Geminis and past loves
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by ladylibra21 on Monday, December 28, 2015 and has 7 replies.
Do you ever hinder your current relationships because you are hanging on to people you once loved? Or sabotage yourself from truly loving because you are hanging on to past love. I mean like 5 years in the past love. I have experienced this with 3 Gemini with Cancer Venus and I wondered if this was a Gemini thing or the Cancer Venus. All 3 situations were different, but I wondered if y'all hold on to lost love if it is taken away from you.
I think generally geminis dont look back or crave a past love, except when they feel really really bored.. if anything, there are always looking towards the future i.e the next conquest, the next "new thing" rather than in the past. This seems to apply to people with gemini suns and even more strongly to people with gemini moons..
Although, if a gemini person has e.g. a moon or venus in cancer (or possibly even pisces or scorpio but especially cancer), they do tend to look back a lot (but not all the time as they do have gemini characteristics too). I know a guy who is gemini sun cancer moon, cancer venus and he has left long term relationships in the past due to boredom etc. (gemini trait) but is incredibly sensitive and is still obsessing over an -ex (who left him) (they had a long distance thing of nearly a year in total) but he still isn't over it, even nearly 2 yrs later.. but he also loves chasing new conquests but he constantly mentions the ex, talks to her friends, goes to her home country for holidays etc... never seen anyone hanging onto the past soo much!
Although, if a gemini person has e.g. a moon or venus in cancer (or possibly even pisces or scorpio but especially cancer), they do tend to look back a lot (but not all the time as they do have gemini characteristics too). I know a guy who is gemini sun cancer moon, cancer venus and he has left long term relationships in the past due to boredom etc. (gemini trait) but is incredibly sensitive and is still obsessing over an -ex (who left him) (they had a long distance thing of nearly a year in total) but he still isn't over it, even nearly 2 yrs later.. but he also loves chasing new conquests but he constantly mentions the ex, talks to her friends, goes to her home country for holidays etc... never seen anyone hanging onto the past soo much!
Posted by FyzaGems
I don't normally look back. I do give chances along the way but if that person hurts me way to much and once I said I'm done, I mean it. I won't even think about the past, just like what aj123 mentioned, unless I'm feeling bored, which seldom happens, I would already be dating someone new once I have quit the relationship.
I would say, it's hard for me to fall in love though. I normally would get attracted to the mind before the physical. I need the mental connection. Geminis do get knock down but once they get back up, they tends to get more stronger than before. Resilience is our name.
Geminis are strong individual so we don't hang on to the past. We would rather focus on the future. I have no idea about the others, but that's how I am.
I agree with you on several things. WE GEMS are attracted to the mind first, require a mental connection or there won't be anything between us and are resilient. I have had so many things in my life challenge me and my happiness/success; I keep coming back stronger and stronger. But I'm also competitive as hell. So I'm sure that has helped me through the years. No matter what it is, I don't give up.
RE: Looking back and having feelings for those we loved in the past, IF it was someone who didn't have a lasting impression on me, I could let it go. However, I still love someone who made a huge imprint on my life from years ago. We had that mental connection and developed a very strong emotional one. He is a very special person. I will love him forever even though we both have our respective lives and families. He's one of those soul connection type of people that you just don't let go off because you no longer see each other.
I know your moon is suppose to have an effect on this; my moon is in Leo. So not sure that has anything to do with it. However, I have always been one to develop deep meaning relationships over superficial ones that come and go. This is probably why I have few friends. The ones I have and keep, I cherish. They have my back, I have theirs. I've never been one to believe that having tons of friends is better than having a few you can truly appreciate, care about and count on.
Posted by ladylibra21
Do you ever hinder your current relationships because you are hanging on to people you once loved? Or sabotage yourself from truly loving because you are hanging on to past love. I mean like 5 years in the past love. I have experienced this with 3 Gemini with Cancer Venus and I wondered if this was a Gemini thing or the Cancer Venus. All 3 situations were different, but I wondered if y'all hold on to lost love if it is taken away from you.
Hmm past loves, as in they dated? or just strong crushes? How did you know they were still in love with their exes?
Posted by ladylibra21
Do you ever hinder your current relationships because you are hanging on to people you once loved? Or sabotage yourself from truly loving because you are hanging on to past love. I mean like 5 years in the past love. I have experienced this with 3 Gemini with Cancer Venus and I wondered if this was a Gemini thing or the Cancer Venus. All 3 situations were different, but I wondered if y'all hold on to lost love if it is taken away from you.
Nope. I have 3 cancer placements. Not venus, tho.
Posted by MoonbutterPosted by ladylibra21
Do you ever hinder your current relationships because you are hanging on to people you once loved? Or sabotage yourself from truly loving because you are hanging on to past love. I mean like 5 years in the past love. I have experienced this with 3 Gemini with Cancer Venus and I wondered if this was a Gemini thing or the Cancer Venus. All 3 situations were different, but I wondered if y'all hold on to lost love if it is taken away from you.
Hmm past loves, as in they dated? or just strong crushes? How did you know they were still in love with their exes?click to expand
2 of them straight up told me and 1 you could just tell, but I am willing to bet if the subject was never brought up they probably would have never thought about it.
Posted by ladylibra21
Do you ever hinder your current relationships because you are hanging on to people you once loved? Or sabotage yourself from truly loving because you are hanging on to past love. I mean like 5 years in the past love. I have experienced this with 3 Gemini with Cancer Venus and I wondered if this was a Gemini thing or the Cancer Venus. All 3 situations were different, but I wondered if y'all hold on to lost love if it is taken away from you.
i am also a gem with a venus cancer and as for my case, not necessarily hanging. it's more of i've been with bad lovers before which tends me to become more scared and paranoid in my next one. also, i never believed in closure. when i left my past loves, i just leave without a single word. i am that flighty.
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