Will my cap guy forgive me?
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by MarTaurus on Saturday, August 26, 2006 and has 3 replies.
I have been dating a cap guy for 8 months. The first few months was great we spent 3 to 4 evenings together, both really getting on great. The L words came from both of us after 3 months.
Then things went funny after 5 months we had a small tiff him being jealous and not being able to trust me. (I started working a pub) He disappeared for about 6 weeks, ignored my calls and texts. Gone. I was sooo hurt. Anyway eventually he responds, he hasn't been with anyone else like I had convinced myself he had just thought we need a break.
So it's back on but things have changed, we still get on fantastically well, chemistry is good etc but we see less of each other 2 times a week and if I am lucky 3 times. So its become very casual over the last few months. He started says he is afraid of commitment. He is not working and does not have much money.
The last month has been really hard we have seen very little of each other. But when we have been together it has been so good.
Anyway I bumped into my ex and we had a few drinks etc I slept with him. I told my cap guy straight away (the next day). The worst thing is it made me realise how much I am in love with my cap guy, how much we have got and it was such a BIG mistake, I did not enjoy it at all. I dont want to lose him. He appreciated my honesty, is angry with me and asked me to give him some space. The last few weeks we have only text a couple of times.
Please give me your views on what to do, so I dont lose my cap guy.
Thanks
Then things went funny after 5 months we had a small tiff him being jealous and not being able to trust me. (I started working a pub) He disappeared for about 6 weeks, ignored my calls and texts. Gone. I was sooo hurt. Anyway eventually he responds, he hasn't been with anyone else like I had convinced myself he had just thought we need a break.
So it's back on but things have changed, we still get on fantastically well, chemistry is good etc but we see less of each other 2 times a week and if I am lucky 3 times. So its become very casual over the last few months. He started says he is afraid of commitment. He is not working and does not have much money.
The last month has been really hard we have seen very little of each other. But when we have been together it has been so good.
Anyway I bumped into my ex and we had a few drinks etc I slept with him. I told my cap guy straight away (the next day). The worst thing is it made me realise how much I am in love with my cap guy, how much we have got and it was such a BIG mistake, I did not enjoy it at all. I dont want to lose him. He appreciated my honesty, is angry with me and asked me to give him some space. The last few weeks we have only text a couple of times.
Please give me your views on what to do, so I dont lose my cap guy.
Thanks
MarTaurus: I feel your distress. Be open about the men in your life - friends, colleagues, exes - those who are in life now. Keep him in the loop so he won't feel left out.
If you are going to meet another guy for drinks or whatever, tell him beforehand. With the Capricornian natural sense of caution, he would forewarn you about certain things, such as going out for drinks with an ex or any other guy. Caps see the danger signs a mile away, and to some degree, he would've foreseen this happening.
For now, call him frequently to let him know him where you are and who you are with. Tell him about your day at work at the pub; he will want to know about the guys who are hitting on you. With Caps, action over words. Act with integrity.
I tell my Cap about the men in my life. With his Venus in Scorpio, he is suspicious of another man's motives; mixed with the Capricorn paranoia, he questions me a lot.
We are all human; we make mistakes. Mistakes beget wisdom which empowers us to make better choices the next time
All the best
If you are going to meet another guy for drinks or whatever, tell him beforehand. With the Capricornian natural sense of caution, he would forewarn you about certain things, such as going out for drinks with an ex or any other guy. Caps see the danger signs a mile away, and to some degree, he would've foreseen this happening.
For now, call him frequently to let him know him where you are and who you are with. Tell him about your day at work at the pub; he will want to know about the guys who are hitting on you. With Caps, action over words. Act with integrity.
I tell my Cap about the men in my life. With his Venus in Scorpio, he is suspicious of another man's motives; mixed with the Capricorn paranoia, he questions me a lot.
We are all human; we make mistakes. Mistakes beget wisdom which empowers us to make better choices the next time
All the best
Anyway I bumped into my ex and we had a few drinks etc I slept with him. I told my cap guy straight away (the next day). The worst thing is it made me realise how much I am in love with my cap guy, how much we have got and it was such a BIG mistake, I did not enjoy it at all. I dont want to lose him. He appreciated my honesty, is angry with me and asked me to give him some space. The last few weeks we have only text a couple of times.
OOO NO ..... infedlity ... the word that complicates the lives of people. Well, I can only speak from the way I see it. If I were him, yes I would appreciate your honesty but that doesn't mean I would stick around either.
You are an amazing woman for actually being honest because some people are cowards and keep affairs secrets ... but you aren't and I salute you
However, for those who don't believe in going outside a relationship ... him coming beack to you may not be in the near future. This will really take a lot of time.
OOO NO ..... infedlity ... the word that complicates the lives of people. Well, I can only speak from the way I see it. If I were him, yes I would appreciate your honesty but that doesn't mean I would stick around either.
You are an amazing woman for actually being honest because some people are cowards and keep affairs secrets ... but you aren't and I salute you
However, for those who don't believe in going outside a relationship ... him coming beack to you may not be in the near future. This will really take a lot of time.
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