Why do I feel capricorns try and test you even after a breakup?
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by dazedandcofused76 on Monday, February 15, 2016 and has 16 replies.
Why do they constantly test your limits.. I'm just curious... and the test is always very spiteful and mean to see if you'll keep trying to win their heart or to see how long your loyalty last? I feel They have Such high standards and want to see if you'll be importance to them that they test you even after a breakup. Is this true or is my cancerian ass reading too much into things?
What kinds of "tests" are you speaking of?...
Posted by Greentea
What kinds of "tests" are you speaking of?...
i have had a good friend, a cap, tell me she likes to test her friends and her lovers. Never told me the reason or how they do it, I just know they like to do it. Also, been in fights with a cap friend, and I'll pour my heart out, cry and beg for forgiveness, and the friend will be like "yeah I don't want nothin to do with you.. Bye"
And a few days/weeks later she'll call and say "ok so what's up?" Like nothing happened...
Do they like to see us beg and squirm?
They also don't like to admit they are mad when clearly, their actions are menacing and spiteful. I am so stuck and want to know if I should reach out, after my cap friend "dropped me" (but she always does this.. but this time I feel it's different cos she deleted me from social media)
Posted by dazedandcofused76Posted by Greentea
What kinds of "tests" are you speaking of?...
i have had a good friend, a cap, tell me she likes to test her friends and her lovers. Never told me the reason or how they do it, I just know they like to do it. Also, been in fights with a cap friend, and I'll pour my heart out, cry and beg for forgiveness, and the friend will be like "yeah I don't want nothin to do with you.. Bye"
And a few days/weeks later she'll call and say "ok so what's up?" Like nothing happened...
Do they like to see us beg and squirm?
They also don't like to admit they are mad when clearly, their actions are menacing and spiteful. I am so stuck and want to know if I should reach out, after my cap friend "dropped me" (but she always does this.. but this time I feel it's different cos she deleted me from social media)click to expand
Maybe they were deeply hurt over something...or they saw you as being manipulative or have a history of it. I don't see how Caps would test someone without those two factors being.
Posted by dazedandcofused76
Also the reason for the fight.. (I am too much of a responsibility and I'm a baby)
2 years of friendship down the drain for something I've BEEN working on...
I'm sorry you.lost a good friend that perhaps tried to help you? maybe you should reach out if you feel like some of it is your fault.
I won't know how to give you the best advice if I don't know what happened though.
Posted by dazedandcofused76Posted by GreenteaPosted by dazedandcofused76
Also the reason for the fight.. (I am too much of a responsibility and I'm a baby)
2 years of friendship down the drain for something I've BEEN working on...
I'm sorry you.lost a good friend that perhaps tried to help you? maybe you should reach out if you feel like some of it is your fault.
I won't know how to give you the best advice if I don't know what happened though.
She "says" I was way to unappreciative, when I'd pour my heart out to her and give her love, and stay loyal. She also said I was a baby, and I was way too much of a responsibility. When it clearly wasn't. It's just something in her Capricorn mind. Very selfish, she went out her way, but that's what good friends do! I went out my way for her too, and she clearly doesn't see. She's just being selfish. do I reach out to her?
She can bad talk me and I'd still stay, but a minor thing as not saying thankyou, and she'll flip her switch.
We love eachother, doesn't love conquer all fights? She was my best friend.click to expand
Yes if you feel it's salvagable. But don't guilt trip her over your feelings, she has them too. She's probably tried of hearing that, and doing things without a thank you, like its expected.. We're very big on mannerisms, and we also don't like being taken advantage of, bcuz we're so competant.
Not saying it's all your fault, takes 2 but if you want to reach out to her and find out what the real issue is, go for it. It's probably a bunch of dealbreakers that caused her to cut you off. We don't just cut off people that are loyal, loving and caring like that. Somethings up.
are you male or female? Curious
Posted by Greentea
are you male or female? Curious
Female
Posted by GreenteaPosted by dazedandcofused76Posted by GreenteaPosted by dazedandcofused76
Also the reason for the fight.. (I am too much of a responsibility and I'm a baby)
2 years of friendship down the drain for something I've BEEN working on...
I'm sorry you.lost a good friend that perhaps tried to help you? maybe you should reach out if you feel like some of it is your fault.
I won't know how to give you the best advice if I don't know what happened though.
She "says" I was way to unappreciative, when I'd pour my heart out to her and give her love, and stay loyal. She also said I was a baby, and I was way too much of a responsibility. When it clearly wasn't. It's just something in her Capricorn mind. Very selfish, she went out her way, but that's what good friends do! I went out my way for her too, and she clearly doesn't see. She's just being selfish. do I reach out to her?
She can bad talk me and I'd still stay, but a minor thing as not saying thankyou, and she'll flip her switch.
We love eachother, doesn't love conquer all fights? She was my best friend.
Yes if you feel it's salvagable. But don't guilt trip her over your feelings, she has them too. She's probably tried of hearing that, and doing things without a thank you, like its expected.. We're very big on mannerisms, and we also don't like being taken advantage of, bcuz we're so competant.
Not saying it's all your fault, takes 2 but if you want to reach out to her and find out what the real issue is, go for it. It's probably a bunch of dealbreakers that caused her to cut you off. We don't just cut off people that are loyal, loving and caring like that. Somethings up.click to expand
I believe all the good that has happened in our life has outweighed the bad. She had done a million things to upset me and want me to cut her off, but I never said anything. It's about not giving up and fighting for what you love. She's cold.
Well hopefully you two can work things out, when a friendship is lost bcuz of miscommunication, it's sad.
Good luck. Maybe some others will come in and give you advice also.
Good luck. Maybe some others will come in and give you advice also.
Posted by dazedandcofused76Posted by Greentea
What kinds of "tests" are you speaking of?...
i have had a good friend, a cap, tell me she likes to test her friends and her lovers. Never told me the reason or how they do it, I just know they like to do it. Also, been in fights with a cap friend, and I'll pour my heart out, cry and beg for forgiveness, and the friend will be like "yeah I don't want nothin to do with you.. Bye"
And a few days/weeks later she'll call and say "ok so what's up?" Like nothing happened...
Do they like to see us beg and squirm?
They also don't like to admit they are mad when clearly, their actions are menacing and spiteful. I am so stuck and want to know if I should reach out, after my cap friend "dropped me" (but she always does this.. but this time I feel it's different cos she deleted me from social media)click to expand
"fights" (pleural), "this time" (it's happened before) "always"
Sounds like this is repeat behavior and she's had enough....how many times does this have to repeat or how many chances do you get before she's allowed to walk away?
Then, on the flip side. The question to ask yourself is do you really need a friend like this?
Not trying to be mean, just an observation.
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Posted by dazedandcofused76Posted by Greentea
What kinds of "tests" are you speaking of?...
i have had a good friend, a cap, tell me she likes to test her friends and her lovers. Never told me the reason or how they do it, I just know they like to do it. Also, been in fights with a cap friend, and I'll pour my heart out, cry and beg for forgiveness, and the friend will be like "yeah I don't want nothin to do with you.. Bye"
And a few days/weeks later she'll call and say "ok so what's up?" Like nothing happened...
Do they like to see us beg and squirm?
They also don't like to admit they are mad when clearly, their actions are menacing and spiteful. I am so stuck and want to know if I should reach out, after my cap friend "dropped me" (but she always does this.. but this time I feel it's different cos she deleted me from social media)click to expand
Sometimes there are just people that suck. Unfortunately my Virgo "friend" with a Cap moon turned out this way. She's self admittedly very spiteful and negative. I work with her which has been a nightmare, but I sure learned a lot about how shitty and fake people can be. Cut her off and don't looks back! All bets are off in my book when it comes to this one now. Game on!
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Be the best you can be, be even more positive and loving. Don't let these types of people change you to be like them. Learn their moves and become wiser next time.
Posted by SunMoonStars
Be the best you can be, be even more positive and loving. Don't let these types of people change you to be like them. Learn their moves and become wiser next time.
Good advice.
So much of what you're saying speaks to me.
They do test a bunch, and test after the breakup too. AND are spiteful AND do not like to admit they are mad but can be downright hateful!
Experiencing this with my ex who broke up with me suddenly in a very nasty way. I haven't contacted him at all...and now I see his posts on FB and feel they are spiteful. Which is making me have a lot less respect for him TO BE HONEST. He's kind of embarrassing himself. I was gonna come his way, but I don't like people that are intentionally mean. Gonna see how I feel in a week but I'm not impressed with the Capricorn men at all. "Do as I say, not as I do." Remember they are about power and want to 'win'. Also very suspicious, so they may assume your intentions aren't good when they are because, maybe theirs aren't? idk
VERY IMPORTANT:
Capricorn is ruled by Saturn which is a dark dank ugly planet that nothing can grow on. It's very cold. Dismal. They are all about the darkness and HARD lessons of life. Thing about winter, when everything dies and is quiet.
If you think your friend is worth it be patient, but don't be afraid to assert yourself. If you'd not want her to treat you a certain way tell her. She may walk, but she wasn't a good friend then.
They do test a bunch, and test after the breakup too. AND are spiteful AND do not like to admit they are mad but can be downright hateful!
Experiencing this with my ex who broke up with me suddenly in a very nasty way. I haven't contacted him at all...and now I see his posts on FB and feel they are spiteful. Which is making me have a lot less respect for him TO BE HONEST. He's kind of embarrassing himself. I was gonna come his way, but I don't like people that are intentionally mean. Gonna see how I feel in a week but I'm not impressed with the Capricorn men at all. "Do as I say, not as I do." Remember they are about power and want to 'win'. Also very suspicious, so they may assume your intentions aren't good when they are because, maybe theirs aren't? idk
VERY IMPORTANT:
Capricorn is ruled by Saturn which is a dark dank ugly planet that nothing can grow on. It's very cold. Dismal. They are all about the darkness and HARD lessons of life. Thing about winter, when everything dies and is quiet.
If you think your friend is worth it be patient, but don't be afraid to assert yourself. If you'd not want her to treat you a certain way tell her. She may walk, but she wasn't a good friend then.
sorry for all the typos.
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