Gem man - hasn't told his parents about us (it's been 1.5 months) & he lives with them

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by aj123 on Tuesday, October 20, 2015 and has 14 replies.
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?
Posted by aj123
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?


Normal...been it that scenario. It's gonna take a couple more months at least but then you know he's really feeling ya Winking
It took me a year to introduce my aqua hubby to my mother... and after more than 4 years, he still hasn't met my father. I have abusive parents and do not speak to my sociopath father anymore.

My hubby didn't introduce me to his mother for 2 years.

There are all kinds of reasons and variables that happen in life. So, not introducing you after only a month and a half.... smh. Slow down.
Posted by littlemegabyte
He mentioned on multiple occasions that his parents "thought it was a red flag" that I didn't want to meet them. Well, I saw their red flag as a red flag myself.

I can relate to this. It's almost an unspoken realization... We are not dating the parents! So, it's not necessary. In my case, I did not marry his mother and he did not marry mine... We married each other, NOT each other's parents.
Posted by aj123
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?


my gemini never told him about me and we've been dating for 3 years and he is not living with them.
eryone for all the helpful posts so far

Posted by fkpkr
Posted by aj123
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?


my gemini never told him about me and we've been dating for 3 years and he is not living with them.
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Thank you for the post. With your gemini, did he contact you every day for the 3 years you have been together or were there a few days with no contact at all?

Just out of curiosity, did you ever ask him why he didn't tell his parents about you? Or did he ever give a reason or justification?

Thanks
Posted by littlemegabyte
Uhh idk where those 2 lil crabs came from up above, but don't listen to them, they are crabs, the opposite of gems Tongue

*chases crabs out with seafood crackers... except for Moonbutter*

You're talking about the Taurus with gem moon, right? Well he's not really an actual gem, but that is way too short of a time I think. I hope you haven't brought it up to him that he needs to tell his parents about you :/ we only do stuff when we are ready, at our convenience.

Tbh I think this is a bit of a nonfactor. It's not important at this step of the relationship.


Backing this up. I'm a Taurus sun and moon and I would never mention a word (we are private) until I'm sure. That is all.... 6 months and on sure.
Posted by littlemegabyte
Uhh idk where those 2 lil crabs came from up above, but don't listen to them, they are crabs, the opposite of gems Tongue

*chases crabs out with seafood crackers... except for Moonbutter*

You're talking about the Taurus with gem moon, right? Well he's not really an actual gem, but that is way too short of a time I think. I hope you haven't brought it up to him that he needs to tell his parents about you :/ we only do stuff when we are ready, at our convenience.

Tbh I think this is a bit of a nonfactor. It's not important at this step of the relationship.


Haha thank you for the reply. I would not expect to meet them at this stage obviously but I just wasn't sure if him not ever even mentioning me was "normal".. considering he's had many partners in the past (which his parents know about) so it's not like he's a very picky guy who only dates the best of the best... & the additional factor that he lives with his parents. If his parents had been living abroad somewhere, I would understand there would be no point him mentioning us to them.

Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by aj123
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?


Normal...been it that scenario. It's gonna take a couple more months at least but then you know he's really feeling ya Winking
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Thank you for the reply. Would you like to explain when you say you've been in that situation, were you the one putting off telling your family or him? If him, how did it all work out?

Thanks
Posted by aj123
Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by aj123
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?


Normal...been it that scenario. It's gonna take a couple more months at least but then you know he's really feeling ya Winking

Thank you for the reply. Would you like to explain when you say you've been in that situation, were you the one putting off telling your family or him? If him, how did it all work out?

Thanks
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Gosh, we hung out with/as friends for several months...started seeing each other, dating a few months after that. So maybe 6 months from the time of seeing each other. This was about 5 years ago. We are currently broken up.
I have to be honest and I don't mean to sound harsh, but this post is sorta pointless. What are you worried about?
Posted by aj123

Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents




The only way you would whether or not he has mentioned you to his parents is if you are hounding him for that particular information. Otherwise, you would have no clue as to what topics he addresses with his parents.

For it being only 6 weeks and you're already hounding him about your expectations is proving to him that you're not worth much effort, and will likely take whatever he can get from you, and then drop you off for a woman who will let nature take its course. A woman like that will be worth it because she isn't going to be breathing down his neck after just a mere 6 weeks.

For the fact that you call a Taurus a Gemini ... is proof positive that you're probably an idiot.
Posted by aj123
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?


It isn't abnormal.

Geminis aren't necessarily open, like you would think.

They talk a lot, but they like to keep secrets.
Posted by aj123
Thank you everyone for all the helpful posts so far

Posted by fkpkr
Posted by aj123
Hi,
What is everyone's thoughts on a Gemini man who hasn't mentioned you to his parents (despite living with them) and us having been together for about 1.5 months.
& his parents are not very strict at all and he seems quite close to his parents, esp. his mum.

He is in his late twenties - Tells his parents that he's going to a friend's when we do meet up.

Is that a bad sign or totally normal?


my gemini never told him about me and we've been dating for 3 years and he is not living with them.

Thank you for the post. With your gemini, did he contact you every day for the 3 years you have been together or were there a few days with no contact at all?

Just out of curiosity, did you ever ask him why he didn't tell his parents about you? Or did he ever give a reason or justification?

Thanks
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there were days when there are no contact at all, so if he is quiet, i just let him be. i don't talk to him until he approaches me. if i had to have an impromptu sleepover with my girl friends or if i had to make plans i would do so.

he told me he never told his parents because they didnt ask him yet. he came from a very conservative culture so i tried to understand and let it come from him. i've been that patient and tolerant for years.