Are we done for good? Gemini Man/Taurus Woman

This topic was created in the Gemini Men forum by TxOgal on Thursday, May 28, 2020 and has 43 replies.
I've been friends with this Gemini guy for about a year now, mid-year I cut ties with him cause I felt things were getting intimate and I wasn't sure of his intentions. He's been trying to talk to me, but I was avoiding him until about 2 months later, he reached out somehow and we reconciled. Since then things got more intimate (more friends than anything) but we both developed feelings for each other. His intentions are clear that he wants to get serious (but deep down I had doubts about it due to difference in our status).

Lately I've been feeling neglected by him, for the past month we rarely talk, due to different schedules, but when we talk he's very loving and caring. He claims that it's because I'm always busy and he doesn't want to bother me (which really annoyed me) I explained this to him a couple of time, that he could always talk to me anytime and I'm not that busy as he thinks. But, still his ways didn't change.

I got so mad at him and told him he doesn't have feelings or a heart to treat me this way, since I made it clear that he doesn't seem to care or even want to talk to me anymore. And that day I slipped and responded to a guy who's flirting with me and we kind of had fun over a phone call. The next day, the Gemini apologized to me, but stupid me I also apologized and told him about that guy I talked to :/

Now things got bad, at first I apologized alot and he was trying to avoid me then, I told him that I just told him about that guy cause I wanted to annoy him back as he annoyed me all that time being careless about me (that was my friend's suggestion cause they said it was a huge mistake that I told the truth when we are not even that committed yet). Now, the Gemini said let's be friends nothing more than that. I told him I have many girl friends already I don't need a guy friend. He just said ok.

Obviously I love him so much, but I screwed things up and I am dying inside for him to talk to me again, but he seems so distant and avoiding me now Sad I don't know what to do to get him back. I cannot send him anymore messages. He already doesn't believe that I was only saying that to annoy him. What do you think this Gemini man will do? Is it really over now? Sad please your opinion

Him:

Sun is in 24 Degrees Gemini

Moon is in 27 Degrees Pisces

Mercury is in 07 Degrees Gemini

Venus is in 19 Degrees Taurus

Mars is in 11 Degrees Aries

Me:

Sun is in 18 Degrees Taurus

Moon is in 13 Degrees Scorpio

Mercury is in 10 Degrees Taurus

Venus is in 05 Degrees Aries

Mars is in 13 Degrees Pisces

Sorry that was long ...
Posted by thatlibralife

Geez did you really have to mention the other guy? Not like you went on a a date or anything....I think that messed it up...
yes I messed up. I was feeling so guilty I couldn't stand it .. Sad That was very stupid
Nah you're not done.

Over a guy you talked on the phone.. Meh. Give him some time.

Good for you for making it clear : you're not looking for friendship. The number of people who settle for that and have their hearts broken is no joke.

Just let him be you probably told him everything he needs to know.
Posted by Fanta

How do you slip and text someone? Are you sure you didn't do it and then tell him about it to make him jealous?
I was feeling so down cause of him being so careless about me, It seems that I took the attention I got.. that's how I slipped. I did not stop his flirting, I just went along with it Sad now I regret it ..
Posted by thatlibralife

What’s the difference in status you mentioned? Do you feel like you’re not on his level somehow?
I feel that we are not on the same level.. he's from a different background, different financially also.. but I do love him so much I didn't even think of it from that start, but I think he noticed how we're different cause deep down I feel he wasn't serious about me. Even when he reassured me he is.
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How do you slip and text someone? Are you sure you didn't do it and then tell him about it to make him jealous?


I was feeling so down cause of him being so careless about me, It seems that I took the attention I got.. that's how I slipped. I did not stop his flirting, I just went along with it Sad now I regret it ..


Did you tell him that? Can you see how he might have viewed that as vindictive or manipulative? Whether it was intentional or not, it's clear it wasn't an effective ploy to get him to stop the behavior you didn't like.
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Yes I told him the truth silly me Sad that I talked to someone.... I changed my words later in a message saying it didnt happen and I was getting back at him to make him feel what I felt, neglecting me like that and favoring time with his friends over me (which is true but he denies and lies about it)
@Generous_Libra that is the total opposite to what I was gona text him, I already sent him long sincere apologies which his response to was silence. Now I will give him a day, if he didnt talk to me, I will send him a message saying how he didn't even bother to call me say these words, and how he's been playin and wasn't serious from the start. How I opened my heart to him and got him into my life, which is all my fault.

He really gets on my nerves with his carelessness. I know that he is now just spending time with his friends having fun, and I've been waiting on him to even respond to me. How I expressed myself before that he neglected me and he still continues to do it. It seems like he's playin to me
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How do you slip and text someone? Are you sure you didn't do it and then tell him about it to make him jealous?


I was feeling so down cause of him being so careless about me, It seems that I took the attention I got.. that's how I slipped. I did not stop his flirting, I just went along with it Sad now I regret it ..


Did you tell him that? Can you see how he might have viewed that as vindictive or manipulative? Whether it was intentional or not, it's clear it wasn't an effective ploy to get him to stop the behavior you didn't like.


Yes I told him the truth silly me Sad that I talked to someone.... I changed my words later in a message saying it didnt happen and I was getting back at him to make him feel what I felt, neglecting me like that and favoring time with his friends over me (which is true but he denies and lies about it)


"Changed" your words? He's likely smarter than you think and is probably hurt that you'd attempt to play games and lie to him.
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I know he doesn't buy it. But he lied to me before too. And I am really so mad over it. I'm not stupid either... seems like I want out.. sucks that I loved him
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@Generous_Libra that is the total opposite to what I was gona text him, I already sent him long sincere apologies which his response to was silence. Now I will give him a day, if he didnt talk to me, I will send him a message saying how he didn't even bother to call me say these words, and how he's been playin and wasn't serious from the start. How I opened my heart to him and got him into my life, which is all my fault.

He really gets on my nerves with his carelessness. I know that he is now just spending time with his friends having fun, and I've been waiting on him to even respond to me. How I expressed myself before that he neglected me and he still continues to do it. It seems like he's playin to me


I read your post again, and I don't see the part where he did you wrong, he did not give you much attention, that's how Geminis are wired, don't expect them to be up your face all the time, he offered friendship and now he's an Ahole? trust me if he was done with you he wouldn't even talk to you again, and you go and talk to another guy after an argument in a blink of an eye, I'm sorry but it doesn't make any sense but it's your call honey I'm just trying to help here.

Good luck
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I know it is my fault. I meant he seems so cold cause I have told him before a couple of times how hes being distant and he actually blamed me for being distant which isnt true. He seems to not care about my needs. I am not a cheater that is why I felt immense guilt and told him rightaway but in return he chose to avoid me and not even talk at all. And its not that I slept with someone!! I dont have any feelings for anyone else but him. I just wanted his attention and he neglected my needs that I expressed several times before. I am just mad at his coldness.
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How do you slip and text someone? Are you sure you didn't do it and then tell him about it to make him jealous?


I was feeling so down cause of him being so careless about me, It seems that I took the attention I got.. that's how I slipped. I did not stop his flirting, I just went along with it Sad now I regret it ..


Did you tell him that? Can you see how he might have viewed that as vindictive or manipulative? Whether it was intentional or not, it's clear it wasn't an effective ploy to get him to stop the behavior you didn't like.


Yes I told him the truth silly me Sad that I talked to someone.... I changed my words later in a message saying it didnt happen and I was getting back at him to make him feel what I felt, neglecting me like that and favoring time with his friends over me (which is true but he denies and lies about it)


"Changed" your words? He's likely smarter than you think and is probably hurt that you'd attempt to play games and lie to him.


I know he doesn't buy it. But he lied to me before too. And I am really so mad over it. I'm not stupid either... seems like I want out.. sucks that I loved him


Do you do to him what you just did to us...show an innocent sweet side, and then when challenged, say something mean that belies what you really feel?
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maybe.. Sad I am just acting crazy these days my emotions are all over the place. I'm sorry.

Our relationship was so good until things went wrong, until I expressed my needs and feelings and he heard and seemed to listen but did nothing. I was feeling hurt and now it seems I am a wreck.. I am really holding myself back from texting him rightnow
I know I wont go to bed tonight until I ruin things again and regret it
You wanted to annoy him. Congrats you did.

You also told him you didn’t want him as a friend either. He’s just following your lead.

At this point any further texts looks bad and will turn him off even more. Try to chill and give him space. If he reaches out, he reaches out.
Posted by LadyNeptune

You wanted to annoy him. Congrats you did.

You also told him you didn’t want him as a friend either. He’s just following your lead.

At this point any further texts looks bad and will turn him off even more. Try to chill and give him space. If he reaches out, he reaches out.
But I meant i didnt want him as a "friend" Sad
I think Im going to send him.. as he wishes but I expected that he'd call not just send me a message if this relationship meant anything at all to him.
already sent it... Sad
Sometimes when you tell guys the truth, they don’t even care. But usually it’s when they ask.

Are you guys not in contact at all? Like even texting?

There really isn’t an excuse about having different schedules if the conversation picks up where he left off.

It just depends on your communication compatibility.

What’s up with the new guy? If things were so great, why don’t you pursues that instead. You don’t have to stick things through if there is a stall in communication or your needs aren’t being met. Just move on for now. If the Gemini is interested he will swing back around. They never really go anywhere when they like you.
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You wanted to annoy him. Congrats you did.

You also told him you didn’t want him as a friend either. He’s just following your lead.

At this point any further texts looks bad and will turn him off even more. Try to chill and give him space. If he reaches out, he reaches out.


But I meant i didnt want him as a "friend" Sad
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And he doesn’t want a relationship that’s why he said ‘let’s be friends’. But if you don’t want him as a friend there’s no room for him in your life and no reason for you to expect continued communication.
I talked to him, but I couldn't accept being just friends.. I asked him to give me a second chance and how I'm being an emotional wreck these days. There was alot of crying involved .. I have no idea how he could stand me. He calmed me down and I went to sleep. But I am not sure what he's thinking now.. thankfully he's still in my life. Friends or still together... still figuring Sad
Posted by Gobby

The thread just further confirms my thoughts on Taurus women in romantic relationships...
I know what you're thinking... this is so not me though I've always been a loyal person. Maybe my Aries venus plays a part in this, being impulsive or even repulsive Sad
Posted by TxOgal

I talked to him, but I couldn't accept being just friends.. I asked him to give me a second chance and how I'm being an emotional wreck these days. There was alot of crying involved .. I have no idea how he could stand me. He calmed me down and I went to sleep. But I am not sure what he's thinking now.. thankfully he's still in my life. Friends or still together... still figuring Sad
Honestly...you sound very clingy. Let the man be.

Instead of flip flopping all over the place, taking one position and then another... Just chill...my god.

You're acting like you're desperate for his attention but why?
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I talked to him, but I couldn't accept being just friends.. I asked him to give me a second chance and how I'm being an emotional wreck these days. There was alot of crying involved .. I have no idea how he could stand me. He calmed me down and I went to sleep. But I am not sure what he's thinking now.. thankfully he's still in my life. Friends or still together... still figuring Sad


Honestly...you sound very clingy. Let the man be.

Instead of flip flopping all over the place, taking one position and then another... Just chill...my god.

You're acting like you're desperate for his attention but why?
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I wasnt like that at all with him before. I love him and I am losing him and I am the one who messed up and hurt him.. I'm just following my heart there. I dont mean to be clingy but I cant stand losing him
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I talked to him, but I couldn't accept being just friends.. I asked him to give me a second chance and how I'm being an emotional wreck these days. There was alot of crying involved .. I have no idea how he could stand me. He calmed me down and I went to sleep. But I am not sure what he's thinking now.. thankfully he's still in my life. Friends or still together... still figuring Sad


Honestly...you sound very clingy. Let the man be.

Instead of flip flopping all over the place, taking one position and then another... Just chill...my god.

You're acting like you're desperate for his attention but why?


I wasnt like that at all with him before. I love him and I am losing him and I am the one who messed up and hurt him.. I'm just following my heart there. I dont mean to be clingy but I cant stand losing him
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You might lose him but what matters is keeping your cool? I doubt your crying and needing him to calm you down so you sleep and stop texting him is what he wants right now. I mean... who wants a potential partner who behaves that way? You've already told him everything he needs to know. Relax.
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I talked to him, but I couldn't accept being just friends.. I asked him to give me a second chance and how I'm being an emotional wreck these days. There was alot of crying involved .. I have no idea how he could stand me. He calmed me down and I went to sleep. But I am not sure what he's thinking now.. thankfully he's still in my life. Friends or still together... still figuring Sad


Honestly...you sound very clingy. Let the man be.

Instead of flip flopping all over the place, taking one position and then another... Just chill...my god.

You're acting like you're desperate for his attention but why?


I wasnt like that at all with him before. I love him and I am losing him and I am the one who messed up and hurt him.. I'm just following my heart there. I dont mean to be clingy but I cant stand losing him


You might lose him but what matters is keeping your cool? I doubt your crying and needing him to calm you down so you sleep and stop texting him is what he wants right now. I mean... who wants a potential partner who behaves that way? You've already told him everything he needs to know. Relax.


This might actually work on a Pisces moon
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Ew.

well bottom line.. it is made clear to both of us now to remain friends. I sent him a message saying how I was nervous yesterday and that I am here too if he wants to remain friends, he agreed.

But honestly the real reason for this not working out is mainly trust. I've been thinking about it and it all came down to when I realized he's lying to me when he wasn't available (I knew from his friend that he was spending time with his friends when he was telling me how the electricity went off or whatever reason comes to his mind for not responding to a simple message) Obviously I felt he is avoiding me n I left him to it and didnt say anything.. but about 3 weeks him acting carelessly about me made me not really sure if he loves me as he claims, specially when I expressed my feelings wanting to have a little more time together and how I feel we are distant. My scorpio moon captures when something is off and his behavior was off lately. And he has also been close to one of his "girl" friends who was always flirting with him and he never turns her down, he knows how I dont like her for that reason, but they remained as close if not more. And I know it that they had a fall out these days (God knows why eh)....

Anyway looks like both of us dont trust eachother. So this relationship is doomed already.

Thanks guys for sharing your opinions it really mattered to me and even opened my eyes

And ofcourse lesson learned I will never dare to cheat on anyone, just so I dont complicate things for myself more than for others. And the feeling of guilt is intolerable
Gemini men hate when women play games. I think you should move on and get over him.
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well bottom line.. it is made clear to both of us now to remain friends. I sent him a message saying how I was nervous yesterday and that I am here too if he wants to remain friends, he agreed.

But honestly the real reason for this not working out is mainly trust. I've been thinking about it and it all came down to when I realized he's lying to me when he wasn't available (I knew from his friend that he was spending time with his friends when he was telling me how the electricity went off or whatever reason comes to his mind for not responding to a simple message) Obviously I felt he is avoiding me n I left him to it and didnt say anything.. but about 3 weeks him acting carelessly about me made me not really sure if he loves me as he claims, specially when I expressed my feelings wanting to have a little more time together and how I feel we are distant. My scorpio moon captures when something is off and his behavior was off lately. And he has also been close to one of his "girl" friends who was always flirting with him and he never turns her down, he knows how I dont like her for that reason, but they remained as close if not more. And I know it that they had a fall out these days (God knows why eh)....

Anyway looks like both of us dont trust eachother. So this relationship is doomed already.

Thanks guys for sharing your opinions it really mattered to me and even opened my eyes

And ofcourse lesson learned I will never dare to cheat on anyone, just so I dont complicate things for myself more than for others. And the feeling of guilt is intolerable


Well you've been pretty annoying so I can't blame him. First off, you're not officially a couple hence the contemplation between being friends or an item. Don't you have a life? Why do you need so much attention? Why does he have to respond to you immediately? Who does that? You seem to have nothing going for you than having him around. If I were a man I'd be bored as well. He didn't lie to you. You tried to force a reaction from him by mentioning another guy so you've lost him completely. Did you actually think that making a man jealous would make him want you more? Not always. Unless he actually feels deeply about you. I don't think you and the gem are in that stage yet. Hence, he basically started distancing himself from you.
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It seems that you havent really read my posts, cause this is not the story. Read first please before wasting time and energy over this.
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well bottom line.. it is made clear to both of us now to remain friends. I sent him a message saying how I was nervous yesterday and that I am here too if he wants to remain friends, he agreed.

But honestly the real reason for this not working out is mainly trust. I've been thinking about it and it all came down to when I realized he's lying to me when he wasn't available (I knew from his friend that he was spending time with his friends when he was telling me how the electricity went off or whatever reason comes to his mind for not responding to a simple message) Obviously I felt he is avoiding me n I left him to it and didnt say anything.. but about 3 weeks him acting carelessly about me made me not really sure if he loves me as he claims, specially when I expressed my feelings wanting to have a little more time together and how I feel we are distant. My scorpio moon captures when something is off and his behavior was off lately. And he has also been close to one of his "girl" friends who was always flirting with him and he never turns her down, he knows how I dont like her for that reason, but they remained as close if not more. And I know it that they had a fall out these days (God knows why eh)....

Anyway looks like both of us dont trust eachother. So this relationship is doomed already.

Thanks guys for sharing your opinions it really mattered to me and even opened my eyes

And ofcourse lesson learned I will never dare to cheat on anyone, just so I dont complicate things for myself more than for others. And the feeling of guilt is intolerable


Well you've been pretty annoying so I can't blame him. First off, you're not officially a couple hence the contemplation between being friends or an item. Don't you have a life? Why do you need so much attention? Why does he have to respond to you immediately? Who does that? You seem to have nothing going for you than having him around. If I were a man I'd be bored as well. He didn't lie to you. You tried to force a reaction from him by mentioning another guy so you've lost him completely. Did you actually think that making a man jealous would make him want you more? Not always. Unless he actually feels deeply about you. I don't think you and the gem are in that stage yet. Hence, he basically started distancing himself from you.


It seems that you havent really read my posts, cause this is not the story. Read first please before wasting time and energy over this.


I read it already thank you.
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I believe part of me had seen that this is not going to work out. I have no idea why whatever happened happened, but anyway most probably this is for the best. What matters to me is that we are still friends. My heart aches and I miss him.. we talked today and it seems to be alright.

Maybe it's for the best that we remain only friends. Life eh ..
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I believe part of me had seen that this is not going to work out. I have no idea why whatever happened happened, but anyway most probably this is for the best. What matters to me is that we are still friends. My heart aches and I miss him.. we talked today and it seems to be alright.

Maybe it's for the best that we remain only friends. Life eh ..

I have read all your post and I believe I have found and see what's going on from what you have said so far.

what happened started with you questioning the variability of the relationship because of his "status". That is the cause of this situation that snow balled. He wanted something serious with you back then. Even though you say you love him now, obviously not enough to over look his "status" or at least communicate your concerns to him about it honestly.

Then you openly friend zoned him to keep him in your life. Despite his feelings. He like most guys would do, pull back to readjust their feelings and perspective on you. You picked up on this. You panicked and got into a agruement and told him about another guy to get to him. You used it like a weapon and hurt him badly.

He starts putting real distance between you two but you do love him, even if it seems like a selfish love to me personally, So you try getting him back. He is hurting still though so lies instead of being honest with you. You use this to justify your own misdeeds.

Because he loves you or at least cares a lot he still wants you in his life so tries to hard friend zone you back. More bullshit happens and you push him away again by stating you don't need another friend. I'm sure this again hurts like hell.

Then you change your mind again or should I say what you tell him. And now want a relationship. Can you see how confusing all that is and why people are saying your playing games with him? Even if you don't mean to and this all stems from your own issues, that is what your actions amount to. To top it off, your inconsistency will naturally lead to trust issues with you on his end.

If you want a chance with this guy that will not end up with all these shenanigans undermining your relationship, you must be completely honest with him and yourself as to what happen and why. It was a serious mistake to not be honest about your issues with his "status" to begin with. I would work backwards and make amends being honest. I'm unsure to really talk to him about this "status" thing then or later to not overwhelm him and yourself.

Regardless what happens with him I would take a hard look at yourself and learn from this so you don't repeat the same mistake in the future.
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I believe part of me had seen that this is not going to work out. I have no idea why whatever happened happened, but anyway most probably this is for the best. What matters to me is that we are still friends. My heart aches and I miss him.. we talked today and it seems to be alright.


Maybe it's for the best that we remain only friends. Life eh ..


Well, let's face it. Its not like you have much option. He's not interested anymore.
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Well as I mentioned before, I am not either as both of us don't have that much trust anymore. And the main problem I posted earlier about the difference in status.

On another note, why do your words come out harsh in every post? Easy ....... it's no battlefield
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I believe part of me had seen that this is not going to work out. I have no idea why whatever happened happened, but anyway most probably this is for the best. What matters to me is that we are still friends. My heart aches and I miss him.. we talked today and it seems to be alright.

Maybe it's for the best that we remain only friends. Life eh ..

I have read all your post and I believe I have found and see what's going on from what you have said so far.

what happened started with you questioning the variability of the relationship because of his "status". That is the cause of this situation that snow balled. He wanted something serious with you back then. Even though you say you love him now, obviously not enough to over look his "status" or at least communicate your concerns to him about it honestly.

Then you openly friend zoned him to keep him in your life. Despite his feelings. He like most guys would do, pull back to readjust their feelings and perspective on you. You picked up on this. You panicked and got into a agruement and told him about another guy to get to him. You used it like a weapon and hurt him badly.

He starts putting real distance between you two but you do love him, even if it seems like a selfish love to me personally, So you try getting him back. He is hurting still though so lies instead of being honest with you. You use this to justify your own misdeeds.

Because he loves you or at least cares a lot he still wants you in his life so tries to hard friend zone you back. More bullshit happens and you push him away again by stating you don't need another friend. I'm sure this again hurts like hell.

Then you change your mind again or should I say what you tell him. And now want a relationship. Can you see how confusing all that is and why people are saying your playing games with him? Even if you don't mean to and this all stems from your own issues, that is what your actions amount to. To top it off, your inconsistency will naturally lead to trust issues with you on his end.

If you want a chance with this guy that will not end up with all these shenanigans undermining your relationship, you must be completely honest with him and yourself as to what happen and why. It was a serious mistake to not be honest about your issues with his "status" to begin with. I would work backwards and make amends being honest. I'm unsure to really talk to him about this "status" thing then or later to not overwhelm him and yourself.

Regardless what happens with him I would take a hard look at yourself and learn from this so you don't repeat the same mistake in the future.
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I only want to clear up one thing you said "You picked up on this. You panicked and got into a agruement and told him about another guy to get to him. You used it like a weapon and hurt him badly." I did not do this intentionally at all. As I said before, I expressed my feelings to him about feeling distant over the past month, I expressed that a couple of time and he really seemed to listen, but did not change one bit, didn't make the slightest effort to make me feel that everything is ok and that we are not distant. Only confirmed by words, no actions from his side. I was talking to another guy friend about what I feel and the conversation took a turn with his flirting, which my mistake is not resisting it. I needed my bf I did not do this intentionally I got weak. I am not justifying my actions, I'm just explaining cause many thought I'm doing this intentionally. No I never really wanted to get back at anyone. And what hurt me the most is thinking of how I hurt someone I love.

Anyway with what you said, yes I reflected on my actions. And I believe I made a bad choice by starting a relationship with someone who is not for me. I followed my heart alone, and that was not wise.
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I believe part of me had seen that this is not going to work out. I have no idea why whatever happened happened, but anyway most probably this is for the best. What matters to me is that we are still friends. My heart aches and I miss him.. we talked today and it seems to be alright.


Maybe it's for the best that we remain only friends. Life eh ..


Well, let's face it. Its not like you have much option. He's not interested anymore.


Well as I mentioned before, I am not either as both of us don't have that much trust anymore. And the main problem I posted earlier about the difference in status.

On another note, why do your words come out harsh in every post? Easy ....... it's no battlefield


It's not harsh. Its actually honest.
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Girl I'm tired.
Posted by TxOgal

I've been friends with this Gemini guy for about a year now, mid-year I cut ties with him cause I felt things were getting intimate and I wasn't sure of his intentions. He's been trying to talk to me, but I was avoiding him until about 2 months later, he reached out somehow and we reconciled. Since then things got more intimate (more friends than anything) but we both developed feelings for each other. His intentions are clear that he wants to get serious (but deep down I had doubts about it due to difference in our status).

Lately I've been feeling neglected by him, for the past month we rarely talk, due to different schedules, but when we talk he's very loving and caring. He claims that it's because I'm always busy and he doesn't want to bother me (which really annoyed me) I explained this to him a couple of time, that he could always talk to me anytime and I'm not that busy as he thinks. But, still his ways didn't change.

I got so mad at him and told him he doesn't have feelings or a heart to treat me this way, since I made it clear that he doesn't seem to care or even want to talk to me anymore. And that day I slipped and responded to a guy who's flirting with me and we kind of had fun over a phone call. The next day, the Gemini apologized to me, but stupid me I also apologized and told him about that guy I talked to :/

Now things got bad, at first I apologized alot and he was trying to avoid me then, I told him that I just told him about that guy cause I wanted to annoy him back as he annoyed me all that time being careless about me (that was my friend's suggestion cause they said it was a huge mistake that I told the truth when we are not even that committed yet). Now, the Gemini said let's be friends nothing more than that. I told him I have many girl friends already I don't need a guy friend. He just said ok.

Obviously I love him so much, but I screwed things up and I am dying inside for him to talk to me again, but he seems so distant and avoiding me now Sad I don't know what to do to get him back. I cannot send him anymore messages. He already doesn't believe that I was only saying that to annoy him. What do you think this Gemini man will do? Is it really over now? Sad please your opinion

Him:

Sun is in 24 Degrees Gemini

Moon is in 27 Degrees Pisces

Mercury is in 07 Degrees Gemini

Venus is in 19 Degrees Taurus

Mars is in 11 Degrees Aries

Me:

Sun is in 18 Degrees Taurus

Moon is in 13 Degrees Scorpio

Mercury is in 10 Degrees Taurus

Venus is in 05 Degrees Aries

Mars is in 13 Degrees Pisces

Sorry that was long ...


Im so sorry you are going though this, I feel we are in a similar situation, My Gemini also has Venus in Taurus, they are more stable and loving in my experience and it very easy to hurt them, then they back off and shut down. Maybe the expectations is the problem, it was in my case, I was quite demanding towards him(emotionally), wanting things my way the way I like it, and Gemini will never be submissive to anyone, they just want to feel free and give when they want to give, the best way to keep him is to appreciate him for all the good things so he wants to do more of them. Any type of control or demand will push him away. I am trying to reconnect with mine too after 3 months and its really bad, hes ignoring my text, being cold and distant. I tried to apologize, explain, said I learned from this, but still he didnt want to open up and is keeping everything on a surface level, We barely talk... best thing to do is to leave him alone until he will make a move himself.
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Posted by TxOgal

I've been friends with this Gemini guy for about a year now, mid-year I cut ties with him cause I felt things were getting intimate and I wasn't sure of his intentions. He's been trying to talk to me, but I was avoiding him until about 2 months later, he reached out somehow and we reconciled. Since then things got more intimate (more friends than anything) but we both developed feelings for each other. His intentions are clear that he wants to get serious (but deep down I had doubts about it due to difference in our status).

Lately I've been feeling neglected by him, for the past month we rarely talk, due to different schedules, but when we talk he's very loving and caring. He claims that it's because I'm always busy and he doesn't want to bother me (which really annoyed me) I explained this to him a couple of time, that he could always talk to me anytime and I'm not that busy as he thinks. But, still his ways didn't change.

I got so mad at him and told him he doesn't have feelings or a heart to treat me this way, since I made it clear that he doesn't seem to care or even want to talk to me anymore. And that day I slipped and responded to a guy who's flirting with me and we kind of had fun over a phone call. The next day, the Gemini apologized to me, but stupid me I also apologized and told him about that guy I talked to :/

Now things got bad, at first I apologized alot and he was trying to avoid me then, I told him that I just told him about that guy cause I wanted to annoy him back as he annoyed me all that time being careless about me (that was my friend's suggestion cause they said it was a huge mistake that I told the truth when we are not even that committed yet). Now, the Gemini said let's be friends nothing more than that. I told him I have many girl friends already I don't need a guy friend. He just said ok.

Obviously I love him so much, but I screwed things up and I am dying inside for him to talk to me again, but he seems so distant and avoiding me now Sad I don't know what to do to get him back. I cannot send him anymore messages. He already doesn't believe that I was only saying that to annoy him. What do you think this Gemini man will do? Is it really over now? Sad please your opinion

Him:

Sun is in 24 Degrees Gemini

Moon is in 27 Degrees Pisces

Mercury is in 07 Degrees Gemini

Venus is in 19 Degrees Taurus

Mars is in 11 Degrees Aries

Me:

Sun is in 18 Degrees Taurus

Moon is in 13 Degrees Scorpio

Mercury is in 10 Degrees Taurus

Venus is in 05 Degrees Aries

Mars is in 13 Degrees Pisces

Sorry that was long ...


Im so sorry you are going though this, I feel we are in a similar situation, My Gemini also has Venus in Taurus, they are more stable and loving in my experience and it very easy to hurt them, then they back off and shut down. Maybe the expectations is the problem, it was in my case, I was quite demanding towards him(emotionally), wanting things my way the way I like it, and Gemini will never be submissive to anyone, they just want to feel free and give when they want to give, the best way to keep him is to appreciate him for all the good things so he wants to do more of them. Any type of control or demand will push him away. I am trying to reconnect with mine too after 3 months and its really bad, hes ignoring my text, being cold and distant. I tried to apologize, explain, said I learned from this, but still he didnt want to open up and is keeping everything on a surface level, We barely talk... best thing to do is to leave him alone until he will make a move himself.
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I'm sorry you're going through this too. I have a friend too who is Gemini with Venus in Taurus. He is very kind, but yeah he disappears alot too. But doesn't mean that he's not thinking of you. Hope things work out for the best. I feel your pain, it's hard when you're longing for someone.

About the Gemini I'm talking about here, It seems it's really over. I hope we remain friends.

What are your placements though?
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Posted by jana33
Posted by TxOgal

I've been friends with this Gemini guy for about a year now, mid-year I cut ties with him cause I felt things were getting intimate and I wasn't sure of his intentions. He's been trying to talk to me, but I was avoiding him until about 2 months later, he reached out somehow and we reconciled. Since then things got more intimate (more friends than anything) but we both developed feelings for each other. His intentions are clear that he wants to get serious (but deep down I had doubts about it due to difference in our status).

Lately I've been feeling neglected by him, for the past month we rarely talk, due to different schedules, but when we talk he's very loving and caring. He claims that it's because I'm always busy and he doesn't want to bother me (which really annoyed me) I explained this to him a couple of time, that he could always talk to me anytime and I'm not that busy as he thinks. But, still his ways didn't change.

I got so mad at him and told him he doesn't have feelings or a heart to treat me this way, since I made it clear that he doesn't seem to care or even want to talk to me anymore. And that day I slipped and responded to a guy who's flirting with me and we kind of had fun over a phone call. The next day, the Gemini apologized to me, but stupid me I also apologized and told him about that guy I talked to :/

Now things got bad, at first I apologized alot and he was trying to avoid me then, I told him that I just told him about that guy cause I wanted to annoy him back as he annoyed me all that time being careless about me (that was my friend's suggestion cause they said it was a huge mistake that I told the truth when we are not even that committed yet). Now, the Gemini said let's be friends nothing more than that. I told him I have many girl friends already I don't need a guy friend. He just said ok.

Obviously I love him so much, but I screwed things up and I am dying inside for him to talk to me again, but he seems so distant and avoiding me now Sad I don't know what to do to get him back. I cannot send him anymore messages. He already doesn't believe that I was only saying that to annoy him. What do you think this Gemini man will do? Is it really over now? Sad please your opinion

Him:

Sun is in 24 Degrees Gemini

Moon is in 27 Degrees Pisces

Mercury is in 07 Degrees Gemini

Venus is in 19 Degrees Taurus

Mars is in 11 Degrees Aries

Me:

Sun is in 18 Degrees Taurus

Moon is in 13 Degrees Scorpio

Mercury is in 10 Degrees Taurus

Venus is in 05 Degrees Aries

Mars is in 13 Degrees Pisces

Sorry that was long ...


Im so sorry you are going though this, I feel we are in a similar situation, My Gemini also has Venus in Taurus, they are more stable and loving in my experience and it very easy to hurt them, then they back off and shut down. Maybe the expectations is the problem, it was in my case, I was quite demanding towards him(emotionally), wanting things my way the way I like it, and Gemini will never be submissive to anyone, they just want to feel free and give when they want to give, the best way to keep him is to appreciate him for all the good things so he wants to do more of them. Any type of control or demand will push him away. I am trying to reconnect with mine too after 3 months and its really bad, hes ignoring my text, being cold and distant. I tried to apologize, explain, said I learned from this, but still he didnt want to open up and is keeping everything on a surface level, We barely talk... best thing to do is to leave him alone until he will make a move himself.


I'm sorry you're going through this too. I have a friend too who is Gemini with Venus in Taurus. He is very kind, but yeah he disappears alot too. But doesn't mean that he's not thinking of you. Hope things work out for the best. I feel your pain, it's hard when you're longing for someone.

About the Gemini I'm talking about here, It seems it's really over. I hope we remain friends.

What are your placements though?
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I dont have many hopes for my Gemini too... mostly because he has very complicated chaotic family situation, ex and small kids and loads of responsibility in his life.

I am sun cancer, venus cancer, moon saggitarius, aquarius rising.

Im waaay too emotional for him, we connected intellectually, he has 5 water in his chart so hes emotional too, just very chaotic as gemini, its like hes super emotional but doesnt like others to be like that with him, also I have 5 fire in my chart too so Im very direct and he didnt like that, he felt as if im attacking him by just expressing myself.
Posted by jana33
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by jana33
Posted by TxOgal

I've been friends with this Gemini guy for about a year now, mid-year I cut ties with him cause I felt things were getting intimate and I wasn't sure of his intentions. He's been trying to talk to me, but I was avoiding him until about 2 months later, he reached out somehow and we reconciled. Since then things got more intimate (more friends than anything) but we both developed feelings for each other. His intentions are clear that he wants to get serious (but deep down I had doubts about it due to difference in our status).

Lately I've been feeling neglected by him, for the past month we rarely talk, due to different schedules, but when we talk he's very loving and caring. He claims that it's because I'm always busy and he doesn't want to bother me (which really annoyed me) I explained this to him a couple of time, that he could always talk to me anytime and I'm not that busy as he thinks. But, still his ways didn't change.

I got so mad at him and told him he doesn't have feelings or a heart to treat me this way, since I made it clear that he doesn't seem to care or even want to talk to me anymore. And that day I slipped and responded to a guy who's flirting with me and we kind of had fun over a phone call. The next day, the Gemini apologized to me, but stupid me I also apologized and told him about that guy I talked to :/

Now things got bad, at first I apologized alot and he was trying to avoid me then, I told him that I just told him about that guy cause I wanted to annoy him back as he annoyed me all that time being careless about me (that was my friend's suggestion cause they said it was a huge mistake that I told the truth when we are not even that committed yet). Now, the Gemini said let's be friends nothing more than that. I told him I have many girl friends already I don't need a guy friend. He just said ok.

Obviously I love him so much, but I screwed things up and I am dying inside for him to talk to me again, but he seems so distant and avoiding me now Sad I don't know what to do to get him back. I cannot send him anymore messages. He already doesn't believe that I was only saying that to annoy him. What do you think this Gemini man will do? Is it really over now? Sad please your opinion

Him:

Sun is in 24 Degrees Gemini

Moon is in 27 Degrees Pisces

Mercury is in 07 Degrees Gemini

Venus is in 19 Degrees Taurus

Mars is in 11 Degrees Aries

Me:

Sun is in 18 Degrees Taurus

Moon is in 13 Degrees Scorpio

Mercury is in 10 Degrees Taurus

Venus is in 05 Degrees Aries

Mars is in 13 Degrees Pisces

Sorry that was long ...


Im so sorry you are going though this, I feel we are in a similar situation, My Gemini also has Venus in Taurus, they are more stable and loving in my experience and it very easy to hurt them, then they back off and shut down. Maybe the expectations is the problem, it was in my case, I was quite demanding towards him(emotionally), wanting things my way the way I like it, and Gemini will never be submissive to anyone, they just want to feel free and give when they want to give, the best way to keep him is to appreciate him for all the good things so he wants to do more of them. Any type of control or demand will push him away. I am trying to reconnect with mine too after 3 months and its really bad, hes ignoring my text, being cold and distant. I tried to apologize, explain, said I learned from this, but still he didnt want to open up and is keeping everything on a surface level, We barely talk... best thing to do is to leave him alone until he will make a move himself.


I'm sorry you're going through this too. I have a friend too who is Gemini with Venus in Taurus. He is very kind, but yeah he disappears alot too. But doesn't mean that he's not thinking of you. Hope things work out for the best. I feel your pain, it's hard when you're longing for someone.

About the Gemini I'm talking about here, It seems it's really over. I hope we remain friends.

What are your placements though?


I dont have many hopes for my Gemini too... mostly because he has very complicated chaotic family situation, ex and small kids and loads of responsibility in his life.

I am sun cancer, venus cancer, moon saggitarius, aquarius rising.

Im waaay too emotional for him, we connected intellectually, he has 5 water in his chart so hes emotional too, just very chaotic as gemini, its like hes super emotional but doesnt like others to be like that with him, also I have 5 fire in my chart too so Im very direct and he didnt like that, he felt as if im attacking him by just expressing myself.
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I can imagine... cancer placements are intense. Probably your fire placements can help you move on.. My heart is with you but be sure whatever happens is for good..
Update: Looks like it is not possible to be friends, it ia so hard. And I probably keep pushing him away. Now I decided to block him so I won't be able to contact him anymore. I feel like I'm only bothering him. It hurts still and I still feel love for him. I am trying to move on
i've only just started reading your thread. what happened? you bulls when you give your heart, it's a precious commodity but you guys can get in your own way too sometimes.

on the other hand, i'm not sure that an airy gem is the best match for a taurus.

maybe it's a timing thing and you can make your way back to each other at a later stage.
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i've only just started reading your thread. what happened? you bulls when you give your heart, it's a precious commodity but you guys can get in your own way too sometimes.

on the other hand, i'm not sure that an airy gem is the best match for a taurus.

maybe it's a timing thing and you can make your way back to each other at a later stage.
seems that geminis are more distant than I thought .... I know I screwed up. But I really wished he was closer. Probably will avoid gemini placements.. make me go crazy
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by jeane

i've only just started reading your thread. what happened? you bulls when you give your heart, it's a precious commodity but you guys can get in your own way too sometimes.

on the other hand, i'm not sure that an airy gem is the best match for a taurus.

maybe it's a timing thing and you can make your way back to each other at a later stage.


seems that geminis are more distant than I thought .... I know I screwed up. But I really wished he was closer. Probably will avoid gemini placements.. make me go crazy
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don't be too hard on yourself. we all make mistakes. appreciate it as a learning experience.
Posted by jeane
Posted by TxOgal
Posted by jeane

i've only just started reading your thread. what happened? you bulls when you give your heart, it's a precious commodity but you guys can get in your own way too sometimes.

on the other hand, i'm not sure that an airy gem is the best match for a taurus.

maybe it's a timing thing and you can make your way back to each other at a later stage.


seems that geminis are more distant than I thought .... I know I screwed up. But I really wished he was closer. Probably will avoid gemini placements.. make me go crazy


don't be too hard on yourself. we all make mistakes. appreciate it as a learning experience.
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Thank you! that's really kind of you to say .. Lesson learned that's for sure
Update: We gradually started talking again.. it was awkward at first, but I talked to him as friends and it seems we are both good to eachother now. Ofc we both never mentioned what happened. At first we both admitted that we missed eachother, but I know love is just not for us. I am glad we are friends.
This is an old post but, he made a confession.. said there's something for me in his heart that will always remain, said he loves me and he can only keep this to himself (I felt the same way towards him)

It's sad that we are not compatible in this life. I am still happy that we could remain friends still. It is like nothing bad ever happened between us. Strange that he's the only ex bf that I could still be friends with.