Gemini boy problem...

Posted by leeberated
Charfig's comment is understandable and totally reasonable. Like, "Wouldn't they want to spend every single moment with you," and things like that. BUT as someone who's been on the other side of that, it truly is hard when you're mentally juggling things that drain both sides of your brain and then you're always tired and hardly have time for yourself. When I'm in work overload and I get a break, I want to sleep or just watch something entertaining and mind numbing to de-stress...then sleep again. Then if I have more time and energy after that is for other people.

A way you could look at it to hold you over is that he's working to solidify a happy future with you (like if he's your soulmate and all). He's trying to reach a goal and let's be honest, other people are distracting! If this gemini guy is meant to be your husband one day, wouldn't you want him to lay his foundation now. I don't think he's pulling your chain. I think sending him occasional positive or funny messages without expecting a response will help more than you know. Like, "Knock 'em dead today," or "Hope all is well," is my favorite. Or better, "Want a quick massage?" lol.

I'd say give him a month or 2 to sort stuff out then move on. Feels like he'll be back. I usually make it up to my peoples ten-fold for being so patient with me.

Any update?

Posted by muffle_kerfuffle

Posted by Charfig5
I don't know if that will help but one thing I noticed early on with my gem is that him and I have completely different perceptions of time. Years ago, when we had problems of communication, he would disappear for weeks at a time. Then come back eventually. It took me a while to realize that a couple weeks to him was nothing, and to me it felt like forever. I mean, when you clearly think about it, what's a couple of weeks compared to a lifetime? So, I'm thinking the advice that's being given to you is probably good, let him breathe. It is true that when gem men feel overwhelmed by life in general, they will not want to feel like they're putting you through their shit and drag you down with them. But trust me when I say that they do feel much deeper than they let on.

It depends on our "time of month". A few days may feel like months to us; if we're busy, it would feel like nothing.

But I agree with everything else you said. (y)

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Posted by LadyDraconis
Yes he said that he felt that he couldn't bring himself to continue this relationship currently then changed his FB relationship status to single...

Did you try to plea with his emotional reasoning? Or did you just let it go and accept it?

The guy is stressed out and feels guilty with all the pressure he is under. Try reaching to him and letting him know you understand the stress he is under and so forth.

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Posted by LadyDraconis
I was utterly shocked when he said that he didn't feel he could give me much attention or make me happy right now - because he did make me incredibly happy and I already felt like I had a perfect amount of attention. I don't smother my significant others when they're going through a rough patch. Generally I remain encouraging and back off a little.

This same thing happened when I started to get serious with my wife. I felt incredibly guilty I could not give her the attention I believed she deserved so I stepped back. Not only that, I was horrifically abused as a child and tried to stay clear of any serious relationship. He probably thinks highly of you just as I feel about my wife.

When my wife was supportive and comforting, it really helped break that barrier.

He likes you. I'm pretty sure of it.

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Posted by exxtasyx
I don't see a problem with this. He gave you his time and attention when he had it, then things got too hectic in his life and he realized he no longer has the time for a relationship. Can't really do much about this situation except move on.