Posted by SingmealullabyWhile all Gemini men are not asshole manipulators, this one DEFINITELY IS. He is NOT AT ALL GOOD for you.
HELP! This Gemini guy (21) tried to pursue me for an entire year. Initially he’d say I’m smart, ask me out on dates, and ask my friends about me. He was consistent. Although I liked him I had no intentions of dating or having sex bc I felt we were incompatible. I’m a Taurus with a lot of fire in my chart (21). Aries rising Aries mercury & Leo moon. I’m not saying we’re incompatible simply bc of our signs. In fact, he has a lot of water & earth which overall makes us compatible but certain things he’d say & do rubbed me the wrong way. Plus I was never comfortable being my outgoing, talkative self around him. I decided we’d just be friends. Long story short he asks to hangout. I finally agreed. We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship. A couple weeks later I asked him how he feels about me. He said “wdym, we’re chilling.” Not even answering the question. Now I’m disgusted with myself. I know he didn’t deserve me in that way. He’s distant now. I can’t help but to wonder why he doesn’t like me enough to date or if he’s just not ready for a relationship now. He’s probably thinking “you had your chance..too late now.” Ik geminis can be scared of commitment for various reasons & get bored easily. (He wants to continue sex) I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me. How do I get over this? I get anxious every time I think about it all.
Posted by Phantom_DangusThanks! If anything I thought him and I were friends and I never thought he would do something like that. I truly didn't want a relationship. I could've had him if I wanted. I kept rejecting him. I had sex because it felt like I had no other choice in the moment in addition to I didn't want to end our friendship. I understand how dumb it sounds now but that's how I felt at the time. I need to learn to be more assertive. I'll just be happy when I'm over this. Ik it may seem like it isn't a big deal but I can't stop obsessing over it. It has put me in a really dark place. I don't even like him I think I'm just drawn to him bc he's distant as opposed to before.Posted by Singmealullaby
HELP! This Gemini guy (21) tried to pursue me for an entire year. Initially he’d say I’m smart, ask me out on dates, and ask my friends about me. He was consistent. Although I liked him I had no intentions of dating or having sex bc I felt we were incompatible. I’m a Taurus with a lot of fire in my chart (21). Aries rising Aries mercury & Leo moon. I’m not saying we’re incompatible simply bc of our signs. In fact, he has a lot of water & earth which overall makes us compatible but certain things he’d say & do rubbed me the wrong way. Plus I was never comfortable being my outgoing, talkative self around him. I decided we’d just be friends. Long story short he asks to hangout. I finally agreed. We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship. A couple weeks later I asked him how he feels about me. He said “wdym, we’re chilling.” Not even answering the question. Now I’m disgusted with myself. I know he didn’t deserve me in that way. He’s distant now. I can’t help but to wonder why he doesn’t like me enough to date or if he’s just not ready for a relationship now. He’s probably thinking “you had your chance..too late now.” Ik geminis can be scared of commitment for various reasons & get bored easily. (He wants to continue sex) I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me. How do I get over this? I get anxious every time I think about it all.
This is just classic young dickhead guy pressuring young naive girl to have sex and the girl giving in because she thinks it will lead to a relationship. This is the kind of shit bad boys did to good girls in the 50s, the kind of stuff parents usually warn you about.
Treat it as a lesson learned.click to expand
Posted by 7syes, what's your point?
He's 21. I assume you're the same age...
Posted by emeraldgemI have a hard time being assertive and the fact that he kept disregarding no made me feel like I should've just to get it over with. It was all a mistake. At this point I just want to get over it but I can't.
Wait.....why did you say yes again? I keep looking for that part. It was all a big NO up to that point then suddenly it was yes.....?
Posted by genxpkThanks. I had to speak to someone about it. I tried to speak to him about it and he said "you don't even have a reason to be mad" making me question my sanity. I hope to get over this asap.Posted by Singmealullaby
HELP! This Gemini guy (21) tried to pursue me for an entire year. Initially he’d say I’m smart, ask me out on dates, and ask my friends about me. He was consistent. Although I liked him I had no intentions of dating or having sex bc I felt we were incompatible. I’m a Taurus with a lot of fire in my chart (21). Aries rising Aries mercury & Leo moon. I’m not saying we’re incompatible simply bc of our signs. In fact, he has a lot of water & earth which overall makes us compatible but certain things he’d say & do rubbed me the wrong way. Plus I was never comfortable being my outgoing, talkative self around him. I decided we’d just be friends. Long story short he asks to hangout. I finally agreed. We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship. A couple weeks later I asked him how he feels about me. He said “wdym, we’re chilling.” Not even answering the question. Now I’m disgusted with myself. I know he didn’t deserve me in that way. He’s distant now. I can’t help but to wonder why he doesn’t like me enough to date or if he’s just not ready for a relationship now. He’s probably thinking “you had your chance..too late now.” Ik geminis can be scared of commitment for various reasons & get bored easily. (He wants to continue sex) I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me. How do I get over this? I get anxious every time I think about it all.
While all Gemini men are not asshole manipulators, this one DEFINITELY IS. He is NOT AT ALL GOOD for you.
i understand your immense need for a loving partner assuming your young age, but don't be desperate. Your will to long-term commitment is a precious trait and you should wait until you find a person who knows it's value and deserves it. This Guy is not even close.click to expand
Posted by DMVeasier said than done
Block him and move on
Posted by emeraldgemik it doesn't make sense. Im confused myself which is why I felt I needed to talk to someone about it. I keep giving him the benefit of the doubt bc in my head we were friends and he wouldn't intentionally hurt me. We're both in college and oftentimes we'd support each other as far as our goals and whatnot. idk lol I need therapy bc I feel worthless and unwanted kinda wanna die too sorry
@Singmealullaby - "I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me"
What on earth is going on here? He forced sex on you, now is distant and you're attached to this guy? You got used, straight up and I would feel disgusted with myself too. Yeah, listen to that little voice - because that's what's telling you the truth right now.
Posted by Phantom_Dangus💯Posted by Singmealullaby
HELP! This Gemini guy (21) tried to pursue me for an entire year. Initially he’d say I’m smart, ask me out on dates, and ask my friends about me. He was consistent. Although I liked him I had no intentions of dating or having sex bc I felt we were incompatible. I’m a Taurus with a lot of fire in my chart (21). Aries rising Aries mercury & Leo moon. I’m not saying we’re incompatible simply bc of our signs. In fact, he has a lot of water & earth which overall makes us compatible but certain things he’d say & do rubbed me the wrong way. Plus I was never comfortable being my outgoing, talkative self around him. I decided we’d just be friends. Long story short he asks to hangout. I finally agreed. We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship. A couple weeks later I asked him how he feels about me. He said “wdym, we’re chilling.” Not even answering the question. Now I’m disgusted with myself. I know he didn’t deserve me in that way. He’s distant now. I can’t help but to wonder why he doesn’t like me enough to date or if he’s just not ready for a relationship now. He’s probably thinking “you had your chance..too late now.” Ik geminis can be scared of commitment for various reasons & get bored easily. (He wants to continue sex) I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me. How do I get over this? I get anxious every time I think about it all.
This is just classic young dickhead guy pressuring young naive girl to have sex and the girl giving in because she thinks it will lead to a relationship. This is the kind of shit bad boys did to good girls in the 50s, the kind of stuff parents usually warn you about.
Treat it as a lesson learned.click to expand
Posted by SingmealullabyYou're NOT worthless.Posted by emeraldgem
@Singmealullaby - "I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me"
What on earth is going on here? He forced sex on you, now is distant and you're attached to this guy? You got used, straight up and I would feel disgusted with myself too. Yeah, listen to that little voice - because that's what's telling you the truth right now.
ik it doesn't make sense. Im confused myself which is why I felt I needed to talk to someone about it. I keep giving him the benefit of the doubt bc in my head we were friends and he wouldn't intentionally hurt me. We're both in college and oftentimes we'd support each other as far as our goals and whatnot. idk lol I need therapy bc I feel worthless and unwanted kinda wanna die too sorry
I think the sex is tied to it also. he was very affectionate with lots of kissing and oral. I could tell he wanted to please meclick to expand
Posted by SingmealullabyClearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Posted by LittleStarThey were in a car not a room. PLEASE READ. She said yes so it was consensual. He may have been unethical in his tactics but it was NOT rape.Posted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.click to expand
Posted by SkeletonShow me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.Posted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.click to expand
Posted by SkeletonPosted by CreativeCapPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
They were in a car not a room. PLEASE READ. She said yes so it was consensual. He may have been unethical in his tactics but it was NOT rape.
She said yes because she got forced to. Her heart says no.click to expand
Posted by 7sUnbelievable how some people misinterpret the truth and are unable to read between the lines to decipher the nuances when the details are clearly stated.Posted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
seriously!! Groupthink at it's finestclick to expand
Posted by Phantom_Dangus💜💙💚Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by SingmealullabyPosted by emeraldgem
@Singmealullaby - "I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me"
What on earth is going on here? He forced sex on you, now is distant and you're attached to this guy? You got used, straight up and I would feel disgusted with myself too. Yeah, listen to that little voice - because that's what's telling you the truth right now.
ik it doesn't make sense. Im confused myself which is why I felt I needed to talk to someone about it. I keep giving him the benefit of the doubt bc in my head we were friends and he wouldn't intentionally hurt me. We're both in college and oftentimes we'd support each other as far as our goals and whatnot. idk lol I need therapy bc I feel worthless and unwanted kinda wanna die too sorry
I think the sex is tied to it also. he was very affectionate with lots of kissing and oral. I could tell he wanted to please me
You're NOT worthless.
You're NOT unwanted.
Don't believe the LIES.
You're hurt, and disappointed. This dude was a mess from the beginning. He KNOWS he did wrong by you.
You are naive which is NORMAL at your age. But, what he did was PREMEDITATED. "He grabbed your vagina" That's sexual assault and sexual harassment. UNACCEPTABLE!
Forgive yourself and yes, seek therapy. Where is your FAMILY, BEST FRIENDS? This is the time to talk w them.
Yes!click to expand
Posted by CreativeCapI agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
Posted by sweetpea2977It's just my my mom, younger sister, and I.
So, this has PISSED me off. That dude is SCUM and he needs his ass BEAT.
Where is your father? Any brothers or uncles?
This post has me seeing red 😠
Posted by SingmealullabyMy main purpose of the post was my question of "how do I get over this" not to say that I was rapedPosted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
I agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.click to expand
Posted by Phantom_DangusOMG!!! Are you all insane?Posted by SingmealullabyPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Singmealullaby
HELP! This Gemini guy (21) tried to pursue me for an entire year. Initially he’d say I’m smart, ask me out on dates, and ask my friends about me. He was consistent. Although I liked him I had no intentions of dating or having sex bc I felt we were incompatible. I’m a Taurus with a lot of fire in my chart (21). Aries rising Aries mercury & Leo moon. I’m not saying we’re incompatible simply bc of our signs. In fact, he has a lot of water & earth which overall makes us compatible but certain things he’d say & do rubbed me the wrong way. Plus I was never comfortable being my outgoing, talkative self around him. I decided we’d just be friends. Long story short he asks to hangout. I finally agreed. We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship. A couple weeks later I asked him how he feels about me. He said “wdym, we’re chilling.” Not even answering the question. Now I’m disgusted with myself. I know he didn’t deserve me in that way. He’s distant now. I can’t help but to wonder why he doesn’t like me enough to date or if he’s just not ready for a relationship now. He’s probably thinking “you had your chance..too late now.” Ik geminis can be scared of commitment for various reasons & get bored easily. (He wants to continue sex) I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me. How do I get over this? I get anxious every time I think about it all.
This is just classic young dickhead guy pressuring young naive girl to have sex and the girl giving in because she thinks it will lead to a relationship. This is the kind of shit bad boys did to good girls in the 50s, the kind of stuff parents usually warn you about.
Treat it as a lesson learned.
Thanks! If anything I thought him and I were friends and I never thought he would do something like that. I truly didn't want a relationship. I could've had him if I wanted. I kept rejecting him. I had sex because it felt like I had no other choice in the moment in addition to I didn't want to end our friendship. I understand how dumb it sounds now but that's how I felt at the time. I need to learn to be more assertive. I'll just be happy when I'm over this. Ik it may seem like it isn't a big deal but I can't stop obsessing over it. It has put me in a really dark place. I don't even like him I think I'm just drawn to him bc he's distant as opposed to before.
He's not a good friend or boyfriend. I understand why you feel obsessive and dark about it. Have you told him that you did not want to do it and only did it because you felt pressured? He probably needs to know that if he doesn't. He doesn't need to do
that to you or anyone else again.click to expand
Posted by CreativeCapThanks! I am with you.
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
Posted by CreativeCapHe was my friend. I had no reason to "play coy." Had I wanted it, I would've told him that from the start. Despite this, its crazy how I've already stated that it wasn't rape and you're saying it's all bs. I made a wrong decision by saying yes in the end when I didn't want to. You're completely disregarding the question how do I get over this? Over my mistake. I don't need the unnecessary judgement.Posted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.click to expand
Posted by Phantom_DangusNo.Posted by GemitatiPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by Singmealullaby
HELP! This Gemini guy (21) tried to pursue me for an entire year. Initially he’d say I’m smart, ask me out on dates, and ask my friends about me. He was consistent. Although I liked him I had no intentions of dating or having sex bc I felt we were incompatible. I’m a Taurus with a lot of fire in my chart (21). Aries rising Aries mercury & Leo moon. I’m not saying we’re incompatible simply bc of our signs. In fact, he has a lot of water & earth which overall makes us compatible but certain things he’d say & do rubbed me the wrong way. Plus I was never comfortable being my outgoing, talkative self around him. I decided we’d just be friends. Long story short he asks to hangout. I finally agreed. We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship. A couple weeks later I asked him how he feels about me. He said “wdym, we’re chilling.” Not even answering the question. Now I’m disgusted with myself. I know he didn’t deserve me in that way. He’s distant now. I can’t help but to wonder why he doesn’t like me enough to date or if he’s just not ready for a relationship now. He’s probably thinking “you had your chance..too late now.” Ik geminis can be scared of commitment for various reasons & get bored easily. (He wants to continue sex) I feel attached now. I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me. How do I get over this? I get anxious every time I think about it all.
This is just classic young dickhead guy pressuring young naive girl to have sex and the girl giving in because she thinks it will lead to a relationship. This is the kind of shit bad boys did to good girls in the 50s, the kind of stuff parents usually warn you about.
Treat it as a lesson learned.
Thanks! If anything I thought him and I were friends and I never thought he would do something like that. I truly didn't want a relationship. I could've had him if I wanted. I kept rejecting him. I had sex because it felt like I had no other choice in the moment in addition to I didn't want to end our friendship. I understand how dumb it sounds now but that's how I felt at the time. I need to learn to be more assertive. I'll just be happy when I'm over this. Ik it may seem like it isn't a big deal but I can't stop obsessing over it. It has put me in a really dark place. I don't even like him I think I'm just drawn to him bc he's distant as opposed to before.
He's not a good friend or boyfriend. I understand why you feel obsessive and dark about it. Have you told him that you did not want to do it and only did it because you felt pressured? He probably needs to know that if he doesn't. He doesn't need to do
that to you or anyone else again.
OMG!!! Are you all insane?
He was good and oral and she enjoyed their sex!!
And now she says ‘how could he do it to ME?’
What? Eat her pussy and being ‘wanting to please’ her is a tape?
Yeah...
Do you realize that you're disgusting?click to expand
Posted by SingmealullabyYou need to SPEAK affirmations OVER yourself; over your life. Speak positive words to yourself. For every 1 negative phrase, combat it with 3 positive phrases. It works. Words have power and changing ones mind does too.Posted by CreativeCapPosted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.
He was my friend. I had no reason to "play coy." Had I wanted it, I would've told him that from the start. Despite this, its crazy how I've already stated that it wasn't rape and you're saying it's all bs. I made a wrong decision by saying yes in the end when I didn't want to. You're completely disregarding the question how do I get over this? Over my mistake. I don't need the unnecessary judgement.click to expand
Posted by SingmealullabyThis is contradictory to your writings. Plus your body language may have told him you were aroused. Men can pick up on these things. You said you enjoyed it but wanted to wait for a relationship. Perhaps you thought if you gave in sexually, it would have lead to something more.Posted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
I agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.click to expand
Posted by SingmealullabyI’m not judging you at all. My statements regarding rape were NOT directed towards you but the users on the forum calling it that. You know you were not raped. You made that very clear. There are some women who don’t know the difference and ALOT of innocent men are locked up in prison because of that. There were way too many people on this forum suggesting that you were.Posted by CreativeCapPosted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.
He was my friend. I had no reason to "play coy." Had I wanted it, I would've told him that from the start. Despite this, its crazy how I've already stated that it wasn't rape and you're saying it's all bs. I made a wrong decision by saying yes in the end when I didn't want to. You're completely disregarding the question how do I get over this? Over my mistake. I don't need the unnecessary judgement.click to expand
Posted by SkeletonAbuse and Harassment.Posted by CreativeCapPosted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.
"HELP! This Gemini guy (21) tried to pursue me for an entire year. Initially he’d say I’m smart, ask me out on dates, and ask my friends about me. He was consistent. Although I liked him I had no intentions of dating or having sex bc I felt we were incompatible."
"We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. "
Not listening to no's is abuse.click to expand
Posted by SingmealullabyI had one problem with your post understanding you liking him to the point that you have into his toxic masculinity...then you wanted him so bad...then he later laughed at you...then he begged your friends to tell you he likes you...then you rejecting him.Posted by CreativeCapPosted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.
He was my friend. I had no reason to "play coy." Had I wanted it, I would've told him that from the start. Despite this, its crazy how I've already stated that it wasn't rape and you're saying it's all bs. I made a wrong decision by saying yes in the end when I didn't want to. You're completely disregarding the question how do I get over this? Over my mistake. I don't need the unnecessary judgement.click to expand
Posted by Phantom_DangusI think you are so involved into life of people you don’t know...I am wondering what’s going on with your own life. 🤔Posted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCapPosted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.
He was my friend. I had no reason to "play coy." Had I wanted it, I would've told him that from the start. Despite this, its crazy how I've already stated that it wasn't rape and you're saying it's all bs. I made a wrong decision by saying yes in the end when I didn't want to. You're completely disregarding the question how do I get over this? Over my mistake. I don't need the unnecessary judgement.
I’m not judging you at all. My statements regarding rape were NOT directed towards you but the users on the forum calling it that. You know you were not raped. You made that very clear. There are some women who don’t know the difference and ALOT of innocent men are locked up in prison because of that. There were way too many people on this forum suggesting that you were.
I read your initial post and some of the commentary after. You come off as a very intelligent young woman who understands you made a poor decision by giving in to the sexual demands of a guy that didn’t have the patience or respect to wait until you were completely ready.
To answer your question, “How do you move on from it?”
Take responsibility for the decision you made (which you already did). Instead of being angry with yourself, change your perspective. It was just an experience that taught you a valuable lesson. You cut all contact from this guy. There should be no gray area. Make it very clear that you are not interested in any dealings with him whatsoever. In the future, when come across guys like this or any hint that he’s an asshole, don’t even give them the time of day.
Who said rape before you did? I said "rapey". Some others said sexual assault. You tanked this girl's thread.
Edit: That came out a little harsh. I mean I think people ended up arguing about how to classify rape instead of trying to help her because of your post. Maybe that's laying too much on you.click to expand
Posted by CreativeCapIt seems like that’s what you want to hear. We all aren’t the same. Dude tried to pursue me for an entire YEAR. I did not want him. You can definitely make sex good for someone despite them not wanting it. He gave me oral. He kept asking if I was enjoying it. He probably did that to make himself feel better bc he knew I didn’t want it to begin with or in hopes that I’d want to continue to do it & it doesn’t matter what my body language says if my words keep saying no. You’re weird af.Posted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
I agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.
This is contradictory to your writings. Plus your body language may have told him you were aroused. Men can pick up on these things. You said you enjoyed it but wanted to wait for a relationship. Perhaps you thought if you gave in sexually, it would have lead to something more.click to expand
Posted by sweetpea2977Thanks. I’ll try this.Posted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCapPosted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.
He was my friend. I had no reason to "play coy." Had I wanted it, I would've told him that from the start. Despite this, its crazy how I've already stated that it wasn't rape and you're saying it's all bs. I made a wrong decision by saying yes in the end when I didn't want to. You're completely disregarding the question how do I get over this? Over my mistake. I don't need the unnecessary judgement.
You need to SPEAK affirmations OVER yourself; over your life. Speak positive words to yourself. For every 1 negative phrase, combat it with 3 positive phrases. It works. Words have power and changing ones mind does too.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiTrollPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCapPosted by SkeletonPosted by LittleStarPosted by CreativeCapPosted by Singmealullaby
We’re in his car, we talk & he eventually asks for sex. I said no several times 3-4 times. He asks me to stay & talk a little longer. I even grabbed the door handle & said “I should leave now” twice. It is locked. He asks me to stay. We talk more. He kisses me & we start making out he then roughly grabs my vag. I was shocked & uncomfortable. I felt as if he thought I owed it to him. So I put my hand on top of his. He asks again & I just say yes. He made the sex good for me but I wanted to be in a relationship with whoever I have sex with. I’m not into casual. (I’ve done it before) now he doesn’t even want a relationship.....I want him so bad but he’s ignoring me.
Clearly states that the sex was consensual. She is now disappointed because he’s dodging her and doesn’t want a relationship.
She’s saying it consensual but whatever is consensual about him locking her in a room and not taking her multiple no’s for an answer? That’s not consent.
Correction, she got locked up in a car as she was trying to get out as he's getting forceful onto her.
Show me the part where she said he physically forced her to stay in the car. BTW I never had any trouble getting out of a car. Stop encouraging this bullshit. This ain’t nothing but an example of a female playing coy with a guy pressuring her for sex. Once she said yes, he proceeded. Case closed.
He was my friend. I had no reason to "play coy." Had I wanted it, I would've told him that from the start. Despite this, its crazy how I've already stated that it wasn't rape and you're saying it's all bs. I made a wrong decision by saying yes in the end when I didn't want to. You're completely disregarding the question how do I get over this? Over my mistake. I don't need the unnecessary judgement.
I’m not judging you at all. My statements regarding rape were NOT directed towards you but the users on the forum calling it that. You know you were not raped. You made that very clear. There are some women who don’t know the difference and ALOT of innocent men are locked up in prison because of that. There were way too many people on this forum suggesting that you were.
I read your initial post and some of the commentary after. You come off as a very intelligent young woman who understands you made a poor decision by giving in to the sexual demands of a guy that didn’t have the patience or respect to wait until you were completely ready.
To answer your question, “How do you move on from it?”
Take responsibility for the decision you made (which you already did). Instead of being angry with yourself, change your perspective. It was just an experience that taught you a valuable lesson. You cut all contact from this guy. There should be no gray area. Make it very clear that you are not interested in any dealings with him whatsoever. In the future, when come across guys like this or any hint that he’s an asshole, don’t even give them the time of day.
Who said rape before you did? I said "rapey". Some others said sexual assault. You tanked this girl's thread.
Edit: That came out a little harsh. I mean I think people ended up arguing about how to classify rape instead of trying to help her because of your post. Maybe that's laying too much on you.
I think you are so involved into life of people you don’t know...I am wondering what’s going on with your own life. 🤔click to expand
Posted by SingmealullabyLiar. Are you that hard up and desperate for a man? If you didn’t want him WTF would you agree to go out with him. You even wanted a relationship. This guy was smart for tossing you. You need your head examined.Posted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
I agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.
This is contradictory to your writings. Plus your body language may have told him you were aroused. Men can pick up on these things. You said you enjoyed it but wanted to wait for a relationship. Perhaps you thought if you gave in sexually, it would have lead to something more.
It seems like that’s what you want to hear. We all aren’t the same. Dude tried to pursue me for an entire YEAR. I did not want him. You can definitely make sex good for someone despite them not wanting it. He gave me oral. He kept asking if I was enjoying it. He probably did that to make himself feel better bc he knew I didn’t want it to begin with or in hopes that I’d want to continue to do it & it doesn’t matter what my body language says if my words keep saying no. You’re weird af.click to expand
Posted by CreativeCapHe was a friend. Are we not supposed to hangout bc he’s a guy & im a girl? We didn’t have sex in the car. He got a hotel. He knows I’m not easy. That was literally my second time having sex ever. But you’re going to believe what you want anyway.Posted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
I agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.
This is contradictory to your writings. Plus your body language may have told him you were aroused. Men can pick up on these things. You said you enjoyed it but wanted to wait for a relationship. Perhaps you thought if you gave in sexually, it would have lead to something more.
It seems like that’s what you want to hear. We all aren’t the same. Dude tried to pursue me for an entire YEAR. I did not want him. You can definitely make sex good for someone despite them not wanting it. He gave me oral. He kept asking if I was enjoying it. He probably did that to make himself feel better bc he knew I didn’t want it to begin with or in hopes that I’d want to continue to do it & it doesn’t matter what my body language says if my words keep saying no. You’re weird af.
Liar. Are you that hard up and desperate for a man? If you didn’t want him WTF would you agree to go out with him. You even wanted a relationship. This guy was smart for tossing you. You need your head examined.
Get some standards. Men respect that. never give your pussy to a man in a car the first time you fuck. He’ll just think your an easy hoeclick to expand
Posted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
I agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.
This is contradictory to your writings. Plus your body language may have told him you were aroused. Men can pick up on these things. You said you enjoyed it but wanted to wait for a relationship. Perhaps you thought if you gave in sexually, it would have lead to something more.
It seems like that’s what you want to hear. We all aren’t the same. Dude tried to pursue me for an entire YEAR. I did not want him. You can definitely make sex good for someone despite them not wanting it. He gave me oral. He kept asking if I was enjoying it. He probably did that to make himself feel better bc he knew I didn’t want it to begin with or in hopes that I’d want to continue to do it & it doesn’t matter what my body language says if my words keep saying no. You’re weird af.
Liar. Are you that hard up and desperate for a man? If you didn’t want him WTF would you agree to go out with him. You even wanted a relationship. This guy was smart for tossing you. You need your head examined.
Get some standards. Men respect that. never give your pussy to a man in a car the first time you fuck. He’ll just think your an easy hoeclick to expand
Posted by Phantom_DangusI’ve blocked him. I just hope he doesn’t continue doing this to others.Posted by LibraSupremePosted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCapPosted by SingmealullabyPosted by CreativeCap
Why are people up here saying she was raped? WTF did y’all read what she wrote. She was playing hard to get and finally said yes. She also said in her later posts that she wants him and the sex was good. Rape is a very serious crime, literally marks the offender for life. Not a word to just throw around.
I agree I wasn't raped because I said yes in the end but I was not playing hard to get. I feel like I made it clear to him that I did not want it.
This is contradictory to your writings. Plus your body language may have told him you were aroused. Men can pick up on these things. You said you enjoyed it but wanted to wait for a relationship. Perhaps you thought if you gave in sexually, it would have lead to something more.
It seems like that’s what you want to hear. We all aren’t the same. Dude tried to pursue me for an entire YEAR. I did not want him. You can definitely make sex good for someone despite them not wanting it. He gave me oral. He kept asking if I was enjoying it. He probably did that to make himself feel better bc he knew I didn’t want it to begin with or in hopes that I’d want to continue to do it & it doesn’t matter what my body language says if my words keep saying no. You’re weird af.
Liar. Are you that hard up and desperate for a man? If you didn’t want him WTF would you agree to go out with him. You even wanted a relationship. This guy was smart for tossing you. You need your head examined.
Get some standards. Men respect that. never give your pussy to a man in a car the first time you fuck. He’ll just think your an easy hoe
Nothing but facts here. He knows she's just a phone call away.
@Singmealullaby, do woman kind a favor, and don't let this douche be right.click to expand