Another Gemini Man Thread

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So there's this gemini (lol) and he's got me all kinda confused (which I see is a trend lol)... Ok so here goes

Gem and I have been friends for a very long time. Like 15+ years... I always knew there was interest, we just were never single at the same time. So nothing more than light and sometimes not so light flirting, which between a leo and gemini could be considered regular conversation lol... So just so happens, we both become single this spring. So we start dating. Very casually as neither one of us are trying to rush.

But then we sleep together. And start spending more time. And more. When we are spending time together he is very affectionate, touchy-feely and jokingly says things like he's gonna kidnap me out of the city so we can go live on a farm together. In the process of spending so much time I learned about some of his business ventures, which are things that I am versed in as well. So we start a business together. Business is less than a month old but already has 3 paying clients and seems to be an early success. Once the business became established and successful, all of the affection stopped. We talked about it and he said that I was too important to him and the business to allow sex to complicate things bc in his experience, sex always makes situations worse. But my whole thing is, we never would have established the business if we werent dating and sleeping together.

I dunno... He told me that as he got to know me more, I went from a cute sexy light skinned chick to a smart and mentally deep beautiful woman. And all of that is fine and dandy, but it seems like he's just tryna push me out of the lover category into the friend zone so he can still utilize me for the business. And that feels like rejection to this leo.

Anybody have any thoughts on this? He is a Gem sun, sag moon and leo rising... I am leo sun, virgo moon and cancer rising.

Thanks
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Posted by Gob_Shite
Gem sun, sag moon is never a good combination for a romantic partner.

On the other hand, he could be using you in more ways than one. Maybe it's time to reassess your relationship with him and decide if the professional side is worth continuing.


Yeah... I crushed hard on a Gem with this placement for a loooong time. He never wanted a relationship and in the 9 years I've known him he never had a gf. Just has his daughter and he's good with that ??‍♀️
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Posted by Moonbutter
Why can't he have a relationship with you and be in business together? That's weird.
I'm thinking its bc he himself will admit that he's never had a "successful" relationship... Been married once and had a bevy of different partners over the years which resulted in 3 kids by 3 women... He's not proud of that at all and i think he doesn't wanna chance the business by potentially including "romance" in our partnership
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Posted by Gob_Shite
Gem sun, sag moon is never a good combination for a romantic partner.

On the other hand, he could be using you in more ways than one. Maybe it's time to reassess your relationship with him and decide if the professional side is worth continuing.


Yeah... I crushed hard on a Gem with this placement for a loooong time. He never wanted a relationship and in the 9 years I've known him he never had a gf. Just has his daughter and he's good with that ??‍♀️

Personally, I think the OP conveniently ignored his dating history. That would have spoken volumes...

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He's been married once and had a bevy of different partners over the years which resulted in 3 kids by 3 women... He's not proud of that but i think he doesn't wanna chance the business by potentially including "romance" in our partnership bc of his failed relationships... he is actively looking for a wife tho. I am coming out of a marriage so I just wanna have fun. All the business stuff was completely unexpected, so IN feel like it ruined my fun 😢 lol
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Posted by Gob_Shite
Gem sun, sag moon is never a good combination for a romantic partner.

On the other hand, he could be using you in more ways than one. Maybe it's time to reassess your relationship with him and decide if the professional side is worth continuing.


Yeah... I crushed hard on a Gem with this placement for a loooong time. He never wanted a relationship and in the 9 years I've known him he never had a gf. Just has his daughter and he's good with that ??‍♀️
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Gosh.... seems like Gems get a bad wrap all across the board... This guy wants a wife sooooooo bad. I could see myself with him but just coming out of a marriage, i'm not tryna rush into another marriage
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Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by Gob_Shite
Gem sun, sag moon is never a good combination for a romantic partner.

On the other hand, he could be using you in more ways than one. Maybe it's time to reassess your relationship with him and decide if the professional side is worth continuing.


Yeah... I crushed hard on a Gem with this placement for a loooong time. He never wanted a relationship and in the 9 years I've known him he never had a gf. Just has his daughter and he's good with that ??‍♀️

Personally, I think the OP conveniently ignored his dating history. That would have spoken volumes...


He's been married once and had a bevy of different partners over the years which resulted in 3 kids by 3 women... He's not proud of that but i think he doesn't wanna chance the business by potentially including "romance" in our partnership bc of his failed relationships... he is actively looking for a wife tho. I am coming out of a marriage so I just wanna have fun. All the business stuff was completely unexpected, so IN feel like it ruined my fun 😢 lol



But, on both counts, you knew what you were getting yourself into, which I already deducted...

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Right. I thought I would be hooking up and having fun with a typical Gem male... I heard they're the best fwb.... But now I cant even get any bc of the freakin business. Makes me wish I never woulda started it.... at least I wouldnt be sexually frustrated rn
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Posted by Gob_Shite
Gem sun, sag moon is never a good combination for a romantic partner.

On the other hand, he could be using you in more ways than one. Maybe it's time to reassess your relationship with him and decide if the professional side is worth continuing.


Yeah... I crushed hard on a Gem with this placement for a loooong time. He never wanted a relationship and in the 9 years I've known him he never had a gf. Just has his daughter and he's good with that ??‍♀️
Gosh.... seems like Gems get a bad wrap all across the board... This guy wants a wife sooooooo bad. I could see myself with him but just coming out of a marriage, i'm not tryna rush into another marriage
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are you saying the Gem u with now wants to marry you?
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Posted by Gob_Shite
Gem sun, sag moon is never a good combination for a romantic partner.

On the other hand, he could be using you in more ways than one. Maybe it's time to reassess your relationship with him and decide if the professional side is worth continuing.


Yeah... I crushed hard on a Gem with this placement for a loooong time. He never wanted a relationship and in the 9 years I've known him he never had a gf. Just has his daughter and he's good with that ??‍♀️
Gosh.... seems like Gems get a bad wrap all across the board... This guy wants a wife sooooooo bad. I could see myself with him but just coming out of a marriage, i'm not tryna rush into another marriage
are you saying the Gem u with now wants to marry you?
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I'm not sure if he wants to marry me... But he does want to get married asap and is always saying that he's "dating to marry"
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Posted by Gob_Shite
Gem sun, sag moon is never a good combination for a romantic partner.

On the other hand, he could be using you in more ways than one. Maybe it's time to reassess your relationship with him and decide if the professional side is worth continuing.


Yeah... I crushed hard on a Gem with this placement for a loooong time. He never wanted a relationship and in the 9 years I've known him he never had a gf. Just has his daughter and he's good with that ??‍♀️
Gosh.... seems like Gems get a bad wrap all across the board... This guy wants a wife sooooooo bad. I could see myself with him but just coming out of a marriage, i'm not tryna rush into another marriage
are you saying the Gem u with now wants to marry you?
I'm not sure if he wants to marry me... But he does want to get married asap and is always saying that he's "dating to marry"
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He sounds pretty unstable
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I am also a Gemini Sun, Sagittarius moon, and Leo Rising. I'm a Gemini Venus to boot, but I am female. I thought hard on this one. I thought why would I do something like this?The only thing that I came up with is that his logic finally caught up with his fantasy. You are his fantasy. You can't be real. If you are real, something eventually is going to destroy this fantasy. I know it sounds like torture. But if things are all the way up, can they stay all the way up forever? If he's thinking like me then that's probably a no. Remember he got that Sagittarius moon which is the most idealistic and philosophical. He can't have you the way that he wants to have you in the real world. So if you can't have you the way he wants you, might as well not have you at all... before it gets too deep. To the point of no return. IDK I'm just spewing out my thoughts in a voice to text.

You are absolutely correct he wants to wife you. Moving to a place where nobody can interrupt you guys, that's definitely him saying that he wants to wife you. However, he's trying not to because he fears that everything will go wrong. You're right he's trying to cut off his feelings for you.

He's a Sagittarius at heart and usually when they make up their mind to cut somebody off they do it. Which brings me to say, sadly (not trying to be a pessimis, but I don't know if there's any way that you can fix it. Maybe if you push away from him completely and act like he was just the thing before he gets the chance to do it to you (because sagittarians are the Chasers)?

Childish to say, but if a guy that I cared about did that to me I'd be like damn baby what did I do? Lolol