I have recently met a gemini guy and finally we went on our first date this weekend. He kept talking how he thinks I am very attractive (not trying to be full of myself) and how he wants to take me off the market. When we talked on the phone, he said that he can tell if he's going to want to pursue something with me. We had great conversations, almost like I've known him for awhile. We joked around a lot and flirted and a lot of kissing (which he initiated). He called me the same night on the way home (to say "hello" calling me babe), but I missed his call cuz I was getting ready to hang out with the girls. I called him right back, but no answer. no big deal. I called him the next day to see if things are normal and also cuz we had an indefinite plan to go out that day he made me promise to go go, no answer. Finally the 2nd day I contacted him, I was getting a feeling that he's going to ditch me, so I just emailed him n told him to let me know if things are working out and if not, to let me know n I will back off. I haven't heard from him and it's been the 3rd day since our date. He said wouldn't have kissed me if he wasn't interested. he said, "this is going to be an interesting relationship" when I made a funny comment. He said he doesn't play games. Are these statements true or lines? Is this normal? Am I getting stood up? Is he just busy? I am confused.
Are geminis just a bunch of sweet talkers?
Just go for man that's wuzz up know what I'm talkin' about. Take a look at the Bends babes Scorpio just like Capricorn can get along just fine with Gemini no problem gotta work it out. 50/50 deal Scorpio woman against Scorpio woman can get along otherwise ............... just becoz its a trine a Scorpio woman has about a 50% chance not gettin' along with another Scorpio its an astrology quirk scorpio woman Gemini man can work out just fine the other way around I don't know when its the Scorpio with Gemini woman. Its about "service and devotion" Scorpio and Capricorn should ordinarily serve Gemini becoz stereotypically Gemini has very little of this conversely Gemini is attracted to Scorpio and Capricorn - with Gemini these combinations should work its just that most of the "service and devotion" might be 'one sided' so to speak.
Its a two way street you wouldn't think that Geminis are the most attractive and sexual creatures on the zodiac block but to a Capricorn or Scorpio woman a Gemini man could nothing but be incredible irresistable - its quirky its an astrological quirk.
Its a two way street you wouldn't think that Geminis are the most attractive and sexual creatures on the zodiac block but to a Capricorn or Scorpio woman a Gemini man could nothing but be incredible irresistable - its quirky its an astrological quirk.

MarKella
You made good valid points....when I met my gem man I did not get all the sweet talks...I got "If everything goes well and there is no drama, I am going to move you in and then marry you"...that blew my mind...I never called never chased, he called every morning and for about a month then it stop and went to 2-3 days that I would not hear from him so I never called until he calls me, and then I would get "you can't call a brother" hahahah Know I get returns calls back when I call which is only about once or twice a day...he continues to call me if I don't answer my phone even when he left me a message that says "So you not answering your phone know" I get who's over there?, what you doing, And the most recent was "I missed you" Gotta loves gems if you know how to play the game. 🙂 and of course I had help along the way
You made good valid points....when I met my gem man I did not get all the sweet talks...I got "If everything goes well and there is no drama, I am going to move you in and then marry you"...that blew my mind...I never called never chased, he called every morning and for about a month then it stop and went to 2-3 days that I would not hear from him so I never called until he calls me, and then I would get "you can't call a brother" hahahah Know I get returns calls back when I call which is only about once or twice a day...he continues to call me if I don't answer my phone even when he left me a message that says "So you not answering your phone know" I get who's over there?, what you doing, And the most recent was "I missed you" Gotta loves gems if you know how to play the game. 🙂 and of course I had help along the way
Thanks for the feedback everyone. They were all very helpful, especially Markella's...harsh, but true. Well I lost this game so I'm going to just move on from this guy. I haven't contacted him and I'm not going to hope to get a call from him either. Game over :-/
dear Scorpionlady, do you mind if you tell me how your relationship with your gem guy evolved? i have met a gem guy 10 days ago, we met once a lot of chemistry which i was very surprised by and then somehow i got busy and just started missing his calls and not replying to his messages, he said that he is considering looking for a place closer to me so i can go and visit and stay for as much as i wanted, and very sweet&romantic things, we didn't have sex yet, i find it very difficult to trust smeone at the moment (previous wounds) so i was a bit afraid to give him to much notice/attention, he kept on calling every day, sending messages (he always calls late-i guess he wants to make sure that i am alone), today he said that he feels like he has become like a pest and i explained that he shouldn't and that i appreciate him chasing me-which he should do and that i have been busy (apologied)......there is one thing that i am afraid of and that is the tendency of gemini guys to lie!!!!
what do you think? your input is much appreciated
what do you think? your input is much appreciated
Capris, i strongly believe he may come around and call you. He probably got turned off now but i think he may come around and contact you. The problem is you may be waiting for weeks. I suggest you try meeting other guys and when the gem warms up to the idea of exploring things with you, then you'll decide what to do.
My advice to you is,
i run when someone comes on too strong in the beginning. It's always good to let a few days go by (for a cooling of session)after an amazing date. When i don't hear from or see the person for a few days to a week i get more curious and interested.
I like my independence and it scares me when it seems the person wants a lot of attention at the beginning of the relationship.
Next time it's wise just to send a text saying "goodnight" or "Thinking of you!" but remember not to send more than one text unless he responds.
But for now i'm sorry you'll have to play the waiting game or try to move on. I'm sorry this happend to you.
My advice to you is,
i run when someone comes on too strong in the beginning. It's always good to let a few days go by (for a cooling of session)after an amazing date. When i don't hear from or see the person for a few days to a week i get more curious and interested.
I like my independence and it scares me when it seems the person wants a lot of attention at the beginning of the relationship.
Next time it's wise just to send a text saying "goodnight" or "Thinking of you!" but remember not to send more than one text unless he responds.
But for now i'm sorry you'll have to play the waiting game or try to move on. I'm sorry this happend to you.
Scopio978, it's interesting because i met a scopio guy and he gives me butterfles in the stomach ( i usually don't get this feeling over men.)
i also call my scopio late at night because that is when i'm relaxed from a long day and it's nice to hear the voice of someone you like before bed. I don't think he calls late to check if you're alone.
i also call my scopio late at night because that is when i'm relaxed from a long day and it's nice to hear the voice of someone you like before bed. I don't think he calls late to check if you're alone.
thank you MarKella, i appreciate your points, very helful indeed. this is a totally new experience for me never dated a gemini beofore. oh, yes, we know that all men lie.
we only met once and chatted a few times, it is amazing he can "read" me so easily!!!i told him that i want to take things easy when he said that he is looking for a serious relationship(someone to plan his life with), and he said that he can wait for as long as it takes, he just doesn't want to loose me, "i cannot aford to loose you".....i really don't undersatnd how can you be so upfront and open with someone that you have just met!!!!
sweet gem, thanks for your message too, it put a nice smile on my face!!!i hope it works out for the best with your scorp man...
we only met once and chatted a few times, it is amazing he can "read" me so easily!!!i told him that i want to take things easy when he said that he is looking for a serious relationship(someone to plan his life with), and he said that he can wait for as long as it takes, he just doesn't want to loose me, "i cannot aford to loose you".....i really don't undersatnd how can you be so upfront and open with someone that you have just met!!!!
sweet gem, thanks for your message too, it put a nice smile on my face!!!i hope it works out for the best with your scorp man...

Scorpio978
dear Scorpionlady, do you mind if you tell me how your relationship with your gem guy evolved?
I sent you a Private Message, not ready to put it out there yet, don't need a lot of opinions right know still working on relationship.
dear Scorpionlady, do you mind if you tell me how your relationship with your gem guy evolved?
I sent you a Private Message, not ready to put it out there yet, don't need a lot of opinions right know still working on relationship.

Markella
Remember:until he is in love with you DO NOT tell him you are after any sort of commitment.
It will scare him away. Let HIM ask you
Well I have to beg the differ on that....
I mentioned to my Gem "Are we in a relationship" and all he did was laugh really hard and said "No we are working towards one" and told me I was a trip it was a good laugh, and he is still around.
So I guess it depends on how you say it and how far in the friendship you are I was about a month in a half.
Remember:until he is in love with you DO NOT tell him you are after any sort of commitment.
It will scare him away. Let HIM ask you
Well I have to beg the differ on that....
I mentioned to my Gem "Are we in a relationship" and all he did was laugh really hard and said "No we are working towards one" and told me I was a trip it was a good laugh, and he is still around.
So I guess it depends on how you say it and how far in the friendship you are I was about a month in a half.
Hang on! I can't speak for ScorpioLady's Gemini man, but I am a classic Gemini (Sun/Moon/Venus/Merc) and I tend to laugh reflexively at most serious matters, but this doesn't often reflect what's going on inside. It's a protective mechanism; I suddenly appear lighthearted whereas my Scorp in a serious situation starts to shut down and won't even look at me. I have learned that people think I'm laughing at them or not taking a situation seriously, but my innocent/lighthearted demeanor overlays a very very serious person-I suppose it's that weird Twin bit. I can actually feel both at the same time.
yes InntJnky, that is very true, my bst friend(girl) is a gemini and she laughs at serious things but she sees the matter from A-Z putting everything into perspective where i only look at the state of the matter.
i think that a man in general would not stay in a relationship for that long (scorpionlady's situation) just for sex, i honestly believe that once a gemini found the soul mate/best friend in a partner there is no more "shopping around".
my gemini guy seems very serious when he tells me that he doesn't want to take things that slow because he knows there are a lot of guys that like me and he doesn't want to waste time, he talks to me about how he will treat me he even said that no matter what i do he will not brake up with me not even if i cheat, he will make me feel guilty but i will still be his!!!!(i am a bit scared/afraid, as i am not sure if he means what he says or not). this is new to me and i am so curious to see if other ladies or guys in here have been in this situation....thank you
i think that a man in general would not stay in a relationship for that long (scorpionlady's situation) just for sex, i honestly believe that once a gemini found the soul mate/best friend in a partner there is no more "shopping around".
my gemini guy seems very serious when he tells me that he doesn't want to take things that slow because he knows there are a lot of guys that like me and he doesn't want to waste time, he talks to me about how he will treat me he even said that no matter what i do he will not brake up with me not even if i cheat, he will make me feel guilty but i will still be his!!!!(i am a bit scared/afraid, as i am not sure if he means what he says or not). this is new to me and i am so curious to see if other ladies or guys in here have been in this situation....thank you

Markella,
Your comment is not worth commenting on. LOL
Scorp978,
Because this is knew to you, don't put your business out on these boards to much because you have people that will say negative shit based on there experience, and bitterness, and because someone else is a gemini does not mean they have all the right answers to your situation that they don't know the full details and commenting totally based on what they believe it to be...you are a scropio use you scorpio instints, be honest with yourself and him and you will be fine.
InntJnky,
You are right, I know what I have and I know it is good, and based on what you said let's me know even more clearly that all Gems personality are not fully the same people grow up change and evolve and realize the games no longer seem relevant.
Your comment is not worth commenting on. LOL
Scorp978,
Because this is knew to you, don't put your business out on these boards to much because you have people that will say negative shit based on there experience, and bitterness, and because someone else is a gemini does not mean they have all the right answers to your situation that they don't know the full details and commenting totally based on what they believe it to be...you are a scropio use you scorpio instints, be honest with yourself and him and you will be fine.
InntJnky,
You are right, I know what I have and I know it is good, and based on what you said let's me know even more clearly that all Gems personality are not fully the same people grow up change and evolve and realize the games no longer seem relevant.
yes Scorpionlady, thank you very much. i know exactly what you mean but to be honest i can tell who are the people that have been hurt and didn't learn a lesson and i know whose advice to take and whose not to.....i have been hurt by a cancer guy but i learnt a lot from it and i will never generalize or criticize based on personal experience. at the moment i am doing my research on line on gemini men and it is nice to listen to similar situations/experience. it is very nice when people try to help you and share things that you can learn from.i am seeing my gemini guy again tomorrow, he wants to introduce me to his family soon and his friends, he is so sweet..........
ok guys, what do u think of this...
I just had a gut feeling that the GEM guy was avoiding me. It has been a week and I couldn't helpt it anymore, but I need my validation that he was. So I called him and I can tell he ended his call so I text'd and I told him, "at least tell me why you are avoiding me. Text me if you are afraid to talk to me." So he text'd me, he said,"I just did punk." I was so offended by this so I called him an A-HOLe and threw my phone in my purse and didn't look at it again after 1 hour later. I saw 2 msgs when i opened my phone again, ONe said, No...I am with a client and out of town, which I think was no excuse to not be able to call me back "now i don't want to talk to you" Either way... he was BSing!!! He didn't respond to any of my messages up until now? He said he wasn't avoiding me...how true was that?? It's so obvious that he was bs-ing, he didn't even call or text to ask me why i flipped out...AM i right?? HE is bs-ing right—
ugh men!
I just had a gut feeling that the GEM guy was avoiding me. It has been a week and I couldn't helpt it anymore, but I need my validation that he was. So I called him and I can tell he ended his call so I text'd and I told him, "at least tell me why you are avoiding me. Text me if you are afraid to talk to me." So he text'd me, he said,"I just did punk." I was so offended by this so I called him an A-HOLe and threw my phone in my purse and didn't look at it again after 1 hour later. I saw 2 msgs when i opened my phone again, ONe said, No...I am with a client and out of town, which I think was no excuse to not be able to call me back "now i don't want to talk to you" Either way... he was BSing!!! He didn't respond to any of my messages up until now? He said he wasn't avoiding me...how true was that?? It's so obvious that he was bs-ing, he didn't even call or text to ask me why i flipped out...AM i right?? HE is bs-ing right—
ugh men!
well either way, I don't want anything with this guy anymore. I told him, "then don't talk to me, I just wanted to know what is up (with us) and u can't even give me that. BYE!" and that was it. I cried a little cuz i was so upset, but I feel better that I was able to tell him that.
Capris-Maybe he didn't respond to your messages because he was truly out of town. I usually don't tend to speak to people when i'm out of town. why? Incase they say "do you want to hangout?" I feel bad for letting them down. Another reason is when i'm away i like to detach myself from the city i live in. It's a nice break from the daily grind, so maybe he just needed space.
Capris - This goes for men, and not just Gemini's, a man makes time for what he wants. So spend your time wondering why he does or doesn't call, just say you're not priority and keep moving. Don't make him a priority when he's treating you like an option.
And from my experience with a Gemini, you have to take most of what they SAY with a grain of salt. My motto is only truly believe what they DO. So if you get involved with another on and he says a whole lot, then let him show you equally as much. They are prone to being finicky and will feel one thing one day and another the next. If you can deal with that, then go right ahead (I think the only reason I could - I am a pisces- is because my moon is in Gemini. So I am equally as prone to the love one day, hate the next).
And from my experience with a Gemini, you have to take most of what they SAY with a grain of salt. My motto is only truly believe what they DO. So if you get involved with another on and he says a whole lot, then let him show you equally as much. They are prone to being finicky and will feel one thing one day and another the next. If you can deal with that, then go right ahead (I think the only reason I could - I am a pisces- is because my moon is in Gemini. So I am equally as prone to the love one day, hate the next).
I hate to say this, but if a person is not a main interest, but just a friend, I will not reply right away. The only ones who get my undivided Airy attentions are the ones I deeply , deeply love. And like in all matters of life, who loves you is not really for you to control, as much as we'd like to....
yah...I'm over it. It was crystal clear he was BS-ing. I don't even care if he responds.
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