Gemini's...Leo in need of help!!!

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by theyounglion on Monday, January 21, 2008 and has 16 replies.
Hey guys and gals. this is my first post on here so here! I'm a leo (virgo rising, gemini moon....watever that means??) and I recently met a gemini guy that I really like. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeves, the leO in me I know, so I generally proceed with caution when getting to know a new person. I love being single but when I do fall for a person I tend to fall hard. So I meet this guy and within a little less than a month he tells me he really wants to take the next step into a relationship. I know alotta geminis that are totally unfaithful so I was scared but as you gemini's know, you all's way with words can calm any fears. We've been dating and at first he was lovey dovey and all but then its like he turned into this complete asshole. Its hard, we are so different. I need space don't get me wrong but he gives me too much. I feel like I'm in the relationship alone sometimes. And did I mention he can be an asshole. He says he doesnt intentionally try to provoke me but i've done the relationships where sorry's were givin out too often and do not wish to go back to that purgatory. I decided to be proactive and tell him how I feel and he says he knows hes been a sucky bf so, in my attempt to protect my heart I gave him the option to get out of the relationship. Being a leo I cannot fathom being an ass to anyone I love so it kinda baffles me. Relationships arent complicated to me and I feel like he should be making me smile not frown. Needless to say I really like the guy and he told me he wanted to stay in the relationship to make it work but Im really at a loss! I'm real simplistic and happy go lucky and he's like this puzzle that sucks my leonine nature away. Impatient, cant sit still (mind you this is coming from a leo, one who cant sit still as well) he's like this bee buzzing all the time and I feel like an afterthought at times. Is this a good combo? What can I do to keep the attention of this gemini? I normally am outgoing, funny, but he perplexes me and clouds my emotions and it throws me off. Instincts are telling me to bail but when has this lion ever put mind over heart, HELP LOL!
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im a mature 20 years old...yeah, i know im going to go full steam. the fact that he told me he wanted to stay in the relationship kinda makes me wanna go thru with it. Besides, i know ill land on my feet if he disappoints. I need to work on communicating...for some reason talking to him has become this thing thats hard to do. I'm mellow and laid back and while i love to talk, basking in my loves beauty is so much easier. My thing is, i've been through alot in these 20 years so imma little maturer than most, so when i see my partner isnt matured when it comes to handling a relationship it makes me not wanna deal. But im dealing. I wish i could just break this iceberg that blocking the lines of communication in me.
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Aw, thanks for the insight and website emeraldgem. I kinda take it back....its like we can talk all day about our feelings but when he makes me mad (being the emotional leo) its hard for me to just not be mad, he seems so cold and unemotional at times. We got into this huge argument last night and its like he can put himself in my position of the argument but he cant seem to put my emotions and feelings into perspective. I told him maybe we should He tells me its hard for his actions to meet up with his inner feelings. He'll say the meanest coldest thing and then the sweetest in one breath. I guess I'm in store for one bumpy ride, which is intriguing if nothing else. Its so true when it comes to the twins yall have inside. OMG its like sometimes he's a walking contradiction. Question to my gems, what does a leo have to do to get rid of the grumpy twin...i want my nice gem guy back lol.
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**correction to post above** i told him maybe we should take a break, but the thought of me with someone else apparently doesnt fly with him. (I dont know whether to be flattered or angry b/c i don't have a clue as to why he wants to hold on to me so much)
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YES gems like to communicate. You could be the ugliest person on the face of this earth but if you can connect with a gem on a communication level we will stick around forever.
The faithful thing is bull shit. Apparently we have a commitment door that is locked and sealed but there is a key to it. If you find that key we will be your forever.
I was in a commited relationship with a cap, aries moon. 3 and half years never cheated once.....
Now I am seeing this Leo guy and I am a gem but I am flicking off all the other men I was talking to one by one.....
Im hoping this leo man works out cause there is alot going out the door for him..
I am the opposite place to you maybe we can help eachother out...
You need to talk to him about anything and everything. Thats what will keep him coming back and making you happy...
With people we feel close to or we want to be closer to we put alot of effort into making them happy. Cause when your happy we are happy. Most of the time.
Always remember that Leo and Gemini is the best pair. We go well together I have what you want & need and you have what I want & need for example. Mature at 20 I believe it I was the same way. Now I am 23. My life is all put together. Gem males though it takes more time. Usually they mature between 25 and 30.
With me I love to explore the world. So do something new with him. Keep him interested. Im sure your not the only one in the relationship just all men are different.
Like me for example, I am leaning back right now waiting for my leo to come to me. Its working but Im not patient at all. So Im working on it..... He loves to talk. I love communication in general..... He loves the spot light, I love to make him feel good. We both work two jobs so its hard to meet up but we have great phone conversations all the time. He doesn't go too long with out calling or texting but I wait for him still Im working very hard on my patients skills. Keep yourself busy but keep in touch with him. I am really bad at calling ppl. I forget out of site out of mind... It happens even on the other side of things too, just dont get mad. Please dont try to control him that is one thing that definitly gets us to back off. We need to not feel pressured into anything. When a guy tells me he loves me and I cant say it back they get mad. That will be the last time I call his ass..... Straight up. If Im not ready dont push me....
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Its so funny that you mentioned the flicking guys off one by one gemini_82grl . I see him doing that for me now. With your leo guy, keep being patient. A mature lion proceeds into love cautiously and the fact that you guys both work two jobs only adds to that caution. Quality time is essential for couples and esp. essential for the leo. It gives us the opportunity to get to know that significant other on a deeper level and vice versa. Leos fall HARD and knowing this we try not to give our emotions too much credence until we are 100% sure that it will be reciprocated. Send him texts of affection throughout the day, we leos love attention. A text from you letting him know that you're thinking of him throughout the humdrum of daily life is enough to make his heart melt. You gotta let him know that he is important to you. We leos are extremely confident but in love one of our worst fears is to feel unwanted, not needed, unloved. Once he feels confident in your feelings for him the gates of unconditional love will come pooring out. Thats the biggest problem im having with my gemini guy, i don't feel like im a priority half the time and although I may be on his mind, i really wish he could show it a bit more. We thrive on actions...we realize the fickleness of words (u can say one thing and not mean it) and the illusiveness of a significant others thougths so we need love to be demonstrated to us by actions.
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Gems are usually really good at communicating there feelings! Im suprised that he isnt. But on that note maybe its beause he is not sure what page you are on? Me right now Im kinda hanging back waiting for him. I have sent 1 text saying I was thinking of him and he never replied so I havent done it since.
Me personally I am very open about my feelings when I am comfortable.... So try to make him comfortable and then let the love talk poor out of his mouth. OR just tell him I want you to SHOW me your feelings not verbalize it. Cause us gems show passion better then talking it anyway. You are a Leo so you will naturally bring out the passion in a gemini. Thats what I have experienced. I can be very heartless at times but when Im with the leo I am very happy and full of emotion. My expression is through body language not through talk. I rub his back, cuddle with him give him all of my attention. I like listening to what he has to say as well.
To get your man to verbalize you have to be patient with him because even I have problems telling people I love them for the first bit. I would rather say I hate you then I love you. Those words make you valnerable and we dont like that..... So untill we are very secure we dont say it.....
Talk to him alot.. Put it out there that you do want to be with him that he makes you happy... That do want to take a break thing probably scared him. O o she doesnt want to be with me anymore. What did I do? what didnt I do? Gems think wayyyyyyy tooooo much.... Something is always going through our brains.... It frustrating. If you approch the subject that you dont want him anymore then that is what he is going to think about....
Instead talk about what you expect from him.. We can usually live up to ppls expectations if we know what they are! We try very hard to please and make the ones we love happy....
The thing with a leo & gem mix is that both play hard to get thats what I notice anyway.. I could be very wrong. I do know that the lion likes to chase. Maybe he is making you chase him to see how you really feel about him... We need lots of reasurance sometimes too. LIke you do.. If you can give it to each other you will both be sailing the love happy train... Remember you got him now you have to find a medium to keep him. Dont over power him though. Lions like to control twins like to be free..
Everything will work. Believe in yourself.
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Emeralgem---- Grumpy gem goes away when you put out.... smile Or tell him to F*% ^ off and smarten up.. Sometimes we need a kick in the ass to get rid of the bad twin. You are right though the nice sensitive caring twin comes back very easy you just have to know the person. Usually sex helps though... Show him your passion and he will show you his....
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Younglion- Should I call him more then cause I always wait for him to call. Or even text. I dont want to give too much all at once and scare him off. I want him to fall in love with me.
And yes the 2 job thing does get in the way we didnt meet up for a month cause our scheduals went againest eachother then we finally made time for each other. Twice... I hope he calls me tonight cause he didnt call last night... But Im waiting for him to call...
Oh and how long do you think I should hold out on him so he doesnt think Im easy?
We have been talking on the phone for over a month and we have seen eachother twice. What your best advise.
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Emeraldgem- Yes we are easy.LOL Thats for sure in some cases. Very high sex drive. Not my fault. But I really like this guy and I want him to stick around not think ok well I can call her whem I want a piece. Nope I want him telling me he wants me around all the time and when Im not with him I want him to tell me he misses me. Stuff like that. Lions are proud and respect is a big thing for them too. If I come across like I don't respect myself I might screw myself... If I show him I have restrant and control then he will only want me more.
But I dont want to have to wait forever. If you no what I mean...... smile
He is very attractive and very passionate. I love it. We tease each other like crazy... Wow.
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Hay younglion. How is your situations going with your gem male?
I hope things are working well.
Let me know.
Mine is going smoothly in the direction I want it to. Very happy...
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Sorry I've been away for so long gemini_82grl....he dumped me. Told me hes starting this new security job with crazy hours so he wont have time to put into the relationship. Mind you, he hasnt started this job yet! The whole time I was with him I felt like I was put on the backburner to friends and anything else. He takes me for granted and i allow it. We talked yesterday and he tells me he still wants to have sex and see me cuz he really does care about me but just cant be in a relationship right now. Im so confused. Leo's do have a thing about control and I'm definitely going crazy b/c i kinda love him. I don't even wanna tell him b/c im scared he might think im some crazy dude. I never was clingy during the relationship, I always let him have his freedom. I dont know what to do now. My thing is, once someone hurts me (ive been told this is a leo thing) I cut off all emotional ties to the person, so in a sense the person becomes dead to me. Its a drastic way of protecting a fractured heart. Leo's hate confusion and thats all im feeling.I feel as though if he can let a job break us up then anything can break us up and I need to know that he's gonna be there thru the ups and down. HELP, WHAT SHOULD I DO????
Oh yeah, definitely update me on you and your guy. I feel like I've been away to long. How are the two of you going.
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We are going great.... We spend every available moment together. Which isnt much but its still fun..
I got a 3rd job starting today. When I told him last night he was like "Ya like you need another one right?".
I just told him that if I could pull it off I can get the experience that Im looking for to start my own accounting practice. That way I wont be working 60 hours a week. I can grab a couple contracts with small companies work about 6 hours a week on each and still make more money then Im making. We will see what happens.
We are moving fast but slow at the same time. Its a good thing. I have been really good with the learning patients stuff. Cause he is still in his party phase but he really wants to tone it down. Hopfully that meens spending more time with me to build a future together.
Anyway I told him that Im all over this job opp, because I just want to pay my school loans off so I can buy a house when Im 25 and he looked at me and said well that a great goal and at least I have goals.. He was impressed...
That has always been my goal though to buy a house by the time Im 25 that way when Im in my 40's it will be paid off and I can travel. Cause if I do have kids hopefully they will be ols enough to leave at home and I can enjoy traveling with my husband...
So ya things are well. We enjoy being with each other. He make me happy.... Even when I talk about him my friends and my cousin say I glow. I love life.....
I hope things good well with you. Your a very nice person you deserve happiness....
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Be patient he will come back... But if you meet someone that you enjoy and enjoys you back stick with it see where it takes you.
Smile...
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Hay younglion. Dont worry the leo told he didnt want a relationship either so dont feel bad. We are both in the same position. I hope you move to someone better who actually deserves your heart you are a great person. And its his lose I hope you truely belive that because it is the truth. Gem guys are messed up. And unfortunitly the leo that I met was too. Oh well life had its good and bad things. He is still a nice guy he just isnt ready for the commitment thing. Thats cool for me too...
I hope all is well with you.
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"My Leo friend always attracts Gemini's."
i do too, and i love 'em to death, but things can definitely get very challenging.
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"She wouldn't really take showers and had bad body odor."
LOL
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