Should I Give these Men a Chance in Dating or Not?

Ok So we are all in out 30s

Guy number 1 is a pilot and he texts me a lot, started talking about being exclusive and a serious committed relationship even before we met, but his bad side is he uses language that is rude. An example would be when I once tried suggested slowing things down a bit he said 'there are so many women I could fuck but I dont see you that way , if you see me that way this wont work' etc. So I dont doubt his interest ever but he is a bit too much.

Guy number 2 is someone I dated for 2 months a year ago. We got along well, we talked about being in a serious relationship but although he was the first one to bring it up, later on he didnt show much enthusiasm, like he could go on a week without texting but we still met almost weekly. I broke it off because I couldnt feel his passion but this last year he kept calling and suggested we try getting more serious and promised he would spend more time with me a couple of times. He texted again yesterday.

My question is which one would you choose? By the way sex is good with both lol. Is dating a pilot too crazy? Should I choose the more boring guy with the steady job ?

Btw guy 1 the pilot is A Libra sun, pisces moon, Virgo venus, Aries mars

Guy 2 is a Pisces, I dont have his exact birth time

And Im a scorpio sun, aries moon, libra venus, virgo mars

Confused that guy 2 is too boring and yet guy 1 is too crude and too much, just based on what you wrote, it doesn't look like that big of a deal. I don’t understand his response to you wanting to take it slower, it reads like he agrees to take it slower? Additionally, men and women both can fuck whoever they want, he’s not edgy or unique in his thought process or his ability, it’s just a fact of life. However it can be a huge red flag if he proceeds to refuse to take things slower when you requested it, if you are suggesting that was the case. You already slept with him though - so take it slower in terms of what ? Future planning?

It seems like you are looking for a perfect medium here, in which case, it doesn’t look like it exists among these two men on both ends of the spectrum.

Pilots don't settle down. Just enjoy the visiting D and keep him casual.

If job and money matters more to you, then you have your answer.

If compatibility and actually love matter, then you have your answer.

Only you can't truly decide what's best for long term.

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Pilots don't settle down. Just enjoy the visiting D and keep him casual.

I've decided I don't like you. You don't know shit, yet pretend like you do. I feel like we will have a fun time here, untill you inevitably disappear and never post again.

Posted by Soul

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Pilots don't settle down. Just enjoy the visiting D and keep him casual.

I've decided I don't like you. You don't know shit, yet pretend like you do. I feel like we will have a fun time here, untill you inevitably disappear and never post again.

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A friend of mine dated a pilot, I saw it all happen. She would show me the texts, his explanations and what they would do.

Pilots collect people at different locations. They don't settle down.

I decided I don't care what you think.

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Posted by Soul

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Pilots don't settle down. Just enjoy the visiting D and keep him casual.

I've decided I don't like you. You don't know shit, yet pretend like you do. I feel like we will have a fun time here, untill you inevitably disappear and never post again.
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A friend of mine dated a pilot, I saw it all happen. She would show me the texts, his explanations and what they would do.

Pilots collect people at different locations. They don't settle down.

I decided I don't care what you think.

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That's fine. You are comparing my thoughts to thousands individual piolets. Which is why you are truly ignorant. Basing 1 persons personality and applying it to everyone else similar is pretty fucked up.

I’d be wary of pilots. They like to fuck women from all over. I learned the hard way and experienced this first hand. If you’re ok with just having fun and not wanting to settle down then a pilot is the way to go.

Why not date both of them? I am learning more and more that it’s never a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket.

Otherwise, you can lose a lot of time while you wait for the perfect one. And in reality, we have couple of them. Just enjoy yourself and let the connection develop organically.

“started talking about being exclusive and a serious committed relationship even before we met”🫨

Befit you met? Weird

“later on he didnt show much enthusiasm, like he could go on a week without texting”😕

Neither ~ try an option 3

*before

Let me join the ranks of those who try to put you off because they've heard about a naughty pilot 😄

https://news.sky.com/story/greek-pilot-who-claimed-his-british-wife-was-killed-by-intruders-convicted-of-her-murder-12614632

That's nothing wrong with the Pisces guy, btw. Pisces aren't chasers, or serial messengers.

If you didn't like his style the first time around, what makes you think you've have changed?

Plenty of women who wouldn't find them boring, quite the opposite, so don't waste his time and yours.

Posted by AquaClassy
Non seems reliable enough to me. I'm not a fan of aries mars ( and I'm aries moon) and I'm not fan of Pisces, especially since my Scorpio sister was wirh Pisces guy for 12 years and he was toxic to her.

I felt this way too with Pisces guys in the past. It's like they say one thing but act a bit different next day but then will argue that they are the same.. like they are passive aggressive and bad communicators. They are really like slippery fish, I feel like I can't see who they really are. It pisses my Scorpio detective self off lol

Posted by xyzabc
I’d be wary of pilots. They like to fuck women from all over. I learned the hard way and experienced this first hand. If you’re ok with just having fun and not wanting to settle down then a pilot is the way to go.

Oh no you experienced this first hand 😢 Well he seems like he really wants a steady girlfriend to be always there for him but noone can guarantee that he won't have affairs. He does seem like he is feeling lonely and is jealous of his other pilot friends who go home to their wives or girlfriends or travels with them. I can tell because he is texting so much from everywhere , like every hour that I had to slow him down lol. Do I trust him yet? Of course not I'm a Scorpio I don't trust noone lol

Posted by Undine
Let me join the ranks of those who try to put you off because they've heard about a naughty pilot

https://news.sky.com/story/greek-pilot-who-claimed-his-british-wife-was-killed-by-intruders-convicted-of-her-murder-12614632

Oh no! Murderer pilots who kill their wives.. ok you convinced me lol

Posted by Undine
That's nothing wrong with the Pisces guy, btw. Pisces aren't chasers, or serial messengers.

If you didn't like his style the first time around, what makes you think you've have changed?

Plenty of women who wouldn't find them boring, quite the opposite, so don't waste his time and yours.

I kind of did turn his offer down. I hated the fact that he wasn't able to show his interest properly. It made me think that it wasn't enough of an interest to begin with.

Posted by borednbeautiful
Why not date both of them? I am learning more and more that it’s never a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket.

Otherwise, you can lose a lot of time while you wait for the perfect one. And in reality, we have couple of them. Just enjoy yourself and let the connection develop organically.

I'm learning this too 🙂 There is always a feeling of 'oh but am I being too picky or disrespectful if I don't give this one guy more chances ' but why should we limit ourselves anyway? When it feels right it will be obvious.

Posted by nanochip
Confused that guy 2 is too boring and yet guy 1 is too crude and too much, just based on what you wrote, it doesn't look like that big of a deal. I don’t understand his response to you wanting to take it slower, it reads like he agrees to take it slower? Additionally, men and women both can fuck whoever they want, he’s not edgy or unique in his thought process or his ability, it’s just a fact of life. However it can be a huge red flag if he proceeds to refuse to take things slower when you requested it, if you are suggesting that was the case. You already slept with him though - so take it slower in terms of what ? Future planning?

It seems like you are looking for a perfect medium here, in which case, it doesn’t look like it exists among these two men on both ends of the spectrum.

No thankfully he was ok with slowing things down as in getting to spend more time before calling each other bf/gf or making holiday plans but you have a good point. In the past I've had a relationship where we would text each other all the time , it was love at first sight and it wasn't a problem for me. So why is it a problem for me now? Maybe it's because I was able to spend a few weeks with that ex at the beginning of the relationship so I observed him and was able to trust him in a shorter period of time.

How long do you usually take to trust people before you become more official and dedicate more time to them? Does it change from person to person?