Aries/Taurus female + Gemini male= Sex advice?

Every time I'm turned on he's moody or not in the mood so I stopped initiating since I don't take to rejection well. Now he's demanding that I initiate and "experiment, let go, go crazy, there's no judgement, go fast" which I can do I just instantly turn off when someone tells me what to do because I come into him all the time and he laughs it off. How come every time he gets a boner I'm supposed to instantly be ready to go?! He says he doesn't like slow sex....well a 30 second quicke just doesn't do it for me especially since 9 times out of 10 when he cums he doesn't finish me off he's just done. What is it they say about what Geminis say after sex: "where's the remote?" That's so true! He buys me nice things and really spoils me material wise beyond anything I ever expected which I don't expect I provide for myself it's my nature and in fact I usually fight every thoughtful purchase he makes for me saying I appreciate it, but don't need it. He has a better argument for keeping it though and I give in and then tell him thank you for putting up with my stubborn ass. Ultimately he can be the sweetest guy....wrote me a heartfelt card more open and romantic than anyone I've ever been with, but how in the world can we meet halfway in the bedroom?! He instantly turns me off with the off the wall stuff he says that either a joke or so out there I laugh realizing he's not kidding. Then I'm turned off when he demands I "go crazy" or "just grab him at random and go at it" because I remember being rejected by him when my spontaneous Aries used to come onto him. When I'm turned on he's never in the mood and that's okay.....but when he's in the mood he makes me feel so uncomfortable when I say no in return he won't take no for an answer without me literally getting up and walking away and even then he's called me or texted me pics playfully demanding I come back. He's vulgar at random too...I'm part Taurus I need foreplay, flirt with me without it always being sexual....help! I need sex advice!

Well Gemini are too complicated to understand . As I'm a Gemini I'll tell you some facts :
- Gemini hates being put in a frame which means They don't like " Oh I'm horney let's have some sex " It has to start randomly like a little foreplay , Gemini seeks emotional sex like soft words , sweet touches than it will lead you to the wild side with him . Once I invited my BF which he is pisces and we agreed before that we are going to have sex that . When he landed over I have already changed my mind I was like no please . I don' like random stuff , Gemini seeks exciting things but eventually I changed my mind due to my pisces partner clingy demands . Gemini likes foreplay so You have to learn when to say no . Tease him as much as you can and he will be begging you for sex not directly to to our buffed ego / pride but through his eyes you'll understand that he is dying to have it . Just don't be an easy girl . And as for sex it's a normal thing that he tends to finish fast 😆 We do things so quickly . You have to get his intention more like expending the kissing touching phase and delay the actual sex . So you'll feel satisfied later with him and Be brave and tell him to finish you off cuz sex it's for two sides not one . Just Say it straightly . Just don't be shy or you'll the one who will skip a lot of fun while being with a Gemini . Don't loose your patience though . I hope my talking makes a sence 😆 Im a Gemini oops 😆

That does help he's just in such a rush that I don't get anything out of it and when I'm like "let's do that again and this time finish me off" he's like "I promise I will I'm going to do this and that to you" he then gets up and is this ADHD person and changes the subject with zero intention to have sex with me again....so I'm over here with blue ovaries all the time like ...WTF.....even when I'm wild and crazy and unpredictable the guy is all "that was so sexy, you are so talented with your tongue" blah blah and then just goes about his day....recently he's "sort of" done foreplay but it's so rushed I feel like he's attacking my face and my vagina. It's not even enjoyable because I know he's rushing. Whereas I go fast, slow, fast......he just goes one pace and that's let's get to the finish line as quickly as possible....if he were a runner he would be a sprinter whereas I was always good at 2400s. I really am trying to get motivated to have sex with him because I feel rejected or like a one night stand in that moment. He couldn't get up from that bed quick enough...then it's immediate shower. But he's affectionate with a slap on the ass and a kiss on the cheek....and then wants to splurge on me all the time and does nice things for me and my family....so I'm afraid to get mad....but it's like WTF buddy ...my Taurus side is like wanting to scream at him saying "put a quarter in my ass and ride me like a mechanical bull why don't ya?! You might as well!"

Like how do I not be easy with my fianc? without completely rejecting him? I don't like being rejected so I wouldn't want to completely reject him...I've done that one time with him and he was a complete asshole to me for almost the entire day one on one. He was still nice to my family etc and put on a nice face, but was as cold as ice to me. I said "ya know how you feel right now....you do that to me all the time...I don't like rejecting you I don't feel better at all for doing so...but maybe you'll know what it feels like now" to that he just completely ignored me and then woke up the next day as the other twin as sweet as pie as if he hadn't a care in the world. It's a bit exhausting! Lol I have gemini girlfriends and have very deep friendships with them, but what is with the men?! They flake and don't even realize they are like that! Ughhhh. Yeah I kind of become the hulk when I get this irritated and I'm not the simplest person to understand, but it's like I'm a walking horny woman 24/7 like Jesus can I get an orgasm for more than two seconds?! End rant!

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I'm a bit confused about how he gets his way every time. Are you just letting him do "whatever" because you're shy to speak up during sex? I think you should take command during sex and lead him the way you want things to go. You can do it in a flirty, nonoffensive way. I've literally pushed guys off of me when it seemed they were going to finish without me. Everyone knows it's "ladies first".

Ya I mean I guess I'm just not used to telling the person I'm with no because I've never had this issue before with anyone else...but everything else in our relationship from a practical and mental standpoint is thriving it's just our sex life that to me just is lacking! So do I push him off of me and not finish him off and let him land where he does if I don't go? Or? I mean I've definitely brought this to his attention quite a few times, but he seems to think my time is a race......that and it's just not personal enough for me. I want to feel like I'm making love not being screwed. Sure quickies are fun and can be exciting in the right setting, but he doesn't seem to respect that I will not have sex if I hear my family members closeby. I know it makes it difficult since we live temporarily with my family....but I can't possibly get into it and be kinky when I hear my 13 year old sister two rooms away and walking by our room. He just pushes me though to especially have sex when I'm most uncomfortable it's like a challenge to him...it's like the chance of getting caught is hot to him. I find it a complete turn off because I just think there's a time and place for things. Being spontaneous is fun we used to romp in the back seat of my explorer at random spots for goodness sakes...but now that's like below him. I've brought it up and even tried to turn it on since I know Geminis don't like plans it takes away the thrill for them...but I'm shot down. I lock our door for obvious reasons, but still I can't get into it hearing my family walking by my room. It's a rare occasion that they even do walk by since they live mostly on the bottom floor...but it's like the instant they are up here he gets a hard on and wants me to quote "shut them out of my mind and just go to town". By then I just stare at him not even knowing how to respond....for like 45 minutes he's like begging me...by then I do quietly just to shut him the hell up.

We've been together almost three years now and are engaged. On every other level he's great like more than I even imagined in a partner it's just the sex that is.....different. I read up that Gemini need background noises during sex...Idk I'm just trying to be considerate and figure out a compromise that would suit both our personalities...

OMG this is me right here!! Not sure where your lies, but I'm an Aries Sun, Taurus Venus and my fiancee (he actually got down on one knee Sunday!! **super cheesy face**) is a Gemini Sun, Cancer Venus, and for me, that was just a must! He had every opportunity to leave if he wasn't up for the task, but I let him know in the door once we did start having sex that I couldn't not get head, pardon my terminology. Don't mind at all pleasing him, and it has to go both ways. You just have to let him know becuz Lust is right, this is the rest of ur life and u have to be sexually satisfied or it won't be fun, at all. Aries' people love sex, but we'd do??just about anything for GREAT, FULFILLING SEX! In my world, I can't be with someone who can't or won't satisfy me. No offense to you or ur relationship, but I just can't imagine my lifetime partner not pleasing me and I'm doing it for him.

He goes down on me, but again it's rushed and uncomfortable for me because I don't want to be screwed by my fianc?. I want to make love....I want passionate, sensual, long sex .....and it's like just cuz he goes quickly he feels the need to rush....and then because he feels so bad that he goes quickly he's immediately turned off...I agree with both of you. Something has GOT to give.

What is his/your mars signs?

Hmmm...it's weird, but I had a Gemini man who also liked to get away with sex in front of people. I mean stuff like doing it in a hotel room where another couple was asleep (?) on the other bed. I hated that sort of thing!

Whimsy- you are so dead on! He will randomly at the kitchen table sneak a grab of my clit! I'm like "how does no one see this?!" Especially out at a restaurant with friends or family he has to do it at least once if not more than that! Then at home if I'm walking up the stairs in front of him and there are people especially my parents that can see us he will sneak in his band he calls it "card swiping" my vagina or butt crack! He doesn't flinch! Sometimes it makes me giggle inside because is affirmation that he's looking at me and wants to touch me, but other times he comes so close to people seeing us that I feel disrespected. He will do this if I'm being prim and proper with important people or being serious in a conversation with others about complex topics. It's like he's turned on by the debate I'm having, almost getting caught, and also he gets his rocks off to making me react to things. He shows no signs of even doing anything...he tries to catch me off guard so that I look flustered!

Sunshine daze -not sure what his mars is. I had a full report done on both of us a while back although it was never explained what it meant. Let me see here ....his is Pisces and mine is Aquarius.

His rising: 3 degree Libra
My rising: 16 degree Scorpio

His sun: 21 degree Gemini
My sun: 1 degree Taurus (4/20 9 pm Houston, TX) (Aries/Taurus)

His moon: 2 degree Gemini
My moon: 28 degree Gemini

His Venus: 22 degree Gemini
My Venus: 15 degree Gemini

His Mars: 13 degree Pisces
My Mars: 9 degree Aquarius

His Jupiter: 22 degree Taurus
My Jupiter: 09 degree Taurus

His Saturn: 29 degree Sag
My Saturn: 2 degree Capricorn

His Uranus: 29 degree Sag
My Uranus: 00 degree Capricorn

His Neptune: 9 degree Capricorn
My Neptune: 10 degree Capricorn

His Pluto: 10 degree Scorpio
My Pluto: 11 degree Scorpio

His node: 18 degree Pisces
My node: 22 degree Pisces

( it's like we are competing over degrees on most of these! How funny!)

Wow...this sounds tough.

I actually have mars and venus in the same signs as your fiance. Sometimes it can be a bit of a struggle between these two signs. The ADHD venus in gemini and the sensual soulful mars in pisces.

Its funny really because everything that i have read about mars in pisces and also what i feel i am like seems to be very different to how he is acting. On the other hand having venus in gemini kind of makes sense in relation to some of the things you mentioned. I can actually think of times when i have acted a little like him. I think it help if i can really connect to that mars in pisces energy, if the other person can actually make me detach from reality and enter a fantasy world i will be very giving and will be happy to take my time and go on forever.

I notice you have mars in aqua. My previous partner had this placement. I found that having sex with him was always that. Sex. Never making love. I think maybe because we were too much in the real world. There wasn't that fantasy angle. That higher spiritual aspect to the union.

Maybe you could start researching with him about tantra and other forms of sexuality. You could maybe give him a massage to start to relax and calm him down, start with his head then arms then back of the neck, back etc, whole body. Then start kissing his whole body, his back and legs etc. work up to a bj. Give him ideas of how to treat you by demonstrating on him first. Also it helps to create a whole mood when seducing. Spontaneous and romantic sexy will get my mind racing.but more importantly it will make my body heat up. Slow dance with him, light candles, go skinning dipping in the moonlight. Put on music. Its all about the whole situation.

Maybe when he is inside you ask him to stop moving. Just look into his eyes and then kiss him passionately. I love being in the lotus position because it allows for so much connectedness and you can't really jack hammer move. Its more like rocking to orgasm.

Maybe next time you are in bed. Roll over and ask him to give you a back massage, when his is there ask him to massage your bum cheeks. Start giving him ideas of how to worship your body. Make sure when you start that its not sexual because it will take longer for him to get there and hopefully he wont just attack you vagina and face. Just start educating him a little about what you like but do it in a way that he wont really realise. Subtle. Mars in pisces is supposed to be very much into maki

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Mars in pisces is supposed to be very much into making love with your entire soul. Merging with the other person, exploring all their depths in different ways, giving them pleasure. While i fully connect to all of that sometimes it can make me a bit passive in bed because i am so busy feeling that i forget that the other person isn't feeling the same things. LOL... i have gotten a lot better with this. But if the atmosphere isnt there then i will just feel disconnected and kind of cold.

This is actually a really interesting video (having venus in gemini you may find this relates to him)

sunshine daze- I saw both videos and have Read your response several times. Some of what you said adds up I feel like things are too real. Last night I tried the massage thing which as usual he doesn't like being touched that way and he felt it was annoying by the impression I got from him. I then went to sleep. I waited until he was asleep and like he had mentioned he likes many times I went for it. I grabbed him and "went crazy" and "experimented on him" during the BJ ....he would not kiss me first I tried..and I tried warming him up up and down his neck, ears, face....affection was one sided..so I just went for it...afterwards he laid there patted me on the ass and almost went to sleep didn't say anything....it was the ultimate rejection. I even said "gah I'm so turned on right now by you...." I even put his hand on my inner thigh....nothing. I laid there honestly wanting to cry....20 minutes passed he was awake, but there was nothing. I turned away and honestly tears ran down my face. It was worse than any one night stand because When an Aries is single we make the rules. We aren't submissive. We are only submissive in love and that takes a long time to trust to be that vulnerable. This was very hurtful and definitely not the first time this has happened. He felt I was upset and grabbed me and held me. He wouldn't let me alone, and then I finally caved and he ran his hands up and down my body....no sex....just ran his hands up and down me. It was really intimate, but again I feel like I go out of my way to do things to stimulate him....like I go online all the time example here, YouTube, sex therapy websites....and I keep getting rejected. I'll keep studying hoping for resolution.

Question: Is it Venus or Mars that is in relation to sex? Isn't Venus love? I'm trying to understand so I know which video applies to me as well. As an Aries Taurus I don't act until I have a well thought out plan to execute. It helps if I gather as much info as possible.

Sounds like sexually you are not compatible and seriously it sounds like no girl would be compatible with him, he sounds absolutely shit in bed and I wonder why you think you deserve him. I can never understand a girl that limits themselves to a man who cannot make LOVE to them, the kind of love a woman needs is the sensual soul stirring, burning desire and release that takes you to another dimension. If neither of you feel like this then it is time to find another sexual partner that can make you feel like that and you make him feel like that. Seriously women, stop selling yourself short, sex is for hookers and porn stars, you need to be making LOVE, it is far more satisfying, and it can be a quicky and be just as amorous if it's LOVE.