gemini keeping promises in a relationship..

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by surferpisces on Tuesday, October 24, 2017 and has 11 replies.
So! My bf's a gemini, Im a pisces (you may remember me from a month or two ago, were dating now) :p

he's a capricorn moon, I'm a virgo moon.

Now, everything is pretty good with us, still going strong and we're definitely getting closer as each day goes by.. but theres a couple things that I'm not sure I should consider a red flag.

1) he can be wishy washy when planning dates and doesn't stick to his word, has lacked initiative in following through with his word leaving me to constantly follow up with him (either way we will still hang out, if its not dinner then we stay in and watch movies)

2) occasionally when he hurts me I tell him, hoping he will make it up to me and once again show initiative to fix the issue. All he does is say sorry leaving me incredibly hurt and forgotten. I know that if i don't give in he will treat me better, but I'm scared my way to emotional pisces personality will scare him off.

what's the deal with you gemini's?
What does he say that hurts you?
Big red flags Imo. He should be planning the dates and following up with you. If you work too hard and keep taking initiative it will continue like this and eventually get worse.


Make him work for you/it. He will see more value in you then.

And he’s just saying sorry and keeping it pushing because you accept it.

If you put him on ice when he hurts you, he will more than likely try and fix it. But you’re pretty much allowing it by accepting a lame apology and then carrying on like it’s nothing.
Plans change when your with the twins. Nothing is set in stone. Tell your vigo moon to chillax.

How does he hurt you?? Give us an example or 2
okay so an example of him hurting me is not keeping his promised plans with us as a priority, and then forgetting about them all together.

He also has a tendency to decline my offers when i ask him to come out and meet my friends or join me at a party and so on. He prefers to stick with his own friends. This offends me because I've tried a lot to go the extra mile for him and meet his family and friends. So now days I'm declining his offers as well when i feel like it haha
Posted by surferpisces
okay so an example of him hurting me is not keeping his promised plans with us as a priority, and then forgetting about them all together.

He also has a tendency to decline my offers when i ask him to come out and meet my friends or join me at a party and so on. He prefers to stick with his own friends. This offends me because I've tried a lot to go the extra mile for him and meet his family and friends. So now days I'm declining his offers as well when i feel like it haha
You sure this is your bf? He’s taking you for granted imo.

Oh geez how old is he? This is a recipe for disaster 🤦🏻‍♀️
Posted by bkbella86
Posted by surferpisces
okay so an example of him hurting me is not keeping his promised plans with us as a priority, and then forgetting about them all together.

He also has a tendency to decline my offers when i ask him to come out and meet my friends or join me at a party and so on. He prefers to stick with his own friends. This offends me because I've tried a lot to go the extra mile for him and meet his family and friends. So now days I'm declining his offers as well when i feel like it haha
You sure this is your bf? He’s taking you for granted imo.

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Yup, been there before... the Gem even told me he was taking me for granted but I really just had no clue how a man was supposed to treat me until my now Gemini boyfriend. Now I look back and understand when my friends would say I deserve better. But, alls well that ends well 🤗
Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by bkbella86
Posted by surferpisces
okay so an example of him hurting me is not keeping his promised plans with us as a priority, and then forgetting about them all together.

He also has a tendency to decline my offers when i ask him to come out and meet my friends or join me at a party and so on. He prefers to stick with his own friends. This offends me because I've tried a lot to go the extra mile for him and meet his family and friends. So now days I'm declining his offers as well when i feel like it haha
You sure this is your bf? He’s taking you for granted imo.

Yup, been there before... the Gem even told me he was taking me for granted but I really just had no clue how a man was supposed to treat me until my now Gemini boyfriend. Now I look back and understand when my friends would say I deserve better. But, alls well that ends well 🤗
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Similar experiences here, though I still have to find that Gemini who'll treat me waaay better smile

Congratz to you ^.^ You made my day and gave me inspiration and hope Winking
Posted by Liriell
Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by bkbella86
Posted by surferpisces
okay so an example of him hurting me is not keeping his promised plans with us as a priority, and then forgetting about them all together.

He also has a tendency to decline my offers when i ask him to come out and meet my friends or join me at a party and so on. He prefers to stick with his own friends. This offends me because I've tried a lot to go the extra mile for him and meet his family and friends. So now days I'm declining his offers as well when i feel like it haha
You sure this is your bf? He’s taking you for granted imo.

Yup, been there before... the Gem even told me he was taking me for granted but I really just had no clue how a man was supposed to treat me until my now Gemini boyfriend. Now I look back and understand when my friends would say I deserve better. But, alls well that ends well 🤗
Similar experiences here, though I still have to find that Gemini who'll treat me waaay better smile

Congratz to you ^.^ You made my day and gave me inspiration and hope Winking
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Thank you! The key is to finding the Gemini with right placements and preferably a bit older so the foolery is out of them and you just get loveable and playful 😉