Frustrated !
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by sexysiren on Friday, August 10, 2007 and has 8 replies.
Again I am a Libra girl and he is a Gemini guy,
He brought this conversation up on Weds evening; he says he wants to be in a committed relationship he wants me to give him some more time to get his life in order. He says he is not asking for 6 months or more just a little more time to finish buying his house and his finances etc. He also says that he wants the woman he is going to be with to have her finances in order as well. So I said I respect your point of view and agree to a point but I believe if u r going 2 b with someone and your thinking long term then u should b willing to grow together in finances or whatever. So I ask him, we are free to see other people then right? He says NO, he doesn't want that. He asked me is that what I want, I said no, I said I give him the respect of saying to people I don't have a boyfriend but I am seeing someone. He said that he says the same thing. So he asks me if I am ok with this. I told him I need to think about this, it has been almost 5 months and what is going to change within that short amount of time.
Yesterday morning I ask him if I can talk to him in person later regarding my answer. So he calls me, im at work and told him I will speak with later. So when I call him after work, of course he wants an answer right then and hangs up on me.
So this morning he calls me and I spaz on him, I said I did think about it and I was willing to give u sometime. I wanted to speak with u in person so nothing can be misconstrued. But of course u hung up on me, because I wouldn't give u an answer over the phone. How can u truly care for some one when u treat them like this? Call me when u grow up! And hung up the phone!
I am emotionally drained. I really care 4 him but he doesn't seem to care about anyone but him self. Him hanging up is like just spitting in someone's face. He keeps talking about wanting to be ready for marriage and kids with me. HUH? How can that ever happen with his behavior? Why does he act like this?
He brought this conversation up on Weds evening; he says he wants to be in a committed relationship he wants me to give him some more time to get his life in order. He says he is not asking for 6 months or more just a little more time to finish buying his house and his finances etc. He also says that he wants the woman he is going to be with to have her finances in order as well. So I said I respect your point of view and agree to a point but I believe if u r going 2 b with someone and your thinking long term then u should b willing to grow together in finances or whatever. So I ask him, we are free to see other people then right? He says NO, he doesn't want that. He asked me is that what I want, I said no, I said I give him the respect of saying to people I don't have a boyfriend but I am seeing someone. He said that he says the same thing. So he asks me if I am ok with this. I told him I need to think about this, it has been almost 5 months and what is going to change within that short amount of time.
Yesterday morning I ask him if I can talk to him in person later regarding my answer. So he calls me, im at work and told him I will speak with later. So when I call him after work, of course he wants an answer right then and hangs up on me.
So this morning he calls me and I spaz on him, I said I did think about it and I was willing to give u sometime. I wanted to speak with u in person so nothing can be misconstrued. But of course u hung up on me, because I wouldn't give u an answer over the phone. How can u truly care for some one when u treat them like this? Call me when u grow up! And hung up the phone!
I am emotionally drained. I really care 4 him but he doesn't seem to care about anyone but him self. Him hanging up is like just spitting in someone's face. He keeps talking about wanting to be ready for marriage and kids with me. HUH? How can that ever happen with his behavior? Why does he act like this?
because he is not ready to settle down and deep inside he probably thinks thats what you want to do
Sounds like my ex ..
He's hanging up on her because she's playing mind games, this is an air sign, we know game when we see it, stop asking contradictory questions, if he says he wants a relationship don't turn around and say are we dating other people...jeesh...be solid with this guy, if your not ready to be with him then say your not, if you are then say you are, if he feels you should be financially stable before getting involved heavily well get yourself together...honestly you don't seem ready, you sound like you love this guy but your behavior speaks volumes that you don't and your not ready for him.
I can see why he's trip'n on you...let your actions match your words
I can see why he's trip'n on you...let your actions match your words
Thanks for your reply.
Though I didn't read anything else after the 5th sentence...
I think you should give him some time alone to let him settle this "Commited-Or-Non commited" agruement in his head. If you both are already engaged & has an up-coming wedding date, knock it back afew weeks (even months) to give him (as well as you) enough time to smooth out any doubts or odd/unpredictable behaviors that may cause the other to question the wedding (or even relationship) decision.
I think you should give him some time alone to let him settle this "Commited-Or-Non commited" agruement in his head. If you both are already engaged & has an up-coming wedding date, knock it back afew weeks (even months) to give him (as well as you) enough time to smooth out any doubts or odd/unpredictable behaviors that may cause the other to question the wedding (or even relationship) decision.
I know libra is an air sign, I used to date one hello?
Libra's have a tendency to be wishy washy, obviously that's not going to fly with her Gem, no disrespect sexysiren but this can be a very agitating attribute for some air signs. If you want this guy be more solid in your decisions, if you like him then don't send signals that you wanna possibly date by asking are we dating other people. Let him know how you truly feel but make sure you have had time to access your feelings before going their with him, also if you can, stop calling him after he hangs up on you, give him time to simmer down, come to him later when your not tense and emotional. He's hanging up b/c he feels your toying and playing with his emotions and your power struggling with him.
Libra's have a tendency to be wishy washy, obviously that's not going to fly with her Gem, no disrespect sexysiren but this can be a very agitating attribute for some air signs. If you want this guy be more solid in your decisions, if you like him then don't send signals that you wanna possibly date by asking are we dating other people. Let him know how you truly feel but make sure you have had time to access your feelings before going their with him, also if you can, stop calling him after he hangs up on you, give him time to simmer down, come to him later when your not tense and emotional. He's hanging up b/c he feels your toying and playing with his emotions and your power struggling with him.
I appreciate everyones post. I can b very sensitive at times, sigh. Especially if im backed into a cornor. Or confused by something that was said out the blue by my gem. Im just simply trying 2 make things right.
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