how to engage gemini in a serious conversation

Im aquarius m ex is gemini.

We cant get along... Is like im on the right he on the left. I walk away everytime he gets me upset...or when he starts acting like a jerk. Then he leaves me alone for a while until he starts blowing up my phone and we start talking again, and he starts acting like a jerk again.

we have gotten use to block/unblock from the social media it became kind of normal for us to do that but Im tired of the on/off

Im tired of the same pattern with him, Should i talk to him and tell him what bothers me and give him an ultimatum? How should i approach him ?

The last time i let him go, I wasnt aswering his calls or text, and he started sending his friends to msg me.

I ended up answering cuz he called me 15 times in 1 day.

Thats exactly what I want to know.... for some reason and no matter how many partners he has after me, he always ends up contacting me, this time he asked me to b friends after i decided to answer his phone call #15 in one day, cuz he is very persistent when he wants to.. and also told me that he didnt want me to be upset about him all the time

That was after i cut communication with him as soon as hi got his new relationship. But even as friends, we cant have a conversation without disagreements.

Him and his new girlfriend just had a fight bc she thinks he is cheating on her with me, but i wasn't even around by then.

..... When he told me about it, I asked him how does she knows about me, he said He told her about me.






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You were asked a question, and you responded with, "That's exactly what I want to know" ... which means, you aren't capable of grasping that a question was asked to YOU

Get your head out of your ass.

It's not up to him to decide what YOU are going to do. And the reason why you can't comprehend that is because you've got your head up your ass.


All of your words consist of: he said, he did, he wants, him, him, he told, his (this), his (that), his, he, him, he does ..... like you're a dingleberry stuck to everything coming out of his ass.


Grow some fucking integrity, and step up to yourself like an adult ... and make your own goddam choices

Posted by P-Angel

You were asked a question, and you responded with, "That's exactly what I want to know" ... which means, you aren't capable of grasping that a question was asked to YOU

Get your head out of your ass.

It's not up to him to decide what YOU are going to do. And the reason why you can't comprehend that is because you've got your head up your ass.


All of your words consist of: he said, he did, he wants, him, him, he told, his (this), his (that), his, he, him, he does ..... like you're a dingleberry stuck to everything coming out of his ass.


Grow some fucking integrity, and step up to yourself like an adult ... and make your own goddam choices

P-Angel

The reason I just ask about him, is bc is about his personality that I want to know.... Not about mine, otherwise I wouldn't be asking about Gemini. Cuz he is the one who seems to have some unsolved business with me.

I have walked away from him several times, I have blocked him from social media, ignore his calls, text. until I end up answering cuz its unstoppable.

Everytime I walk away, im good for a couple of months, then he starts to find the way to get me back into his life even also making stories. Im tired of walking away from him, and his come backs...

I wish you could say something about that... it looks that you just over here insulting people instead of focusing on what people wants to know.... If you have nothing positive to say then dont say nothing.

@xshizzera P angel just told you the best profound advice here. Yes in an insulting way but it is beautiful for YOU. I'm sorry but what she's saying is forget about him and trying to figure him out or his actions. You already making this thread about him shows how much power he has over you. He can call you tomorrow he can leave 50 missed calls. That's all on him. How you react is all on you. Make it about you. You want him out only you can take him out. heck even if he leaves 1000 calls and you answer on 1001 you gave that power back to him. In short she's saying get back to your reality in your head and focus on you because you are stuck on him. And until that happens you will always respond. You will always be the 1 he Comes to after he sleeps with
all these girls. And it's not because he loves you or not but you allow him to keep coming back. Remember next time he leaves 15 missed calls let it go upto 16...

Thanks, sorry .. My english is not my native language, so i struggle reading in between the lines (P-angel) thanks to you Phonexirises & Litttlemegabyte for using plain words....

Its really hard for me to let go of somebody, im always looking to find the way to fix things so i dont have to walk away from the ppl i care... we tried to be friends. But it seems we have a different definition of what friendship is. I told him everything i didnt like and the things i wasnt going to accept and left him alone.
We havent talk since then.

PS. The thing is that we are not together a long time ago, is like he just want me around him, I used to give him a lot of attention when we were together, and when i stopped he used to get needy and ask me Why I wasn't giving him attention.....he could never deal with the fact that i walk by pass him and don't even look at him or talk to him, Its like he feels some type of way now he sees that I don't care as much as i use to..... it's really something very weird....... Im Aquarius im not use to that lol.

I didnt want things to end up like this....

Posted by candyclouds
if he loved you he wouldn't go and sleep with other girls. he would be a perfect boyfriend to you. he wouldn't want to leave your side, all his attention would be on you, always.

he doesn't want one girl in his life, he doesn't want the responsibility of that. maybe one day for a girl he really loves he will change. he likes you too but only for sex, and you are no different than the other girls. he is leaving 15 messages on their phones too, when he gets lonely.

if you weren't asking us this question right now, wanting to fix things with him, I'd say , if thats ok with you just use him for sex or attention like he is using you. But it's clear that you're obsessed and stuck on this and can't see him as the d-ouchebag he really is !! no respect for your feelings, or the other girls feelings..

what you need is to cut him off completely. we've all been there. its the only way you will regain your self-respect and start meeting new guys who treat you the way you deserve.

@Candyclouds

You are completely right.... But im not having sex with him a long time ago, and he knows I will not put him back in my life the way he wants to, im not the one chasing after him or calling him. I havent accept his friends request on Social Media.

, I did cut him off completely when he got his new gf cuz i didnt want to be around and see how much he has changed.... but it seems that he is having the grass is greener syndrome. haha....He knows I havent been with nobody else after him, but is cuz i dont sleep around.

Im still single cuz i dont feel ready to be with somebody else yet, I did wanted to b friends cuz without all the fights we had in our relationship we did get along very well, but to be next to him theres a lot of things i dont like i have to put up with.... and thats why i always walked away from him. So I was just wondering why he keeps contacting me when I have make it clear I will not accept his behavior.

One of the so many times we started talking I asked him joking....Why he keeps coming back to me girl after girl.... He said. I know its crazy, but somehow you control me.

The reason I felt stuck on him, is bc he was the only guy in my whole life that I did everything i havent done in any of my relationships before, and he was also the first guy in my life I have live with as a couple under the same roof. but i know Im better off without him.

He made me realized why I havent been this way before.

Posted by P-Angel

You were asked a question, and you responded with, "That's exactly what I want to know" ... which means, you aren't capable of grasping that a question was asked to YOU

Get your head out of your ass.

It's not up to him to decide what YOU are going to do. And the reason why you can't comprehend that is because you've got your head up your ass.


All of your words consist of: he said, he did, he wants, him, him, he told, his (this), his (that), his, he, him, he does ..... like you're a dingleberry stuck to everything coming out of his ass.


Grow some fucking integrity, and step up to yourself like an adult ... and make your own goddam choices

STFU,

Posted by P-Angel

Y like you're a dingleberry stuck to everything coming out of his ass.

That phrase just cracked me up!!
Thanks for the mental image, P. 😛

Posted by xshizzera

Posted by P-Angel

You were asked a question, and you responded with, "That's exactly what I want to know" ... which means, you aren't capable of grasping that a question was asked to YOU

Get your head out of your ass.

It's not up to him to decide what YOU are going to do. And the reason why you can't comprehend that is because you've got your head up your ass.


All of your words consist of: he said, he did, he wants, him, him, he told, his (this), his (that), his, he, him, he does ..... like you're a dingleberry stuck to everything coming out of his ass.


Grow some fucking integrity, and step up to yourself like an adult ... and make your own goddam choices

P-Angel

The reason I just ask about him, is bc is about his personality that I want to know.... Not about mine, otherwise I wouldn't be asking about Gemini. Cuz he is the one who seems to have some unsolved business with me.

I have walked away from him several times, I have blocked him from social media, ignore his calls, text. until I end up answering cuz its unstoppable.

Everytime I walk away, im good for a couple of months, then he starts to find the way to get me back into his life even also making stories. Im tired of walking away from him, and his come backs...

I wish you could say something about that... it looks that you just over here insulting people instead of focusing on what people wants to know.... If you have nothing positive to say then dont say nothing.

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This relationship doesn't sound healthy AT ALL.

He knows you'll take him back. Each and every time. You're the backup plan. If you're tired of it, then don't let him come back next time.

Posted by xshizzera
PS. The thing is that we are not together a long time ago, is like he just want me around him, I used to give him a lot of attention when we were together, and when i stopped he used to get needy and ask me Why I wasn't giving him attention.....he could never deal with the fact that i walk by pass him and don't even look at him or talk to him, Its like he feels some type of way now he sees that I don't care as much as i use to..... it's really something very weird....... Im Aquarius im not use to that lol.

I didnt want things to end up like this....

Geminis hate to be ignored.