Gemini Girl and Capricorn Guy (Confused?)

I am very confused about my Gemini girl. She is 21 and I am in my late 20's. We have been dating for 5 months and we balance each other out. I dedicated myself 100% to her. I do everything in my ability to make her happy. I am very flexible and let her have her own life. She drinks all the time, does every kind of drug, hangs out with her guy friends. I never tried to control or limit her in anyway. Btw I don't do any drugs, drink or smoke on regular basis. I do drink once in a while. She said its just a phase and she will stop doing all the drugs and heavy drinking. I trusted her.

She even said she loves me and she can imagine having my kids. However, I am coming to the conclusion that she is just saying things to me because it sounds good. Also, her behavior is extremely selfish. Just ME ME ME.

Everything has to be about her and on her time. We were doing great but I lost trust in her when she got me in trouble for stealing something. My whole life I have never felt embarrassed. After that day, I've been trying my best to trust her again and slowly I was getting there. This happened like a month or so ago.

Also, for the last month or so I've been tight with money and very stressed. Therefore, I am not able to spend money and take her places. I told her to wait a while and I will be have way more money in coming months.

Lately, I told her she has been acting weird and now she wants to take a break to figure out if this is what she wants. I asked if there is another guy and she admitted she likes this other guy at work but its just a crush and means nothing. She admitted that she is planning to attend an orgy and that's what she wants. She just wants to have sex with different people. She said she wants to get it out of the system and not do it behind my back and cheat, so she is asking for a break.

Whenever I talk to her now, she shows no emotions. Right after we talk, she will go hang out with her friends to smoke, drink or do drugs.

I know it's over but I guess my question is where did I go wrong. I never treated her bad and always tried to put her happiness before mine. I am hurt with the fact that even after all that she fails to see things clearly and won't appreciate me.

Are all Gemini girls like this?

Posted by geminicandIe


What attracted you to her in the first place?

she is very beautiful. Also, she is able to get me out of my shell. She is truly fun to be around. She is great with kids and truly cares about those in need. I felt like we could have built an awesome team together. I help her dreams come true and vice versa.

Today she just told me the reason is we haven't had sex for past 3 weeks and we are not going places like clubs, rock concerts, rave etc. Basically I am getting boring.

Like I said for past month or so, I have been under heavy financial stress and I have a tough time focusing when it comes to finances and I worry too much. I thought she would support me when I am down but I don't get it. I am not asking for too much am I?

I am dating a Cap and let me tell you, if he was struggling I would do my best to bring joy to his life. This chick that you are with doesn't give a f***. Listen to Gemcandle...keep it moving.

Posted by geminicandIe
Okay, now it's time that I get real with you.

This girl is using you for entertainment, sex and/or money. She does not care nor respect you. I am telling you this because you don't seem to get it. She is not even your friend. I am really sorry.
But you are a cap. Think about this LOGICALLY!

There is no way in hell I'd treat anyone this way, let alone someone I give a damn about. I hope you keep your dignity and keep it moving.

Thanks. I think I needed to hear that.

Posted by geminitwin
I am dating a Cap and let me tell you, if he was struggling I would do my best to bring joy to his life. This chick that you are with doesn't give a f***. Listen to Gemcandle...keep it moving.

How long have you guys been dating? What did you like about him initially?

Does cap man devote themselves like this after committing into relationship? If so, now I do believe my cap man is worthy of waiting~~

I am sorry for your situation, you really should move on asap since she behave like this~ Do you think she can find another guy pay her drugs and drinks like you do, except drug dealer, maybe!!!
I think she will realize how good u r after u left, maybe she will change, maybe not!!

SHES A 21 YEAR OLD GEM THAT IS ABOUT 5 OR 6 MIND WISE
BUY HER A DOLL TO PLAY WITH

Posted by Curiouscapri

Posted by geminitwin
I am dating a Cap and let me tell you, if he was struggling I would do my best to bring joy to his life. This chick that you are with doesn't give a f***. Listen to Gemcandle...keep it moving.

How long have you guys been dating? What did you like about him initially?

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We have been dating for 1.5 years. Initially, I liked his take charge quality and he was good looking. I like the protective quality about him also.

Its not Gemini women, its ALL women. Women use men everyday all day. Weve all been there, but its time to cut her loose. Im a Gemini and I just eliminated a Capricorn girl from my life. She was doing some of what your girl is doing, but once I realized the situation was making me very unhappy I bailed on her. You dont get involved to be lied to, cheated and used and treated in the end like you aint shlt and never did anything. We dont get into relationships to be unhappy stressed out and miserable.

Ill give you the same advice I was given here when I dealt with a soul sucking capricorn selfish bltch..I can manage now the agony of not having her around cause im experienced enough and can deal with the emotions. But let her go now, dont even call to find out whats wrong with her, just disappear. Dont try and talk it over, just abandon her and go hand out with other women. These people can easily be replaced. like Biggie said, "I dont chase 'em I replace 'em."

Love is Respect that is reciprocal.

This girl is confusing. We met last night to finalize things because I don't like ending things over chat or phone. She is all over the place. She starting with wanting to be friends, she doesn't want to be with me and eventually she wants to be with me and work on our relationship.

I told her everything that I don't like about her and she said she will never do it again but I have no clue if I should believe her. I feel like the trust is gone completely and without trust it will never work out in long run.

hi, so im a gemini n i'm happy to say we r all not like that. we like adventures, n new experiences so we will try new stuff but we care deeply abt out loved ones, we wont do nyting to hurt them. the fact that she's hurting you means she doesnt care enough. go find a gemini that really cares about you and wou'll be so happy u'll probably burst.

After she said she wants to work on it, she decided to go on date tonight. After few hour she changes her mind saying she is going to Vegas to run an errand.

This is beyond LOL now. I guess I am done for sure.

Depends on if you like to be with someone who is like this. Sounds to me like you must ask yourself that before you can ever be

Close the door dude.

I already closed the doors but this stuff is just beyond crazy. I found out she was playing 5 guys at the same time including me. Not sure how far she went with all of them. I am just shocked that i trusted this girl.

I wouldn't look or wait for her to change. She is on a path to self destruction. Physically she is there but mentally she has checked out. Nothing you can do once a gemini checks out.

I've been researching and I think my ex has BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER --

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She is already with another guy but I do feel bad for her. I have no clue if i should try to help her out or just say "who cares".

she is going to Vegas to run an errand.

SHE MAY BE GOING TO VAGES TO SELL SOME ASS PICK UP A FEW QUID.

HELL NO!

I have never touched a drug, never been wasted/drunk, never touched a cig. I've known I've wanted to go into the FBI since I was 16 and want to go for a police force. It's a huge turn off when guys are into the party/frat boy life style , drink to excess and if there is any kind of record, smoking, or drug usage I won't even befriend them. No thanks. No drama, no baggage. Nothing is messing up my career chances.

I do know however, I can grow restless if a guy can't take me out on a regular basis although I do not expect top dollar. The idea of an orgy or a threesome absolutely repulses me though. Couldn't do it! I like to stick to one at a time and only one. If a guy suggested a threesome, instant deal breaker. I do NOT share.

I'm sorry you went through that...she sounds like a mess. You did the right thing, please don't go back. This is why most of my friends are much older or at my frame of mind because things like clubs and parties don't interest me at all.

A first date with me is essentially a job interview. I ask questions like this;

-do you have a record, prior convictions?
-smoke or do drugs?
-do you go out and party on the regular, drink a lot, attend clubs and tool ceremonies?
-are you talking to a bunch of girls?
-crazy exes, baggage?
-are you financially stable?
-trashed credit, good credit?
-how educated are you? I won't date uneducated ppl unless they have a good job.
-what are your goals?
-do you interests match up with mine?
-are you boring?

Etc etc. not so much all of those at once, but a majority. I'm very big on record, personal life, morals, goals, stability, and education.

Posted by Agentgem24



A first date with me is essentially a job interview. I ask questions like this;

-do you have a record, prior convictions?
-smoke or do drugs?
-do you go out and party on the regular, drink a lot, attend clubs and tool ceremonies?
-are you talking to a bunch of girls?
-crazy exes, baggage?
-are you financially stable?
-trashed credit, good credit?
-how educated are you? I won't date uneducated ppl unless they have a good job.
-what are your goals?
-do you interests match up with mine?
-are you boring?

Etc etc. not so much all of those at once, but a majority. I'm very big on record, personal life, morals, goals, stability, and education.

-do you have a record, prior convictions? NO
-smoke or do drugs? NO
-do you go out and party on the regular, drink a lot, attend clubs and tool ceremonies? ONCE or TWICE A MONTH
-are you talking to a bunch of girls? NO
-crazy exes, baggage? YES LOL
-are you financially stable? YES VERY
-trashed credit, good credit? EXCELLENT CREDIT
-how educated are you? I won't date uneducated ppl unless they have a good job. BACHELOR OF SCIENCE
-what are your goals? BE SOMEONE USEFUL AND GIVE SOMETHING TO THE WORLD BEFORE I LEAVE EARTH
-do you interests match up with mine? NO CLUE
-are you boring? UMM IF I FEEL LIKE I AM BEING USED, I WILL NOT INVEST IN YOU. SO YES YOU WILL FIND ME BORING IF I DON'T TRUST YOU.

did i pass? lol but thanks for the reply. I really appreciate it.

Just an update --- She already moved in with the guy , met his family and already in love with him. I guess she is at a good spot.