I’m just venting....

It’s been two years since I’ve been trying to tell someone I have a crush on them but I can’t seem to do it. I think too much about it and then I just become distant , aloof...and I might seem uninterested.

I think he has noticed it this week and has text me but I have ignore the texts until recently that I replied.

My insecurities tend to come out and I think to much: “maybe he has other women he’s talking to” or “he probably finds me amusing and it’s not interested”.

So I tend to think that perhaps friendship is better than telling him that he melts my panties with his Scorpio stare.

Is this part of Venus in Aquarius?

Does it happen to you (anyone with this placement) often ?

Probably best you haven't said ish. Crushes can be deceiving, 90% of it is built up in our heads. Get closer to him as a friend and you'll find a zillion and one turn offs.

Posted by dilettante

wow im going thru the exact same thing.

i thought i was severe scorpio issues or maybe moon sq venus probs but maybe it’s all my aquarius



there havent been red flags but my brain is creating them so i start to freak out.

the ebb & flow of having a crush makes me feel utterly psychotic.

just breathe & maybe give him a gentle nudge in the right direction?

I really think it’s the Aquarius that makes us think too much about every possible situation that can occur if we say anything to the person.

It’s crazy! 😆

I might give him some hints...we shall see.

whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

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Probably best you haven't said ish. Crushes can be deceiving, 90% of it is built up in our heads. Get closer to him as a friend and you'll find a zillion and one turn offs.

True. I tend to over analyze things. I do enjoy his company and I love talk to him.

But then there’s the other side that i think about him in a romantic way.

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

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I would suggest just coming off "warmer"

Throw some subtle hints out and see how he takes it and gauge it from there.

You would be surprised sometimes the other person has the same fears.

Even if it is not reciprocated, do you want to look back and regret not trying?

Life is short 🙂

Let us know how it progresses.

BTW what is his and your sign?

Will do 🙂

He’s a Scorpio and I am an Aries 😬

That’s another thing that is keeping me from moving forward. I hear a lot about this combo and I don’t want to jinx it and ruin a friendship...but you only live once, right?

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

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Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Posted by Mesquite

I used to be that way. Then I stop giving a shit and make a move.

You never know until you try!

Thank you ☺️

I have to think hard and see what I can do to show him I like him - more than a friend.

I need to let go of my self control. It’s torture.

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

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Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

do it! you don't have to confess your undying love or that you've been crushing on him for years now.

just do a bit of flirting. drop a double entendre and take it from there. if it all goes badly, you can play it off as a joke.

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

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Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

Oh and btw...for the crushes from when I wasn't really into dating. Years later I'd run into them and by that time there were no feelings so it was easier to say "OMG I used to have a crush on you"...and most of the time they'd be like, "Me too!"

Then you look at each other sheepishly about why you've never made it known.

So don't be scared..... get out there xo

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I used to be that way. Then I stop giving a shit and make a move.

You never know until you try!

Thank you ☺️

I have to think hard and see what I can do to show him I like him - more than a friend.

I need to let go of my self control. It’s torture.

What's your sun sign again?

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Aries

I am well aware Scorpios and Aries can clash at times 😔 so that’s another thing I think about. Strong connection/ different approach

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

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Maybe I should do that! I’ll ask more personal questions.

He (my Scorpio guy) said something like “okay, let’s continue with our love story “.

I froze and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about. Maybe that was a big hint he gave me and stupid me, didn’t react correctly. I acted nonchalantly and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I amaze myself 😩

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Can’t relate. Venus in Aries comes on too strong usually 😑

Maybe that’s a good thing

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just lock yourselves in the closet* and see what happens

I think that would be a good idea. 😏

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I used to be that way. Then I stop giving a shit and make a move.

You never know until you try!

Thank you ☺️

I have to think hard and see what I can do to show him I like him - more than a friend.

I need to let go of my self control. It’s torture.

What's your sun sign again?

Aries

I am well aware Scorpios and Aries can clash at times 😔 so that’s another thing I think about. Strong connection/ different approach

I am not fond of the overall energy. Too much arguments.

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Yes, I hear about that..the arguments. I enjoy his friendship and I don’t want to ruin it. this is why I tend to act aloof and distant. He’s given me hints but I am too scared to make a move. I don’t want to ruin what we have. But it’s tempting...

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Oh and btw...for the crushes from when I wasn't really into dating. Years later I'd run into them and by that time there were no feelings so it was easier to say "OMG I used to have a crush on you"...and most of the time they'd be like, "Me too!"

Then you look at each other sheepishly about why you've never made it known.

So don't be scared..... get out there xo

Oh that’s sweet! Definitely much easier when there are no feelings involved. 😄

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I used to be that way. Then I stop giving a shit and make a move.

You never know until you try!

Thank you ☺️

I have to think hard and see what I can do to show him I like him - more than a friend.

I need to let go of my self control. It’s torture.

What's your sun sign again?

Aries

I am well aware Scorpios and Aries can clash at times 😔 so that’s another thing I think about. Strong connection/ different approach

I am not fond of the overall energy. Too much arguments.

Yes, I hear about that..the arguments. I enjoy his friendship and I don’t want to ruin it. this is why I tend to act aloof and distant. He’s given me hints but I am too scared to make a move. I don’t want to ruin what we have. But it’s tempting...

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i think the best relationships come from friendships

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

Maybe I should do that! I’ll ask more personal questions.

He (my Scorpio guy) said something like “okay, let’s continue with our love story “.

I froze and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about. Maybe that was a big hint he gave me and stupid me, didn’t react correctly. I acted nonchalantly and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I amaze myself 😩

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LOL seems like you're afraid of intimacy....and i can relate to that! I freeze up in those times sometimes too. That's definitely a HUGE flirtation that he's thinking about you romantically. He called it a LOVE story lol..i don't know how obvious it can get than that.

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

Maybe I should do that! I’ll ask more personal questions.

He (my Scorpio guy) said something like “okay, let’s continue with our love story “.

I froze and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about. Maybe that was a big hint he gave me and stupid me, didn’t react correctly. I acted nonchalantly and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I amaze myself 😩

LOL seems like you're afraid of intimacy....and i can relate to that! I freeze up in those times sometimes too. That's definitely a HUGE flirtation that he's thinking about you romantically. He called it a LOVE story lol..i don't know how obvious it can get than that.

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Haha yes i think it’s obvious. I am afraid of ruining what we have. It’s so hard to make a move. I need to work on that and have more confidence in me.

He’s given me lots of hints but I over analyze things wayyyyyy tooo much and I don’t do anything about it. I just freeze or hide under a rock. 😆

Posted by dilettante

yo OP hit us w/ scorpio’s other placements, if you feel moved to.

that “... continue our love story” comment made my jaw drop. he might rly like you back but jus bein scorp city about it.

So if he said that then I guess he is serious. Then that gives me more confidence to make a move. 🥳 Thank you.

I don’t know the time of birth but this is his chart using his birthdate only.



Sun Scorpio 3°03'

Moon Gemini 26°30'

Mercury Scorpio 24°22'

Venus Virgo 24°35'

Mars Libra 16°29'

Jupiter Capricorn 4°00'

Saturn Gemini 20°05' R

Uranus Libra 19°36'

Neptune Sagittarius 3°50'

Pluto Libra 3°04'

Lilith Scorpio 27°20'

N Node Capricorn 20°04'

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

Maybe I should do that! I’ll ask more personal questions.

He (my Scorpio guy) said something like “okay, let’s continue with our love story “.

I froze and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about. Maybe that was a big hint he gave me and stupid me, didn’t react correctly. I acted nonchalantly and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I amaze myself 😩

LOL seems like you're afraid of intimacy....and i can relate to that! I freeze up in those times sometimes too. That's definitely a HUGE flirtation that he's thinking about you romantically. He called it a LOVE story lol..i don't know how obvious it can get than that.

Haha yes i think it’s obvious. I am afraid of ruining what we have. It’s so hard to make a move. I need to work on that and have more confidence in me.

He’s given me lots of hints but I over analyze things wayyyyyy tooo much and I don’t do anything about it. I just freeze or hide under a rock. 😆

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i was like this when i was younger. i think it is just about confidence and getting older. things get easier with age.

it may just be that you have to wait until to the scales tip. at the moment, you are more comfortable this way. maybe it's just a case of getting to the point where this state is no longer where you find comfort.

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Y'all need to be bolder. Stop waiting, life is too short ! Go for it!

You are right. I might regret it later if I don’t.

I’ll see him tomorrow...and will update everyone with how it turned out. I am hoping I don’t freeze or say the wrong thing. 😬

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

Maybe I should do that! I’ll ask more personal questions.

He (my Scorpio guy) said something like “okay, let’s continue with our love story “.

I froze and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about. Maybe that was a big hint he gave me and stupid me, didn’t react correctly. I acted nonchalantly and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I amaze myself 😩

LOL seems like you're afraid of intimacy....and i can relate to that! I freeze up in those times sometimes too. That's definitely a HUGE flirtation that he's thinking about you romantically. He called it a LOVE story lol..i don't know how obvious it can get than that.

Haha yes i think it’s obvious. I am afraid of ruining what we have. It’s so hard to make a move. I need to work on that and have more confidence in me.

He’s given me lots of hints but I over analyze things wayyyyyy tooo much and I don’t do anything about it. I just freeze or hide under a rock. 😆

i was like this when i was younger. i think it is just about confidence and getting older. things get easier with age.

it may just be that you have to wait until to the scales tip. at the moment, you are more comfortable this way. maybe it's just a case of getting to the point where this state is no longer where you find comfort.

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I think it has come to that point of one of us saying something about the pink elephant in the room. He’s given me hints but I don’t do anything to show I like him as well...I think I’ll say something to him. I am hoping things will go well. It’s so nerve wrecking.

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

Maybe I should do that! I’ll ask more personal questions.

He (my Scorpio guy) said something like “okay, let’s continue with our love story “.

I froze and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about. Maybe that was a big hint he gave me and stupid me, didn’t react correctly. I acted nonchalantly and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I amaze myself 😩

LOL seems like you're afraid of intimacy....and i can relate to that! I freeze up in those times sometimes too. That's definitely a HUGE flirtation that he's thinking about you romantically. He called it a LOVE story lol..i don't know how obvious it can get than that.

Haha yes i think it’s obvious. I am afraid of ruining what we have. It’s so hard to make a move. I need to work on that and have more confidence in me.

He’s given me lots of hints but I over analyze things wayyyyyy tooo much and I don’t do anything about it. I just freeze or hide under a rock. 😆

i was like this when i was younger. i think it is just about confidence and getting older. things get easier with age.

it may just be that you have to wait until to the scales tip. at the moment, you are more comfortable this way. maybe it's just a case of getting to the point where this state is no longer where you find comfort.

I think it has come to that point of one of us saying something about the pink elephant in the room. He’s given me hints but I don’t do anything to show I like him as well...I think I’ll say something to him. I am hoping things will go well. It’s so nerve wrecking.

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good luck. try not to be nervous. you guys are friends. he already likes you and sees wonderful qualities in you.

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whoa then maybe you need to work on your own confidence and why you are so insecure...we cannot fully love others until we love ourselves.

Everyone has insecurities. No one is perfect.

Yeah you're right. I didnt mean it as a judgement... just an observation. And we all do have insecurities and we all do need to work on them as well.

Romantic relationships are perfect mirrors for our insecurities and for us to work on them.

Yes, it is a mirror for our insecurities... I think rejection is the major cause of insecurities when it comes to relationships.

Btw, no worries 😉🙂

Thanks 🙂. I also have aquarius venus...and I do tend to let men take the lead but I stay friendly to show interest.. and then eventually they ask me out.

Now if I had a crush and they didn't ask me out.... i'd probably bring up some romantic topics to see where their interest is. Something liek sooo hows the love life these days...or so are you seeing anyone? lol I don't know some type of question to show that I'm interested in their romantic life...and see where that convo takes us.

Maybe I should do that! I’ll ask more personal questions.

He (my Scorpio guy) said something like “okay, let’s continue with our love story “.

I froze and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about. Maybe that was a big hint he gave me and stupid me, didn’t react correctly. I acted nonchalantly and pretended I didn’t know what he was talking about 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I amaze myself 😩

LOL seems like you're afraid of intimacy....and i can relate to that! I freeze up in those times sometimes too. That's definitely a HUGE flirtation that he's thinking about you romantically. He called it a LOVE story lol..i don't know how obvious it can get than that.

Haha yes i think it’s obvious. I am afraid of ruining what we have. It’s so hard to make a move. I need to work on that and have more confidence in me.

He’s given me lots of hints but I over analyze things wayyyyyy tooo much and I don’t do anything about it. I just freeze or hide under a rock. 😆

i was like this when i was younger. i think it is just about confidence and getting older. things get easier with age.

it may just be that you have to wait until to the scales tip. at the moment, you are more comfortable this way. maybe it's just a case of getting to the point where this state is no longer where you find comfort.

I think it has come to that point of one of us saying something about the pink elephant in the room. He’s given me hints but I don’t do anything to show I like him as well...I think I’ll say something to him. I am hoping things will go well. It’s so nerve wrecking.

good luck. try not to be nervous. you guys are friends. he already likes you and sees wonderful qualities in you.

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You are sweet- thank you so much 😊

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yo OP hit us w/ scorpio’s other placements, if you feel moved to.

that “... continue our love story” comment made my jaw drop. he might rly like you back but jus bein scorp city about it.

So if he said that then I guess he is serious. Then that gives me more confidence to make a move. 🥳 Thank you.

I don’t know the time of birth but this is his chart using his birthdate only.



Sun Scorpio 3°03'

Moon Gemini 26°30'

Mercury Scorpio 24°22'

Venus Virgo 24°35'

Mars Libra 16°29'

Jupiter Capricorn 4°00'

Saturn Gemini 20°05' R

Uranus Libra 19°36'

Neptune Sagittarius 3°50'

Pluto Libra 3°04'

Lilith Scorpio 27°20'

N Node Capricorn 20°04'

omg look at his cute lil chart!

i have scorp sun, air moon, earth venus, air mars, toooo.

i’d say he likes you & that comment was a libra mars ass way to say “hi i like youuuuu”. he’s kinda admitting he’s courting you, almost. i gotta libra moon. i have def said something similar to my crushes before.

air moon & mars wants chit chat. like the other user said, be warmer, friendlier, flirt a little! dare i even suggest a touch on the arm?!!?

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Thank you for giving me hope and a little push. ☺️ I am going to see him tomorrow and I think I have to do something to show him I like him too.

I hope I don’t freeze 😬

Bring him some cookies.