Why THIS Cap. Guy?

For all who have been struggling and agonizing over a Cap. guy for a while now, I am curious to hear why you think he has had a hold on you, captured you, whatever you want to call it? i.e. Why it has been so difficult just getting mad, fed up, and forgetting him. Is it just really the connection, the chemistry, or something else keeping you hanging on?

For me, I'd like to think it's the chemistry but I've read enough to really believe that it's the unavailability and him being just out of reach, and it never having been a full-blown relationship that failed, so always hoping or thinking it will come together one day. A promise or fantasy of what could be.

Nothing's really making me angry about him. I just wish that he wasn't so hung up on the fact that my brother is his best friend. I don't know the first step in making something happen. We both have myspace accounts and I could possibly send him a flirty message one day, but I really have no idea how to go about it. These guys are very slow moving and I've come to peace with that. I guess the one thing that would bother me is that someone said they are all about honour and respect and loyalty. Well he has a million girls, so it's hard to imagine him being all of these things.

i have a question:

my ex's bday is jan 21st...he is on the cusp of cap/aqua. i always thought he was a full on aqua, but now that i have read all these posts on cap men, he has a lot of those qualities. are cap men and aqua men similar? and does his bday suggest that he is on the cusp?

what are some typical traits of a cappy man— as far as i have read, they seem to be very similar to those of an aqua.

I guess I could dig a little deeper and give this Cap. guy some credit... He has tolerated and forgiven my going off on him half-cocked (yet always via email or text of course!) and telling him off that I'm done, and stupid things I've done to get a reaction or get back at him, involving other guys. Most men would have written me off completely long ago, for all of the dramatic endings I've created. But in my defense, he's done his share of idiotic things to me, via his actions, to get reactions and reassurance.

Theres just a mental connection bordering on pyschotic. Can't explain it, he thinks of what I will say before I say it, and I hate the way he knows me soooo well..we are totally on the same wavelength when it comes to wit and humour, I argue passionately with him and he loves it..laughs and calms me down..Then casually adds in, "I bet your a great fk when your mad..ooops did I say that out loud"..lol..makes me sooooooo angry I want to hit him..I love his child like ways..Sometimes I make him soooo angry he puts the phone down on me, then calls me about 5 minutes later when I don't call him back!..lol..So every emotion is kick started I guess..

Hey... LWCA, you've gotta answer the thread's question to post here! LOL 😛

You got me pegged! You should have no problem figuring him out! LOL Very happy, yes, now post on. (But if you don't want to, then that is OKAY with me!) hehe

SagAngel~ I can't keep 'em straight-- yours is the Cop-Cap? He is probably blaming himself for a failed marriage, and feeling that he screwed up or whatnot. That's what I've heard is a common mentality w/ Cap. men divorced. I've thought the same of mine- that he has to be able to commit, having been married. He married young at like age 22 and was married for 3 years, dated her for 2-3 it seems. He's had 3-4 years to get over it since the divorce was actually finalized; who knows how long they were separated prior thereto. He claimed when I met him that he wanted to be re-married by age 30; it was odd that he had a goal and was open about it; I could see it if perhaps he'd never been married. Well, so, he's only got about 6 months to accomplish his goal! LOL Maybe he's working on another and is closer to it w/ her. From the skittishness and stop-start stuff I see from him, he'd be lucky to make a commitment by age 35!

BitterTaurus~ What happened to end things w/ yours?

I found a great article on insecurity/fear causing gameplaying by men. I wish I could paste it in here but it's way too long. It is dead on for what's been talked about here and is likely going on w/ these Cap. guys. Email me at bebewrig@yahoo.com if you want me to forward you the article. (I can't get PMs on here.)

I've read so much here that sounds like my cap guy. Just like bittertaurus I never knew these were the qualities I wanted. I feel so secure around my cap guy...feel like he's a real man. In past relationships I always felt I was the one wearing the pants (being a lionness) and often lost respect for the males. But with the cap guy, I love just being in his presence. He's also got such child like way about him and it's amazing how he can allow himself to just enjoy life. When he is really feeling free he expresses himself with poetry and the most sensual words. Can you tell I'm smitten? I don't think it's an age thing, he's 47 and I'm 32. I just wish he didn't do all that poofing like caps do. I can sense he holds back his emotions but he also has told me alot of his secrets and even found it surprising that he had divulged so much. There is just something about these cap guys.

Done, LWCA.

TG~ I just think they're little shits and that's why we like them. I mean, if these guys were in the palm of our hand, smothering us, we'd be more apathetic- take him or leave him. For example, my bird I'm looking at buying... I like the little hellion that bit my finger off nearly and not the sweet shy timid one. Yea... why was I comparing birds to these Cap. men again?? I forget- I have birds on the brain! Birdbrain.

I have 2 dogs that are totally different... one is independent, reserved, and doles out his affection sparingly; he will literally refuse to give you a kiss and he knows what you're talking about! You have to ask and ask, and bug him and then he'll finally give one purposeful lick on your mouth. Guess what his sign is?? CAPRICORN. And the other one... is a happy-go-lucky, affectionate LICKER; he's a Virgo, doesn't add up necessarily but he's NOT a Cap. haha