I am struggling being a GEMINI !!!!!!!!! Help!

I am a Gemini Taurus cusp, and a Pisces moon. I feel like I have 5 different forces pulling me in opposite directions. When I was younger, I used to be able to set a goal, and AT LEAST stick to it for a few months. I am 24 now, and I change my mind every minute, which makes me difficult to focus.

Ok, so I have qualities of Taurus, the Two Twins, plus I feel like the Two Fishes in Pisces swimming in a different directions also affect me. I am a day dreamer, and the biggest procrastinator, I change my focus every minute (Gemini), and I like to stay at home (Taurus).. NOTHING GETS DONE.

I feel like being a Gemini is extremely difficult. It's like I've been given a big exam in this life (even doubled that). I cannot decide what to wear in the morning, I cannot decide what to eat in the morning as well. 😢
I know I have so much drive and ambition inside of me, because when I was 17-19, I had some goals, and I accomplished them so fast due to my inner strength. This strength is useless if I do not have an aim, or I change my aim every time. Also, I feel like I am bi-polar and it affects my relationships. My mom is also a Gemini but with Cancer cusp = moody bi-polar.

My Gemini bi-polar traits ruin my relationships with people... but I don't know how to stop them. Help!
I am now faced with a serious decision regarding a relationship with a guy and I cannot decide. Better of, I can decide... then I start doubting my decision the next day, and so I run back to him, and we make up... then I regret my decision, and screw things up - thus toying with his emotions.
I can't help it!!!!!

If I go shopping, I cannot decide what to buy... so I end up buying everything that I want and wasting money, or later returning more than half of what I bought.
If there are Geminis out there, please advice something if you learned how to deal with these traits.
For everyone else, please, next time you meet a bi-polar Gemini, try to understand us.

Thank you.

Just learn to deal with it and take everyday as it comes.

They say it gets better with age. 😉

Do you have a calendar?

Set goals each day and follow through with them. Start small. i.e. "Wednesday, oil change at 4 p.m." DO NOT back out.

I'm a Gemini with Moon AND Venus in Taurus, Mercury & Mars in Cancer. I love socializing but I doubly (Taurus & Cancer) love relaxing at home as well. 😢I notice that if I follow through with my plans, even though I dread it at first, I usually feel glad I did them afterward.

Just go with the flow and if you want something done JUST DO IT,and stick with it,no matter what.

And atleast for me i get better with age..

gem sun
tau moon

Posted by ThisAndThat
Just go with the flow and if you want something done JUST DO IT,and stick with it,no matter what.

And atleast for me i get better with age..

gem sun
tau moon

TAurus mooner!!!

I have a question, how do you approach feelings, love? I feel like I'm very different from other Gems because I'm not fickle in love, I'm actually quite passionate.

Posted by Mr Nice
Thats how all geminis are lol it must be horrible to be a gemini lol.

LOLLLL. thats not nice at all mister.

lol! i just live in the moment.... make life more fun that way. 😄

If you think you have bi-polar disorder, you should see a doctor without delay. There's nothing to lose, at least you will know for sure one way or another, and this will give you a nudge in the right direction of how to handle yourself.

I'm not a gem, but I have a LOT of mutable influences in my chart and I went through a phase probably around the same age you are now, where I found it difficult to make simple decisions. I came to realise how ridiculous I was being, and decided that it was better to do SOMETHING, even if it didn't turn out to be the best thing, rather than do nothing at all. Basically, when trying to make a decision and you notice you're having trouble, just randomly pick one of the options and follow it through (no backsies!). Even if it turns out not to be the best choice, you'll still learn something from it (either that, or the decision will be over something so insignificant it won't really matter anyway).

Something else I think I should add is that at that time in my life, I wasn't really passionate about anything. It really helps to get involved (in something productive of course), so if you're feeling like that too then perhaps just keep introducing yourself to new things until you find something that hooks you (I do martial arts) 🙂

Oh, and STOP doubting yourself, it's not doing you any good. Good luck!

Posted by oddball73
If you think you have bi-polar disorder, you should see a doctor without delay. There's nothing to lose, at least you will know for sure one way or another, and this will give you a nudge in the right direction of how to handle yourself.

I'm not a gem, but I have a LOT of mutable influences in my chart and I went through a phase probably around the same age you are now, where I found it difficult to make simple decisions. I came to realise how ridiculous I was being, and decided that it was better to do SOMETHING, even if it didn't turn out to be the best thing, rather than do nothing at all. Basically, when trying to make a decision and you notice you're having trouble, just randomly pick one of the options and follow it through (no backsies!). Even if it turns out not to be the best choice, you'll still learn something from it (either that, or the decision will be over something so insignificant it won't really matter anyway).

Something else I think I should add is that at that time in my life, I wasn't really passionate about anything. It really helps to get involved (in something productive of course), so if you're feeling like that too then perhaps just keep introducing yourself to new things until you find something that hooks you (I do martial arts) 🙂

Oh, and STOP doubting yourself, it's not doing you any good. Good luck!

The only real advice comes from someone who isn't a Gemini.


The OP says .... I don't know how to deal with this.

The Geminis say ... deal with it ... and think they've offered something valuable.



::: shakes head :::

Orchidea, you should write lists.


Deciding on what to say, or what to buy, or what to eat sounds like it's a real struggle ... there are too many choices for you .. so, write it out.


If you want 5 different foods, then make a 5 day plan on food ... you solve two things, not only do you get to eat all the food you wanted, you also get to teach yourself discipline.


Same with your boyfriend. Write down all pros and cons about him, why you like him ... and you can always alter this list as time goes by and you find out more about him and yourself.


YOu are not alone, many Gemini's suffer from this as well. If you notice, Gems are usually pretty good natured, always laughing, trying to be cheerful, even if underneath they are scattered, or feeling discord ... this is because they have come to realize that they cannot stop their minds from shifting, they cannot control this to maintain focus ... so, they learn to accept this as a fundamental part of themselves.


And you too can do that. Instead of worrying, try to change your thoughts, try to find something to laugh about with it. Like for instance if you find yourself with the same shirt in 6 different colors and you dead set on buying all 6, joke with the cashier, make a funny out of it .. and then eventually, this won't be a burden to you anylonger.



Good luck 🙂

I think you are just run down. I get like that when I'm overstressed, overtired. Just do one thing in a day that you should be doing, as opposed to 10 that should have been done last week - it's just a funk you are in. It ends. Change your routine and you will be surprised for refreshing this may be and than you can go back to over achieving. You could be bored too - I get lazy when bored.

*how refreshing

Hello. I'm a Gem with my moon in Pisces. 6 other mutable placements, too. I understand what it's like to be able to see so many possibilities that you just freeze up and end up doing nothing! I don't have the same degree of difficulty you're having now (age does help), but I get it. It's good to choose your battles. Does it really matter so much what you eat for breakfast? You'll do it all over again tomorrow, so if you make a poor choice, it's not the end of the world. As far as clothing- choose a couple of go-to outfits that you can grab to put on for most situations so that you don't have to think about it. Remember that most decisions aren't irreversible and that with each decision you make you will uncover more of your likes and dislikes so that making choices will become easier. Just pick something! Just do it! If you don't like your choice, then switch to something else. It's partly the mutable's fear of the permanence of their choice that causes inaction.

I know some bipolar Gems, but simply being a Gem doesn't make one bipolar. If you really think you're bipolar, then you should find a therapist.

There you go ^^ there's some input from a Gem that you can use.

Whimsy!!! Lol...I have a few of what I call "back-up outfits".. So that when I'm having one of those days where I hate everything in my wardrobe, I can put one of those on which I know already looks good regardless of how I'm feeling at the time. I haven't had to revert to one for a while, but they are a GREAT idea 🙂

Thanks P 🙂

That's just the way we are as a Gemini, so chill yo 🙂

I'm Gemini-Cancer cusp, as you stated above I'm always change my mind too, not just that but have a tendency for being restless, moody and BORED easily! It's hard for me to focus on one thing without my mind traveling somewhere else. While I used to despise the way I am when I was a child but right now I got a control over my changeable side. Trust me, you can control it if you really want too. Be positive and just have fun with life without over-thinking anything. It may be easy for me to say but if you start to overthink something just switch your mind to think of something else. Also, at indecisive part of being Gemini... I don't really have a problem with it since I have Gemini moon, the same as my sun sign so-

Trust me, I'm far more worse than you for having Sagittarius rising (restless), Gemini sun (restless, changeable, moody) - Cancer cusp (daydreaming, changeable, moody) and Gemini moon (double dose need for mental stimulation, restless, bla bla bla others typical Gemini moon traits -_- ).

Good luck!

P.S- now i realize that this threat was way over 4 years ago hahaha. Hi, if anyone happen to read this!