gemini woman is driving me crazy

Need some advice...I think my Gemini girlfriend is completely nuts! (No offense to anyone). One day she is the greatest thing in the world and in a split second can be the meanest one on the planet. ON the day of her birthday (May 21), I send a text to her wishing happy birthday and a few hours later I get a message back basically saying leave me alone. I had a great day planned for her, but after her text I didn't do anything. Later that night I get a message saying I blew off her birthday. Unbelievable. She typically likes to cut off her nose to spite her face. Then blame me. I didn't talk to her for a few days and she texts me saying I am dead to her because I blew her birthday off.

I am tired of the games she plays, any advice as to what I should do with her?

Drop her. It will only get worse.

*smh* ^^so pessimistic....

But, you either enjoy the ride or get off the roller coaster. Sounds like she may have been busy at the time you sent her the txt.... Not the end of the world. Still, should've taken her out regardless.... It would've been a nice surprise that she probably would not have forgotten.... 🙂

It's not exactly fair, but when I tell someone I love to leave me alone, it usually translates to "Ask me what's wrong and try harder".

All I can say is it is a rollercoaster. In fact, on the day of her birthday she was mad because the day before it rained all day and I was not able to work on her car. It was my fault it rained. So on her birthday just to spite herself she sends a text saying " Hey , XXX is dating me now and she says leave her alone". I knew she was lying, but I left her alone. She was playing one her games. That night she texts me saying I blew off her birthday! She is her own worse enemy. Spiteful. Oh, did I mention she is 49 years old and acts like a 13 year old.

Posted by Whimsy
It's not exactly fair, but when I tell someone I love to leave me alone, it usually translates to "Ask me what's wrong and try harder".

+1

Posted by geminicandle
LovingLeo,
You probably did something, knowingly or not to Piss her off or build resentment inside of her.
She did not mean what she said in that text. We need open communication. Ask her what's really wrong, then talk it out.

And yeah, we are not for the faint of heart. We can be amazing one minute, ruthless the next. Better get used it.

^^This too

Posted by LovingLeo
All I can say is it is a rollercoaster. In fact, on the day of her birthday she was mad because the day before it rained all day and I was not able to work on her car. It was my fault it rained. So on her birthday just to spite herself she sends a text saying " Hey , XXX is dating me now and she says leave her alone". I knew she was lying, but I left her alone. She was playing one her games. That night she texts me saying I blew off her birthday! She is her own worse enemy. Spiteful. Oh, did I mention she is 49 years old and acts like a 13 year old.

Damn LOL!

Well ill also add that she's a cusp baby. Taurus/Gemini. And ill tell you outright Taurus can't stand people forgetting special holidays. Doesn't matter what it is, could be Columbus day you better do something about it. My mom is a Taurus and two of my good friends are. You will be bulldozed if you don't put your big boy briefs on and show up anyways. You should have gone. Now she's going to be holding a grudge for a while. My mom holds hers for years. NEVER EVER forget a special day. You kinda put the nail in the coffin LOL! But this is based on her Taurus influence with her being a cusp baby.

I didn't forget her birthday. She knew I had plans to take her out. Bought her some nice gifts the whole 9 yards. I am telling you this is not the first time she has played these games. I have done everything for this woman. She does not appreciate anything. I have paid all her living expenses for the past year, even a car. No "thank you", No appreciation whatosever, all she wants to know is when she is getting her money for expenses.. All she ever does when she does not get her way is say" I will find someone else to take care of me". And I have given in before. It is really tiring when someone just manipulates and plays games all the time. Like I said she is her own worst enemy.

Lions are notorious! For wanting and needing attention! ( no offense). My mom, sister and ex all Leo's. You guys will fight to the death for it! Lol,
At least the ones I know. Stop enabling her to RELY! On you... That's it.. She will be mad.. But if she loves you, she ain't going know where ( wink). There's a power struggle for attention your problem was/ is you rewarded her for winning the attention game in the beginning, now you mad cause she expects the benefits. Lol, stop feeding the cat if you don't want it coming around....to put it another way, use it as a test, for the relationship...

No....

Posted by ladygem
Lions are notorious! For wanting and needing attention! ( no offense). My mom, sister and ex all Leo's. You guys will fight to the death for it! Lol,
At least the ones I know. Stop enabling her to RELY! On you... That's it.. She will be mad.. But if she loves you, she ain't going know where ( wink). There's a power struggle for attention your problem was/ is you rewarded her for winning the attention game in the beginning, now you mad cause she expects the benefits. Lol, stop feeding the cat if you don't want it coming around....to put it another way, use it as a test, for the relationship...

In the past she has come back. What you said about the cat...my best friend said the same thing...Don't give the cat milk and then try to kick it out ...LOL. Its not so much the attention for me as much as the appreciation. 50/50 in a relationship but its definitely 95% me. And you are right I have enabled her. My fault.

Posted by Grey
drop her in a instant and find somebody else. leos have more options. ignore the gem women who tell you to put up with shit. if i put up with shit then you are getting knocked out. we are not schmucks to put up with shit.

Grey I agree 100% .. That's why I split with my Lion the other options you guys keep. Why I was surprised with this post by a
Lion roaring about a Gem..

Yes I am roaring...there is just something that draws me to her. Can't figure it out or her!

Posted by LovingLeo

Posted by ladygem
Lions are notorious! For wanting and needing attention! ( no offense). My mom, sister and ex all Leo's. You guys will fight to the death for it! Lol,
At least the ones I know. Stop enabling her to RELY! On you... That's it.. She will be mad.. But if she loves you, she ain't going know where ( wink). There's a power struggle for attention your problem was/ is you rewarded her for winning the attention game in the beginning, now you mad cause she expects the benefits. Lol, stop feeding the cat if you don't want it coming around....to put it another way, use it as a test, for the relationship...

In the past she has come back. What you said about the cat...my best friend said the same thing...Don't give the cat milk and then try to kick it out ...LOL. Its not so much the attention for me as much as the appreciation. 50/50 in a relationship but its definitely 95% me. And you are right I have enabled her. My fault.

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I understand, believe me I understand. This surprises me about this Gem! we are fiercely independent LovingLeo, this I think, at least for me is to limit control issues rearing its ugly head in the relationship, not to mention the FREEDOM alone it provides. I love the way you guys love and when it's returned You guys will sacrifice everything for it, but you're right it has to be appreciated and giving the upmost adoration..

Take away the privileges and see what happens.. She could quite possibly be taking advantage of your generosity! You guys love lavishing the ones you care about. You can't be angry with it, you initiated it! So just stop!. smh.. Lions in love. You're ready to tear up the jungle. Lol

Posted by ladygem
Take away the privileges and see what happens.. She could quite possibly be taking advantage of your generosity! You guys love lavishing the ones you care about. You can't be angry with it, you initiated it! So just stop!. smh.. Lions in love. You're ready to tear up the jungle. Lol

Tear it up, I am going to rip every branch from the trees in the jungle. You may be right about the taking advantage of the genorosity. And , yes I am the typical Leo in love. Will do anything and everything for the ones I adore. I will just wait it out and see what happens. Until then the jungle won't be a safe place to be...lol.