Work relationship situation btw Leo and Cap

I am a lurker, but have an issue now.


Soooooo this cap guy and I went out a few times and he says he wants a sex relationship. He commented on my appearence (He once commented saying why am I showing my legs and that he was not a fan of the fact I wore so much makeup one day ) and wants me to kiss him in public settings he is always grabbing me while we are out trying to hold me he is also always asking where I am. His buddy at work took a picture of me yesterday and sent it to him... once I asked the cap if it was really sent he said yup I said I what in the world? and the cap just said me and you. I didn't acknowledge the comment. At one point he said that I need to come off my pedestal. WTF?!

I am not sure what to do because I work with the freaking guy. Everyone always says he "tries to keep me to himself" I don't want a weird ignoring situation either. Help

I'd recommend a good facial cleanser to him so he can wash off the mask he is wearing.

And I'd probably staple my eyes wide open if I were you :-)

I didn't read anything in the post that would make me want to NOT keep my eyes wide open. I was being flippantly serious. Or seriously flippant.

Ways to deter a capricorn man...none. Sorry...if he wants you, he'll want you..so this is a battle of wills. And you have to stand firm.

If you LIKE the contact...and the issues is that he's turning you off with HOW he's contacting you..just come proper with it... there are women(me included) that don't know how to be firm with men, as in, if the contact is unwanted, they don't like to say "no" without sounding "mean" ..for that, I'm telling you like I had to learn it..you need to grow a pair...you're a lioness...you can do it. You're already capable. Tel him that you don't want him grabbing you like that...tell him he needs to slow it down. Tell him to back off. If he likes you, he'll change his tune..if not, then he doesn't respect you, and do yu want to get with a guy like that.

And you can do this without being mean...just do it soon before it escalates into 'being mean' and then he's wondering why is this woman tripping when it seems like she was joking the whole time.

ALL of my 'boy troubles' were from me trying to be 'nice about things' when I shouldn't. It opens you up to being walked on and disrespected..nip it in the bud now.

There really was no question. But, as I read it, she's not really interested in the guy and his advances. Or maybe she is and is being coy. Whatever! She comes across as not understanding his advances - which we all understand as simply wanting to get into her pants. She knows this too, I suspect but is playing dumb.

I had to LOL at "At one point he said that I need to come off my pedestal. WTF?!" So Leo like, not comprehending THAT type of statement. He interprets her behavior as acting as she is better than him (which I'm sure she does being a Leo and all). But, by the same token, we know what he wants and she's not giving in.

All in all, in true Leo form, she is eating up the attention. However, she is also leading him on by going out with him, interacting with him (probably flirtatiously), allowing his friend to take a pic and so on and so forth.

@Leochic: just give in or get out - i.e., have sex with him OR don't entertain him or yourself for that matter. But, I personally think that having sex with him will make the issues all go away almost instantaneously and you won't have to concern yourself with him anymore 🙂

No, actually, I was being facetious. I suggested she move on and not entertain him, which is clear to me she has been doing as I indicated in my write up. She has never indicated she has told him to stop. Thus my statement, give in or get out. But seeing as she is being entertained herself by the attention she is getting, she's not likely to get out so she might as well stop playing games and give in. *shrugs*

Always looks funny when someone deletes themselves and their posts just *poof* disappear...

LOL....I suppose I was asking how I could remedy the situation.

He took it too far the other night via text and I got upset, now he is upset (I assume). We have not spoken I tried to make peace via text earlier no reply. I text tonight and said I guess we don't talk anymore and it was cool while we did and I hope he has fun on his vacation (starts on the 29th). I assume we will play the ignore game at work and everyone will ask whats going on since he normally is in my face.

Yes, the attention was good 🙂, now it will suck that he is gonna ignore me. He has stopped speaking to me before, perhaps this time is for good who knows. He assumed I thought I was better than him he would always say I was "feeling myself" or "I needed to come down off my pedestal" type things.

I didn't think I was better than him just worth more than a "fuck".

LOL that the f bomb got changed to treetrunk

You know one day he was like your stomach looks big are you on your period? I said "um yea".... "He was like ok then your bloated..." errrr?

Once he said that "I will only tell you this once your a bad chic" I believe he thought/thinks I am attractive and tried to bring me down in some way so that I would sleep with him. If that is the case the dude is a bit much.

Totally random info perhaps I just needed to get my grievences out. I have never met a guy like this before. He seems like a womanizer, workaholic and it just rubs me the wrong way.

I am actually relieved that he doesn't speak to me, but a friend of mine said he will be speaking to me again in two weeks when he is not mad anymore. He is a manager so it is not good that he is not speaking to me, so maybe we will just have biz talk from now on? I am planning to say hello when I see him, just cause he is mad doesn't mean I have to be too. I used to think he was cute and now he just comes off as a d bag...just not cool at all.

some how my first and last comments got flipped.

Leochic, I read your last post and thought to myself - in no particular order - that he has more to fear from you than you do, what with him being in a management position and all, at your workplace. He has approached you for a sex only relationship - his first mistake. I would turn that right around real fast by not speaking to him or acknowledging him in any way and getting in first with a complaint about his work ethics to whoever necessary - before he gets the chance to turn it all around on you by forcing you to quit or spreading rumours that you are coming onto him! It's what these types excel at. Take control, get in first. It's totally inappropriate for him to mention your bloated stomach or ask you if you have your period. You are not in a relationship with him. Who cares how he thinks and who needs to understand abusive behaviour, once it's recognized. Don't buy into it, assert yourself and stop feeding him.