Ex Virgo woman and Gemini man

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by AlantheGemini on Wednesday, May 24, 2017 and has 8 replies.
So my ex of 2 years tried to follow me on instagram yesterday and then on the way down home from work. It surprised me because our relationship started off as really great friends and then we went out. We lasted 2 years and we were super affectionate and passionate with each other. Anywho!! She's planning on getting married sometime next year. she calls me once and hangs up right away. Then she calls me 2 hours later and hangs up right away. The last thing I told her was that I never wanted her to contact me again. Basically, our last chat went 0 to 100 real quick and I'm informed of virgos not being fond of leaving stones unturned but I'm just really try to get to the bottom of this. Help?
I've contacted my Gem ex of one year, last October. We also "lasted 2 years and we were super affectionate and passionate with each other."

How could I help...smile?

I'm a Virgo woman currently in a virtual relationship with a Gemini man. Or I was, it's not working for me because you Gemini men think the world should stop when you turn your charm on us. So whatever we are doing is not important. Yet everything you are doing is more important than returning a phone call, shooting out a quick text, or returning any of the text mess a virgo may shoot you. Virgo women don't do this because we are possessive, or insecure, we do this because we may be the one woman that allow you Gemini men to be as independent, flighty, etc as your twin need to be, however what we are is nurturers by nature, we worry about those we care about, even though we once cared about may cross our minds because we become emotionally invested. I'm an empath so for me the emotional bonding occurs faster than most and as much as I hate it, I need to know you're all right even if you don't have time to actually hold a conversation. Virgo women like to know she crosses your mine, because I promise she's thought about you maybe as close to many times as you think about your penis throughout the day. We relive the last moments we spoke to you. Nothing worse than to be feeling good about your last encounter with your Gemini and out of the blue he cuts you off for days or a week. You worry the entire time and duh you are thinking Duh baby, it's wasn't that deep, I was just busy. Any of this familiar yet?

Ask what you want to ask if it is.
Sorry for the typo's, I'm still mildly pissed from dealing with my Gemini man. I type as fast as I'm thinking and sometimes it comes out as jumble thoughts and misspellings. lol
@Undine

I just want to know what you think she's tryna do?

She just out of the blue tries to add me on social media and then she calls me twice that same day and hangs up the moment I answered too.

I found it extremely odd too because she knows that her fiancé can't STAND ME, as in he DESPISES me.

All the other times she's contacted me it's because her finances outta town too so I'm assuming it might just be that as well

Although, I haven't done anything drastic at the moment, just been living my life as I was before the message.

What's your assessment of the situation
Posted by AlantheGemini
@Undine

I just want to know what you think she's tryna do?

She just out of the blue tries to add me on social media and then she calls me twice that same day and hangs up the moment I answered too.

I found it extremely odd too because she knows that her fiancé can't STAND ME, as in he DESPISES me.

All the other times she's contacted me it's because her finances outta town too so I'm assuming it might just be that as well

Although, I haven't done anything drastic at the moment, just been living my life as I was before the message.

What's your assessment of the situation
You said she followed you home....does it mean you ignored her, or tried to get rid of her? But why? How difficult is to have a friendly discussion with someone who was once much more than a friend to you? Just listen to what she has to say...you are not committing to anything or give her hopes .... Her behaviour is a response to YOUR behaviour. Stop mentioning her fiance ...what is between them is not your business.....surely she hasn't contacted you because she needs a dick in his absence...lol....besides, it makes you sound jealous.

I'm the opposite of a Virgo, but Mercury dominated. After one year of no contact, I spontaneously sent my Gem ex an email. It wasn't planned. He responded warmly, said that I was nothing but lovely and that he has no girlfriend, and added me on FB. Encouraged by his behaviour, we started flirting on FB for a few months.

Yes, I would have liked to get together with him. HOWEVER, he never asked to see me! When I asked why...he hinted that he doesn't want to give me hope. To be honest, he was giving me hope all the time! So....I unfriended him on FB (explaining to him why). He said he understood. These days I see him on the dance floor, because I took up Salsa (knowing that I'm going to see him ....so what?).

What are my future intentions towards him? Romantically...? None. It takes two to....salsa smile. I am friendly to him because he is friendly to me. We dance, small talk and treat each other in the same way we treat anyone else.

You can do the same with your ex.

In all honesty, I don't want to talk to her because she KNOWS I asked her to stay away from me as long as she's with him. Also, I mention her fiancé because before they went out me and her were seeiny each other but she kept me a secret. Until one day HE found out and got all pissy and developed a grudge towards me because he slashed my tires twice a couple of weeks after. I'm not reaching out to her unless she has the balls to talk to me like a normal human being
But why should a woman have bigger balls than you?

Did you secretly date someone else's girlfriend for 2 years? You could have made it clear, as soon as you fell in love, that you are SERIOUS about her, see yourself as her boyfriend and EXPECT her to be exclusive with YOU. Or it's the end of it.

By waiting for her to make up her mind during...ahem...two years...while giving signs that you couldn't make up yours....you lost her respect. She probably remembers you as the guy who didn't know what he wanted or if he did, he never had the balls to ask for it. This is how I remember my Gem ex.