:/ gems plz guide me
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Pluviophile on Wednesday, October 1, 2014 and has 6 replies.
In short, one moment she treats me like I am only the important thing in her life and the other moment she treats me like as she don??t know me.
This is how it's going to be. So you have to decide if the positives of having her in your life outweigh the way you feel when her moods shift.
My guess is that she's not distancing herself when SHE feels too close, but when YOU do.
so I should ignore her for some time....
How you should proceed depends upon what your relationship is. When you say you've "been together for 3 years", do you mean as an official couple (both of you agreeing you are a couple) or do you mean you've been friends for that long?
We have been friends for that long.
Gotcha. Gem girls are very capable of having extremely close guy friends and never being interested on them romantically. An example is my Gem best friend. She knows her Pisces guy friend has wanted to be with her for years. She made it very clear to him that she wasn't interested in that, but very much wants him as a friend. He even sleeps in her bed (no sex) after they party too late. It drives the poor guy nuts, but she sees nothing odd in what she's doing. She wants his friendship and has stated her boundaries, and if he's driving himself mad it's his own fault, she figures. When he gets too intense, she stays away until he cools off.
The long and short of it is that you'll remain friends and nothing more unless she makes the decision to change that. She's holding the reins. The way to get the reins back is to focus less on her (not out of spite or games, but because you're actually leading an interesting life). When she feels the focus off of her, she might make the decision that she really does want you. Or she may not. But letting her hold all of the power isn't the way to win her.
The long and short of it is that you'll remain friends and nothing more unless she makes the decision to change that. She's holding the reins. The way to get the reins back is to focus less on her (not out of spite or games, but because you're actually leading an interesting life). When she feels the focus off of her, she might make the decision that she really does want you. Or she may not. But letting her hold all of the power isn't the way to win her.
Leave Your Feedback
We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.
Related Topics
..mistakenly sending them African american sperm http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/breaking/ct-sperm-donor-law
@DAMEN VI
Joined: May 01, 2010 · Topics: 102 · Posts: 2977
What's your style? Post pics of the jewels and things you adorn yourself with or would like to, please :)
@CreepyPants
Joined: Nov 04, 2005 · Topics: 348 · Posts: 8226
Falling asleep. He entered my mind briefly. I ponder why the hell didn't he response to my video message. I was irritate
@QuiitePlausible
Joined: Sep 07, 2014 · Topics: 6 · Posts: 44
Hey guys, I found myself in a situation that I fell in love with my Libra best friend. We have dated a couple of mont
@firedry
Joined: Oct 01, 2014 · Topics: 1 · Posts: 2
Crab confused? Seeking counseling and advice about your crabby crab? Need a non-crab who can relate without judgements?
@Kim31
Joined: Jul 14, 2014 · Topics: 47 · Posts: 1116
relationship wise...anyone have any good experiences?
@biosynthesis
Joined: Sep 19, 2014 · Topics: 42 · Posts: 1846
Hello, so to start off I am a Scorpio male(33) & he is a libra male(27). so I met this guy about amonth ago & we hit it
@ponyboi
Joined: Oct 01, 2014 · Topics: 3 · Posts: 5
Why do folks enter other folks lives with no intention of enhancing it? It is such a waste of time to lie and cheat, str
@SpinCycle
Joined: Aug 22, 2014 · Topics: 13 · Posts: 206
Mr. Cap and I have been together for a long time as you all know. (3 years) We've officially lived together for 3 months
@myloveyourlove32
Joined: Mar 14, 2014 · Topics: 21 · Posts: 118
Let's call him Scorpio as you help me wrap my head around this. After knowing this man from past to present. I am V
@QuiitePlausible
Joined: Sep 07, 2014 · Topics: 6 · Posts: 44