Explain this Gemini reaction to me.

I wrote him a long letter explaining that I couldn't deal with his lies and the fact that we don't see eye to eye about us. That I know he's going behind my back to talk, flirt and talk about meeting other girls. I explained that me being in his life is blocking him from being who he truly is and that by removing myself from his life, I'm giving him his freedom. Said: I always accepted you for who you are, that's why I'm not asking you to change. I'd never ask anyone to change for me.
Told him that all I wanted was for us to have a fun relationship, no complications, nothing emotively weird, and that his lies and games just added weight to it. That he knew what he was doing was wrong and was hurting me but kept doing it anyway. That I wish him the best.

Anyway the damn thing is 2 pages long.

Now he's texting me, asking me to stop being emotional and to come to my senses. Things like: "Come on! You can't be serious!" Stop A!

Making it like I'm out of my mind for sending it this letter and that I'm just some crazy girl over reacting.

Why is he reacting like this? What's his goal?

Posted by Gemini530
We don't like being dumped. Ignore him, it'll drive him crazy

Agreed.

Posted by Gemini530
We don't like being dumped. Ignore him, it'll drive him crazy

Crazy good or crazy bad?

If you weren't emotionally attached then you wont be writing a long letter, I bet just by seeing that big written letter he got clues that you got some kinda feelings towards him and that sometimes can scares him off. Let him have his own time, just ignore him and trust me when he is away his mind will always be thinking about you (if he got a crush) and he will get back to you soon. He wants his own space to get his mind stimulated in different things, he'll start putting on lies if you gets clingy on him.

He knows I have feelings for him, and he said he's got feelings for me too. It's something we talked often.

Now he's mad and said:
Im not going to bother explaining anything to you because honestly I really just don't fucking care anymore.
Then 5 minutes later said: Have fun NOT seeing me tomorrow (We planned to meet and talk about the future)

I'm not going to answer him. I will give him all the space he needs. And more!

I told him last time he lied to me, that if he did again, he would lose me.

I know he expected me to accept the lies again, but I didn't. I'm showing him I have a spine.

Now he's texting me, saying "Thanks, seriously!" and "Aaaannnndddd now I'm homeless" because he's losing his house and we talked about living together.

He's not caring about what he did and the feelings part, he's just caring about his living situation.

Posted by Geminivixen
We also don't like when things seem like it's 'OUR' fault.. hes going to look for a reason to put it on YOU lol

He did that before, and he's doing it now, blaming me for being homeless when he brought it on himself by lying again.

Rather than say: "Well, I hurt her, it's my own fault"
He's just: "It's your fault I have no where to live"
Completely discarding the feeling part of my long letter.

Ann i think he is just getting his things done through you, he is not emotionally attached neither he dont care you. Its sounds to me like he is playing games and Geminis do to be honest. If you need peace of mind then I think you should stay away from him. Make him clear that its over.

Posted by geminidude
Ann i think he is just getting his things done through you, he is not emotionally attached neither he dont care you. Its sounds to me like he is playing games and Geminis do to be honest. If you need peace of mind then I think you should stay away from him. Make him clear that its over.

I absolutely know that you, and everyone who gave me amazing advices about my relationship with him, are right.
It took me a long time to realize it. That's why I'm still adapting to the fact that it was all lies and pretends.
He acted like he cared, but he played games.

I'm heartbroken right now. Gave him so much. I bought him a new computer, I have him money, I had sex with him, all thinking it was real.

Now he's texting me "Have fun knowing you'll never hear from me again after this"

He deleted his facebook and his twitter.

Wow.

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Posted by geminidude
Ann i think he is just getting his things done through you, he is not emotionally attached neither he dont care you. Its sounds to me like he is playing games and Geminis do to be honest. If you need peace of mind then I think you should stay away from him. Make him clear that its over.

I'm heartbroken right now. Gave him so much. I bought him a new computer, I have him money, I had sex with him, all thinking it was real.

Now he's texting me "Have fun knowing you'll never hear from me again after this"

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Am sorry to hear that Ann but hey life is ahead for you to explore and you gona be more happy finding the right one. Good luck

As I knew he would.
He texted me today at 5 am (sign he cannot sleep and is thinking about it all)
And said he's sorry he reacted with anger.

Then, 2 hours later, texted me again and said he would love to see me today like we planned.

I told him in the letter that I know he's only telling me the relationship stuff to keep me around and because I bring something to him that he needs.
Not because he truly likes me. So he knows I know.

Like Vixen said, the beneficial thing.

Just can't decide, do I keep ignoring him or tell him it's really over

Now it's: please respond.

Like he's desperate 😢

I'm sorry to post here more in this thread.
I'm just heartbroken and it's driving me crazy that I lost him.

Sex was amazing, he respected my space which I loved, we like so many things in common it's like we're the same person.
If it weren't for his lies about other girls he's perfect 😢

Now he's giving me an ultimatum.

"4 hours left to decide"

"This is your chance to meet and talk"

Why is he doing that..
Part of his manipulation thing?

I would say... More like a control thing. Wow.

Posted by misslissa
I would say... More like a control thing. Wow.

Yeah he is a control freak.
It's something me and his best friend both know about him.
If he's not in total control of a situation, he panics.

Seeing as I ignored him, he reached out to a mutual friend who was with me last night and today when I sent him the letter.

Friend didn't know I was ignoring him and she talked to him.

She asked him what he wanted to talk about, and he said "Everything"
No answer, he said: "Please?"
She told him I was busy today, but that Monday I was available.
He asked her with what I was busy with, and she explained my day.
He said "Fine.."
Then said "Fyi I found us a washer and dryer if we needed one" (Thinking we are still going through with our plan to move in together??)
She then asked him what he wanted to happen between me and him and he said "To just meet and talk"

I think she was trying to help, but she sabotaged the whole no contact thing..

I'm furious.

Posted by Gemini530
When mine ignored me we went and put a vagisil wipe on his car with a note that read "This is to help with the massive itch in your (you know where....) Call me when your pH has restored.:" In my defense I was drunk

Hahaha that's hilarious!

(Now he's non stop calling me, and texting me about his night like nothing happened)

Ugh lol

Sorry but that's just hilarious.

He texted me to say he found a grenade while going for a walk (He lives near an ex army base)
Then texted me, asking me if he should see if it works..
30 mins later, he said "Oh fuck I'm going to the ER"

He's been such an attention whore right now and doing anything he can to get my attention. It's funny and sad at the same time.

Gemini thing?

Posted by Geminivixen

Posted by geminidude
Ann i think he is just getting his things done through you, he is not emotionally attached neither he dont care you. Its sounds to me like he is playing games and Geminis do to be honest. If you need peace of mind then I think you should stay away from him. Make him clear that its over.

Yup. your Beneficial to him, that is why he is trying to keep you around his finger. Geminis love relationships ESPECIALLY if they are beneficial that is why they call us superficial and selfish sometimes because we tend to go into relationships that Somewhat Benefit US. Once he sees that you are seriously done with him he will leave you alone. Us Geminis like to chase but like I said before and I will say it Again.. We do not go for humans who do not want us Mutually back. We are not Door Mats.. We can treat you like one if needed but YOU cannot treat US like that. It's out of the question. It might work if we are extremely in love with you but once we sense that it's all about games were OUT. Only WE can play that.. Not You. Sad but true. (that rhymed hehe lol.. sorry)

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God you are bloody straight forward, a spank on you bum take it.

Hi Anna, there is some fairly deep seated heavy pain and confusion your going through, stay strong and believe in yourself. Delete his number and kick him to the kerb because trust is a big issue, and I missed reading the part you wrote, "He txt me he was sorry" He is treating you like a convenient, like you'll do till someone else comes around. He definitely not serious about your relationship. Time will heal your pain.