How detaching and forgetful are you GEMINIS?

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by patrickdem on Friday, January 28, 2011 and has 23 replies.
I can't believe this. I finally realize how detaching my gemini girlfriend is.
We got together a few weeks ago and last night, she came over and it was the first time she slept over we had such an intimate night last night no sex but just kissing and cuddling. We chatted a lot till we both slept, we talked about things such as marriage and she told me what kind of wife she wants to be in the future. She was so cute and sweet last night she also promised to cook me breakfast the next day. It was really a romantic night I was a happy man last night as I could see that she's putting in an effort in this relationship..
And then, BAM
This morning when i woke up, she left, without a single word or note. I rang her, she said she's meeting a friend for lunch and will see me on Sunday. I jokingly asked where is my breakfast and she apologized and said she totally forgotten about it!
I am not a clingy person but I do feel the special moments we had just last night but now... can someone please tell me does she even care at all?
Is this how detaching and forgetful GEMINIS are?
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Posted by patrickdem
I can't believe this. I finally realize how detaching my gemini girlfriend is.
We got together a few weeks ago and last night, she came over and it was the first time she slept over we had such an intimate night last night no sex but just kissing and cuddling. We chatted a lot till we both slept, we talked about things such as marriage and she told me what kind of wife she wants to be in the future. She was so cute and sweet last night she also promised to cook me breakfast the next day. It was really a romantic night I was a happy man last night as I could see that she's putting in an effort in this relationship..
And then, BAM
This morning when i woke up, she left, without a single word or note. I rang her, she said she's meeting a friend for lunch and will see me on Sunday. I jokingly asked where is my breakfast and she apologized and said she totally forgotten about it!
I am not a clingy person but I do feel the special moments we had just last night but now... can someone please tell me does she even care at all?
Is this how detaching and forgetful GEMINIS are?


She meant what she said. Don't discount it. She probably had this planned for her weekend and forgot to tell you. Why on earth should she make you breakfast? Don't take it heart, just let her know next time if you want her to do something with you the next morning. She will happily oblige.
May I ask what sign you are?
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We actually planned to do stuffs together today but now I am just sitting alone at home playing my computer games. She told me her friend texted her this morning so it was a pretty late arrangement. Fair enough, it's not that she should make me breakfast but it's the promise that i thought she would keep since she suggested that last night. She probably forgotten about it but that shows how much she cares eh? Anyway, it just surprised me how detached and forgetful she can be. I am a scorpio who's trying not to be too possessive yet I find it weird how a gemini could pretend like nothing happened at all after an intimate night together.
Is this normal for a gemini? Do their minds just drift away so quickly? Can some geminis tell me do they think about their partners constantly or their mind just get randomly distracted by things they see at present? I sure hope she thinks about me even when I am not around. Gee it's annoying how she just hang down the phone and say see me on Sunday. She wasn't like that the night before.
Probably it's her twins who took over her mind this morning.
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Posted by patrickdem
We actually planned to do stuffs together today but now I am just sitting alone at home playing my computer games. She told me her friend texted her this morning so it was a pretty late arrangement. Fair enough, it's not that she should make me breakfast but it's the promise that i thought she would keep since she suggested that last night. She probably forgotten about it but that shows how much she cares eh? Anyway, it just surprised me how detached and forgetful she can be. I am a scorpio who's trying not to be too possessive yet I find it weird how a gemini could pretend like nothing happened at all after an intimate night together.
Is this normal for a gemini? Do their minds just drift away so quickly? Can some geminis tell me do they think about their partners constantly or their mind just get randomly distracted by things they see at present? I sure hope she thinks about me even when I am not around. Gee it's annoying how she just hang down the phone and say see me on Sunday. She wasn't like that the night before.
Probably it's her twins who took over her mind this morning.


It not her "twins that took over" .... that's not quite how it works. Something triggered her, its hard to say what without asking.
The most optimistic answer here is that this was a really good friend. Who either needed her at the moment, or she hasn't met in a while, or who is just one of her lifelong friends. I know that I would give up any plans in a heartbeat to be with my best friend if she needed me. In fact for all you know she's talking and gossiping about you right now and giggling over how good you two are together.
That's best case.
Middle ground possibility: You didn't reply or did a vague "hm, sure, maybe" kinda response when she suggested she make breakfast, so she wasn't sure if it was on or not. So she kinda just forget about it too.
Worst case:
She needed to get out, something about that night bugged her and she needed to talk about her friend about it. Hopefully, the talk with friend will clear her head.
Don't discount either of those options - and don't jump to conclusions. You do that and accuse her and no matter which of the three it was, that will be the start of a very negative image in her head. We DO NOT like to be questioned on our independence to do what we want. Good part is, we won't question you either.
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I suggest you talk to her openly and tell her. She will be respectful of how you feel, will probably apologize and be more forthcoming about why she changed her plans. She will also be more careful to let you know the next time she needs to back out of plans instead of just jumping shop leaving you playing Gran Turismo 5!
I broke up with my Scorpio recently, and one of the things I realized much too late is that you guys aren't as tough and insightful as I think. We know you're different, and we assume that difference means you can read us like a book. We forget you aren't superhuman. Coz lets face it, to put up the act of being superhuman pretty damn well! But we are great at communication - so just tell us when we aren't and we will the next time. No foul, no harm.
My Scorpio was never like this though...I'm curious, were you born before Nov 15th? I would assume so. The late Nov ones aren't possessive - in fact I was the one who was always bummed that he had a 10am meeting or a gym class on a Saturday morning coz I wanted to spend all day with him after the stay over.
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I am an October Scorpio. Lol I am trying not to over analyze things but hey thanks for great advice.
Regarding the breakfast, i remember me sounding really excited and happy about it I always do when she suggests things like that it makes me feel warm and happy. I don't know but I really dislike empty promises. After all, this isn't the first time, even when we were dating, we went through a lot.
I guess I will just keep quiet for the time being as I know she dislikes getting too engaged in emotional topics.
Just wondering, sunnygirl, do you as a gemini normally behave like this? I sure hope my girlfriend to be more clingy and not just walk off like that after an intimate night it kinda makes me feel like.... worthless? Share your thoughts. Thanks.
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Posted by patrickdem
I am an October Scorpio. Lol I am trying not to over analyze things but hey thanks for great advice.
Regarding the breakfast, i remember me sounding really excited and happy about it I always do when she suggests things like that it makes me feel warm and happy. I don't know but I really dislike empty promises. After all, this isn't the first time, even when we were dating, we went through a lot.
I guess I will just keep quiet for the time being as I know she dislikes getting too engaged in emotional topics.
Just wondering, sunnygirl, do you as a gemini normally behave like this? I sure hope my girlfriend to be more clingy and not just walk off like that after an intimate night it kinda makes me feel like.... worthless? Share your thoughts. Thanks.


Knew it! October!
I think she didn't register that it was a real plan - she thought it was ooh should we do this? Not yes, we are doing this. A little flaky I know. But Scorpios tend to say things once and think we have them written in stone - we don't. We count on you to clearly tell us what you want, and not let us do any reading between the lines. Tell her clearly, we are staying tomorrow morning, for sure. Get her response.
Don't keep quiet about it! See that's how it all builds and one day you'll spark off and she'll wonder where its all coming from! She has no idea you feel this way - let her know! communication is the key!
Although I have the indecisiveness and the ability to flake out on plans, I always let the other party know. But this is something I am still learning. I don't think I'm a very typical Gemini in relationships - I have a lot of cancer (which is awesome for a scorp) in my moon and venus , which makes me clingy (a word I am trying not to take offense to because I know you mean it in a good way!!)
So I understand completely where you are coming from...But I know several Gemini girls who would behave like she has, and are highly annoyed when the other person takes offense. To her the intimate night was its own reward, and was complete in itself. There are no morning after finishing touches needed. And hence, no disrespect intended...hope that helps.
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Thanks sunnygirl, I guess I will feel more comfortable if she shows a little bit of TLC e.g. write a sweet little note and leave it on the table. Yeah, I love attention but I dislike letting her know that I need some affection from her even after we spent a great night together. To me, spending time like this seem like a great deal for the relationship but I am not sure if she just walk off like this, it makes me feel like it wasn't special to her she just comes and go like this it's... degrading? I am not sure if I want to talk to her about how I felt today. Do geminis normally think it is okay to communicate and discuss how you should build a relationship based on how each party feels emotionally? This gemini seem to be the emotionless one who is trying to avoid emotional conversations as she doesn't feel the need to be emotional. And if one party voice out, she will pretend like it ain't a big deal you need to be strong, leaving the other party feel weak and vulnerable, almost saying it's wrong to show your emotions.
Posted by geminiwizard
man i need a gemini chick...you should appreciate her taking off like that. most chicks wont leave you alone after a night of romancing.


Lol geminiwizard. I think it is a typical trait for a gemini to take off like that? Correct me if I am wrong.
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Posted by patrickdem
Thanks sunnygirl, I guess I will feel more comfortable if she shows a little bit of TLC e.g. write a sweet little note and leave it on the table. Yeah, I love attention but I dislike letting her know that I need some affection from her even after we spent a great night together. To me, spending time like this seem like a great deal for the relationship but I am not sure if she just walk off like this, it makes me feel like it wasn't special to her she just comes and go like this it's... degrading? I am not sure if I want to talk to her about how I felt today. Do geminis normally think it is okay to communicate and discuss how you should build a relationship based on how each party feels emotionally? This gemini seem to be the emotionless one who is trying to avoid emotional conversations as she doesn't feel the need to be emotional. And if one party voice out, she will pretend like it ain't a big deal you need to be strong, leaving the other party feel weak and vulnerable, almost saying it's wrong to show your emotions.
Posted by geminiwizard
man i need a gemini chick...you should appreciate her taking off like that. most chicks wont leave you alone after a night of romancing.


Lol geminiwizard. I think it is a typical trait for a gemini to take off like that? Correct me if I am wrong.
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In my opinion, Geminis love talking. Not emotional heavily, but as a simple this is how I feel, not asking you to do anything, just putting it out there kinda way. They like figuring out how you think, although yes, they do analyze it and sometimes may even criticize you to hide their own flaw. Its sort of turning the spotlight away from her mistakes and onto yours. I'm guilty of doing that at times as well.
Esp with a girl like yours, there is no way she is going to figure out what you want unless you tell her. You are setting yourself up for inner resentment by bottling your feelings...and one day itll all erupt out in a giant fight...is that what you want?
Forget the sunsigns, forget who's right and wrong, forget what kind of person she is...feeling degraded in not good / acceptable in any relationship. Just my 2 cents.
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Here's what I think:
What she did is something I might do, too. Geminis get close at our own pace, and you can't really know what the time frame is. If she got overwhelmed by emotions during your special night, she might have needed to get some air and absorb it all before coming back for more. But if she really cares for you, she's NOT detached. That's just our front, sort of like the poker pace that Scorpios can have. Scorpios feel emotions deeply, push them down, and keep a lid on them to keep from getting overwhelmed. Geminis feel emotions deeply and have to constantly sidestep them or release them to keep from getting overwhelmed.
Talk, talk, talk, about your relationship, but don't back her into any corners. If she doesn't know how you feel, she'll invent something to believe you feel and it might not be the right thing. And remember that she may not always know WHY she does things...we don't always know our own motivations, only that we feel we need to do a certain thing in the moment. If she says she doesn't know the answer to your question, she probably doesn't.
I will also tell someone I'll do something and then not do it. It's not that I don't care, it's that I shift personalities and viewpoints so fluidly that the person I am in the morning and the person I was last night might not even feel like the same person to me. Last night's Gemini said she would cook you breakfast! I'm morning Gemini and I have a tennis lesson! It sounds really weird and flaky to a nonmutable sign, I know, but I'm not sure how else to explain.
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Posted by geminiwizard
man i need a gemini chick...you should appreciate her taking off like that. most chicks wont leave you alone after a night of romancing.


All Gemini men need Gemini women, or a woman that thinks like Gemini women. *Bangs head against the wall* The closest thing to that are Libra women. *Banging continues*
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I agree with Norcalman, I tend to think more like a guy than my friends do. For me, I don't need the cuddly lovey dovey stuff all the time. I'm more likely to roll over and go to sleep after a night with my man than I am to cuddle and stuff. However, if I said I would make breakfast I would, I usually don't forget things, in fact I have an excellent memory. If I changed my mind about breakfast I would have left a note next to some yogurt or toast for you or something.
Its been my experience that most of the men I meet can get my attention and intrigue me but then they drop the ball and can't keep me. I admit we are probably a lot of work. Just keep being the guy she fell for. Show affection but don't smother her.
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Wineaux, you're a Fox!
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I'm looking at the one which is you. Winking
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Sending you telepathic hugs...........
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Way too unpredictable, at least for me. The energy is undeniable, but, they just come off as dingy as hell, at least to me. My daughter's an Aquarian, and my biggest fight is keeping her focused. But, they are too aloof, and never seem to finish what they start. At least that's been my experience with the Water Bearer.
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I am detached & forgetful at times but I have alot on my mind lol I have a great memory about
many things but I tend to ne forgetful & I also detach especially from alot of drama
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My ex gem told me he remains in good humor and detached because he fears being vulnerable. It took a lot for him to tell me that. He was drunk, but even back when we were dating he never told me stuff like that. It was always so hard to get through to him. Then that night he's telling me how vulnerable he gets and that he has to put up a wall and then tells me he loves me o.o They need time I suppose
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Posted by Norcalman67
Posted by Geminithefox
I am detached & forgetful at times but I have alot on my mind lol I have a great memory about
many things but I tend to ne forgetful & I also detach especially from alot of drama


Yes on both counts, forgetful when focused and leaving when soap-opera drama emerged.
Left (dropped) every girl, in my past, once the "Drama" became,...controlling, manipulative or unbearable. Then I do the Gemini disappearing trick.
Now 20+ years later I've had to do some apologizing to some 'X's.
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Ditto! We can be some cruel bastards. Man, I do feel for them. But, you cannot control a Gemini male. It's virtually impossible. That's why they're "X's"
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You say you started dating your Gemini woman a few weeks ago, therefore you probably will not have had the heart to heart conversations about previous relationships that people in long term relationships may have had, or have you?
Maybe she has had relationships in the past where she has been hurt or abandoned..
Take into consideration all aspects of this situation, in my opinion you should talk to her, learn to open up to each other and explore one anothers feelings and thoughts. Have you considered she may have some sort of phobia of being close to people? She may be fearful your relationship will take a turn for the worse if she allows herself to be close to you, therefore her leaving may have just been her gathering her thoughts about the previous night you spent together?
This may just be a case of having a stuborn Gemini girlfreind trying to keep you interested by leaving you hanging but maybe I am wrong.
Hope this helped, Good Luck! smile
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Posted by Sultanaa
I'm intrigued as to how some scorps call us "clingy, yuck"... while others say "detached, yuck"



I see everyone seems a bit uncomfortable with the word "clingy" - would you prefer "tactile"?

And sadly, Geminis do "do cheating" and it hurts peopleSad
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Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Posted by Sultanaa
I'm intrigued as to how some scorps call us "clingy, yuck"... while others say "detached, yuck"



I see everyone seems a bit uncomfortable with the word "clingy" - would you prefer "tactile"?

And sadly, Geminis do "do cheating" and it hurts peopleSad
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Nope, they don't. You have to be in a "Known" and "Agreed" commitment, if you've done that, then that means the Gemini chose you, is with you 2/3 of the time, and doesn't visually see anyone but YOU. Aries women tend to fall for Gemini guys without doing their due diligence first. HaHa! The 3 Aries women that I've been with looked to me for guidance and strength. With the exception of the mother of my kids, the others thought we were in something that we weren't, a relationship. Otherwise Gems just look at as a piece-of-ass. You can't cheat on an inanimate object. Not one of them can say that I didn't give them full and fair disclosure. Aries girls do tend to be "oblivious" to their surroundings at times. Nor are you guys known for being very accommodating. Sad I get it, you're Rams, you are warrior bitches, you go head first into everything. But, Gem guys are a mans man, and for me, I have a strict "One Dick Per Bedroom" policy. Sometimes Aries girls like to wear the pants. For Gem guys, that won't fly for long, sorry. I bounced on all three Aries women, now they are either single, or driving their significant others crazy.
Furthermore, what sign isn't known for cheating? Tell you what.....try dating a Cap, Cancer, Virgo, Pisces, Taurus, Scorpio or a Libra. Then come back and talk to me. We'll see if you've changed your mind. How can I be so sure? How do I know this? Let's just say that I'm a Gemini Man that's paying attention. Winking
~GM
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Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Posted by Sultanaa
I'm intrigued as to how some scorps call us "clingy, yuck"... while others say "detached, yuck"



I see everyone seems a bit uncomfortable with the word "clingy" - would you prefer "tactile"?

And sadly, Geminis do "do cheating" and it hurts peopleSad
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Not every Gemini. When I'm single I tend to flirt a lot and be with lot's of girl but when I'm in a relationship and assume a compromise with someone I'm very loyal.
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