A steely glare...
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by pdragon on Friday, December 28, 2007 and has 4 replies.
Hello all,
This is the first time I have posted in the Gemini board so hi! (Waves)
I'm writing because I am in a dilemma as to what I should do, im hoping if might get some Gemini insight.
A new guy has started at our work, a Gemini (don't know his exact birth date sorry) and on his first day I remember saying hello to him when he was introduced to me. As he was being introduced to the next group of people, he kept staring back at me.
At work there are many different areas, he was hired to work in the call centre and I work on the front counter. When he was training in my area, they put him on with someone else but within 15 minutes he found his was over to me and didn't leave my side for the next 4 days. During the time I trained him he seemed fine, friendly and even was even playful and flirting a bit. He would follow me around like a lost puppy, taking his breaks when I did, eating lunch with me and even walking me to the train station.
Well, the next week he started to become distant... not talking to me but I always catch him watching me when he thinks im not looking. I am very good friends with his team leader whom I stop by and talk to on my breaks, this Gemini is always there, he never seems to want to talk but instead he glares at me emotionlessly.
Today was my birthday, my workmates on the counter got together and brought me a bunch of 20 long stem roses (a beautiful gesture). I walked by him after receiving them and said "can you believe they did this, isn't is the nicest thing?!"
Well, he just gave me a sideways glare and gave a faint fake smile?
My question is... should I confront him and ask why he is acting this way toward me? I found him intelligent and enjoyed talking to him whilst I was traingin him, but now it's like he hates me and I have no idea why.
What do you think?
This is the first time I have posted in the Gemini board so hi! (Waves)
I'm writing because I am in a dilemma as to what I should do, im hoping if might get some Gemini insight.
A new guy has started at our work, a Gemini (don't know his exact birth date sorry) and on his first day I remember saying hello to him when he was introduced to me. As he was being introduced to the next group of people, he kept staring back at me.
At work there are many different areas, he was hired to work in the call centre and I work on the front counter. When he was training in my area, they put him on with someone else but within 15 minutes he found his was over to me and didn't leave my side for the next 4 days. During the time I trained him he seemed fine, friendly and even was even playful and flirting a bit. He would follow me around like a lost puppy, taking his breaks when I did, eating lunch with me and even walking me to the train station.
Well, the next week he started to become distant... not talking to me but I always catch him watching me when he thinks im not looking. I am very good friends with his team leader whom I stop by and talk to on my breaks, this Gemini is always there, he never seems to want to talk but instead he glares at me emotionlessly.
Today was my birthday, my workmates on the counter got together and brought me a bunch of 20 long stem roses (a beautiful gesture). I walked by him after receiving them and said "can you believe they did this, isn't is the nicest thing?!"
Well, he just gave me a sideways glare and gave a faint fake smile?
My question is... should I confront him and ask why he is acting this way toward me? I found him intelligent and enjoyed talking to him whilst I was traingin him, but now it's like he hates me and I have no idea why.
What do you think?
Hi emeraldgem,
Thanks for replying to my post and the birthday wish! To be honest I don't actually want to date him, im friends most of my cp-workers that number around 100. All I ever intended was to be his friend, so I just wondering what I may have done to merit his actions.
On the dating co-workers note... there is another guy I worked with whom I had absolutely NO interest in about a year ago... he was VERY intent on dating me and even became jealous of other male co-worker whom I was strictly friends with. He was convinced that I was dating one of these male friends which was untrue and tried get to to stop being friends with them. Then one day he confronted me and demanded to know why I was not attracted to him, I was honest and said I just simple wasn't, that there is no reason, the feeling is either there or it isnt.
I still work with him now, but i refuse to speak to him. Hes so creepy obsessed that a few months ago when i was talking to a friend about a random guy outside of work, he thought i was talking about him. He asked my friend to know why i was talking about him and what my problem was with him. So, i do agree with the work and relationships shouldent mix. =)
When i said confronting, i meant exactly what you have advised, to approach him in a polite way and as you said, leave it at that. All I want is to be his friend, he seemed like he did want to be friends but almost overnight did a 360 on me.
oh i forgot to mention... on the morning on my birthday he even said happy bitrthday to me... so i dont know what to think
Thankyou again for your reply =)
Thanks for replying to my post and the birthday wish! To be honest I don't actually want to date him, im friends most of my cp-workers that number around 100. All I ever intended was to be his friend, so I just wondering what I may have done to merit his actions.
On the dating co-workers note... there is another guy I worked with whom I had absolutely NO interest in about a year ago... he was VERY intent on dating me and even became jealous of other male co-worker whom I was strictly friends with. He was convinced that I was dating one of these male friends which was untrue and tried get to to stop being friends with them. Then one day he confronted me and demanded to know why I was not attracted to him, I was honest and said I just simple wasn't, that there is no reason, the feeling is either there or it isnt.
I still work with him now, but i refuse to speak to him. Hes so creepy obsessed that a few months ago when i was talking to a friend about a random guy outside of work, he thought i was talking about him. He asked my friend to know why i was talking about him and what my problem was with him. So, i do agree with the work and relationships shouldent mix. =)
When i said confronting, i meant exactly what you have advised, to approach him in a polite way and as you said, leave it at that. All I want is to be his friend, he seemed like he did want to be friends but almost overnight did a 360 on me.
oh i forgot to mention... on the morning on my birthday he even said happy bitrthday to me... so i dont know what to think
Thankyou again for your reply =)
It doesn't really sound to me like there is an issue ... he has a right, as we all do, to be friends with whomever we choose.
To be perfectly honest .. for a person to walk up to another and confront them because they chose (which is thier personal right to choose) not to be your friend .... would kind of make you out to be sort of snotty, and upity.
How Dare you not be my friend !!!!
I know that's not how you would approach it .. but, that's how it would appear. He spent time getting to know you, and then decided that he didn't want to be your friend .. that's his choice. And it's apparant that he doesn't want to, for when you sashaied in front of him, murmering about your flowers ... he gave you a sideways glance. This sounds to me as though he's decided that he's not attracted to you for being one of his friends.
To be perfectly honest .. for a person to walk up to another and confront them because they chose (which is thier personal right to choose) not to be your friend .... would kind of make you out to be sort of snotty, and upity.
How Dare you not be my friend !!!!
I know that's not how you would approach it .. but, that's how it would appear. He spent time getting to know you, and then decided that he didn't want to be your friend .. that's his choice. And it's apparant that he doesn't want to, for when you sashaied in front of him, murmering about your flowers ... he gave you a sideways glance. This sounds to me as though he's decided that he's not attracted to you for being one of his friends.
emeraldgem,
I have no idea what I would do about that at this point. If I had to make a choice right now, I would say no. I'm actually very shy by nature and cant bring myself to just go out with guys I meet without getting to know them, I tell you many missed opportunities on my part because of it
.
I spoke to my friend Em today, she works with us too. She told me he doesn't hate me at all but that he is just shy around me. Because you see those flowers I was given, she said he pitched in for them too, along with other people in his area.
Thanks again for your post emeraldgem =) time will tell I guess
I have no idea what I would do about that at this point. If I had to make a choice right now, I would say no. I'm actually very shy by nature and cant bring myself to just go out with guys I meet without getting to know them, I tell you many missed opportunities on my part because of it
.I spoke to my friend Em today, she works with us too. She told me he doesn't hate me at all but that he is just shy around me. Because you see those flowers I was given, she said he pitched in for them too, along with other people in his area.
Thanks again for your post emeraldgem =) time will tell I guess
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