Why

Why is that when i do something in 90% of the cases i think of the outcome. If i am in a group, i pay attention to everyone, try not to leave out anybody. Before introducing a topic, take care to all be interested.

Why is that when i saw somebody who hurt me, my first thought is not to be angry, but to know, every people must have a good reason behind their actions. If i see a boss who is totally insecure in herself, even if her actions hurt me, i can't really judge her, because i know that she is more hurt then me.

Why is that 90% of the people take kindness, and non-judgement as weakness? Should i criticise eveyone to seem like i am strong, and have the cool, don't care attutude?

Why is that when i am with somebody who is important for me, before saying anything i always think about how he/she would take it. Not tell the opinion straight away, but find the same language, and the best way to tell it, so it will really be a help.

Why is that that selfish attitude can move you far, and make you more friends and success?

Cappies, honestly. Do you think i am an immature fool, who can't able to accept reality? Or are you similar to me?
I hate that when i am considerate and kind, and people see me as weak and boring. I am neither.

Thank you CappyyLuv, really. Today i feel so bad. I didn't go to wrok, because after yesterday evening i literally can't stop crying. I feel so pityful and hurt, but i hope i am not.
One moment i can't decide if i make an elephant out of an ant, or if i really have the right to feel hurt. But if i feel hurt. I can't decide if the others were simply inconsiderate without realising it, or if the unconsciously just don't give a damn about me.
I try to be as objective as i can be, because my Libra is so strong, and my lots of Aqua makes me not too emotional, but very kind and understanding. When i scan't stop crying, sometimes i wonder am i really hurt or just dramatize my feelings?

These times i hate that i have no water. How can i understand my own emotions? Now i am at the point when i can't even distance myself from the situation.

Everyone,

thank you for all of you. I feel a bit better, letting some of it out. I definitely won't dwell on this, i am already thinking how can i solve the situation in the best possible way. I finally stopped crying.

Claire, i simply don't judge people because most of the time i know ther is a reason behind their action. Instead of judging, i try to understand their reason and way of thinking, but sometimes i can't see it clearly. I know how it is to be hurt, and i definitely don't want to cause pain to others.

Amethyst2002, i thought it is the water. I see for example all of my Pisces and Cancer friends/aquitances are very comfortable with their emotions.

Cappyyluv, so true, everything you write. I think you understand it well because of the Libra!

Ellesque, you are very kind, but i am not sure if i can give enough Earth to you. I have only 1, my Sun in Earth. The rest is Air. But i give you some Earth, anyway.

Thank you again for your responses!

"The judge and the lawer." Wow, it somehow totally sums up the essence of this placement! You are amazing, CappyyLuv!

Posted by FlorasSecret
Why is that when i do something in 90% of the cases i think of the outcome. If i am in a group, i pay attention to everyone, try not to leave out anybody. Before introducing a topic, take care to all be interested.

Why is that when i saw somebody who hurt me, my first thought is not to be angry, but to know, every people must have a good reason behind their actions. If i see a boss who is totally insecure in herself, even if her actions hurt me, i can't really judge her, because i know that she is more hurt then me.

Why is that 90% of the people take kindness, and non-judgement as weakness? Should i criticise eveyone to seem like i am strong, and have the cool, don't care attutude?

Why is that when i am with somebody who is important for me, before saying anything i always think about how he/she would take it. Not tell the opinion straight away, but find the same language, and the best way to tell it, so it will really be a help.

Why is that that selfish attitude can move you far, and make you more friends and success?

Cappies, honestly. Do you think i am an immature fool, who can't able to accept reality? Or are you similar to me?
I hate that when i am considerate and kind, and people see me as weak and boring. I am neither.

I use to be like you and always was nice. Even nowadays I do know and realize every person has their reason for acting the way they do but overtime I just realized that the majority does not care about you and only look for themselves. When your nice they do take it as weakness and try to get over on you. I think you just havent had that moment where your like im not taking this anymore and ill be damned if someone does it again. After I had that aha moment i stopped caring what others thought because everyone wont be happy. I started being in the beginning til others gave me a reason otherwise and started saying whats on my mind whenever I needed to. When your more assertive and a asshole or jerk as ive heard so many times people know that your about your business and wont take bullshit so they respect you. After they get to know you they see your cool but they learn not to get on your bad side or they know you'll have a hurtful smart comment waiting on them everytime. Once you show people how you are when they get on your bad side they dont want to test you anymore. The best way I say to handle is be nice and

Flora, I'd love to meet you one day. You sound like a fantastic person. God bless you. Imho, you just need to learn more how to balance things. ((0)) Big Hug. I'll bet once you get an understanding and learn to separate the people who are taking advantage of you from those who truly appreciate and value you, you will have no regrets on the decision you make on how to deal with each of them. The peace of mind is liberating.

Thank you for all of your answers, and sorry for my late response!

Jooseisi: Thank you for telling me your experiences! Yes, i need to make an order, because if not slowly my energy will disappear. There are people who repeatedly won't learn, no matter how much i respect their feelings. I am sorry that dxp cut the end of your sentence, I wanted to read it!

xdxp: "respect has far more substance than being a diplmac at all times." You are right. How did you train yourself to be a cookiemonster? (btw what is a cookiemonster—? Is it a new slang? i see that people here use it often.) I am lot of times so afraid to hurt somebody, even if they are wronged me. I am not like this because i want to be likes by everyone, not at all. I am like this because i feel very bad when i cause pain to another. I am working on finding the right balance in these types of situations. Thank you for sharing your opinion!

Oh, thank you. I didn't know that! 😄

Pathfinder: Thank you for all of your words, they really warm my heart. Peace are truly important for happiness, and i actually really need to be more mature and balance things. Thank you!! 🙂