Confusing Gemini guy
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Lakme on Tuesday, April 9, 2013 and has 5 replies.
I've been in some sort of online relationship with a Gemini guy for over a year (I'm a Capricorn), even though we both have "unfinished business" in our currently relationships (I'm separated). We started off as friends only until meeting up in person when I was in Europe last year, when we realized our connection was deeper than we thought. Actually he confessed to be in love with me and it was mutual.
Anyways, it was awesome, we really clicked and things continued amazing for 2-3 more months after I've came back to my country. Then he changed jobs and things started to be weird as he started having less time to spend with me, even though we still chat almost daily. He blames the work, but I do think he just doesn't want to tell me things got well between his girlfriend and him after all.
Having a Gemini rising sign myself, I'm not a typical Capricorn so I'm less closed and more straight forward, but whenever I try to get some answers from him he just gets angry and closes himself into his shell.
He knows how I feel and that I'm invested in us and would even move to his country to be with him, but he already said once he doesn't see us together in a near future. Or any future. Although he also says all the time that he doesn't want me to leave him. For me it sounds he wants the cake and eat it too, as he has a gf and me as an option.
He also says we're much more than just friends and we have much more than just friendship, but that even if we ever go separate ways he would like to keep our friendship cause we get along great (and we really do!). Then he sorta plays hot and cold and I don't really know what he wants, if it's being friends or being more, so I ask and he kind of freaks out.
So I really would like some insight of what should I do, or how should I talk to him to get the answers I need without getting him angry or hiding under his rock cause I really love him.
Anyways, it was awesome, we really clicked and things continued amazing for 2-3 more months after I've came back to my country. Then he changed jobs and things started to be weird as he started having less time to spend with me, even though we still chat almost daily. He blames the work, but I do think he just doesn't want to tell me things got well between his girlfriend and him after all.
Having a Gemini rising sign myself, I'm not a typical Capricorn so I'm less closed and more straight forward, but whenever I try to get some answers from him he just gets angry and closes himself into his shell.
He knows how I feel and that I'm invested in us and would even move to his country to be with him, but he already said once he doesn't see us together in a near future. Or any future. Although he also says all the time that he doesn't want me to leave him. For me it sounds he wants the cake and eat it too, as he has a gf and me as an option.
He also says we're much more than just friends and we have much more than just friendship, but that even if we ever go separate ways he would like to keep our friendship cause we get along great (and we really do!). Then he sorta plays hot and cold and I don't really know what he wants, if it's being friends or being more, so I ask and he kind of freaks out.
So I really would like some insight of what should I do, or how should I talk to him to get the answers I need without getting him angry or hiding under his rock cause I really love him.
Posted by Lakme
I've been in some sort of online relationship with a Gemini guy for over a year (I'm a Capricorn), even though we both have "unfinished business" in our currently relationships (I'm seperated)....
but I do think he just doesn't want to tell me things got well between his girlfriend and him after all.
He knows how I feel and that I'm invested in us....
For me it sounds he wants the cake and eat it too, as he has a gf and me as an option.
Then he sorta plays hot and cold ....
I really think you already have the answers...
It's a shame he isn't honest and open with you in return but the subtext to his behaviour is not encouraging at all... So far...
Well I'm aware of the subtlety and mixed signs, but if I didn't think he was worth it I would have moved on already. After all I'm a Capricorn.
I just thought someone could help me on how to get straight answers from him cause I don't beat around the bush and like things clear with me as well. Not knowing usually triggers the paranoid bitch in me.
hehe
I just thought someone could help me on how to get straight answers from him cause I don't beat around the bush and like things clear with me as well. Not knowing usually triggers the paranoid bitch in me.
hehe
Well, you could either piss him off to the point where he WON'T shut up, but be prepared for when the honesty hits you. It's sort of a "be careful what you wish for" kind of thing... Or you could just let it go and move on.... If your happy with the fact that your man is not faithful to you, and you only, then I'm not understanding wanting help with getting him to give you straight answers.... He's cheating on his girl with you.... Can't expect anything more than what you've already have with him...
I never said I was happy with that, although I don't judge anyone's reasons for cheating on their partners. I'm not a saint myself cause I always knew he had a gf, as we started off as friends, and I honestly don't believe in chronic cheaters. as I think anyone happy in their relationships wouldn't search for anything out of them. This really isn't the point though.
If it was only about letting go and moving on I wouldn't have to ask for advice, I believe. The obvious answers about what I should do I already have, being a rational and realistic person myself. The point is he's one of my best friends and my confidant, we get along great and I honestly would like to keep him as my friend if we went separate ways.
All the judgemental blah blah blah about how love can't be friendship after all, or how he's a cheating his gf with me, or how do I accept a situation like that, isn't needed. I'm a grown up. All I'm asking is an insight about astrology and how geminis think and react, no exactly relationship advice. Sorry if I sound harsh, it's the Capricorn speaking again.
If it was only about letting go and moving on I wouldn't have to ask for advice, I believe. The obvious answers about what I should do I already have, being a rational and realistic person myself. The point is he's one of my best friends and my confidant, we get along great and I honestly would like to keep him as my friend if we went separate ways.
All the judgemental blah blah blah about how love can't be friendship after all, or how he's a cheating his gf with me, or how do I accept a situation like that, isn't needed. I'm a grown up. All I'm asking is an insight about astrology and how geminis think and react, no exactly relationship advice. Sorry if I sound harsh, it's the Capricorn speaking again.
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