Gemini is extremely vague and indecisive!!!!!!!!!!

I, Scorpio 23, was in a relationship with a Gemini 31 for a short time about 2 years ago. I was happy with him at the time but could not see that, as was completely obsessed with getting my pisces 29 back. At the time Gemini and I were dating, he stated that he wanted to be able to see other people if he wished, but he never actually saw anyone else the entire time we were together and was always wanting to spend his free time with me, up until I left him. I got back into contact with him a few weeks ago, and he is happy to hear from me, I am actually married to Pisces now, but have not been happy with that relationship and am actively seeking a divorce. The point is Gemini still wants to kiss and be intimate with me, which so far I have turned him down because he said that we will unlikely have a future together but that he will be there for me emotionally and sexually if I want him to be. I did not realize the feelings that I had for gemini when I was with him because I was so hung up on Pisces, and now I realize how special Gemini is, but I feel like if I want a relationship and he says he just wants to have fun. What to do...?

Kick his ass. Most gemini needs reality check. 😄

He is just so confusing because what he says verbally is always very different then what his actions show me. He has said that he has never been in love before and doesn't even know if he is capable of it. I feel like he is playing games with my emotions, I have warned him several times that even though he has told me not to I still get emotionally attached, but he still tries to be intimate with me anyway. I have told him I cannot help the emotional connection I feel with him and that he should stop because I feel like I am going to be hurt by this, but then he has never actually done anything to hurt me at all, he was always there and is still always there for me when I need him. He keeps telling me not to get emotionally attached even though he knows I allready am, but he won't stop trying to be intimate with me despite the fact he knows I am emotionally attached to him. I have never played games with emotions or relationships and I have always been straight forward and he is so... unemotional it bothers me a little bit, but it still doesn't stop me from wanting him, and in fact I think it makes me want him even more, and I wonder if he knows that and exploits that part of me?

"At the time Gemini and I were dating, he stated that he wanted to be able to see other people if he wished, but he never actually saw anyone else the entire time we were together and was always wanting to spend his free time with me, up until I left him."

he may have not acted on it, but you gave him permission to do it. he will remember that.

"The point is Gemini still wants to kiss and be intimate with me, which so far I have turned him down because he said that we will unlikely have a future together but that he will be there for me emotionally and sexually if I want him to be."

"now I realize how special Gemini is, but I feel like if I want a relationship and he says he just wants to have fun."

let me get this straight.... he will be there for you emotionally and sexually, but, doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, cuz he says there is no future in it? good for you for turning him down. altho, i would think that you would turn him down as your divorce is not final. you should read that back and pretend you are reading about someone else having this problem. to be honest, my first thought was.. talk about having your cake and eating it too. if you can accept being a booty call, cuz it sounds like that's all he wants.

imho, that's being a special gemini all right. but, i don't think we have the same definition of "special" in mind.

"What to do...?"

run! find someone who wants the same thing as you do.

Posted by Scorpio702
He is just so confusing because what he says verbally is always very different then what his actions show me. He has said that he has never been in love before and doesn't even know if he is capable of it. I feel like he is playing games with my emotions, I have warned him several times that even though he has told me not to I still get emotionally attached, but he still tries to be intimate with me anyway. I have told him I cannot help the emotional connection I feel with him and that he should stop because I feel like I am going to be hurt by this, but then he has never actually done anything to hurt me at all, he was always there and is still always there for me when I need him. He keeps telling me not to get emotionally attached even though he knows I allready am, but he won't stop trying to be intimate with me despite the fact he knows I am emotionally attached to him. I have never played games with emotions or relationships and I have always been straight forward and he is so... unemotional it bothers me a little bit, but it still doesn't stop me from wanting him, and in fact I think it makes me want him even more, and I wonder if he knows that and exploits that part of me?

yes, he is toying with your emotions. he's being honest about what he's doing, so that when he does cheat on you, you can't blame him for it.

You spent two years with this guy, being hung up on someone else. What makes you think he never noticed that? He may not have said anything because he just wanted to have a fun, relaxed relationship and knew it meant you wouldn't get too clingy with him but he could still have noticed, especially since you then married this Pisces. It's hardly surprising he doesn't see anything more than fun with you since your previous relationship was nothing but that.

He'll be there for you as a friend (or maybe a little bit more) because that doesn't impact his freedom. He's completely honest when he tells you not to get attached. It's not his fault if you already are. He can clearly seperate sex and emotions, making it just a fun, firendly thing you can do with someone else instead of always meaning more than that.

Thank you for all of your honest input on this. And the pisces and I have been separated for a while now, I am just finalizing the paperwork. I guess I should not waste my time on someone who does not want a relationship, and it is my own fault for not being able to separate emotion from intimacy, but I really don't want to. I can't be intimate with someone without being head over heals for them and in a relationship. I guess I have been confused by this guy, I do not want to just be a booty call for him or anyone at any time. I am obsessed with always wanting what I can't have, and then the moment I actually get it, I don't want it anymore, I know that's a big fault of mine. I still do have strong feelings for the Gem but I now realize that it's just not going to go anywhere that I want it to and we should just be friends, I am not into the whole friends with benefits thing by any means. Thank you for bringing me back down to reality because I tend to get lost in my obsessions. Thank you very much.

Hi,

I think he's just being a typical Gemini. My partner is one. They like to feel as though they have a lot of freedom and options. He probably isn't trying to toy with you, but just doesn't know exactly how he feels about things himself yet. It takes them a while to really decide what they want. They might think they want something, then go back on it a few times before really making that final decision. At least this has been my experience with them. Just remember actions speak louder than words 🙂

he wants 2 be there for you emotionally & sexually... sounds like he knows he wants 2 b there 4 u but @ da same time he doesn't want 2 compromise with you when it comes 2 a relationship.. 4 real tho Y'all both sound stupid one jus wants 2 shag & the other wouldn't mind it even if it hurts badly
because she isn't happy in her marriage..

sounds Like Both Gems & Scorps are INDECISIVE!! in this one.. Lmfao at this funny ass post .word!

So why not go for it? Just check out other men. Try and find a good Virgo.

Your Gemini man might be more in love with you than he admits, but it seems like he's always going to want an escape route. If it makes you feel any better, he probably treats all women this way.

As for saying one thing and doing another......hello! TWINS, remember? He's two people.

Just ignore him when he says "Don't feel strong emotions for me." You're a Scorpio, you can't help that. Just lie like he does, and say that you KNOW he wouldn't make a good long-term partner for you, and that you don't see him as the father of your children. But that he makes you laugh and he's good in bed, so you want to keep him on.

And seriously look for that Virgo. That's your best long-term bet.