Frustrated with my Venus in Gemini ways
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by tiltedmoonshadow on Wednesday, December 25, 2013 and has 15 replies.
So my Venus is in Gemini and I've come to realize that I'm such a mindf*ck and play games, like not necessarily intentionally, sometimes I don't even catch it happening until the ball is already rolling. I don't like that there's only FWB and GF...what about that grey area in the middle that society has yet to give a relationship term to? But then, if society ever termed that area too and gave it rules and parameters, I would probably insist on stepping over to a new grey area! lol What the heck?! I can genuinely care about someone but I don't translate it to love or a sudden urge to fast forward to a legit relationship. Yet despite that, I could also still get jealous too though! Aaargh!! I'm a walking contradiction and confusing as hell. I confuse guys all the time, but most of the times, I am quite confused too when it comes to my dating life!!
Is this a Gemini thing? How do I deal with this?
My Moon in Virgo is desperately trying to make sense of this grr!
Is this a Gemini thing? How do I deal with this?
My Moon in Virgo is desperately trying to make sense of this grr!
Ahh, so this is why my friend is so confusing. I think we sometimes operate in that grey area you speak of. He wants me to spill my emotions forgetting that he told me he didn't want a relationship. If you dont want a relationship then whats the point of me opening up emotionally?
I have a libra mars. I don't want a defined relationship either..I actually get sick at the thought of it. I want to be excluse and I want it to lead to marriage...I just don't want the titles inbetween.
I have a libra mars. I don't want a defined relationship either..I actually get sick at the thought of it. I want to be excluse and I want it to lead to marriage...I just don't want the titles inbetween.
Posted by tiltedmoonshadow
So my Venus is in Gemini and I've come to realize that I'm such a mindf*ck and play games, like not necessarily intentionally, sometimes I don't even catch it happening until the ball is already rolling. I don't like that there's only FWB and GF...what about that grey area in the middle that society has yet to give a relationship term to? But then, if society ever termed that area too and gave it rules and parameters, I would probably insist on stepping over to a new grey area! lol What the heck?! I can genuinely care about someone but I don't translate it to love or a sudden urge to fast forward to a legit relationship. Yet despite that, I could also still get jealous too though! Aaargh!! I'm a walking contradiction and confusing as hell. I confuse guys all the time, but most of the times, I am quite confused too when it comes to my dating life!!
Is this a Gemini thing? How do I deal with this?
My Moon in Virgo is desperately trying to make sense of this grr!
Stop over thinking :O
Posted by tiltedmoonshadow
So my Venus is in Gemini and I've come to realize that I'm such a mindf*ck and play games, like not necessarily intentionally, sometimes I don't even catch it happening until the ball is already rolling. I don't like that there's only FWB and GF...what about that grey area in the middle that society has yet to give a relationship term to? But then, if society ever termed that area too and gave it rules and parameters, I would probably insist on stepping over to a new grey area! lol What the heck?! I can genuinely care about someone but I don't translate it to love or a sudden urge to fast forward to a legit relationship. Yet despite that, I could also still get jealous too though! Aaargh!! I'm a walking contradiction and confusing as hell. I confuse guys all the time, but most of the times, I am quite confused too when it comes to my dating life!!
Is this a Gemini thing? How do I deal with this?
My Moon in Virgo is desperately trying to make sense of this grr!
My Venus is in Gemini as well.
Maybe its tempered by other placements, because I don't play games.
It only manifests I think as needing to have a partner with whom I can intellectually engage.
I can turn the flirt on when I'm interested, though.
In your case, maybe its working on recognizing that line in the "grey area", and being clear on the boundary between liking someone and being interested in something more. It takes work to define that, but you need to sit down and think about it.
Venus retrograde in Cap is a good time to do that, BTW
Posted by cancersunpiscesmoon
@cusp
I don't think it's anything someone needs to work on. With a foundation of respect and honesty, what's wrong with the grey area? I think people fear what isn't usual or socially accepted. Who's to say what style of love you prefer?
Venus in Gemini can be very good at drawing someone in and having them think there is more to the relationship than actually exists, and then Venus in Gem flits off leaving the other party hurting.
And without making that boundary clear to the other party in said "grey area", there is a certain cruelty.
No disrespect, but after your water sign post in the Cancer forum, I doubt the sincerity of what you post here on DXP. Have a nice holiday.
Posted by cancersunpiscesmoon
Also, please let me know what I posted about water signs on the cancer board? This is my one and only account. But there's really no reason for me to have to explain myself or even entertain any notion to the contrary. Maybe making accusations based off nothingness is your idea of sincere?
Others have already identified you SunScorpio
Posted by scribble
But I agree, you should be honest about what you want and who you are.
I think that's the challenge for some with Venus in Gemini.
That's where the mind game accusations (usually with good reason) start.
I suspect its not often intentional, and if clarity isn't established it can cause some fairly awkward circumstances.
Posted by scribble
I have Venus in Gemini but I don't have these issues personally. I'm pretty black and white and I can't play games to save my life! I do understand the need for things to build up organically rather than jumping into "I'm committed for life territory".
But I agree, you should be honest about what you want and who you are. There are definitely other people out that will agree/find your style comfortable but it's not okay to lead people on or play with them. So find people who can handle your need for openness.
It's ok to be yourself
I have both sun and venus in gem. I do not have these issues and I also have a lot of aqua influences.... I do have moon, merc and mars in cancer and I think that "wets down the airy parts". Lol!
I too have my Venus in Gemini, I understand your confusion! I get bored of people easily and I never feel that my need for mental stimulation as well as an emotional connection (I am a Cancer after all??_) is fulfilled.
scribble, I like what you said about Geminis/Venus in Gemini having to fulfill that emptiness themselves instead of with another person. That is the biggest lesson I have to learn.
scribble, I like what you said about Geminis/Venus in Gemini having to fulfill that emptiness themselves instead of with another person. That is the biggest lesson I have to learn.
I have Venus in Gem, but am unsure where those influences end and my Gem sun begins, so I can't really speak to whether you're being influenced by Venus or not.
Anyhoo, I understand your not wanting to put labels on your relationship. I have an inborn distaste for anything that seems the least bit conventional and have always insisted on trying to do things in new and inventive ways. Since conventional wisdom holds that relationships have to follow a specific course, and that we have to label each stage in a certain way, I always been compelled to figure out alternate courses.
Eventually, I learned that Society wasn't out to get me. We have come to label things in certain ways because there is a relationship progression that is natural for the majority of people. Those of us who need to try new ideas are still free to do so.
As for me, I discovered that no matter what sort of inventive label I used, I was still progressing (and wanting and needing to progress) through the same relationship phases that "normal" people do. When I tried other routes (open relationship, etc), they always ended badly. Maybe that was just my underlying social conditioning coming through- I don't know. Either way, I eventually found the route that felt the best for me for the majority of the time (and that's about as much as a Gem can do).
Anyhoo, I understand your not wanting to put labels on your relationship. I have an inborn distaste for anything that seems the least bit conventional and have always insisted on trying to do things in new and inventive ways. Since conventional wisdom holds that relationships have to follow a specific course, and that we have to label each stage in a certain way, I always been compelled to figure out alternate courses.
Eventually, I learned that Society wasn't out to get me. We have come to label things in certain ways because there is a relationship progression that is natural for the majority of people. Those of us who need to try new ideas are still free to do so.
As for me, I discovered that no matter what sort of inventive label I used, I was still progressing (and wanting and needing to progress) through the same relationship phases that "normal" people do. When I tried other routes (open relationship, etc), they always ended badly. Maybe that was just my underlying social conditioning coming through- I don't know. Either way, I eventually found the route that felt the best for me for the majority of the time (and that's about as much as a Gem can do).
Almost every poster here is a Cancer. I'm wondering why it's assumed this is a Gem thing and not a Cancer thing?
i cant be open about my feelings so soon...as a poster here posted about. there is no black and white for me..its a grey area in between. i m kind of a tease if i m not interested in you..but i ll give you the idea of being in love with me as fun.
yes a walking talking contradiction..i m not sure what i want relationship wise even now! you dont wanna get in my head...its chaos! but venus in gem definitely makes me lighthearted and easy going..
yes a walking talking contradiction..i m not sure what i want relationship wise even now! you dont wanna get in my head...its chaos! but venus in gem definitely makes me lighthearted and easy going..
i m with raerain on this one.. cancer sun venus gem.
Wow I love all these Cancerians with Venus in Gemini popping out of the woodworks! Hello fellas! :-)
Especially CancerGirl0889... major props on the SunCancer / VenusGemini / RisingScorpio .....that's meeeee!! Hi!
Especially CancerGirl0889... major props on the SunCancer / VenusGemini / RisingScorpio .....that's meeeee!! Hi!
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