Gem Male & Cancer Female??
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by allluv72 on Thursday, March 8, 2007 and has 25 replies.
I just started seeing a Gem and though I usually don't have an interest in Gems due to the whole twin thing, he seems sincere. Anyone have any experience with a Gem/Cancer relationship?
Yeah...I know what you mean...its TRUE...
GEM + Cancer = Disaster (for cancerians )...
You won't be able to handle him trust me...
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GEM + Cancer = Disaster (for cancerians )...
You won't be able to handle him trust me...
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WoLF
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Wolf, what do you handle?
" GEM + Cancer = Disaster (for cancerians )..."
So true. My mom is a Gem and father is a Cancer.
So true. My mom is a Gem and father is a Cancer.
They seperated.
They always has issues. And they never worked on solving them. Mom always acted submissive. Father always preyed on her passivity. Mom actually never knew what the problem is. But the problems always turned her life into bad. She needed a little encouragement of mine to realise what's going on. She always tell me how stupid she was.
Thanks for all your feedback, does the fact that he's on the cusp of Gem/Taurus make a difference? His birthday is 5/22. I've read Cancer and Taurus make a decent compbination but figured he was more Gem then Taurus. My best friend a Gem male has the same birthday and we get along great but he's a lot older so I wasnt sure if that made the differnce.
My real life experience with Gem's shows that they are quite conservative types and at the same time they are not (hence Twins). Altough they can go on rampage, in other words they do havt that ability, they seem like try to please people alot. Even at the cost of feeling pain inside and disbanding their own needs. I have seen that in my mother and the other Gem female who happens to be a wife of Virgo who cheats upon her. I think they lack certain courage. Perhaps not on every topic, but they certainly lack courage to make big changes with people. Must be an air sign thing, since they are very social and big changes is a big no for their social life. But the certain changes always and surely needed. You see, it's the difference with Pisces. Pisces will make change when it sees necessary, but also pays the price of the change. Adaptation for new situation is greatly needed, which pushed the Piscean to find wisdom. This is what Gemini lacks. They will rarely make big changes with people and stay social in the same way with them. Even at the cost of pain. Thus, they rarely grow logically over people and stay as Twins. In other words, while they become very social and appearling, they still hide certain unhappiness which creates duality. But they certainly feel that something is wrong. But that is not enough for them to make them gain enough courage to pass through hell.
Cancer; they know best how to manipulate people. They easily discover Gemini passiviness and use it. They discover this so fast, that it looks like for them as a cookie when compared to war they gonna wage with Pisces or Scorpio or Virgo. And they master at hiding their intentions. Gemini will never make a great move to make a change, and hence will become Cancer's slave for all time. Cancer on the other hand, is quite decisive. Actually far more decisive than required. They will not just decide for themselves, but also try decide for you, surely for their own advantage. They will never allow you to make decisions for yourself. And any attempt to do so will be forcibly discouraged with great emotional torrent. This is Cancer's weapon of control. They irritate the people the hell out until people give them what they want to just make the shut up. Cancer's know this and use it. Surely this does not work on certain signs, like Pisces, Scorpio or Virgo. Can't say for other signs.
From above, we can conclude that Cancers need people just to use them. Love? I don't think they have such a thin
Cancer; they know best how to manipulate people. They easily discover Gemini passiviness and use it. They discover this so fast, that it looks like for them as a cookie when compared to war they gonna wage with Pisces or Scorpio or Virgo. And they master at hiding their intentions. Gemini will never make a great move to make a change, and hence will become Cancer's slave for all time. Cancer on the other hand, is quite decisive. Actually far more decisive than required. They will not just decide for themselves, but also try decide for you, surely for their own advantage. They will never allow you to make decisions for yourself. And any attempt to do so will be forcibly discouraged with great emotional torrent. This is Cancer's weapon of control. They irritate the people the hell out until people give them what they want to just make the shut up. Cancer's know this and use it. Surely this does not work on certain signs, like Pisces, Scorpio or Virgo. Can't say for other signs.
From above, we can conclude that Cancers need people just to use them. Love? I don't think they have such a thin
I don't think they have such a thing. However they will profesionally show as if they have one. But it's only a disguise. No Cancer will allow their emotions to go without surely expecting anything back. This is what contradicts with love. Love needs to be unconditional. Without expecting anything back. But not with Cancers. They surely will use this spot which we call love, for their other purposes.
Take example of my father. After we releaved him of command (lol!), he went back to his family. To his older brother. While he was telling him how badly we treated him and took their compassion, he again made a masterful action by loosing everything that they have. How can this be love when he had a secret agenda behind it? How can a person truly love and respect someone when any chance give to them to use again you are being employed against you? I don't call this anything but manipulation. Anyone can challange this. And I suggest to deal with a Cancer themselves in the first place then talk to me again. If they still have their houses, business, jobs and money, I can call them winners. I still can't belive how my father has lost our house. He promised to buy a little apartment which he lied and lost all money he got from our house. Not just that, he actually received the same amount of money back that he invested to renew the house which at the end means that he give the house away freely. How can a person do something like that? How can anyone be trusted after all of this? Surely some people don't see this and don't take necessary evasive actions to prevent similar descructions in the future. This is where Gem's fail to do things. They don't see what's going on. They still continue to trust to such Cancers and this is where their life gets destroyed.
The funnier things is this; when you kick such Cancer's away, they try to keep coming back. Even if you tell them to get lost and don't call you back or use any means to communicate with you, they still try try and try. As if your decition is wrong, and you cant decide for yourself. Wtf? Not just they try to communicate with you, but they use everyone near you (or at least the ones whom they can reach) to change your mind. If you plan to close the deal with a Cancer, then start changing everything. Including everyone you know! Because soon or later those people will come to you and try to change how you think. Living afterlife with a Cancer is really hard. Because every second is a test for your guards. I
Take example of my father. After we releaved him of command (lol!), he went back to his family. To his older brother. While he was telling him how badly we treated him and took their compassion, he again made a masterful action by loosing everything that they have. How can this be love when he had a secret agenda behind it? How can a person truly love and respect someone when any chance give to them to use again you are being employed against you? I don't call this anything but manipulation. Anyone can challange this. And I suggest to deal with a Cancer themselves in the first place then talk to me again. If they still have their houses, business, jobs and money, I can call them winners. I still can't belive how my father has lost our house. He promised to buy a little apartment which he lied and lost all money he got from our house. Not just that, he actually received the same amount of money back that he invested to renew the house which at the end means that he give the house away freely. How can a person do something like that? How can anyone be trusted after all of this? Surely some people don't see this and don't take necessary evasive actions to prevent similar descructions in the future. This is where Gem's fail to do things. They don't see what's going on. They still continue to trust to such Cancers and this is where their life gets destroyed.
The funnier things is this; when you kick such Cancer's away, they try to keep coming back. Even if you tell them to get lost and don't call you back or use any means to communicate with you, they still try try and try. As if your decition is wrong, and you cant decide for yourself. Wtf? Not just they try to communicate with you, but they use everyone near you (or at least the ones whom they can reach) to change your mind. If you plan to close the deal with a Cancer, then start changing everything. Including everyone you know! Because soon or later those people will come to you and try to change how you think. Living afterlife with a Cancer is really hard. Because every second is a test for your guards. I
I think this is where Capricorns straighfowardness finds a place for usage. After all, Capricorn is the opposite of Cancer. This is exactly why I respect Capricorns. They always know what they want and still can stay positive about it.
I personally made this rule..for myself:
"I don't take astrology seriously, so I do not have prejudicies about any sign...except Cancer. I'm not going to date nor communicate with any Cancer in my entire life."
"I don't take astrology seriously, so I do not have prejudicies about any sign...except Cancer. I'm not going to date nor communicate with any Cancer in my entire life."
So you suggesting that staying in bad relationship while trying to learn from others mistakes is good?
Well I think calling it as an advantage is a unlucky word. Let's say it an "opportunity" for you to learn something new that you havent experienced yet. Advantage is something you could "use". And in this situation using this as an advantage isn't quite...good think to do for a friend.
You can't have a right partner if you do not fully trust them.
Wow I'm amazed at the feedback. Everyone else I talk to thinks Gem men are manipulators, womanizers and will only chase a female until they've caught them. I had a previous experience with a Gem almost 10 years and he was just that, very smooth, romantic and seductive but after while I guess he figured he had me and got bored. I never thought I'd hear so much negativity about Cancers. I'm a cusp Cancer (7/22) but have always been the one who gave so much in relationships only to be used and hurt.
Does anyone have anything positive to say about a Cancer Female and Gem male union?
Does anyone have anything positive to say about a Cancer Female and Gem male union?
" I find aquas and capricorns their greatest weakness "
Kris you hit the nail on the head, i've never dated a capricorn (i'm a cancer) but Aqua's are the only sign that keep me interested and on my toes.....
Kris you hit the nail on the head, i've never dated a capricorn (i'm a cancer) but Aqua's are the only sign that keep me interested and on my toes.....
Which is what i need cos that Gemini rising of mine makes me very easily bored !!
i'm a cancerian girl and recently i was seeing a geminian male for a while. he was very charming. we had very compatible views on everything. on our first date we were finishing each other's sentences and if we were ever around people we'd be able to just give each other a look to communicate what the other was thinking. so regardless of our signs, we had an instant bond, as though we'd known each other forever.
he said he'd never been able to open up to someone so readily and easily and he got attached quite fast. but sometimes when we weren't having these intimate periods, i'd just feel as though he didn't really appreciate what we had. with geminians, i've always felt as though no matter how much they love you, they'll always be somewhat distracted, i always feel as though they're constantly open to meeting someone else to capture their interest and fall in love with. i didn't feel the exclusivity and security that we cancerians need.
i found out he had another girlfriend.
i couldn't forgive him and i met a virgo.
my gemini wants me back now but i feel so hurt by him that i've just frozen him out alltogether. he probably just wants what he can't have, in the typical gemini fashion. thrill of the chase and all that. but i do miss him.
he said he'd never been able to open up to someone so readily and easily and he got attached quite fast. but sometimes when we weren't having these intimate periods, i'd just feel as though he didn't really appreciate what we had. with geminians, i've always felt as though no matter how much they love you, they'll always be somewhat distracted, i always feel as though they're constantly open to meeting someone else to capture their interest and fall in love with. i didn't feel the exclusivity and security that we cancerians need.
i found out he had another girlfriend.
i couldn't forgive him and i met a virgo.
my gemini wants me back now but i feel so hurt by him that i've just frozen him out alltogether. he probably just wants what he can't have, in the typical gemini fashion. thrill of the chase and all that. but i do miss him.
Thanks Catherine, I had a similar situation with a Gem I dated briefly about 10 years ago, when he wanted to see me he'd ring my phone off the hook, then at times I'd call no answer, we lived in the same apartment complex one day out of the blue I saw him all dressed up with another lady going into his apartment. I later found out he was dating her. Granted we werent in a relationship but he told me there was no one else. I sense I would probably go thru the same thing with this Gem if I were to continue seeing him. We've only been seeing each other for a little over a week so it's still in that new stage, at times we just laugh and have such deep discussions about everything. Then I'll go days without hearing from him. Thanks for your feedback.
i remember reading on one of the threads of this site somewhere "gemini male and cancer female - hahaha poooor cwabby"
lol.
good luck! personally i'd be wary. geminians are fickle creatures, they don't seem capable of offering the solid stable kind of love that we need. i think they make excellent company but i think maybe they're better suited to us as friends.
all depends on the rest of his chart too though of course!
lol.
good luck! personally i'd be wary. geminians are fickle creatures, they don't seem capable of offering the solid stable kind of love that we need. i think they make excellent company but i think maybe they're better suited to us as friends.
all depends on the rest of his chart too though of course!
tanya,
aquarius and cancer is a big noNO! "in this struggle, the broken heart is always that of the moonchild. be forewarned and proceed at your own risk: the stars frown on any union of these two signs"
aquarius and cancer is a big noNO! "in this struggle, the broken heart is always that of the moonchild. be forewarned and proceed at your own risk: the stars frown on any union of these two signs"
I have to agree with Catherine, I dealt with two Aquas and have to say I wasnt exactly hurt but livid when things ended, I ended both because I was just too disgusted with their behavior. I swear I'd never date another Aqua again..They are too detached and nonchalant about the things that truely matter to me.
Woah! There sure is a lot of negativity on this thread toward cancers, oh well. To each his own.
Haffo, I disagree with the notion that because you had a bad experience with your cancer dad, that all cancers are bad, it really comes down to individuals, no matter the sign and you are only limiting your own growth and awareness by making such damming statements.
Though this may not agree with the general concensus; I have been with an older gem guy for 10 months now and we have had a truly wonderful time. Maybe it's because we are older and hopefully wiser and both had bad relationships in the past, we both appreciate and enjoy each other's company. He is SO HOT-SIZZLING HOT in bed, we share a lot of the same interests, hobbies, values, ethics and dreams. I am the submissive one in the relationship, but he is so very gentle with my feelings, hmm...hmm, most of the time, except when the evil twin comes out.
I'm not saying it is without issues, most of them his commitment issues until now(by his own admission), but I think we as a couple have been so focused on his issues, that the focus on my issues has yet to come I'm sure. I'm not without security and possesive issues. A true cancer am I.
For the most part he is gregarious, flirtatious, charming, romatic, controlling and is SUCH a Gemini! Constantly changing his mind. From one day to the next, I am perfect for him today, and tomorrow he doesn't know if we are compatible and back and forth we go. I've tried to break things off about a dozen times because he'll say something like he thinks he wants to start dating other women, but he always calls back within hours to claim temporary insanity and wants me by his side. It's funny really and the truth is we have been inseperable. We are getting ready to go on vacation together for two weeks. Wee! I fell deeply in love with this playboy, but I know I can never try to hold him down or keep him from his worldly adventures. He knows that I want a committed relationship and I know he wants his freedom but has committed to be faithful to me. He has told me he does feel real love for me and I treasure those golden words. It took him 10 months to say so.
This relationship has been a journey in personal growth for both of us. I still don't know if we will continue to mesh as well as we have the last 10 months, but I am betting we do.
Happy Trails to you Allluv72, Have fun with your gem and keep it light hearted is my advice.
Haffo, I disagree with the notion that because you had a bad experience with your cancer dad, that all cancers are bad, it really comes down to individuals, no matter the sign and you are only limiting your own growth and awareness by making such damming statements.
Though this may not agree with the general concensus; I have been with an older gem guy for 10 months now and we have had a truly wonderful time. Maybe it's because we are older and hopefully wiser and both had bad relationships in the past, we both appreciate and enjoy each other's company. He is SO HOT-SIZZLING HOT in bed, we share a lot of the same interests, hobbies, values, ethics and dreams. I am the submissive one in the relationship, but he is so very gentle with my feelings, hmm...hmm, most of the time, except when the evil twin comes out.
I'm not saying it is without issues, most of them his commitment issues until now(by his own admission), but I think we as a couple have been so focused on his issues, that the focus on my issues has yet to come I'm sure. I'm not without security and possesive issues. A true cancer am I.
For the most part he is gregarious, flirtatious, charming, romatic, controlling and is SUCH a Gemini! Constantly changing his mind. From one day to the next, I am perfect for him today, and tomorrow he doesn't know if we are compatible and back and forth we go. I've tried to break things off about a dozen times because he'll say something like he thinks he wants to start dating other women, but he always calls back within hours to claim temporary insanity and wants me by his side. It's funny really and the truth is we have been inseperable. We are getting ready to go on vacation together for two weeks. Wee! I fell deeply in love with this playboy, but I know I can never try to hold him down or keep him from his worldly adventures. He knows that I want a committed relationship and I know he wants his freedom but has committed to be faithful to me. He has told me he does feel real love for me and I treasure those golden words. It took him 10 months to say so.
This relationship has been a journey in personal growth for both of us. I still don't know if we will continue to mesh as well as we have the last 10 months, but I am betting we do.
Happy Trails to you Allluv72, Have fun with your gem and keep it light hearted is my advice.
Thanks Stardance, but I'm afraid the honeymoon has ended before it started. I've only seen him twice, we had lunch two days in a row, where we enjoyed each other so much we were both very late back to work. I never thought I'd have such deep conversations with a Gem. Thursday night we stayed on the phone talking about everything until after 1am. He's in the reserves and this weekend was his drill weekend, I called him just to chat he said he was in a area where he couldnt talk but would call me back. I still havent heard from him. I called him today but didnt leave a message, I also left a text message, no reply so I dont know if he's got someone else, in a relationship or what.
Well, I think the general rule is to wait, if you want....or not, but don't continue to try to reach him if he doesn't respond. He may be calling you back if you are not too clingy...At any rate, have a good life and enjoy!
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