Does this Gemini guy need space?

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by libraah92 on Thursday, July 2, 2015 and has 13 replies.
I've been seeing this Gemini guy for about 4 months now. We started talking online and eventually met up in person. We instantly had a connection the very first time we hung out, and it continued from there on. I really really like this guy. I think I've developed feelings for him. We hook up almost every time we hang out, which I like doing. But I don't think it's a good thing if I'm starting to develop feelings for him. I've asked him if we were talking or friends with benefits. He said that we are talking and later on we agreed that we wouldn't talk or see any other people. He's always been busy with work ever since we met (he's trying to get a promotion). Sometimes we don't talk for w few days. Last Wednesday or Thursday I asked if he lost interest, he said no, he's just really busy with work. Friday night we hung out and Saturday I asked him what he wanted from this like where does he see this going/am I wasting my time? He was being super rude to me when I asked him this. So I straight up asked him if he wants to be in a relationship with me or not. He replied not right now because his number one priority is to get his promotion and if we were in a relationship we would just be doing the same things we're doing right now. I asked him if he wanted to continue hanging out and he said of course! He always has a great time hanging out with me. I'm confused because he's told me that he wants a relationship. He's asked me if I talk to any other guys. I feel like he's sending me mixed messages. I want this to work. How do I make it work? Does he need some space from me? We hung out a few days ago and we didn't hook up and I didn't kiss him goodbye or anything. And I think that disappointed him or something. Because I texted him last night and he hasn't replied at all. And I noticed (after he told me he doesn't want a relationship right now) that he's back on the same dating website. I know this can work out. But how can we make it work? I feel like he's really wishy washy. When we're not together, sometimes he'll flip out on me through text. But when we're together, everything is beautiful lol.
He'll stick around as long as you're not boring, not clingy (which it seems like you are), he's getting what he wants and if you'll put up with his moodiness and flip flopping. Gemini and Libra is said to be a good match. It seems like he's more interested in what you're giving him *wink wink* than anything else. Geminis tend to live in the moment and go with the flow so if he's giving you signs that he's not looking for anything serious, BELIEVE HIM!
Yes I can be super clingy! I'm trying not to though. But he keeps on giving me mixed signals. Like 2 weeks ago he said he wanted to be in a relationship. Now he's saying he doesn't. I know I probably shouldn't be hooking up with him. should I just give him his space and see if he'll come around? Because I don't think he wants to talk to me since I kind of dissed him the other night.
And he's done this before when he got kind of mad at me for something. And he went back on the dating website. So I don't know if this is something similar to that situation. And I just need to wait for things to pass.
Posted by libraah92
Yes I can be super clingy! I'm trying not to though. But he keeps on giving me mixed signals. Like 2 weeks ago he said he wanted to be in a relationship. Now he's saying he doesn't. I know I probably shouldn't be hooking up with him. should I just give him his space and see if he'll come around? Because I don't think he wants to talk to me since I kind of dissed him the other night.

Yes, they can be wishy washy. They have a hard time making up their minds too. Being in relationships with them can be complicated (for some) and theyre are known for not being really committed. But, if you're willing to put up with it then so be it. He'll probably just be back and forth. They forgive easily so if he really likes you, then he'll text you first. I personally know that ignoring them keeps them interested (besides, they like the space anyways).
Posted by libraah92
And he's done this before when he got kind of mad at me for something. And he went back on the dating website. So I don't know if this is something similar to that situation. And I just need to wait for things to pass.

He doesn't seem committed. Geminis can't help it. They like experiencing different people. Maybe he was bored. I wouldn't suggest you get involved with this one if you can't handle the changing and them showing interest in other people. And again, they hate boredom. That's what will make them be distant also. Keep him entertained and intrigued. If you can't keep up with em, he's going to find someone who can. He may keep you around as a rebound but you don't want that. They tend to run back and forth.
It sucks because I caught feelings for him. I think I have this hope because he's told me that he really likes me and he does want a relationship. But you know what. I'm just going to do my own thing. Maybe he'll come around maybe he won't. And you're right! I am really insecure with myself. This is something I struggle with everyday. Like I don't know how to love myself so I try to find it from others. But you know what, I think this is the time to be 22, focus on my goals and ambitions and have fun. But it's easier said than done. But I'm not boring. I'm just insecure and it sucks......
Let him chase you than the other way around. Play as you are hard to get. Be classy as you are as a Libra. Then he will be on his knees in front of you. And once you both are together then keep stimulating his mind with intellectual chit chats NOT about your luxurious collection of shoes, then he will meet your emotional needs.
Posted by libraah92
Yes I can be super clingy! I'm trying not to though. But he keeps on giving me mixed signals. Like 2 weeks ago he said he wanted to be in a relationship. Now he's saying he doesn't. I know I probably shouldn't be hooking up with him. should I just give him his space and see if he'll come around? Because I don't think he wants to talk to me since I kind of dissed him the other night.

Please realize Libra's too have a tendency to send mixed signals to us Gems. Things are hot and passionate and you feel like soul mates one moment and then the next you wonder if they like you at all. We mirror what we feel. It's a two way street. You shouldn't have dissed him, as you may have hurt him. Best thing I recommend would be to apologize but try not to be overly emotional about it. You still have a chance, just don't dwell on the problem (which Libs and Gems usually won't for too long) and you may still have a chance.
Also when he stated how he felt and expressed interest, did you pull away? This seems to be common when a Libra can't make up their mind. Us Geminis will take the bull by the horns but only if we feel you are equally reciprocating our feelings.
I don't know if I still have a chance to be honest. He hasn't really been talking to me as much lately. I feel like I always have to initiate conversation first. I know I shouldn't have, but we hooked up on Sunday night. I feel like he treats me like an object. Like he knows he's in control. Idk if I should just leave him alone for good, or just wait a little while longer and see if he misses me. When he expressed his interest, I didn't pull away. I told him how I felt about him. Idk if he told me those things to keep me around or what...
I think Gemini men like girls who dont give them that much attention.
So is there any way to fix this? Should I give him his space and let him come to me when he's ready? We haven't spoken to each other since Monday morning, he just got back from a trip with his friends and I'm sure he's working a lot right now. Or should I just forget about the whole thing and move on? I want to tell him how I really feel about him, but I don't want to seem annoying. I know he's already stressed about work.