. I noticed that he puts on a front for the world. Thinking everyone looks at him through a microscope when he's the only one who's doing that.
I use to always ask him, why do you play all of these games with my emotions? I guess he's getting back at me for all the women who never wanted him lol. Honestly, I thought that he would call me again and tell me how much he misses me. Knowing what the outcome of that would be smh. I think I may be looking for that fake side of him that he made me believe was so real. You guys are really making me open my eyes even more. Thank you! I don't want that idiot lol. I wish that it would sink in that he's not that good person that he pretends to be. I want my feelings to hurry and go away.
Thank you sooo much Amethyst2002 for being so understanding and supportive to a total stranger! You're right about everything especially "The hardest part is grasping WHY the hell they went from one extreme to the other." And "The hot/cold bs. Which they tend to do, but when the hot/cold bs is downright emotionally abusive and them playing mind games, it's NOT okay and you shouldn't have to put up with that butter."
Cancergem, you are so right about the fact that I shouldn't care. But it's not that easy. I wish I could turn my feelings on and off like a lightswitch.
Amethyst2002, He's a 30 year old little boy and I repeat little boy! I'm 22. All of my friends wonder how he got me because he's not the best looking guy and I don't mean to soud cocky but I'm very attractive. But my heart is much bigger than my head lol. He has VERY little experience when it comes to women. He's never been in a real relationship because women are not attracted to him and he's a shy homebody who's a true mamas boy. I had to correct him at times because I don't like the way he talks to his mother sometimes and he always walks away while she's talking to him.
In the beginning when I first met him he tried to make it seem like a Cinderella story because he has a career and I have a regular job. But I started opening my eyes and noticing things. He lives with his mother, doesn't pay any bills, has a bucket and is always on his last dollar or borrowing money from me or his mom. He's always working but doesn't make any real money. I noticed that stuff and still looked past all of it. He always keeps himself up looking nice. I noticed that he puts on a front for the world. Thinking everyone looks at him through a microscope when he's the only one who's doing that.
I use to always ask him, why do you play all of these games with my emotions? I guess he's getting back at me for all the women who never wanted him lol. Honestly, I thought that he would call me again and tell me how much he misses me. Knowing what the outcome of that would be smh. I think I may be looking for that fake side of him that he made me believe was so real. You guys are really making me open my eyes even more. Thank you! I don't want that idiot lol. I wish that it would sink in that he's not that good person that he pretends to be. I want my feelings to hurry and go away.
Thank you sooo much Amethyst2002 for being so understanding and supportive to a total stranger! You're right about everything especially "The hardest part is grasping WHY the hell they went from one extreme to the other." And "The hot/cold bs. Which they tend to do, but when the hot/cold bs is downright emotionally abusive and them playing mind games, it's NOT okay and you shouldn't have to put up with that butter."
Yes, he has has a cap sun/pisces moon and Venus/Aquarius and Mars/Virgo.
I'm sun/aries, moon/cancer, venus/taurus and mars/capricorn
I'm sun/aries, moon/cancer, venus/taurus and mars/capricorn
im a venus in aqua and i take offense too that...all though i like diffrent girls at the same time...player much? lol
Amethyst2002, that's exactly what he is lol a (wtf was I thinking) lol. The only thing is, he wasn't that person in the beginning. Well, that's not what he showed me. Maybe I can get some real closure if I can understand WHY or HOW? It just makes no since to me how someone can be so cold. When it comes to the age thing he makes me feel like an old woman lol cause he's so immature and inexperienced. He's so naive and I'm the opposite of naive. He's been sheltered all his life and I've experienced so many different things. From amazing things to traumatizing things.
He hasn't even experienced small things like a real relationship with a woman. He has no stories to tell. He lives his life like a damn ROBOT lol. When I first met him I thought he was a weirdo. He just didn't look normal lol. Almost like a loner cereal killer lol. I'm laughing but I'm serious lol. I'm glad that I spoke to you guys cause I'm pointing out other things that I forgot about and you all are giving me your thoughts and advice. It's making me feel so much better
Ellessque, all of that??? WOW! I knew that his self esteem was kind of low and he was trying to hide it but I didn't know it was that bad smh.
Can be male chauvinists? Another big WOW!
What kind of effort can a woman put forth with a man like that? That sounds impossible. Especially if he's set in his ways!
He hasn't even experienced small things like a real relationship with a woman. He has no stories to tell. He lives his life like a damn ROBOT lol. When I first met him I thought he was a weirdo. He just didn't look normal lol. Almost like a loner cereal killer lol. I'm laughing but I'm serious lol. I'm glad that I spoke to you guys cause I'm pointing out other things that I forgot about and you all are giving me your thoughts and advice. It's making me feel so much better
Ellessque, all of that??? WOW! I knew that his self esteem was kind of low and he was trying to hide it but I didn't know it was that bad smh.
Can be male chauvinists? Another big WOW!
What kind of effort can a woman put forth with a man like that? That sounds impossible. Especially if he's set in his ways!
Scorpio_chic, you're too funny lol
HappyCappy, is it me or are Capricorn men natural born womanizers? lol
HappyCappy, is it me or are Capricorn men natural born womanizers? lol
That makes a lot of sense. Well, it looks like he's gonna be one lonely guy! You all give really good advice
i guess so beautifulfire. i know im always sweet and kind when it comes to women but men get my cold shoulder. lol.
Amethyst2002, actions speak louder than words. And our ex losers can keep doing all of that talking but without us around to listen to all that BS. It's really not right for people to put other people down because they don't feel good about themselves. It's just not right. As bad as he use to make me feel, I would always try my best to lift his spirits up each and every day. He never showed his appriciation. But like you said "let them wallow in their misery."
If I was depressed and didn't like myself and met someone who treated me like a human being and someone really special. I would hold on to that person and treat them with much respect but not all of us are the same, I guess...
HappyCappy, lol keep it up! We need more men like you Lol why do the guys get the cold shoulder lol???
If I was depressed and didn't like myself and met someone who treated me like a human being and someone really special. I would hold on to that person and treat them with much respect but not all of us are the same, I guess...
HappyCappy, lol keep it up! We need more men like you
Lol why do the guys get the cold shoulder lol???nvm....guys get bro love. but non gay bro love...like last night a wierd dude drank from my water at the club...me and this chick i was talking to (shes short and a libra XP) were like wtf? lol. i knew some gay guys were there and i was hammered i dont mind them but when they do stuff like that it kinda unerves me. ive never had a gay friend in my entire life so im not use to them. but i find that women are cool. she told me there is no such thing as to sweet just dont let people use my generous nature. like i was buying her water and stuff lol. im not as experienced as most guys...its easy to get something from me if your a cutie. but if im treated badly at the end of the night then....im not gonna like you that much anymore. and its not good to hurt me hhaha....im super sensitive to that stuff...also found out im pretty sensual so i like touching...no offense. i think i hugged alot lol. im super sweet when drunk haha....
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