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May 07, 2015Comments: 3 · Posts: 252 · Topics: 28
He told me to let him know if I wanted to listen to some new music at his place and have fun to let him know, and silly me got caught up in the fact that this guy I liked for so long thought I was actually hookup worthy, and we both happened to be free today (my plans got canceled and this is one of his few free days. He's super social, full time summer school about to start and also busy hours at work as a pharm tech).
You can imagine how the convo flowed from there, and you could very well argue that I did it to myself by agreeing to hookup with someone I like as more than just FWB, but I was being impulsive and gave in. I enjoyed it , it was a good time and he was a good lover. No less, I do still want more than just a casual hookup. I ran off my ex-Gemini this way, by asking for too much and being too intense, but I want to know if I give him his freedom, could I luck out and gain something really out of this?
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May 07, 2015Comments: 3 · Posts: 252 · Topics: 28
Side note, at the end of today, he said he wanted to keep it FWB "to avoid any problems" and he's still not interested in a relationship. I'm trying to see if he wants to at least date but if FWB is what he wants I'm gonna try my hardest to make it work.
Unless you Gems say it won't, I'll heed your advice.
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May 07, 2015Comments: 3 · Posts: 252 · Topics: 28
Actually no, I've always liked him, but hooking up with him yesterday was a plus. My question is am I gonna have to settle for this, or (if I play my cards right) can I turn this into something more?
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Dec 05, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 248 · Topics: 13
When a gem tells you from the start that is only FWB and fun, it would get hard to get something else from him... If you are getting in expecting to get something else, my advise would be to run.
We are clever, so we will get your intentions very fast, and things won't get pretty, cause he will run away from you to avoid falling or commintment
If you push he will run faster, and if you keep pushing things can get bad, very bad.
If you want him around, try being his friend...
Eh i dont agree that if a gem said 'this' in the beginning that's just what its gonna stay. We change our minds all the time, with new info, new feelings, etc. So it could change. But...doesn't mean it will. And you would have to put yourself out there to get hurt.
Not a male gem, but female and dating a scorp male. This couple lol soo difficult yet so drawn to each other. Interestingly enough, we started as fwb. That was my decision. I didn't want to commit at the time. After a few months, I realized i did though. Idk bout other gems...but im extremely jealous and possessive. I liked what i was getting and i wanted it to be MINE haha. I couldn't imagine sharing. Even though i wasn't sharing really, i wanted him to be committed officially. Well by the time i wanted it he did not. I was heartbroken. I told him i respect his honesty on where he stood, but i wanted more. I couldn't settle for half anymore. I was ready to walk. Then he came around and we have been together for 2 years in july.
Not saying thats the way you should go, just giving you my experience. And gems can and most likely will change their minds at some point. We are flexible like that. You though...are you? Can you change if hes ready? Can you go with the flow until he is? Guess it depends on how much you like him and how much you are willing to risk.
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May 07, 2015Comments: 3 · Posts: 252 · Topics: 28
Bumping this because updates.
So this Gem texts me at 2:41 this morning asking me "1-10 honestly how good was that" He makes beats/produces music as a hobby so I figured a link was missing or something. So I asked him "How good was what? If you say deez nuts, I swear..." And he said "hahaha sorta, not sure if I pleased you or not, the "session" ".
I don't know why he needs to know the answer to the question if what he said after is true and he doesn't care who else I sleep/am with...
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Dec 01, 2005Comments: 11 · Posts: 1565 · Topics: 18
Wow, sounds like he's comparing himself to his fellow gem friend. I find it interesting that he tries to get with you after his friend was with you. Making rounds...
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May 07, 2015Comments: 3 · Posts: 252 · Topics: 28
He very well may be, but I would be surprised. The current Gem and ex-Gem weren't even friends on Facebook until I told my ex-Gem (while we were still together) that I knew the current Gem. If they're comparing notes, the current Gem definitely got the better end of the deal.
The current Gem told me post-hookup that he thought I looked too innocent (before all this went down...actually almost a year ago probably, was when he said he was telling a friend this), and I suspect if he had spoken to my ex-Gem prior to hooking up with me, he would have known I was the type to hookup.