Gemini/Aquarius

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by SapphireGem on Friday, August 3, 2012 and has 30 replies.
So, apparently Gemini's and Aquarius are meant to be a good match frienship and relationship-wise.
Please explain this to me? It's not that I don't get along with Aquarians, I just have a deep-seated distrust for them. I find them sly, cunning and always seem to have their own hidden agendas. I could never see myself with one and yet they're often considered to be a primary affinity for Gemini's. Of all the Aquarians I know that I would consider friends and/or aquaintances there's only one that I have any sort of trust for and that's the drummer in my band, all the others I happily hold at a distance and don't let them close. I simply don't trust them.
Is this just me or are there any other Gemini's out there that have trouble with this compatibility?
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I've dated a few Aquarius men, though we had some good times it didn't work out. The relationships were not abusive in any way, just...unsatisfying. We have similar comfort zones. Detachment from emotions comes easily for both signs. Since strong emotions can be uncomfortable for us (both Gem + Aqua) we retreat to a mental plane and stay there. Good conversation and companionship flows effortlessly.
Deep down inside we Gems want to be able to release the passion and love that's boiling inside. We can only do so when it's safe, and we know our lover is ready to the same. The problem is, neither Aqua nor Gemini is willing to stick their necks out. It's a risk neither is willing to take, when it's so much easier to just be buddies and keep it light. This is why, though we can be quite compatible, something about this pairing does not feel like love to me.
It's also why, when the relationship is over, Aqua and Gem can slip easily into the friend zone without missing a beat. In a sense, the relationship was really more of a friendship the entire time.
It explains why I'm friends with all of my aqua exes. There's no sexual tension or desire to go back and "try again".
Personally, I feel that though we Gems may prioritize and seek a mental connection in a partner, we need partners that will help bring out our emotional side. There has be more of a balance, otherwise, though stimulating mentally, the ltr ends up hollow and unsatisfying.
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I am an aquarius but gemini moon. I feel what your saying, i think it goes both ways. WE ARE SO SIMILAR that it cancels out..generally with any other sign that wears their heart on their sleeves, we air signs can ease up but with one another..we get completely out witting each other. We run the same. however, it really depends on the other planetary positions. My moon is gemini...my ex moon was CAPRICORN. he hated the way i was even though he had a gemini sun. Moon runs deeper in relationships than the sun.
we only open up when the other person does. we never make the first move even if we desire it . SO when aqua+gemin (sun) come together, its very light hearted and fun and talkative but...there is a sense of disconnect and lack of trustworthiness.
i found the older a aqua and gemini gets, the better compatibility.
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hmm i can relate to that, its confusing for both parties. however, you stated that you shared yourself with him...voluntarily or did he ask?
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Think it depends on what type of gemini you are.. Aquas can be pretty straight forward..i think they lock them selves up when they doubt or have trust issues with someone.
I think also gems and aquas fit better later in life,they need to be mature to appreciate each other..
But hey im a gem,i dont match with no one but myself or if i can have a diffrent sign for everyday of the week =)
/ Gem with aqua Asc

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Posted by candi3bb
hmm i can relate to that, its confusing for both parties. however, you stated that you shared yourself with him...voluntarily or did he ask?


You know, it was a mixture. I think we talked about him more than me in the relationship, but I feel it was still surface. I would voluntarily share, but I feel in a relationship people should do that. o.o He really didn't open up voluntarily too often, I would have to inquire, and sometimes he'd open up, other times completely shut down. =/ It was obviously not meant to be though since it ended. Maybe since he wasn't the one that's why I don't feel fulfilled by it, like something was always missing, something lacking. He would send me the songs and poems he would write, he let me look at his blog. I was even given passwords, but their was something wrong with it. He instigated conversations with me about us having a future together. I always made sure to never hint, imply or bring up us getting married or anything of the sort, so he very much confused me. As I would make sure to back off or never bring up certain things, he would, then a week later change his mind. -_- Any man could do that though. I was definitely feeling like I was with a completely different man every 3 days or so. 0.0
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UGh the ultimate question "the chicken or the egg?"
haha different man? i know what you mean haha at the same time, im also that way. The very thing that causes tension is also the very reason why he was so captivated by me for that long. also the very reason why we are separated. SIGHS! love..sometimes you just want to choke it at its neck!
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every Aqua I ever knew was a cheater, men, women, doesn't matter, and all want to always come back when the real life happens.
A lot of talk, a lot of manipulation of perceptions, but when you get up against the wall they flank out. Sorry, I don't have any good view on any Aquas...
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i've never had dn issue with any aqua i've ever met and got to know.... i have been in a relationship with an aqua for a lil over a year now.
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I was married to an Aqua; it was good at first but he always wanted to save the world as they typically do. They're such humanitarians which is a good thing--in moderation. No way should everyone else come before wife and children. He was such a follower too which I abhorred. He wasn't a jealous person or smothering which I liked.
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Posted by roamingfree
every Aqua I ever knew was a cheater, men, women, doesn't matter, and all want to always come back when the real life happens.
A lot of talk, a lot of manipulation of perceptions, but when you get up against the wall they flank out. Sorry, I don't have any good view on any Aquas...


THIS!!! TOTALLY THIS!!!
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I had a close Aqua friend and was crazy about her. She was even in my wedding. Then, one day, she decided we couldn't hang out anymore because we weren't the same religion (she denies this, but she did it to several other people, as well). It broke my heart. I see her around sometimes, and she always says we need to hang out, but it never happens. It's been 6 years.
My Mom was recently with an Aquarian boyfriend. I really liked him. He was inquisitive, adventurous, and fun. Then, she found out he was also pursuing someone else. He actually thought she would be okay with it and still can't understand why she dumped him.
One of my bosses is an Aquarius. We share common views and values and have great conversations. But, she will snap and turn on me (and coworkers) without any warning or provocation. It depends solely on what sort of day she's having. She apologizes later, but it's caused me to limit our interactions to the workplace and avoid the more personal friendship she has hinted she's interested in having.
To sum up, I really like Aquas, but have also learned to watch my back and keep up my guard. I would very much like to meet some Aquas who change this. I think Gems and Aquas are just similar enough, and just different enough, to be capable of having amazing times together.
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I'm interested about this pairing myself. So one of my male Aqua co-workers has been dating this Gem gal since mid summer, they met online. Now prior to her he was a notorious whore. Then one day, after getting lots of crap for hooking up with another co-worker, he suddenly decides that he wants a "girlfriend" and to get married and have children-mostly because thats what all his friends are doing. So along comes Polly, the Gem and she seems nice enough, totally accepts him for who he is doesnt complain, yadda, yadda, yadda. What I cant wrap my head arounnd his her complete acceptance of his behavior. She can never meet his job mates because he told her he hooked up with one, then he told her about slipping some chick his number when she went to the bathroom- they were out drinking and he was drunk. Thats all they seem to do, is go out to drink. Then he cancels on her at the last minute to hang out and get drunk with his friends. And the cherry on the cake is they are already saying "I love you" WTH So one day he was at work talking about how he cares about her-not love mind you, and I say to him "Your going to be awesome one day when you finally morph into a man, and if I meet your girlfriend I'll be sure to tell her"
So, I'm thinking either this pairing are soulmates, or this girl is painfully insecure.....and moving right along.
One of my best girl friends is an Aqua and I love her to death. I'm like her sounding board and therapist because we essentially have nothing in common other than facination over our differences. Plus her air, gets my Gem Asc and the need to not be tied down all the time and have to chat every fucking day like typical chicks. We go weeks without talking and meet up for cocktails and dont miss a beat. So she has, a husband, boyfriend, and various lovers all at the same time. And thats the real.
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@piscesfebfish- its so funny that you mention that. I am in a similar situation being a gem girl dating an Aquarius guy. He will tell me of situations he was in where he kind if went on a date with another girl instead of going to work. My initial reaction was just shock. But I wasn't angry...for one, I know if I were to have made a fuss about it he would have tried to convince me I'm overreacting and being jealous and how unnattractive that is blahdy blahdy blah....I know that this will happen. So, I just let it go because I really don't believe he would physically cheat on me. I give him most everything I have to offer. But I think similar to the fact that he wants to have a popular reputation and maybe just in case we don't work, he has other options.

I don't think it will work out between us. He is not nearly as mature as he thinks he is and I am just trying to keep the peace.
We do have romantic moments within the intimacy arena. And he is a nice guy with a bad guy demeanor. Still...FUCK. its frustrating that we are on different speeds on different planes...or whatever it is.
And I am attatched to him because we have a comfortability around eachother.

This might give you a small insight on what's happening. I don't think she will marry him. But I am sure she does honestly and genuinely love him.


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She may also be falling into his criticisms too deeply too.
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I began studying astrology long ago. When I read that Aquarius & Gemini were a perfect match, imagine my face when I met 1 & started seriously dating one. I thought we'd be a match made in heaven. HA!
As an Aquarius, yes I think outside of the box, can handle witty/intellectual conversation & love spontaneity in life, BUT there's a time & a place for everything & Gemini's are too fluttery for me. They're a little too fish. Too wishy-washy. Too busy.
Word on the street is that Gemini's try multi-tasking with everything. Yep, they do, but unfortunately they don't know when to admit that they're in over their heads. And when they try doing too much at once, it shows b/c everything they were trying to juggle gets neglected & falls apart eventually.
My experience with Gemini is that they can't ever finish what they start. They want 2 things that are completely contradictory to each other. 1 minute they desire a partner who is 1 way & the next minute, they have changed their mind with the wind. Um, relationships are fun & everything when 2 people can bring variety to it, BUT let's not forget that every relationship fundamentally needs STABILITY of some sort to last.
It seems that they like/love things in a shallow way. Just above the surface. Never deep enough.
I can click well with the people who can hang when it's time to be spontaneous & adventurous but I can't stand someone (Gemini lol) who can't ever sit the hell down or know when to stop! DAMN!
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True, ^^^, I'm not the type that's all over the place trying to do evrything at once. I'm more down to earth. I actually really dearly care about my man but some times its peaving when he acts rude to me. I don't unerstand why any man would want to treat his woman that he loved that way. Aqua or not- its just a maturity thing. But, we take these astrology descriptions to the head then have high expectations based on them. When finally, we end up broken over the fact that it wasn't all rainbows and butterflies. Tis a sad sad world, the world of love.
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Next may will be 3 years and counting. smile
But, I will also say that I'm glad that the both of us have water in our charts to even out the flightyness! Lol! And, like what was stated, maturity does play a major role in any relationship with any sign.
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Not many can keep up with a Gem--mentally or otherwise. Those who complain about us don't "get" us and that's ok. Just keep it moving; we don't want to hear your constant whining about "us". Please and thank you.
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It seems its going to end with my hunkaloo guy. I am so emotionally attatched to him but I don't think he wants to be faithful to just one woman right now....it hurts deep. But I wish him the best because I know he will do great things one day
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Personally, ive always been attracted to aquariuses. It works quite well. It might depend on the rest of your signs so if you check your natal chart you can probably see where it all goes wrong? Theyre both air but differ when it comes to being fixed or mutable. So that spices things up a bit.
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aqua are so irrelevant.
esp if on that cappy cusp.
talk about boring.
although, my one pure aqua friend can be entertaining sometimes.. eventually, just like any other aqua ive ever been around for too long, he starts to annoy me and put me in a never-ending loope of boredom.
not sure what the moons/rising are of the aquas im dealing with but all the ones i know seem to suck
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Aquas tend to come off as emotionally detached and independent to the point of being uncompromising. I've no doubt there are some wonderful aquas out there but the few that I've gotten to know really came across as self-righteous over "their cause" and selfish. Gemis are much easier to like. I find them friendly, witty and very curious in general. Gemis get me out of my shell and get me laughing. Not sure I think a Gemi/Aqua combo as being all that great even tho they are both air.
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Yay! More Aquas for me!!
(but I'll stick with my main squeeze for now)
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Posted by truecap
Yay! More Aquas for me!!
(but I'll stick with my main squeeze for now)
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Lol! With the right aqua... They just don't know what they're missing! Tongue
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Posted by AbstractRay
It seems its going to end with my hunkaloo guy. I am so emotionally attatched to him but I don't think he wants to be faithful to just one woman right now....it hurts deep. But I wish him the best because I know he will do great things one day


Did it end?
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One of my very best friends is a male Aqua.... we are extremely close and have been through some big life trials together. We have a very sarcastic tone about feelings when we discuss them, but discuss them we do... and very deeply and honestly.
We have watched each other go through relationships and had romantic entanglements between ourselves... the timing is just off, we both have some things we need to get through before we're ready for the "big one" which is inevitably what we'd be if we ever decided to really "do this".
We have individual friends and shared friends who think we're destined to be together and would refer to us as soulmates. I like to toy with the idea, but really I just enjoy him. If anything comes to be, it does, but I am not driving anything (which is also important for Aquas.... impatient Gemini is quick to turn an Aqua into a stone wall).
Aquas need to feel that they are in control, they need to feel important in life and to you, but never ???owned??. While they can be fun and airy, they also can dwell much more than a Gem, it??s important to know when to tease and when to shut up and be a shoulder??_. Which is a puzzle all on it??s own.
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Lol, it's been YEARS in the making and I suspect YEARS to come to fruition.
He still has divorce stuff to work through and I have grief on my end. However, we have THE best time together. smile I think we both know subconsciously it's not time, and when the time comes it'll work itself out.
He'll also have to confront his fear that if it doesn't work out we'll never have what we have now.
I think in many ways the thought of losing the friendship is almost debilitating to him. He tells people that I saved his life (his exact words, not mine) when he was going through his divorce. We spent hours and hours and hours sometimes daily talking about the SAME stuff, but that's what you do for your friends.... right?
I knew he was suicidal at times, but I didn't know until much later that just my being available to him kept him from going over the edge. Then a year ago when an immediate family member of mine made that same choice we had this really strange dynamic between us that we'll always share.
He was able to help me as I helped him, but was also able to help me understand some of the darkness that people go through to arrive at that point. It was.... very difficult for us both because of the menagerie of emotions happening all at once (also considering he knows my family quite well).
It's a very multifaceted relationship we have, but VERY special to us both. And FWIW, we were cosmically drawn to each other from the moment we met.
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I have never met 1 aquarius in my life that i could have a conversation with. All i've met doesn't say a word! i tried talking to them but they're are just too quiet it's impossible.
Ops, just remembered: there is 1 aqua girl that is actually aquarian that i know, we had a nice friendship, not the best cause it was a little vague, but she's very easy going and nice to hang out
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Posted by SapphireGem
So, apparently Gemini's and Aquarius are meant to be a good match frienship and relationship-wise.
Please explain this to me? It's not that I don't get along with Aquarians, I just have a deep-seated distrust for them. I find them sly, cunning and always seem to have their own hidden agendas. I could never see myself with one and yet they're often considered to be a primary affinity for Gemini's. Of all the Aquarians I know that I would consider friends and/or aquaintances there's only one that I have any sort of trust for and that's the drummer in my band, all the others I happily hold at a distance and don't let them close. I simply don't trust them.
Is this just me or are there any other Gemini's out there that have trouble with this compatibility?


i think i understand you... i had a sense of a little bit of fakeness in the girl that was my "friend"... and she had her own agenda as well.
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