Gemini man
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by ImaLeo on Friday, November 25, 2005 and has 5 replies.
There's this Gemini man whom I like a lot and have for a long time. I work with him and he seems to like me too but I can't tell for sure. He's very shy and doesn't talk much to people who he doesn't know but he does to the people he does know. When I come around he stops talking, it's just really awkward. Of course there's the looking at each other and looking away really quick because we got caught by the other one, and sometimes there are occasions where we do catch each others stare and it's almost captivating. I'm really shy too so that doesn't help much but I always make a point to say hi to him, even if I have to go out of my way to do it. I really want to talk to him but he's so intimidating to me and even when I try, I just can't. It all comes out so stupid so I quit doing that. Since anyone can read this I can't say too much about him but I know he has some circumstances in his life that I think hinders his confidence in communicating with women. Sometimes though when he says hi to me he gets a flirtatiousness to him that leaves me almost flustered every time. I think he knows it and enjoys it but that's me problem. I'm getting tired of what seems to be a game. It's like he's just wanting to keep me hanging on and it's making me crazy. I don't think there will ever be anything come of all of it and he's not going to make a move so now I'm thinking about just giving up completely. By that I mean, not really looking at him when we pass each other and just mumbling a hello and stop trying to manage to see him, pretty much just ignore him. Then I think "what if he stops completely too?" That would bother me too?but I guess that's just part of the game. Still though, I don't know what else to do. So I'm wondering, based on others opinions of Gems and what they know about them, what do you think he'll do? And how long will it take before he gives in and goes out of HIS way for a change and comes looking for me to say hi? That could be a problem too, I only see him on average about once a week, lol, so I'm thinking it'll be some time next year, if at all, or never.
I say GO! for it, Doll! and very QUICKLY TOO!
He feels exactly! how you feel. Gemini's can be shy when meeting new people, or, when they have met someone, like yourself, who has made their heart beat 100 times faster.
I am sure! he will NOT make the first move (I could be wrong?)Gemini's are very Confident, Caring and proud people. They would rather watch in pain, an opportunity like this fade before their very eyes, rather than making the first move, in fear of rejection, which they are not very good at accepting.
You mentioned he is shy, doesnt talk much, intimidating and flirtatious. Is this all you know about him? Get to know him for who he is, not what you see or feel.
You say he doesnt talk much, well, this is true, but only during the working hours. At work, Gemini's usually like to be left alone, they are constantly thinking to improve easier, faster and accurate ways to make the working enviroment plesant, and hassel free. BUT! if he feels the way you do, he will especially make time for you, even if it is a hello.
Believe me when I say, you have tasted, not even a portion of his personality. They are knowlege seekers, down-to-earth, forever caring and loving, loyal, humble, respectful and more.
I have lots more to tell you about Gemini's, but unfortunately I have to go.
One last thing? This is only a suggestion, ok?
The next time you say hello to him, stand tall, with your head up high, make eye contact and with a little smile, even if he is not looking, say, "morning.." once he looks at you to reply back, give a quick nod of the head, while smiling and standing tall, then say, "hows your day going? this will get another line out of him.
Role Play:
(you should be walking at a slow pace when passing him)
You: "Morning?" (eye contact, standing tall, with a smile)
Him: "Morning?" (should be looking at you, this is when you do the quick nod to
acknowledge his reply)
You: "Hows your day going?" (with a smile and show interest)
Him: "Good? and yours"
You: "Good! thank-you?" (then move your eyes and your head to the front slowly and
keep that smile)
He feels exactly! how you feel. Gemini's can be shy when meeting new people, or, when they have met someone, like yourself, who has made their heart beat 100 times faster.
I am sure! he will NOT make the first move (I could be wrong?)Gemini's are very Confident, Caring and proud people. They would rather watch in pain, an opportunity like this fade before their very eyes, rather than making the first move, in fear of rejection, which they are not very good at accepting.
You mentioned he is shy, doesnt talk much, intimidating and flirtatious. Is this all you know about him? Get to know him for who he is, not what you see or feel.
You say he doesnt talk much, well, this is true, but only during the working hours. At work, Gemini's usually like to be left alone, they are constantly thinking to improve easier, faster and accurate ways to make the working enviroment plesant, and hassel free. BUT! if he feels the way you do, he will especially make time for you, even if it is a hello.
Believe me when I say, you have tasted, not even a portion of his personality. They are knowlege seekers, down-to-earth, forever caring and loving, loyal, humble, respectful and more.
I have lots more to tell you about Gemini's, but unfortunately I have to go.
One last thing? This is only a suggestion, ok?
The next time you say hello to him, stand tall, with your head up high, make eye contact and with a little smile, even if he is not looking, say, "morning.." once he looks at you to reply back, give a quick nod of the head, while smiling and standing tall, then say, "hows your day going? this will get another line out of him.
Role Play:
(you should be walking at a slow pace when passing him)
You: "Morning?" (eye contact, standing tall, with a smile)
Him: "Morning?" (should be looking at you, this is when you do the quick nod to
acknowledge his reply)
You: "Hows your day going?" (with a smile and show interest)
Him: "Good? and yours"
You: "Good! thank-you?" (then move your eyes and your head to the front slowly and
keep that smile)
Imaleo,
Dreamy-eyez, here. You're post about the Gemini man reminded me of a co-worker and a friend of mines that gave me a new perception of natives of that sign. My friend Matt is a Gemini, but he's a cusp on Cancer with a Moon in Scorpio. When he arrived at the Aid Station for his first day, he was so quiet. He's very tall and lanky, but not skinny. Me? Well, he happened to come in on a day to where I was feeling very mischievious. I took a can of alcohol foam, and then I caught the alcohol on fire on the floor. My co-workers all helped me put the fire out before the boss returned. I was cool with everyone, so noone told on me. After that day, Matt the shy Gemini started hanging around me more than everyone else. I gained a friend by just being myself. Normally I'm a loner and I don't really hangout or have anyone hanging around me. If they want to hang around me, then so be it. Matt hung around me alot and often talked about his wife and daughter. My attitude was always nonchalant, but what I've noticed about a Gemini is that if you ask them a personal question or be too forward, they will turn away, but if you appear uninterested and nonchalant, they'll reveal alot about themselves and surprisingly their feelings. Matt often tried to play it cool and dish out that quick, clever humorous quips to make me laugh, but he was really sensitive than I really thought. My advice Imaleo is to keep him at bay with an uninterested, nonchalant attitude and a Gemini will come to you and not leave you alone.
Dreamy-eyez, here. You're post about the Gemini man reminded me of a co-worker and a friend of mines that gave me a new perception of natives of that sign. My friend Matt is a Gemini, but he's a cusp on Cancer with a Moon in Scorpio. When he arrived at the Aid Station for his first day, he was so quiet. He's very tall and lanky, but not skinny. Me? Well, he happened to come in on a day to where I was feeling very mischievious. I took a can of alcohol foam, and then I caught the alcohol on fire on the floor. My co-workers all helped me put the fire out before the boss returned. I was cool with everyone, so noone told on me. After that day, Matt the shy Gemini started hanging around me more than everyone else. I gained a friend by just being myself. Normally I'm a loner and I don't really hangout or have anyone hanging around me. If they want to hang around me, then so be it. Matt hung around me alot and often talked about his wife and daughter. My attitude was always nonchalant, but what I've noticed about a Gemini is that if you ask them a personal question or be too forward, they will turn away, but if you appear uninterested and nonchalant, they'll reveal alot about themselves and surprisingly their feelings. Matt often tried to play it cool and dish out that quick, clever humorous quips to make me laugh, but he was really sensitive than I really thought. My advice Imaleo is to keep him at bay with an uninterested, nonchalant attitude and a Gemini will come to you and not leave you alone.
Thank you to all of you who replied to my message. I really enjoy reading them. Nothing really has changed since my original post but I don't see this guy very often either. It's funny though. I have noticed if I don't go out of my way to say hi to him and if I wait long enough he comes and says hi to me. If I don't look at him it's even more interesting because he seems to try to get me to look at him by walking by me real close then once I look at him he says hello. It's like when I start to get too far away he reels me back in. From what I've been told, he's never talked about a girl or anything too personal like that to anyone so I'm wondering if he just doesn't like work relationships. This is the kind of place where any work relationship that goes on between 2 people is the main target for gossip so that could be an issue for him. It would be for me too so that also tends to keep me at bay. So, time will tell what happens between us if anything. I just can't help but believe or feel a strong attraction between us and I don't think, no matter how hard we try, it can be denied by either one of us. It's there and if it's "written in the stars" for us to get together somehow or someway then one day we will. For now though, I'm just happy that we have this little discreet thing going on and he's willing to continue it. Guess you could say I'm content for now, and purring quietly, but noone knows when that will change, lol. Thanks again.
I am a Gemini born on the cusp too. I am pretty much almost like your guy. I am in a similar situation, (e.g. i think theres a girl who likes me @ work) its not that i am shy. Its more that i want to reveal myself slowly, bit by bit. Let her slowly discover me by herself. I don't say much i prefer to let her see how i behave in front of everyone, how i hold myself, how i stick to my guns when i make a decision or when i have a certain opinion on something. Because i know that alone speaks volumes. There have been times where shes gone really brave and asked me a few questions... the usual stuff what did you do this weekend etc. I could see how nervous she was as she was frantically fiddling with her fingers/bracelet. But i gave her a genuine smile and looked her in eyes to let her know for that moment there was only me and her in the world. I told her about my weekend and i teased her little bit. But its work and i am really hesitant to start anything at work, so for now i am just going to see how it pans out. I do like her, there are a lot of traits she has that i look for in a girl, but i keep finding myself picking her bad traits so to stop me from liking her! Haha, i dunno we'll see i guess.
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