Gem girl and Virgo married 12 years!!

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by lvgemini on Monday, November 17, 2008 and has 32 replies.
Hi I am new here would like to get some advise.
Married to a Virgo 12 years now and 2 kids..
Virgo man 9/1/75
Rising (Gemini)
Moon (cancer)
Gemini 6/5/78
Rising (Taurus)
Moon (Gemini)
Lotos sight and some of the threads I have read here says we are NOT compatible by nature. As far as the relationship goes we met in 1997 and hit it right off, got married in a short period of time, and been together 12 years. I can say that he is a great provider and father, I love him dearly, but you really need to know him in order to know him so to speak, as he is much of a 'action speaks louder thann words" kindah person, the relationship is rocky sometimes as well as awesome.. more like love and hate. I couldnt imagine myself with anyone else and neither can he... I am a bit stubborn at times and hes a nit picker and arguments can arise if not controlled the minute it starts to heat up.. we live a great life.. I couldnt ask for more.. what are your guys' views on the way our astrology is lined up? I am just curious thanks
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I think his gemini rising helps you out alot. and your taurus rising makes you more compatible. I was with a Virgo for 5 years. Lived together 4years. We hada great relationship on the friend level. had so many things in common but our communication wasn't too good. he was so stubborn and wouldn't budge. He's a great guy. Provider, VERY insecure which lead him to cheat on me twice. First time, i was understanding cuz his ex-wife destroyed his self-esteem. so ok, i get it, a woman pays attention to you and you don't know how to act. Got it. Second time, absolutely no understanding and i ended it. engaged and all. We are still friends, i didn't hate him, he just wasn't for me.
I'm glad things are good with you and yours though. Me and him got into some pretty heated arguments too. His mom walked on us, i had him in a head lock hahahaha she screamed please don't hurt him!!! BUT - he knew the buttons that set me off. My ex husband used to bully me bad and kinda physically abused me. There are 2 buttons that make me snap and he did them often knowing how they made me respond. So, head lock time.
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Hi Lv,
Try this...
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2f
The whole Virgo / Gem thing at its basic reading seems like a doomed match Tongue but that link lets you plug in more details for a more comprehensive reading. I plugged in the stats for me and my gem and it came up saying we would be amazing with each other.


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Baby-Grl,
Thats AWESOME (Not awesome about the stuff he did though) Tongue. Get in a fight with your guy, CHOKE HIM OUT! HAHAHHAHA
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lmao i really work hard at non-violence since my ex husband and i were pretty violent. I was young and dumb back then. But there are a few triggers that put me in combat mode. Pointing your finger in my face and puffing up your chest in my face as intimidation is another one. I told him don't do that. I won't ever do anything like that to you. And he ignored it and did it anyway. Only took him doing it twice to learn - i better not do that anymore lol. His mom freaked out too. she is very old school so she couldn't understand why i would do that. but no man will ever intimidate me like that again. ever.
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Ladies, you do my heart good. Sometimes I can't make heads or tails out of my gem and wondering what the hell am I doing but your comment gives me SOME hope Tongue
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you hsould have hope. Zodiac isn't the end all. smile isn't that sometimes good though not making heads or tails... i mean, it leaves mystery, excitement never knowing whats coming. lol i like that stuff Winking i wish you the best. it hink virgos and gem's can make great couples hell i almost married one. they are alot of fun.
I don't know if you ever got a compatability chart where it compares you and him and how each of you see one another. I did that and it was so enlightening. It was very accurate too. but i use it as a tool on where we are not strong so i can better understand where he may be coming from and can help get past those issues. I don't live by it, but its a great tool. knowledge is power smile
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My father is a gemini and my mother is a virgo. Total disaster and meltdown. 20 something years later after marriage they finally crashed and burned.
But they were never that great with each other in the first place, it was really only a matter of time. My ex's last relationship was also a gemini (he is a virgo), another crash and burn scenario.
So it really depends on the people. If you guys are getting along great, good for you. As long as you can tolerate each others interesting traits, it will work out just fine. Just appreciate each others attributes and I dont see why it cant work. It is just going to take work like all relationships.
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also understand that relationships are not perfect....its a lot of hardwork and a lot of sacrificing you will have to make in turn to make it work....just go with the flow...I even found out that arguing is sometimes good for the relationship...nothing is wrong with some good debating
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Gem's, maybe i have been looking into the wrong place for help and assistance w/my heart to brain issue i am having, can you please go look at he Virgo thread "leather and lace" and give me some feed back from my peers? I would appreciate it, reading here, does give one hope and another out look all together, i need to "see it" for what it is and not what "i see it" as. I am sure this makes sense to other gem ladies especially and maybe the men too, you tell me......
thanks in advance......
This Virgo ditto's for me a lot of what is said here, "brings peace and stability into my jittery world"
got a call, will continue......
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its open now, sorry
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thanks for the comments guys...
we live a good life... well to a point.......... if its BAD its really bad, and when its good..its really good.. I have alot more patience that he dies (VIRGO) I dont know ours is more love and hate... lots of love though.. he cheated on me with a capricorn, he quickly cut her loose, i gave him a choice to leave and were getting a divorce, sucks because we have 2 kids..anyways, this capricorn girl turned out to be psyco, controlling, neeedy and clingy!!!! to make a long story short... i found out about it, some hoewrecker he worked with, got the phone bill one day and of course.. virgo sometimes they think they know how to lie..maybe to other signs, that dont fly with me the gemini/taurus LOL he tried pulling the wool over my eyes for a minute... the capricorn of course lied to me said they were friends, they knew each other 3 months and it got more serious after 2 months, she had the odacity to meet with me the wife to show me his texts... so i went not really caring, but really confused and at the same time FURIOUS!!! i get there i look at the texts, and it was virgo telling him the sweetest little things to get down her pants, i know because even in our best days in our marriage he has never really spoken to me the way he did with capricorn.. total game! i know my husband best.. by that time, i was furious and really didnt care much, but i just had to see for myself...long story short. he denies everything... she doesnt.. because she wants him.. keep in mind she is almost in her 40's and he and i in our early 30's.... so ignore everything, gave time to myself to think things thru do i want to put myself in this sitaution and my kids??? so i kick him out mr. virgo! showed him the door, showed him how to open it, hes still texting her telling her a bunch of bull. hes leaving this and that... all games.. she falls for it, calls me and texts me everything LOL calls me and texts me while im at work about my husband wanting her.. so fast forward this goes on 2 weeks LOL... im tired, im furious.. mix feelings.. pissed off...virgo still dont want to leave...can you blame him? 12 years of marriage vs. 2 months? ok i get it... so i leave things alone...he finally makes a choice.. and this kind of attitude towards my virgo husband is what they call action speaks louder than words.. he cuts her off, doesnt text or calls her for days.. now capricorn gets even more psyco, she texts me and him together harassing us... part 2 continue
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part 2 continues... sorry it said 2500 words only
so anyways, she cant let go, he gets on my iphone texts her its over leave me alone, i wont bug you and you do the same (very virgo! straight to the point) he did it to where it didnt really hurt her feelings because thats the way he is afraid of confrontations.. anyways, we worked on our mariage and so far so good..hes back to the virgo i know. the husband i have been with for years... do i trust him? it will take alot of time to prove that to me and alot of effort and i felt bad for my kids so i take him back, i do love him.. hes cut throat, cold with her and not like that with me.. so then he tells me the real reason why he could not leave his family, heres the virgo man: he said it did not feel right with her, at the time we had some major issues, he was confuused he thought he wanted her and wanted to be with her, he said all she did was tell him stupid things like, if you stay make it work, if you leave give me commitment LOL so he said right there when she said that he felt trapped and needed to cut her loose immediately, all she did was cry to him about past relationships of guys beating her up, cheating on her so i know she felt some kind of security with him, and the good provider he is to me and my kids and i think she craved that.. he said him being a perfectionist, one night he seen major earwax in her outter ear that grossed him out, and lastly, she told him leave your wife and i will take care of you and pay your wife child support of 1000.00 a month LOL he did make it clear it sounded tempting, since he loves money but all in all he was the man and the provider and he did not like the fact a person offer to take care of him .. i guess what im saying is virgo have alot of expectations in life, they do stick with the one they really love, action speaks louder than words, and no matter how compatible she and him were cap and virgo, there still apart of him that was not complete and said she was dirty, messy person, car was always dirty and he was edgy and its weird because i am a gemini/taurus and we argue alot but we are drawn to each other in many different ways that it makes me so mad reading compatibility reports sometimes said were not compatible yet we have been thru alot in years and 2 kids later, right now the marriage couldnt be any better once we both sat down, put our guards down..he told me he has everything he wants in life and his actions speaks louder than words even though t
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even though the texts and everything she told me (crazy capricorn) shows him telling her he cared for her and wanted to be with her, this and that...virgos are really afraid of confrontations, in the end his action spoke the loudest.. it was weird how he cut her off just real cold and to the point took 3 minutes.. till this day shes still plotting weird things.. we just ignore her... she will call him with block # every now and then according to him but he will send her to voicemail..virgos are different being i guess if you can handle their constant criticm, analyzing and ignore their complaining at the same time you put your put down to the things you expect him to give you in return.. it will work.. our relationship is balanced.. im still furious being a gemini about that issue i had to deal with...but all in all... my virgo rocks and i love him and i know he loves me and the kids... hes a great guy despite all the flaws i have dealt with for years... JMO thanks for letting me vent.......
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one more thing.. he apologized and said it will never happen again.. (leary about that one) maybe the gemini in me? i dont know... but he has been so good at home, taking care of me and the kids and the house, its like she never existed...(STILL FURIOUS) I will never forget.. i try not to bring it up when im mad.. but sometimes i cant help it..and he knows that he screwed up... but all in all he is sincere about the apology and telling me that he has everything in life he wants and nothing in the world is better than the family we both created... now heres the million dollar ending of the story.... the capricorn girl he was talking too worked with him, they worked together... in the end of it all she could not handle it and he told me she was just nice and thats what got him curious about her.. but she was FAKE nice to him, he and i know that now..he said she wasnt really her type..she had short platinum blond her, and i had long dark brown hair so the night that she went psyco on him and it didnt work, by texting me on my phone a bunch of lies that i know were lies because i took his phone away so theres no way he texted her from the same number the same day LOL i had his phone, i guess she was desperate, that night she came in to work with long brown extensions and he laughed, he told me honey she came to work looking like you LOL and then, when that did not work... she filed sexual harrassment on him and got him fired, she plotted with the boss because she use to date him and they knew each other 13 years!! he got home that night and told me i didnt care for that job anyways (vip host at a stripclub) all it did was make me and you fight, and i almost lost my family to that kind of industry, the lies, sex, money and drugs in there, he said honey, thats not me! in the end he said... it doesnt matter she got me fired by lying, in the end she still could not have me and thats whats killing her..she went to the hoops of playing both sides... which she did.. she would tell me its all him,hes calling me and textting me..being virgos are honest he told me ya she showed you my texts? did you see her texts? i said no, not really she left the simple ones.he said that girl was so conniving she deleted her tetxs in between to make it look like its all me, when she was offering me money to leave you and be with her.. and that she was gonna do this and that.. and i needed to leave now and give her commitment right away... anyways, how psyco..
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i guess capricorns are like that when you bruise their ego? i will know to stay away from those types... most of the capricorns i know are real crazy and stingy... but this one is different shes the classic fatal attractions... i still will not trade a virgo for anyone even though some say were not a match, the traditional astrology says we are.. but then again i guess love conquers all... thanks for letting me vent again LOL...I am still furious at the same time, i cannot really get mad.. all i can do is laugh and he knows it too.. and i think it kills him sometimes because he gets real quiet when i bring it up and make a joke out of it...i know im evil..sometimes :-)
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one more thing.... maybe were a weird couple to some LOL... i say that because we are in a relationship/marriage that works for the both of us.. might not work for some.. hes a virgo with gemini rising and moon in cancer and i am gemini with taurus rising and moon in gemini..really weird the way i see him, its like me and him together in his body he can be completely structured, quiet, well mannered, thoughful, analytical, reserved at the same time, he posseses my chatty, flighty gemini traits..
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Nevermind, I finished reading ...
Honesty, the one you should be anger at is your husband -- he lied to you both.
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cappysweetie
i just replied back to you but on the capricorn boards..thanks
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Don't you want real love?
Dump him and stop being so blind. Once a cheater always a cheater. Stop blaming the other woman also. It takes two to tango.
He'll probably keep lying.
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I'm not going to tell you to dump him cuz you made it clear how yu feel about him. I too would give him a second chance, just for the simple fact of, i gave my marriage all i had and did everything i could to save it. If he cheats again, hun cut him lose cuz he won't change. Hopefully he is of his word and won't make you have to make that decision. I know mine did it twice. Good luck, hipe he stays true for you and your family.
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You gave him a chance and he cheated again baby-gyrl. That's my point.
He cheats on you once...his fault....he does it again...your fault.
They got together very young. He wants to experience other things.
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cappysweetie
i just replied back to you but on the capricorn boards..thanks
Oh no problem smile I was just giving my opinion. I understand your situation but I just needed you to understand the other side of things as well
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"You gave him a chance and he cheated again baby-gyrl. That's my point.
He cheats on you once...his fault....he does it again...your fault.
They got together very young. He wants to experience other things."
Thats why I would give him a second chance. Young and dumb. People make mistakes. Doesn't mean they are always going to make them again. Sometimes, when put through something where they almost lose everything makes them appreciate it and they do change. Not always, but it's worth it since they are married. If they were dating, hell no... but marriage... worth another chance.
But if you give them another chance, you have to accept what's happened and truely move forward. If not, it never goes away and it's bound to end anyway because you can't forgive. If you can't forgive, then you shouldn't move on. Not everyone can do that.
but you never forget.
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lvgemini...I am really sorry to hear about your situation...anybody can easily say dump him...but 12 years of marriage...thats a lot easier said than done. My boyfriend's mom is gemini and his dad is virgo...they have 11 children together...married at least 50 years my boyfriend said his dad cheated on her once..she forgave him and they moved on....I hope you guys overcome this and continue to be together...nobodys perfect
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Yeah I'm sure he cheated on her once....that she found out about.

Some women are so stupid.
I don't care if I am with a man for 60 years. If he cheats....bye bye mother fucker.
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life isn't always that easy.
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oh come on mystic.....you would give up 60 years of marriage that easily????
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Look if I'm with him for 5 years, 20 years, 50 years, or even 100 years it don't matter.
He will be the one who gave up all those years all to taste another pussy.

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The women in my family don't tolerate crap like that.
We are very independent with or without a man thank god.
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"We are very independent with or without a man thank god."
independence has nothing to do with it. I'm seriously independant, don't NEED a man nor require a man. That doesn't change that life isn't always black and white. I hear ya, but things happen and based on what you want out of life should dictate your actions. If you are perfect, then i can see a black and white view. otherwise, like most people, we make mistakes. I know if i make a mistake i don't want to be held to the cross and crusified.
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well im independent but I do need companionship....and if god is a forgiving god then what makes us better than him? Some people just dont know anything about commitment...period.
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