Do Gemini's have feelings?
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by ImaLeo on Friday, April 21, 2006 and has 37 replies.
Do gemini's really care if they hurt someone? I mean, they tend to love with their minds and not their hearts, does that mean they don't feel pain? If they find out someone liked them and didn't know it then find out later this someone did like them, are they even flattered by it or does it not mean anything to them?
You make it sound like we are not human... Lawd....
Yeah we feel pain. We just don't dwell on it, well sometimes we do. yeah i care if i hurt someone and go OUT of my way to try every means possible not to hurt them.
I LOVE flattery..
I used to play games with that and tried making who i wanted, want me, and then the challenge was gone.. and i wouldn't want anything to do with them cuz i had got what i wanted. but that was more immaturity than because i'm a gemini.
Yeah we feel pain. We just don't dwell on it, well sometimes we do. yeah i care if i hurt someone and go OUT of my way to try every means possible not to hurt them.
I LOVE flattery..
I used to play games with that and tried making who i wanted, want me, and then the challenge was gone.. and i wouldn't want anything to do with them cuz i had got what i wanted. but that was more immaturity than because i'm a gemini.
We are actually very sensitive...but the feelings don't run DEEP, like it won't kill us if someone doesn't like us. Its sort of like our thoughts, they change fast and so do our feelings. I haven't really met any EVIL Gems, at least not that i know of. We are usually more happy go lucky types...but we ain't out to hurt your feelings.
that?s an excellent question and one I?ve often asked myself [!]. i'm in full agreement with the previous two gems. we DO have feelings, they are just not too terribly prominent in our daily lives. but we hurt terribly, when denied, rejected, what-have-you, just like everyone else. perhaps we get over heartbreak faster? i dunno. what I have noticed as an older gem [33] in a long-term relationship is that i need to be more aware of other's feelings. i tend to forget that not everyone is as ?detached? as i am. i often hurt other's feelings without even realizing it. so if a gem has hurt you, TELL THEM. and also, of course finding out about people who have crushed on me is flattering! who wouldn't?
msbeeknees.. very well said. 
As an 'older' young Gemini (32) I agree, i have been trying harder to be more sensitive to the depth of others feelings. I have always been in tune with it, but not knowing how deep theirs goes, as mine normally doesn't run that deep. I'm talking to this guy.. a fellow Gem too.. which is my FIRST.. but he is sooo attached to me and i can't take it. He is always telling me about his feelings and i finally had to tell him he had to back off or he was gonna have me runnin.. lol so since he has done that and the pressure is not so bad, we are doing pretty good. he is like a best friend.. so i'm having trouble seeing an attachment to him like.. yeah that's my man. but i'm testing the waters..lol but that is a prime example of how i CARE about others feelings. I didn't cuss him out or tell him to get lost i actually had a nice conversation and said it as gentle as i could..
I also know that when i disappoint someone.. i feel like dying inside. I am fine with making someone mad at me LMAO.. then it's like get over it, i'm not perfect.. but to like, disappoint my dad.. that would make me go mental.
As an 'older' young Gemini (32) I agree, i have been trying harder to be more sensitive to the depth of others feelings. I have always been in tune with it, but not knowing how deep theirs goes, as mine normally doesn't run that deep. I'm talking to this guy.. a fellow Gem too.. which is my FIRST.. but he is sooo attached to me and i can't take it. He is always telling me about his feelings and i finally had to tell him he had to back off or he was gonna have me runnin.. lol so since he has done that and the pressure is not so bad, we are doing pretty good. he is like a best friend.. so i'm having trouble seeing an attachment to him like.. yeah that's my man. but i'm testing the waters..lol but that is a prime example of how i CARE about others feelings. I didn't cuss him out or tell him to get lost i actually had a nice conversation and said it as gentle as i could.. I also know that when i disappoint someone.. i feel like dying inside. I am fine with making someone mad at me LMAO.. then it's like get over it, i'm not perfect.. but to like, disappoint my dad.. that would make me go mental.
so in essence, IF we do hurt your feelings, its not on purpose.
GEMS are carraaazzyy!! but in a good way..cant live with them.. cant live without em ;P
Sorry about that BaBy-GrL, didn't mean for it to sound that way but I can see how it could be taken that way. It wasn't so much a shot at Gemini's as much as it was at the male Gemini I was referring to, not all Gemini's. Now I'm thinking, maybe I should have just posted the question on some kind of board for men. After all, they are from Mars, lol.
Anyway, thanks to all for your replies. You definately answered my question and helped me understand a little better.
Anyway, thanks to all for your replies. You definately answered my question and helped me understand a little better.
UGH not you AGAIN! No we all don't "decive people and backstab them plus they take advantage of kind people". Please let that go!!! COme hang out with me for a while.. i'll show you a much different picture of Gem's then what you have experienced. NO better yet, don't.. you're way to sensitive to deal with being around me.
Anyway..
Imaleo.. no i get what you were saying..lol but as you see we have such a bad rep.. i can't help but get defensive sometimes. Just remember we are ALL ABOUT the mind. Heart comes later (and no Kris, that doesn't mean we don't have a heart.. just takes longer to reach it) Hope we helped ya Imaleo Man i love you guys (Leos')..lmao
Anyway..
Imaleo.. no i get what you were saying..lol but as you see we have such a bad rep.. i can't help but get defensive sometimes. Just remember we are ALL ABOUT the mind. Heart comes later (and no Kris, that doesn't mean we don't have a heart.. just takes longer to reach it) Hope we helped ya Imaleo
Man i love you guys (Leos')..lmaolol i
Your a Leo Kris?????? hmmmmm I know all about Leo males.. i can sense one in the room.. that suprised me. I hate being suprised! LMAO
HI everyone..As an order Gemini (51) I can confirm that we DO have feelings, its just that they run very deep and are not shown to the outside world. I have got myself into a relationship with a Pisces' man (44) who is driving me NUTS! He is, currently, ignoring me, which is hurting like hell, but I am putting on a brave face and making silly comments on the text like..I miss you at work..DOH!!!...I wish I could get hold of him and tell him how he is hurting me, but its all part of the pisces man's little game...treat them mean to keep them keen. Trouble is, before too long, the desire will turn to hate, then he will know all about it. My heart aches for this man and there is nothing I can do about it, we have, or should I say, did have a sexual relationship and it was absolutely wonderfull, and I miss that part of it. I need advise do I ignore him, chase him or what...any Piscean men out there willing to give advice, please.
Kris.. never pity me.. lol I don't like those suprises.. :-p
*dropping a hat*
We have feelings! I do love, care, and all of that stuff!
me: ?_,☺
i don't waste my time if i'm not wanted.. no point.. next.......... haha
your confusing us with virgos! LOL
Like deep down Gemini's are really shallow ppl aye!
KIDDING
I am totally smitten with a Gemini!
mwah
KIDDING
I am totally smitten with a Gemini!
mwah
emaraldgem, you are no doubt a genuine gem to answer like that...it's awesome!
"Do gemini's have feelings?
None whatsoever - next question"
Of course I know you all have feelings but "sometimes" I get over-sensitive and ask ridiculous questions. It was either post it on here and make myself look like a moron to a bunch of Gemini's who don't know me and never see me or just walk up to my gemini "crush" who barely knows me but always sees me and blurt out "What's the matter with you? Don't you have feelings!!? I mean, imagine if that happened to you somewhere by someone you really don't know?
Yeah....so it all started because I got my feelings hurt when he walked by me and didn't say hi. LOLOLOL! I'm such a Leo, what can I say? I still don't think he knows I like him, especially not as much as I do, noone can hurt like he does and he doesn't even know it. And I'm too shy to demand attention like some Leo's but I sure do have the pride. So there you go, the explanation for the silly question. I confess, I did it out of spite but the answers have been great so far.
"Do gemini's have feelings?
None whatsoever - next question"
Of course I know you all have feelings but "sometimes" I get over-sensitive and ask ridiculous questions. It was either post it on here and make myself look like a moron to a bunch of Gemini's who don't know me and never see me or just walk up to my gemini "crush" who barely knows me but always sees me and blurt out "What's the matter with you? Don't you have feelings!!? I mean, imagine if that happened to you somewhere by someone you really don't know?
Yeah....so it all started because I got my feelings hurt when he walked by me and didn't say hi. LOLOLOL! I'm such a Leo, what can I say? I still don't think he knows I like him, especially not as much as I do, noone can hurt like he does and he doesn't even know it. And I'm too shy to demand attention like some Leo's but I sure do have the pride. So there you go, the explanation for the silly question. I confess, I did it out of spite but the answers have been great so far.
I think your adorable!
Aw shucks, no need for flattery now....well, yeah actually there is. A little never hurt anybody right? Lol...
Thank you for replying back.
Shine on....you Diamonds!
Thank you for replying back.
Shine on....you Diamonds!
Emeraldgem.. i dated one for the first time a couple months ago.. he was a great friend who wanted more.. he's an awesome guy so i was like.. lemme give this a shot. Couldn't do it. Just couldn't do it. After him, made me think we (male and female) gem's are no where near similar. Or maybe it's just me.. LOL go figure..
Of course we have feelings, we just tend to try to ignore them and when questioned by others act like it's no biggie. Me and my male Libra just broke up and although inside it really hurts I wouldnt dare let anyone know that ESPECIALLY him! Gems and Libras tend to be such a great match but we both favor mental over an emotional relationship.I was with a Sag before my Libra and got used to being told everything I wanted to hear.The libra would rather not make false promises and thinks only of the here and now not the future.
Anyone have any advise?He is only 20 so I am thinking just let him grow up and decide what he wants in life
You mean advise for the recent break up with your Libra? If that is the advice you're seekin.. i don't know what to tell ya.. i'm those extreme females.. when i'm done.. i'm done. and no going back. so maybe someone else can help ya out..lol Libra's thus far in my life typically bore me to death. especiallly when i'm not around them. I guess they give me way too much freedom.. cuz if you give me too much.. i flitter away...LOL
Yeah, I know what you mean Libras are all about freedom and it makes me feel like he dosent even care what I do or if he sees me or not.I just need advice on how to get libras to FINALLY make up their minds and decide if you are the person they want to be with or not!
I wish i knew that one.. maybe me and him woulda went somewhere..
LOVE flattery.. I used to play games with that and tried making who i wanted, want me, and then the challenge was gone.. and i wouldn't want anything to do with them cuz i had got what i wanted. but that was more immaturity than because i'm a gemini.
Haha! I had done this to me once by a gem guy... I never gave up trying to win him back.... when i finally did I got my revenge...and lost interest in him!!! I was tought many things though by that.... kind of learned how to protect myself after that especially with gems... So now basically i enjoy playing them... they not only dont give up but want more.... the more you play them the more they chase your ass...
Haha! I had done this to me once by a gem guy... I never gave up trying to win him back.... when i finally did I got my revenge...and lost interest in him!!! I was tought many things though by that.... kind of learned how to protect myself after that especially with gems... So now basically i enjoy playing them... they not only dont give up but want more.... the more you play them the more they chase your ass...
shhhhhh don't tell.. damnn it.. hahaha i'm tellin' ya.. it's a terrible thing.. chase on.. i don't know what's more fun.. chasing.. or havin someone chase me that knows how with out irritating the hell outta me.. either way soo much fun.
i thought it was just the gem guys who were like that Baby-grl.... i have many friends (girls) gems and they don't seem to be like that... so that was a surpise... Haha.. glad to hear that i figured out gems!!! I think it is the only sign that i studied that much....lol!!!!
that is me to a tee But i'm not a normal chick anyway.. so don't base nothing off that. But i have a few gem friends and 1 is just like me in that reguard.
But i'm not a normal chick anyway.. so don't base nothing off that. But i have a few gem friends and 1 is just like me in that reguard.How are we consdiered selfish Kris.. gimme some circumstances.. cuz Selfish is something i have not been called yet. not sensitive to others feelings.. sometimes.. forgetfull... all the time.. out of touch.. definitely but selfish.. never...
oh boy.. haha "consdiered" that really should be considered.. yikes..
not sensitive to others feelings.. sometimes.. forgetfull... all the time.. out of touch.. definitely but selfish.. never...
i have to agree with that! i don't think gems are bad.. they very often end up hurting people but they don't do it on purpose .... it is because of what babygrl said "sometimes.. forgetfull... all the time.. out of touch.. " but they are not revengeful or have strong egos ... they just go with the flow and go where it is interesting... do what they are interested in and the other doesn't follow them ... then too bad... they won;t hold a grudge about it but they also won't stay behind just for the other person.... they are easy going people... their minds have to intrigued the whole time.... and if someone can't offer that they won't stay and feel suffocated... they are freedom lovers ... so anyone who wants to be with them better accept that or leave them!!! Anyway for me they are the most mind-stimulating people but they are high-maintenance too!!
i have to agree with that! i don't think gems are bad.. they very often end up hurting people but they don't do it on purpose .... it is because of what babygrl said "sometimes.. forgetfull... all the time.. out of touch.. " but they are not revengeful or have strong egos ... they just go with the flow and go where it is interesting... do what they are interested in and the other doesn't follow them ... then too bad... they won;t hold a grudge about it but they also won't stay behind just for the other person.... they are easy going people... their minds have to intrigued the whole time.... and if someone can't offer that they won't stay and feel suffocated... they are freedom lovers ... so anyone who wants to be with them better accept that or leave them!!! Anyway for me they are the most mind-stimulating people but they are high-maintenance too!!
sorry high maintenance is the wrong word.... take that back... i would say it is just hard to find sth to keep them intereste the whole time... you have to be very resourceful and restless
Message posted by: emeraldgem on 6/26/2006 1:14:28 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.150
......not a bad explanation undergrad. You HAVE been observing "our kind".
oh i HAVE.... believe me So it is not a bad explanation but it is still not a good one, huh?
......not a bad explanation undergrad. You HAVE been observing "our kind".
oh i HAVE.... believe me
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